Caps and touching

This topic was created in the Capricorn forum by Illusen on Sunday, August 18, 2013 and has 17 replies.

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I know that Cappys aren't much for touching unless they really like the person. I'm much the same. But how to approach it if you want to touch/be touched by a Cap love interest, when neither of you are so good at initiating?
I'm too shy because I know that I can be a little overzealous with my cuddly tendencies when I get started. So I sort of compensate by never, ever going anywhere near him. He said I don't make him feel uncomfortable. But his body language is really uncertain and almost like he doesn't want to be near me.
So... Do I just wait for him to initiate or is there a way I can do something?
I'm really no good at the touching.

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Posted by xxoommmxxoo
idk im a cappy girl i like to cuddle cuddle cuddle hug hug hug i must defy statistics

All the Caps I am close to (and there are quite a few), start off quite standoffish and untouching. But when we get to know someone, they are super cuddly and really affectionate. I'm the same way. Just once I get started.
But it seems here that a lot of Caps aren't so cuddly and this one isn't either to my knowledge. He's ok with the occasional hug though.

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I've... Never... Met a Cap that wasn't cuddly/ hug-worthy =) male or female...

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just start with a simple hand placement on his back so you can get comfortable and make him comfortable as well. in public let them do the initiating. with one cap person which was a female I used to talk to she was open to touching me because after a while I would touch her waist grab her hand even though they get nervous as when they like someone so it may seem as a little rejection because they smile and walk away. but before you know it she started touching my arm(im muscular) she would smack her hips into me but the real intimate part she did initiate but was nervous like touching my shoulder or allowing our hips to mend when we would hug eventually she did though. but give it a chance though. they love being touched but there icy exterior says otherwise so its a game lol

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I agree that you should start with a light touch of his back so he can get comfortable with the touch then move elsewhere. The only time I will not get close to you but want to touch you is if I know once I start touching then I wont be able to stop

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I love cuddling with people I am close to... maybe a little bit too much at times. But pretty much always in a private setting. You will have to do the initiating with me if we are in public, like grab my hand. But as soon as I am comfortable with it I will look for your hand, your shoulder or your hip whenever we are together.
Walking in the city holding hands. Standing right next to you on escalators so you can lean into me or steal a kiss... yeah.

But before I know you and know you are comfortable with that, I will just give you a polite handshake and a friendly hug.

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Since this touching stuff is a problem that both of you have, why not just talk about the issue together? That way you can figure out what each other is most comfortable with.
And yeah Caps usually like private settings so it's probably best to talk and touch when you're not in public.

Signed Up: Jun 07, 2013
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Thanks guys.
If doesn't help that I'm generally only with him in very public situations. I guess I'll have to wait to ask him if he'd like to hang out as just us. I could do back or elbow, but not shoulder because he's a lot taller than me

But the advice is really helpful. Thanks again.

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If you both are always in public then light touching such as a stroke of the hand or leaning on him when you both are sitting together should slowly ease him and you to more touching.
As a cap I am a touchy feely person, especially if I have a strong attraction to the guy. I am not shy about kissing or snuggling up with him in public as long as its tasteful.

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Reach out and lightly touch his arm when you are talking. He may be waiting for you to initiate it because it appears you go out of your way not to and he may think you don't like being touched and he is trying to respect you.
*shrugs*

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Posted by truecap
Reach out and lightly touch his arm when you are talking. He may be waiting for you to initiate it because it appears you go out of your way not to and he may think you don't like being touched and he is trying to respect you.
*shrugs*

I meant to add, caps are very aware of other's body language, so you may be giving out the vibe that you're a little standoffish.

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I think once the right person warms us up we can be almost too affectionate.
I didnt think i was affectionate at all until i warmed up to someone. Before then i aas quick to give a fake hug and just kept a distance from others in general. I dont believe in just touching people.
Just poke at him. Worked on me.

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*pokes Inana*

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Posted by truecap
*pokes Inana*

LoL! One wiuld have to slowly poke for about an hour, but it really works lol.

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I'm not a Cap but I am a Taurus. I think what Eula said is good. The first thing I thought of when I read this was that when you are standing next to him just kinda lean on his arm and put your head on it and look up at him all cutesy and girly when you talk to him. Or somthing like that...it will open up the flirty vibe and let him know that you are ok to be and want to be touched. I have only dated one Cap that I know of and he was not afraid to be touchy feely cuddly even in public but maybe that is because I am so I let him know it was ok and I needed it so he was happy to please. I think that Cap/Taurus relationships are good...from what I saw with him it brought out both of our romantic/playful sides.

Signed Up: Jun 07, 2013
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Again, thanks everyone so much. I think I like the idea of putting my head on his arm when we're not the centre of attention and looking up at him. I am so quiet and often he's the only one to hear me when I say something. I have the kind of soft, shy voice that barely ever gets heard. But he notices. So I think it would he safe to do that.
Though I've just realised, after doing some stalking, that all my most affectionate friends.... Are Capricorns. Wow.
The ones I've liked the past few years in a row have all had the same birthdays as well....

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I'm always touching the people I love! Maybe a touch on the arm, or I rub their head or neck, hold their hand, love to cuddle.
But I only touch people I really love and am comfortable with. If I don't know the person well or if I don't feel that way about them it makes me feel really uncomfortable.
Maybe he's just not ready for that yet. Just need to get up know him better.

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