Capricorn Male Disappeared and Ignored me

Hey guys.. I am new here, and I discovered this message bored while searching about Capricorn males behaviours and I really hope someone would help me out. Although I really wasn't into signs

Anyways, I met this man 3 months ago on a website, and I really wasn't that interested in him, he kept chasing me , but i always ignored because I wasn't really wanting to meet new people. However he kept on trying to get to know me, and wanting from me to trust him and be more than just friends. so we exchanged info and started to talk to each other and I gave in. Anyways I was a long distance relationship but we used to talk daily for hours and even sleep on the phone together and everything. He said the words I love you and he is so passionate with me.
So recently he was too careless to call me unless I call or send him a text, so one day I was too upset from him and when he called..i was too cold with him and he was trying to be so affectionate and all but I still gave him the cold shoulder...before he hang up he said to me that he loves me and he will call me tonight??_and ever since he disappeared. It's going to be almost 4 weeks now.. he doesn't reply my texts nor my calls.. he doesn't sign in to that dating website no more ( its like a 3D chat client) and if he does he just log from the offline website to maybe check his massages.. he logs in to skype from time to time but invisible just to receive the messages I send him.. and when I send back he is signed off totally ( Before he used to have it online 24/7) ..one of my friends even sent him a message as a stranger ( to see if he is just ignoring me only) on that website and he never replied her.
I donno wht's up with him.. I am really confused.. how would for someone who was all loving to turn into that. I do miss him, and I also feel so hurt when I think about that maybe it was a chasing game for him and once I gave in and let my walls down he disappeared. BTW.. he once disappeared for like 5 days and it was because we argued about something and he said he felt hurt..and he came back and told me that he did this because he wanted to think about me and him and how would we resolve our issues.

Please someone help me..

PS: If he really didnt want to deal with me anymore, why he didnt block me and delete me till now from that Chat client and on skype.. cause he has been hiding in the shadows. Why would he still have his relationship status as He is still seeing me. :\

Posted by capinc
Take a number and have a seat.

:\ what does that supposed to mean

Oh, come on capinc, have a heart.

Okay, first of all BEWARE of ANYONE that says I love you that fast, especially a CAP!!!

Second, he was pushing to be more than friends? Was he only after sex?

Third, long distance relationships are not practical. They can be done, but in reality, it usually doesn't last.

I don't think you did anything wrong, but it appears perhaps he wanted to end it. Could be a multitude of reasons, including getting his feelings hurt when you were cold. He could have met someone local, he could be tired of the long distance. Who knows. What I do know is this guy isn't even worth your efforts.

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Posted by truecap
Oh, come on capinc, have a heart.

Okay, first of all BEWARE of ANYONE that says I love you that fast, especially a CAP!!!

Second, he was pushing to be more than friends? Was he only after sex?

Third, long distance relationships are not practical. They can be done, but in reality, it usually doesn't last.

I don't think you did anything wrong, but it appears perhaps he wanted to end it. Could be a multitude of reasons, including getting his feelings hurt when you were cold. He could have met someone local, he could be tired of the long distance. Who knows. What I do know is this guy isn't even worth your efforts.

I do have a heart, I'm saving her from the truth.

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Okay. Hugs!

Posted by truecap
Oh, come on capinc, have a heart.

Okay, first of all BEWARE of ANYONE that says I love you that fast, especially a CAP!!!

Second, he was pushing to be more than friends? Was he only after sex?

Third, long distance relationships are not practical. They can be done, but in reality, it usually doesn't last.

I don't think you did anything wrong, but it appears perhaps he wanted to end it. Could be a multitude of reasons, including getting his feelings hurt when you were cold. He could have met someone local, he could be tired of the long distance. Who knows. What I do know is this guy isn't even worth your efforts.

I donno he sounded Genuine and Yes we have met in real life when I was in vacation to my original country which he comes from as well. and No he meant it as relationship wise.. at first we were taking things slow...and this developed by itself

So he had to end it, he could faced me with the truth.. I've also texted him and told him if you didn't want it, its fine with me.. but just dont leave me hanging not knowing what is going on.. but yet no reply

Also why is he bothering himself to stay in shadows and just keep me there.. u know why i mean.

Posted by robyn808
did you even meet this person in person?

yes.. and we also webcam for hours at night before going to bed.

Posted by selenacherry
So he had to end it, he could faced me with the truth.. I've also texted him and told him if you didn't want it, its fine with me.. but just dont leave me hanging not knowing what is going on.. but yet no reply

Also why is he bothering himself to stay in shadows and just keep me there.. u know why i mean.

Maybe he's immature. I always had a two week rule for no contact. After that, I would accept it and move on.

Sorry this happened to you. 😢

He's no longer confident that you feel the same. If he did the chasing, he might feel that it's your time to chase, just to see if you guys are on the same page. If you love a cap guy, show it, dont be scared to show your emotions and be vilnerable. Beware though, an inmature cap will take advantage of this and mind fuck you to submission and then toss you when he gets bored. An evolved cap will take your gift, and return it 10 fold. If you dont feel strongly enough to take the chance just leave him be, more than likely he'll come back when you've moved on and this can either mean he wants an ego boost, or he realized he was being an idiot. Either way... if he doesnt trust you enough to tell you why he retreated, he doesnt trust you fully.

