CAPRICORN THE LONER
This topic was created in the Capricorn forum by james tate on Friday, August 5, 2011 and has 20 replies.
I have been told of late that I am a loner, sarcastic, mean and a load of other good qualities.
This by a woman who wanted me to pay more attention to her and spend more time with her.
If I am all these things why would she want this?
But after thinking it over I do believe I may be a bit of a loaner.
I have very few frinds because I don't let people get close.
Are we (capricorns) all like this?
This by a woman who wanted me to pay more attention to her and spend more time with her.
If I am all these things why would she want this?
But after thinking it over I do believe I may be a bit of a loaner.
I have very few frinds because I don't let people get close.
Are we (capricorns) all like this?
Yes 
What's going on w/ you and Gray?
Ya know Tate, we get wrapped up in our own world. It is hard for us to give what others want/need to make them feel secure. We live in our head. You know this! I don't recall her sign. Is she an emotionally needy one? Or her moon?
It's apparent you really dig her. I'm guessing she's not feeling it, but loves you none the less (what's not to love?), why else would the woman put up with your crap
What can we do to help?
Ya know Tate, we get wrapped up in our own world. It is hard for us to give what others want/need to make them feel secure. We live in our head. You know this! I don't recall her sign. Is she an emotionally needy one? Or her moon?
It's apparent you really dig her. I'm guessing she's not feeling it, but loves you none the less (what's not to love?), why else would the woman put up with your crap
What can we do to help?
gray is a spoiled bitch most of the time
faiemly is most of her problem
you may have guessed they don't like me
right now have not seen her for a couple of months
may not see her again
I have been working a lot when I need money I drive a lorry mostly to europe mostly long trips.
that is the whole sad story.
faiemly is most of her problem
you may have guessed they don't like me
right now have not seen her for a couple of months
may not see her again
I have been working a lot when I need money I drive a lorry mostly to europe mostly long trips.
that is the whole sad story.
Apparently us Caps are cold, calculating, vindictive, unemotional, ruthless control freaks.....And thats just our good points :-)
true statements bu both of you.
@Tate, sorry to hear about you and Gray. We do have a way of fading in and out of people's lives, some are ok with this, others need constant validation even if only in the form of regular contact.
Of course, it sounds like you and Gray have another obstacle as well. Her family. They should just get over themselves and accept Gray's choices in men, it's her life. Maybe no one is good enough for their little girl! I surely wouldn't take it personal (and I'm sure you tell yourself you don't
).
And we all understand how trying work can be on a relationship. I dated a Cancer that, in the end, felt neglected as a result of my work schedule - this did not bode well. He has come around though, we've discussed it and he realizes this is just who I am. He seems to have his regrets in this regard.
What I'm trying to say is that even though you haven't seen Gray in a while and work has been keeping you on the road, it doesn't mean that it's the end of your relationship with her. You sound disheartened by her comments, and I don't blame you, she has meaning to you and it's hard to hear disappointment from the people we care about. And I think it's really hard on us Caps when someone is demanding our time when there is so little and we have things we have to get done. They don't understand that it is not them, but our own need to have purpose.
Sometimes easier said than done, but if you want to keep her in your life you need to validate her feelings and express an understanding of where she is coming from. Why don't you invite her on a road trip next time you head up to Europe (if the company will allow a passenger - then again, what they don't know...). I don't know how far from town you are, or where she lives relative to you, but you guys can always just grab a bite to eat some night - 2 hrs max, but she'll feel you took the time. It's the little things that matter Tate - quality not quantity (but, then again, that's how us Caps think).
You still didn't give us her sign - or are you intentionally withholding?
Of course, it sounds like you and Gray have another obstacle as well. Her family. They should just get over themselves and accept Gray's choices in men, it's her life. Maybe no one is good enough for their little girl! I surely wouldn't take it personal (and I'm sure you tell yourself you don't
).And we all understand how trying work can be on a relationship. I dated a Cancer that, in the end, felt neglected as a result of my work schedule - this did not bode well. He has come around though, we've discussed it and he realizes this is just who I am. He seems to have his regrets in this regard.
