Posted by Foreverloveme
Patience. He put his walls back up. He is still seeing you so he still loves you and cares. All you can do is give him time to feel comfortable again.
Posted by champrangerPosted by Scorpio_711Posted by Foreverloveme
Patience. He put his walls back up. He is still seeing you so he still loves you and cares. All you can do is give him time to feel comfortable again.
there a chance that there is someone new in his life that is why he is doing all that ? How can I bring his walls back down ? I'm jus stuck in dilemma that to leave or wait n try ...
Don't think he'd be talking much to you or meeting you if there's something else in his life.
You had a fight with him, to the point where he almost wanted to break up with you. I'd say it's gonna take some time for those walls to come down and I don't think there's any easier way. What was the fight about?
Ultimately, the question I think would be ... do you want to wait?
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Posted by LillyPetal
Of course, it is your relationship, and you must do what you believe to be the right thing, but I personally do not think its a good idea for the two of you to try and go on as though nothing happened. Otherwise, you will never truly be able to move forward and grow your relationship. The elephant in the room is resting on both your chests, and the only way to lift that is to address it. Typically, not much good comes from sweeping things under the rug. This is a wonderful opportunity for the two of you to communicate.
Posted by Foreverloveme
@Scorpio_711 how old is he? How far away is the city with the new job offer?
If you like the new job & you haven't been able to find anything in your current city, then I would recommend taking the job until you find something else.
He said he wouldn't answer your question because we don't like talking about feelings and being vulnerable. That's why you have to watch actions. Him saying you should hang out with him when he was at the club answers your questions of
1) is it someone else: No, he wouldn't invite you out if it was someone else
2) do he want you in his life: yes, otherwise he wouldn't invite you or spend time with you.
Him calling after a week is his way of saying I miss you. If he didn't like you or want you he wouldn't have called at all. Sounding sick and sad = he misses you.
I personally like calm in my life. We don't like to fight and argue. He doesn't want to talk about, he just want to move forward.
With this insight, maybe try being sure of yourself and confident. Let go of an insecurities. Be nice, loving, warm, and friendly to him. If he eventually wants to talk about it, he will when he's ready.
Wish you luck 😊
Posted by _
scorpio chick are so straight
Posted by brezbeautiful88
I don't understand why this is a vulnerable thing for him.. when you guys have been together for so long.. if I were you I would move forward without him. Take that job and don't make it a cap thing it's a man thing and believe me he will come back around.. the ball is in your court play your cards right. That is a sure way to make him come back exactly how he used to be at the beginning of your relationship.. fuck a capricorn thing.. I have the exact same problems with my capricorn man and I'm not dealing with him as an individual anymore I've been good to him.. he's been nonchalant witg me this is where I put my foot down... you should too
Posted by _
we are good machine but sometime with need some patches, fix i- with some tequila or four beer
Posted by ElleDuMonde
You are ignoring the most important part.....
"he broke up with me"
^^^^^^^ THIS
If he went that far to terminate the relationship verbally.....he was not joking. That does not mean that he won't come back after a few days like nothing happened. As far as he is concerned, he spoke his peace and that's that. You should know the deal....and if you keep spending your time with him like it's no different than pre break up....you are giving him the signal you are perfectly okay with it.
If you continue like you are in a relationship and you felt he was being irrational or didn't mean it...you are fooling yourself.
I've been there. It sucks. If they tell you they don't see you in a relationship with them.....believe them.
It's only confusing when you don't.
Posted by Scorpio_711Posted by ElleDuMonde
You are ignoring the most important part.....
"he broke up with me"
^^^^^^^ THIS
If he went that far to terminate the relationship verbally.....he was not joking. That does not mean that he won't come back after a few days like nothing happened. As far as he is concerned, he spoke his peace and that's that. You should know the deal....and if you keep spending your time with him like it's no different than pre break up....you are giving him the signal you are perfectly okay with it.
If you continue like you are in a relationship and you felt he was being irrational or didn't mean it...you are fooling yourself.
I've been there. It sucks. If they tell you they don't see you in a relationship with them.....believe them.
It's only confusing when you don't.
So what should I do ? Do not talk at all or when he calls be nice to him on frendly talk just... Which way to make him realise his mistakes?click to expand
Posted by ElleDuMondePosted by Scorpio_711Posted by ElleDuMonde
You are ignoring the most important part.....
"he broke up with me"
^^^^^^^ THIS
If he went that far to terminate the relationship verbally.....he was not joking. That does not mean that he won't come back after a few days like nothing happened. As far as he is concerned, he spoke his peace and that's that. You should know the deal....and if you keep spending your time with him like it's no different than pre break up....you are giving him the signal you are perfectly okay with it.
If you continue like you are in a relationship and you felt he was being irrational or didn't mean it...you are fooling yourself.
I've been there. It sucks. If they tell you they don't see you in a relationship with them.....believe them.
It's only confusing when you don't.
So what should I do ? Do not talk at all or when he calls be nice to him on frendly talk just... Which way to make him realise his mistakes?
You can't make a cap realise his mistakes....and who are you to say they are mistakes to begin with?
What do you want to do? If being friends is acceptable....than do that.
If you are expecting more.....be vocal and express your boundaries....if he's not budging there is nothing you *can* do but move on.click to expand
Posted by Scorpio_711Posted by brezbeautiful88
I don't understand why this is a vulnerable thing for him.. when you guys have been together for so long.. if I were you I would move forward without him. Take that job and don't make it a cap thing it's a man thing and believe me he will come back around.. the ball is in your court play your cards right. That is a sure way to make him come back exactly how he used to be at the beginning of your relationship.. fuck a capricorn thing.. I have the exact same problems with my capricorn man and I'm not dealing with him as an individual anymore I've been good to him.. he's been nonchalant witg me this is where I put my foot down... you should too
Yeah he himself pushed me away and doing that over n over ( blocking me on calls, fb etc) and not telling the reason for his behaviour. Extremely frustrating when I don't even know what I did... Left with no other choiceclick to expand
Posted by _
i think that capricorns is broken, the algorithm with this head and his heart are destroying him
Heart + Head => I want her and i want the best for her ? but does the best for her is being with me or her having a better job ?
the breakpoint is here. fix this capricorn