Posted by CluelessCancer
If he's anything like Capinc, you should be hosting a "thank god, I been saved" party.

Lol!!!!

Posted by Lucriu
He's no longer confident that you feel the same. If he did the chasing, he might feel that it's your time to chase, just to see if you guys are on the same page. If you love a cap guy, show it, dont be scared to show your emotions and be vilnerable. Beware though, an inmature cap will take advantage of this and mind fuck you to submission and then toss you when he gets bored. An evolved cap will take your gift, and return it 10 fold. If you dont feel strongly enough to take the chance just leave him be, more than likely he'll come back when you've moved on and this can either mean he wants an ego boost, or he realized he was being an idiot. Either way... if he doesnt trust you enough to tell you why he retreated, he doesnt trust you fully.

That's kind of a double standard when the cap guy probably isn't likely to be vulnerable and won't show their emotions.

Not saying you, just a cap thing in general.

But it is true, that we won't move forward unless we are sure it will be returned.

Posted by capinc
It means you're not the only one with problems.

LOL

Posted by capinc
It means you're not the only one with problems.

Correction: You're not the only one with THIS problem. It's a very common Cap male "condition"... They come on strong, then run for cover.

I do it too... Maybe he needs some time to cool down? Although that sounds like a pretty long time. Sometimes I'll disappear for a few days to slow down if I feel like I'm "head over heels", because in honesty it terrifies me. But I at least come back to apologize and regroup.

Maybe something traumatic happened in real life? Sickness, a death in the family, take your pick. Don't wait on him though, in case he's just trying to string you along or dominate your mind. If you see someone better and/or have your goals in place, pursue those first.

Posted by deivaleonne
Sometimes I'll disappear for a few days to slow down if I feel like I'm "head over heels", because in honesty it terrifies me. But I at least come back to apologize and regroup.

You said it all. Right there.

Posted by capinc
Take a number and have a seat.

LOL

Posted by truecap

Posted by Lucriu
He's no longer confident that you feel the same. If he did the chasing, he might feel that it's your time to chase, just to see if you guys are on the same page. If you love a cap guy, show it, dont be scared to show your emotions and be vilnerable. Beware though, an inmature cap will take advantage of this and mind fuck you to submission and then toss you when he gets bored. An evolved cap will take your gift, and return it 10 fold. If you dont feel strongly enough to take the chance just leave him be, more than likely he'll come back when you've moved on and this can either mean he wants an ego boost, or he realized he was being an idiot. Either way... if he doesnt trust you enough to tell you why he retreated, he doesnt trust you fully.

That's kind of a double standard when the cap guy probably isn't likely to be vulnerable and won't show their emotions.

Not saying you, just a cap thing in general.

But it is true, that we won't move forward unless we are sure it will be returned.

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She said this guy was being VERY affectionate in the beginning, but yeah it would be a double standard.

He did have his Hot and Cold moments.. and it used to pissed me off sometimes.. but generally he was loving..

I've been analyzing what we have been through the week before his disappearing and all looked fine to me.. we were alright..and if he wanted to end it I would have realized it already or noticed it.

Posted by deivaleonne
I do it too... Maybe he needs some time to cool down? Although that sounds like a pretty long time. Sometimes I'll disappear for a few days to slow down if I feel like I'm "head over heels", because in honesty it terrifies me. But I at least come back to apologize and regroup.

Maybe something traumatic happened in real life? Sickness, a death in the family, take your pick. Don't wait on him though, in case he's just trying to string you along or dominate your mind. If you see someone better and/or have your goals in place, pursue those first.

Yes, I am putting this in mind.. maybe he is busy with work or something.. but even though.. if someone says that he loves me or atleast like me.. he would atleast reply me saying that he is alright and need to be alone..

and Yes a month is toooo long..

Posted by selenacherry


I've been analyzing what we have been through the week before his disappearing and all looked fine to me.. we were alright..and if he wanted to end it I would have realized it already or noticed it.

Don't bother wasting your energy on this. There is rarely ever a rhyme or reason besides what DL said above.

Posted by Lucriu
He's no longer confident that you feel the same. If he did the chasing, he might feel that it's your time to chase, just to see if you guys are on the same page. If you love a cap guy, show it, dont be scared to show your emotions and be vilnerable. Beware though, an inmature cap will take advantage of this and mind fuck you to submission and then toss you when he gets bored. An evolved cap will take your gift, and return it 10 fold. If you dont feel strongly enough to take the chance just leave him be, more than likely he'll come back when you've moved on and this can either mean he wants an ego boost, or he realized he was being an idiot. Either way... if he doesnt trust you enough to tell you why he retreated, he doesnt trust you fully.

I actually think Luc's point relates to the OP here. There's truth in this as well.

Posted by CapriLady

Seriously. Some of these posts are like we all the know the same guy, and he's rotating us in his circulation like crops or delivering newspapers...

Coz untill they've developed their life as they see it to be they just all the same - they are not themselves.

