capricorn guys with venus in cap.why do you ignore

Why do you ignore when getting really close and personal with someone.why do you ignore when you realize you have strong feelings for someone——??

Why do you ignore when getting really close and personal with someone.why do you ignore when you realize you have strong feelings for someone——??

Sun in cap,moon in pisces,mercury in aqua,mars in aries

What makes you think he has strong feelings for you?

M, read this one. This is the tell all:

https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/capricorn/capricorn-feeling-resentment-towards-me-3582348/

Posted by M
As a Capricorn with those exact placements, I can safely say something's off.Your threads hint at something not right about your relationship with this Cap. Factors you aren't accounting for, or flags you are ignoring...maybe even beyond the scope of astrology.

Here are some threads that might offer some tips for your specific situation.

https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/capricorn/cap-boyfriend-aloof-and-selfish-3501276/ https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/capricorn/why-would-he-act-so-unemotional-after-not-3516243/ https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/capricorn/why-would-he-act-so-unemotional-after-not-3516243/ https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/capricorn/why-is-he-not-responding-3500450/ https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/capricorn/is-this-cap-shy-3506754/

The thing is my cap gas commitment issues.commitment phobe 😭

You cap has gas?

have you tried Maalox?

Posted by truecap
M, read this one. This is the tell all:

https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/capricorn/capricorn-feeling-resentment-towards-me-3582348/

Never mind. She deleted all her posts.

Kenya, stop and listen to your heart, your gut, take a breather and let it all just sit there. Don't try to fix it, not right this minute. Let it pass. No action or decision has to be taken always, all of the time 🙂 You are searching here for advice when the answer is within you. I know, deep, but it's the truth. Respect.

I can get like that too, caught up in the emotional fog barricaded by fear of losing, losing what? Who knows 🙂 Advice is what we ask for when we already know the answer... but maybe expecting a different one!?

I feel bad for her. She's hurting.

I know I've been tough on you, Kenya, but I meant it with the best intentions to try to get through to you. Remember: you're worth holding out for a great guy! This guy isn't worthy of you.

Posted by aquapiscescusp
Kenya, stop and listen to your heart, your gut, take a breather and let it all just sit there. Don't try to fix it, not right this minute. Let it pass. No action or decision has to be taken always, all of the time 🙂 You are searching here for advice when the answer is within you. I know, deep, but it's the truth. Respect.

I could not agree more!

Kenya, I am in a similar situation as you are (I also started a post myself on a similar issue. ), and so are so many others, as you can see by the great number of posts on this similar issue (capricorn ignoring me, ditsant, cold, aloof..bla bla bla). I think there must be a virus going on these days!!!

In my case, the guy I am dating is distant cause he got laid off. Reading the comments people gave me on this forum was great, because they told me or showed me views that I did not think of (after all, one only thinks the SAME thing over and over and over and OVER!!!.🙂. So it was a great relief to see different point of views, specially from Caprcorns. But it was only after I tried to really undestand HIM better (after all, there is only one HIM) that I am more at ease with the situation. It is not until I started hurting really badly that I could understand how he feels. Right now, I dont feel like being with friends that just got into a relationship with BFs and are in their honeymoon period. I cant stand watching a romantic movie, reading gossip news about people in love or even looking at facebook!! 😛 And what is worst, I am starting to avoid the friends that know about my problems with this guy, because I do not want to talk about it, because I will have to say the same thing over and over (and I am NOT a CAPPY!! hahaha). So now I can understand, he avoids talking or meeting a person that might remind him or want to talk about what he is going through. I told him we do not have to talk about anything, just be, but since I am in a really good (the best) profesional time in my life, he might feel a bit threathed or feel bad. Who knows!

Anyway, in both our cases the distance can be due to a MILLION things (in mine HE TOLD me is the stress. I choose to believe it FOR THE TIME BEING, 🙂 ). YET, I still think this DISTANCE needs to have some limits when you are in a relationship. Or at least it needs to be talked through so that we do not turn into emotional wrecks like we are right now. BU

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Anyway, in both our cases the distance can be due to a MILLION things (in mine HE TOLD me is the stress. I choose to believe it FOR THE TIME BEING, 🙂 ). YET, I still think this DISTANCE needs to have some limits when you are in a relationship. Or at least it needs to be talked through so that we do not turn into emotional wrecks like we are right now. BUT there is NOTHING we can do now BUT WAIT. If we pressure them they will back off. So now is THEIR turn. Let it be ABOUT THEM. Let them figure their shit out. And ONLY if they do, and if they want to see us again, we can let them know it was not COOL to leave us hanging, at least in such a way. WE can let them know that we understand what/why they have done, and that is in the past, but that in the future we have to BOTH work on ways to make it easier for BOTH of us, not only THEM.

