Posted by Crustacea
Yeahhh they do that. What's your sign?
Stop making him a priority when he's making you an option.
When a guy is showing you his ass to kiss don't kiss it. You are the prize not him.
It's one thing to chase someone that's shy (which he is not) it's another thing to chase a guy that doesn't respect you.

aquarius with venus in cap.

12 years

report

details

0 like

tiki33

@tiki33

Signed Up: Aug 31, 2006
Comments: 0 · Posts: 10616 · Topics: 40

Stop initiating, he's not interested anymore, this of course could change when his mood changes. For now, relax, go do something that makes you feel happy inside, keep your spirits up and stop blaming yourself, when Cap males are showing their dark side they have a tendency to make a woman feel like utter shit, they stonewall, ignore, become dismissive and I find 99% of the women going through this blame themselves when in all actuality it's not the woman, it's him so leave his sulking moody ass alone and go do something that makes you feel beautiful, you are not going to get that from your Cap, he's dwelling in darkness and nothing you can say-do will change that.
Cap males (the less evolved males that don't know who they are) can be rude, dismissive, cold, mean, mentally emotionally cruel and cold. They sometimes do this when they feel they have you heart, mind, body and soul, it's a POWER move, they love power over not power with.
They LOSE INTEREST--GET BORED when women display too much emotion that she's ALL IN when he hasn't earned your heart, doing that says to him you are not presenting a challenge for him, his mind needs some push tug and pull, if the goat can't climb up hill he'll lose interest real fast so stop being easy to get (I'm not talking sexually either) more like being too available, initiating contact 99% of the time which SMELLS LIKE DESPERATION and your initiating even after he's shown that he's not interested in speaking with you equals to you chasing him and instead go do something else, stop making him a priority when you've been pushed into the option box.
If you continue display to him he's the center of your world and that you re desperate to have him in your life that you'll beg he'll lose so much respect for you, stop doing that, stop making it worse for yourself.
You have to have that I'm good enough for you air about you and I don't give 2 shits about you not speaking to me, fuck off kind energy with a smile on your face.

Signed Up: Oct 25, 2010
Comments: 2 · Posts: 8822 · Topics: 132

Posted by QUlETstorm
Couldn't have said it much better than inana & tiki combined.
Do not continue to initiate contact. He will notice when you do stop and he will be back. He's not done. Cap men are never done. Lol

They sure are never done lol
Another thing is we like to pace it. That time spent together most likely made you take a step forward emotionally and mentally while it may not have had that affect on him, so sometimes we unintentionally go cold to signal to you to slow down, so we're on the same page.
I think it bothers some of us if a person is more into us than we are to them, even if for a second, just as it bothers us if we are more into someone. He'll come around when you back off.

Signed Up: Dec 30, 2012
Comments: 0 · Posts: 43 · Topics: 8

Thanks for the advice guys.YeahI should stop.But he just texted me and said he's super sick with a bad flu.COuld that be the reason why he's been so MIA?????

Signed Up: Aug 31, 2006
Comments: 0 · Posts: 10616 · Topics: 40

LOL@super sick, that's bullshit and you know it, he's been ignoring you, so maybe you should stop being at his beck and call and do a little ignoring of your own.

Here's the thing, if you ALLOW him to come back with a pansy ass excuse then you are TEACHING him that he can ignore you and then come back when it's convenient for him only for him to go back into dismissing you/ignoring you because he's LEARNED FROM YOU that he can do that to you and you'll consistently show up for the relationship even if it's an half ass one sided relationship where he's getting all of the attention for doing absolutely nothing. What man is going to show up for his relationship when it's not required of him to show up, if you he see you being available for his half assness then he'll NEVER give you more because in his eyes you don't deserve more if you accept so little.
So here's what you do, tell him you're busy, don't give him an explanation, just be busy, too busy to show up for him, if you enable poor treatment by accepting it then don't complain when he's continuing on with the same lame behavior, if you participate in allowing him to be half ass with you then kick yourself because that's what you're doing every time you allow a man to give you half ass treatment.
Chunk the doormat with your name on it out the window, don't be afraid, HE'S NOT GOING ANYWHERE, he'll be back and you may notice he'll be treating you better as well.

Signed Up: Aug 31, 2006
Comments: 0 · Posts: 10616 · Topics: 40

I definitely agree with QS & Inana! Great advice ladies. Slow down, pace yourself, be 2 steps behind at all times which will give him enough breathing room to catch but never put up with shitty ass behavior, when he's coming hard at you with the dismissing-ignoring behavior, don't be there when he gets back, doesn't mean you have to ignore him completely but keep it short and simple, don't ever allow him to come back and act as if nothing happened b/c if you allow him to do that he'll keep doing it because your behavior says it's OKAY to do it, the key is to non-verbally say how you feel, men understand silence more than words, don't be available for what you perceive as poor behavior or that's all you're ever going to get, break the cycle now or it will only escalate, it won't change. Don't keep giving and giving when a man is not present in his relationship, let him go, he'll be back.

Signed Up: Jan 25, 2012
Comments: 8 · Posts: 20090 · Topics: 685

Yep, I agree with the others. You disappear on him!!!! Give him a taste of his own medicine.

Signed Up: Dec 30, 2012
Comments: 0 · Posts: 43 · Topics: 8

Posted by truecap
Yep, I agree with the others. You disappear on him!!!! Give him a taste of his own medicine.

I just fear that if i stop all contact,meaning i stop initiating,he'll think i'm not interested anymore and he'll give up

Signed Up: Jan 25, 2012
Comments: 8 · Posts: 20090 · Topics: 685

Would that be the worse thing that could happen? You'd know whether he was interested or not. Your question will be answered. If he's not interested, you can find someone who is. If he is, you'll definitely know.

Signed Up: Feb 08, 2012
Comments: 0 · Posts: 276 · Topics: 17

"I just fear that if i stop all contact,meaning i stop initiating,he'll think i'm not interested anymore and he'll give up"
So what, stop worrying about whats good for him and focus more one whats good for you..YOU have to love you more then you love him. Show him how to treat and love you..And guess what if he goes off because he thinks you don't care after all he has done so be it..That just opens up the door for a new prospect to come in for you..Don't be afraid to let him go, thats what the problem is..He should be afrai to lose you..

Leave Your Feedback

We'd love to hear your thoughts! If you're not logged in, you can still share your feedback below. Your input helps us improve the experience for everyone. To post your own content or join the conversation, please log in or create an account.

Capricorn is making me go INSANE!!!!! :(

Leave Your Feedback

Related Topics