^^^ With my current state of mind, the above looks like they're all in line for a funeral or a hand out from social services.

Real World Problems, indeed.

I need some help here working on creative visual solutions to real world problems...

Posted by CapriLady
How'd you do that Serg, that was fancy? ^^

I so depressed I want to die.

No. I love your colorful avatar.

It's a crowd waiting to buy a ticket to the Night of Museums.
Maybe they suffer from lack of culture lol.

Posted by capinc
Take a number and have a seat.

good one!

Posted by capinc

The user who posted this message has hidden it.

I saw that, I see everything.

It's okay, your secret is safe with me.

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Thanks! he is my first cap man, can't help myself to taste it!

I do miss him, and I also feel so hurt when I think about that maybe it was a chasing game for him and once I gave in and let my walls down he disappeared. BTW.. he once disappeared for like 5 days and it was because we argued about something and he said he felt hurt..and he came back and told me that he did this because he wanted to think about me and him and how would we resolve our issues.

Please someone help me..

Just like what you said- 'was a chasing game for him and once I gave in and let my walls down he disappeared'

Had this happen to me, and I am glad he disappeared and I have no contact with my capricorn man anymore I know what he is like and I am happy for him to disappear from my life for good. I hope he has good luck in chasing gamee. As for resolving 'our' issues there are no issues to resolve. We have been there done that and really cap man he helped me through a hard time and having thought I found another-I was mistaken-and thought of him as more than a friend which he didnt like so much and I fucked it up by saying I loved him and I missed him and such other nonsense and now that I have realised he never was interested in me at all by looking back on it. I am glad to have had the experience of him and also am glad that him and I are not together as he led me to believe. No there are no hard feelings at all in fact there are no feelings at all toward this cap man. If he were honest with his intentions firstly I wouldnt be here. I'd have gone on to other things and not have to be dragged into his bukkshit. But being the person I am I have given him chance after chance to be honest with me about his intentions that I am trying to tell him I dont want to be with him or anyone if they arent honest with me. I can handle anything else but liars. And that goes for friends as well, I tried to be nice and polite and be a friend but it somehow fucks up by him telling me what to do and how to live my life when he has no right whatsoever to do that to me especially when I am going thru a hard time. Give me a reason why cap man did this? coz I really would like to know. I had enough of his disappearing 'acts', pretense of where he was at any given time, Ok I seen alot and theres players and then there are players. the first type dont care and then theres those players that do care which I like but dont. If at anything plz, if you going to be a player then do it with style , bring back the art of players. I have found this cap guy to be very c

I do miss him, and I also feel so hurt when I think about that maybe it was a chasing game for him and once I gave in and let my walls down he disappeared. BTW.. he once disappeared for like 5 days and it was because we argued about something and he said he felt hurt..and he came back and told me that he did this because he wanted to think about me and him and how would we resolve our issues.

Please someone help me..

Just like what you said- 'was a chasing game for him and once I gave in and let my walls down he disappeared'

Had this happen to me, and I am glad he disappeared and I have no contact with my capricorn man anymore I know what he is like and I am happy for him to disappear from my life for good. I hope he has good luck in chasing gamee. As for resolving 'our' issues there are no issues to resolve. We have been there done that and really cap man he helped me through a hard time and having thought I found another-I was mistaken-and thought of him as more than a friend which he didnt like so much and I fucked it up by saying I loved him and I missed him and such other nonsense and now that I have realised he never was interested in me at all by looking back on it. I am glad to have had the experience of him and also am glad that him and I are not together as he led me to believe. No there are no hard feelings at all in fact there are no feelings at all toward this cap man. If he were honest with his intentions firstly I wouldnt be here. I'd have gone on to other things and not have to be dragged into his bukkshit. But being the person I am I have given him chance after chance to be honest with me about his intentions that I am trying to tell him I dont want to be with him or anyone if they arent honest with me. I can handle anything else but liars. And that goes for friends as well, I tried to be nice and polite and be a friend but it somehow fucks up by him telling me what to do and how to live my life when he has no right whatsoever to do that to me especially when I am going thru a hard time. Give me a reason why cap man did this? coz I really would like to know. I had enough of his disappearing 'acts', pretense of where he was at any given time, Ok I seen alot and theres players and then there are players. the first type dont care and then theres those players that do care which I like but dont. If at anything plz, if you going to be a player then do it with style , bring back the art of players. I have found this cap guy to be very c

I have found this cap guy to be very confusing at alot of the times. A good person yes but lies too much and then you see thru that and have to be like oh ok really? and the amount of spying he was and is still doing I mean come on. Enough alright. Why did you cap man put me through that?

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Posted by capinc
Take a number and have a seat.

good one!

Irritated? Confused? Discouraged?

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All of the above. Thank you. Disappearing is lame *insert visual graffic of primate making universal sign language for "poop"

Thanks CapriLady for clearing that up now I feel alot better about it all. It was not meant to be afterall, phew got out of that one. Wipes sweat off brow looks around and before I go I blow a bitg kiss to you and bid you a big THANK YOU!! and walk out the door to go in search of more ventures.

MAWH! MAWH! THANK YOU!

You're welcome.