And if they dont, then so be it! We cant possibly be with someone who wont talk about these things and who makes us feel like that! No BRAINER!

And I want to finish with two advices that a friend of mine told me and I am trying to remember these days:

1-ACCEPT WHAT YOU ARE GOING THROUGH. The distance is happening NOW. You cant change the NOW! Acceptance does not mean we like it or we want it. Acceptance means we aknowledge it is happening, and we can learn from it so that it does not happen again. More importanly, ACCEPTANCE will allow us to be in a more PEACEFUL state of mind, when or if, we have the chance to let them know what their actions have made us feel. From the rejection, internal or external changes are more difficult, because we only have rejection emotions (angst, anger, sadness, distrust...).

2-EXPLORE NEW ASPECTS OF YOU. That means that try to react to situations in a different way than you would normally do. I would have totally gone ballistic and crazy on him. And texted thousands of texts, called and broke up with him The first day he ignored me. YET, I am trying this new thing out. If it does not work out. SO be it. I know I did 100% without comprising mi integrity (well, sort of...hahaha).

Well, I just hope it gets better for ALL of us out there. 😛
And if not, so fucking be it. 🙂 🙂
There are more CAPPIES in the sea. 🙂

Posted by R24
LibraBSW are you a social worker? I ask cuz I have a BSW, but of course it could stand for other things...

hahaha
No. It stands for something else.

What is BSW? 🙂

The more u press the issue the longer he will ignore u.
I would try to keep busy and occupy your mind with something other then him and what you
could do to help. As soon as ur busy n working away he will wonder why you r not chasing and will get in touch.
It might take 2 weeks so be prepared for the wait n be busy!!

Posted by WoundedLeo
Jeezzzzzz People!!! There's no point in banging this poor girl on the head to get your points across. She's trying to absorb a way of thinking and behaving that is foreign to her. Lord knows even after one year and my Cap gone grazing in greener pastures I still don't understand the Capricorn mind. But I'm still trying because it intrigues me and interests me. It's fun in a purely sado-masochistic kind of way to a soggy Leo like me.

So Miss Kenya honey, don't let all these meanies around here get you down. I know this hurts. I know that you don't know if this guy is coming, going, or already gone. As some of the calmer folks have pointed out, just take a step back, breathe, do your own thing and have some faith. You've done your best. You mean well and I have no doubt that you're good hearted and that this guy means a whole bunch to you.

So give it some time and see how it goes, but remember that you gave it your best shot and you tried really hard to understand him, just like I did. That shows just how much he means to you. Kudos girl! Chin up!

Thanks!I'm sorry to hear that you're going through the same thing😢
Seriously all of you guys thank you for the advice.I love ya all!
See major problem is I feel like if I stop.contact he'll stop pursuing cause he'll think I dont care about him and I heard that caps like to be chased because they wanna know for sure if the girl is I interested and my cap has low self esteem and commitment issues so when you guys tell me to ignore idk if I should.Should I seriously just wait for him and will he not think that I'm not interested. cause when I do contact him he answers right away ,but no initiating first 😢and he likes my posts on fb.so he's not totally ignoring me.

Posted by WoundedLeo
Jeezzzzzz People!!! There's no point in banging this poor girl on the head to get your points across. She's trying to absorb a way of thinking and behaving that is foreign to her. Lord knows even after one year and my Cap gone grazing in greener pastures I still don't understand the Capricorn mind. But I'm still trying because it intrigues me and interests me. It's fun in a purely sado-masochistic kind of way to a soggy Leo like me.

So Miss Kenya honey, don't let all these meanies around here get you down. I know this hurts. I know that you don't know if this guy is coming, going, or already gone. As some of the calmer folks have pointed out, just take a step back, breathe, do your own thing and have some faith. You've done your best. You mean well and I have no doubt that you're good hearted and that this guy means a whole bunch to you.

So give it some time and see how it goes, but remember that you gave it your best shot and you tried really hard to understand him, just like I did. That shows just how much he means to you. Kudos girl! Chin up!

You're such a sweet person. 🙂