Capricorn Guy

This topic was created in the Capricorn forum by ashley1734 on Thursday, December 31, 2015 and has 9 replies.
What's your take:

Shit he said in one converstion:

"We have a natural connection."
"I have strong feelings for you but I'm not sure we'd work out in the long run."
"I'm scared of wasting anymore of my time in a relationship that may not work in the end."
"I want to continue our friendship because if things don't work out between us then I think we still have a great shot at a very long and strong friendship"
"I have a lot of feelings for you but I kept them to myself"
"Us not talking would kill any hope of it maybe working out in the near future" (after I responded that I wasn't ready to just be his friend, I would need some time)
"I'm not sure if it will work out but I still have a little hope"
"I'm tired of failed relationships which isn't fair to you or any other girl but that's my fault"
"I do want you to know that it's not easy for me either and I constantly think about you. That won't change any time soon."
"I don't know what to say because I don't want to upset you"

WHAT THE HELL.
Posted by tiziani
Just controlling behaviour with minimal effort.

Can you elaborate on that?

As in, he's controlling my behavior or his behavior is controlling?
Posted by tiziani
Posted by ashley1734
Posted by tiziani
Just controlling behaviour with minimal effort.

Can you elaborate on that?

As in, he's controlling my behavior or his behavior is controlling?

I mean his behaviour is controlling.


If he were being genuine about his "vulnerabilities" he would have been a-okay with you taking time to yourself.

But he subtly threatens "it" might not work out if you do take time to yourself. So he's not vulnerable at all. And frankly I don't know what "it" not working out would mean, because he's not offering to do anything. At all.
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Exactly why I was so confused and eye rolling him the entire time. He told me he wasn't sure this would work out but he wants to be friends so I said ok I need some time to make that transition and then he says ok but then this might not work, I'm like I know you dumb ass you just said you don't think this will work! F**k!
Posted by tiziani
Posted by ashley1734
Posted by tiziani
Posted by ashley1734
Posted by tiziani
Just controlling behaviour with minimal effort.

Can you elaborate on that?

As in, he's controlling my behavior or his behavior is controlling?

I mean his behaviour is controlling.


If he were being genuine about his "vulnerabilities" he would have been a-okay with you taking time to yourself.

But he subtly threatens "it" might not work out if you do take time to yourself. So he's not vulnerable at all. And frankly I don't know what "it" not working out would mean, because he's not offering to do anything. At all.

Exactly why I was so confused and eye rolling him the entire time. He told me he wasn't sure this would work out but he wants to be friends so I said ok I need some time to make that transition and then he says ok but then this might not work, I'm like I know you dumb ass you just said you don't think this will work! F**k!

Then you

Not a chance. Just wasn't sure if I was missing something here
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I agree with the above comments.
I wonder what the point of that was. We spent quite a bit of time together and I know he wasn't seeing anyone else. Men are so strange
Power. Imo.
Posted by HappyCapper
Power. Imo.

S**t man, that's tragic.

I wasn't trying to get him to commit to anything, he was the one always freely offering up his feelings. Then he got a little cold so I asked what was up and that's what I got.

We got along great, good sex, intelligent conversation, his friends loved me, etc. I can't imagine what he would want to wield power over but alright Hitler, I bid you adew.
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Posted by HappyCapper
Power. Imo.

S**t man, that's tragic.

I wasn't trying to get him to commit to anything, he was the one always freely offering up his feelings. Then he got a little cold so I asked what was up and that's what I got.

We got along great, good sex, intelligent conversation, his friends loved me, etc. I can't imagine what he would want to wield power over but alright Hitler, I bid you adew.
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I couldn't possibly know, ofc, because I don't know the guy, but I do believe most controlling behaviour stems from a want or a need to feel powerful in some way or another - I guess, feeling powerful is a good feeling...