What I'm trying to say is that even though you haven't seen Gray in a while and work has been keeping you on the road, it doesn't mean that it's the end of your relationship with her. You sound disheartened by her comments, and I don't blame you, she has meaning to you and it's hard to hear disappointment from the people we care about. And I think it's really hard on us Caps when someone is demanding our time when there is so little and we have things we have to get done. They don't understand that it is not them, but our own need to have purpose.
Sometimes easier said than done, but if you want to keep her in your life you need to validate her feelings and express an understanding of where she is coming from. Why don't you invite her on a road trip next time you head up to Europe (if the company will allow a passenger - then again, what they don't know...). I don't know how far from town you are, or where she lives relative to you, but you guys can always just grab a bite to eat some night - 2 hrs max, but she'll feel you took the time. It's the little things that matter Tate - quality not quantity (but, then again, that's how us Caps think).
You still didn't give us her sign - or are you intentionally withholding?
Ok, what am I doing giving the great Tate advice?? *scratches head*
BELIEVE ME THIS IS A LONG DRAWN OUT STORY THAT GOES BACK ALMOST 25 YEARS.
I WAS 30 AND SHE WAS 20 WHEN WE FIRST GOT TOGETHER
SHE AND HER FAMILY ARE TITLED PEOPLE
SHE MARRIED OF AND WENT TO AFRICA FOR SOME YEARS HER HUSBAND WAS KILLED AND I
HELPED HER RETURN TO THE U.K.
WE HAVE BEEN ON AGAIN OFF AGAIN AFTER THAT.
I WAS 30 AND SHE WAS 20 WHEN WE FIRST GOT TOGETHER
SHE AND HER FAMILY ARE TITLED PEOPLE
SHE MARRIED OF AND WENT TO AFRICA FOR SOME YEARS HER HUSBAND WAS KILLED AND I
HELPED HER RETURN TO THE U.K.
WE HAVE BEEN ON AGAIN OFF AGAIN AFTER THAT.
My bestie Cap friend David has this issue. Hes super sarcastic and most the time has that look on his face that hes serious, and so he dont have many friends. He has a few close ones though, we get his sense of humor and roll with it, and he thinks thats awesome. Most Caps are just misunderstood, like Brian Warner "Lead singer of Marilyn Manson" who is very cool in real life. Just misunderstood!!!
My first thought after reading your post was 'are you ever going to be able to come to terms with her family not liking you'? How very dare mere mortals not ADORE His Majesty?!
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Tater.... no worries.... Im back...... and Im not a spoiled bitch. I love you long time!
well well talk about people droping back into your life.
I guess you want me to take the photo of you and your friends down now?
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Lol.... Im WAY hotter than that! Who are you kidding!?
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But I hope you like brunettes... I crossed back over to the dark side. No longer a blonde!
I may have to look into the fact that you are a true brunette.
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You wont be able to tell...
Posted by james tate
I have been told of late that I am a loner, sarcastic, mean and a load of other good qualities.
This by a woman who wanted me to pay more attention to her and spend more time with her.
If I am all these things why would she want this?
But after thinking it over I do believe I may be a bit of a loaner.
I have very few frinds because I don't let people get close.
Are we (capricorns) all like this?
Im sarcastic not mean and a bit of a loner but i put sarcasm and meanness into a form of sense of humour that makes people smile. Like I make mean jokes and sarcastic jokes but about a 3rd party that isnt present or a theoretical 3rd party ie a fictional person. In that way I take the mickey out of the world and human traits without attacking anyones ego.
She might be accusing you of being a loner in an attempt to get you to respond with a claim that you are not these things. Ie to try to get you to stop being like that. The thing about being a loner is that if you invite someone into that picture they will have your full attention because theres not a load of friends in your life..so it can be good for your girlfriend if she sees it that way. if your very private then what your sare with her is just for her and she will know a part of you that noone else sees and 5that can be a great compliment.
I reckon she must like you a lot to be pushing you to open up to her and give her what she needs......positive energy and quality time together that isnt negative.
I can wait until it grows back out.
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