Caps phone calls—

Lately I've been attracting a lot of Caps. Seems like there are plenty of Cap men in the military and I just came from training surrounded by seemingly endless Cap men. One kinda of stuck out to me and we sort of became friends and we hang out since training has ended. We go running and went out to eat a couple times.

I'm not a phone person, I rather text message....but with Cap men I realize that if I talk them to death, they will want to get off the phone eventually because I feel like I hurt their feelings if I want to get off the phone. I HATE trying to make conversation on the phone but I do it to appease him and them because they seem to like to call and talk a lot.

Its like if its on their terms the ending of the conversation, then things are more comfortable, they feel in control. I like this guy, we have a lot in common and he hasn't pushed me to move faster. He knows I want a relationship and not just a quick lay, I think he wants the same because he calls more often and plans stuff with me since we had "the talk". We're supposed to go to a concert this weekend and he wants to go the Bahamas.

BUT I sense he is kinda upset at me or feeling vulnerable because he called me 3 times yesterday but I was busy and told him I had to call him back, he sounded so disappointed bc I know he was being too open, I was surprised he called that much bc I KNOW Caps, so I know I had him open. Also, he wanted to go running but the park is kind of far from my house and I had to wake up pretty early today, so he called (the 4th time) and I said I couldn't and he said he would call after the run but he didn't. I texted him "I hope you enjoy your workout, miss ya :-)" he never answered but I expected it, I knew he wasn't gonna answer bc he feels open.

I wish I could be available every time he wanted me to so things could be smoother. But why feel rejected if I'm not? If he's busy when I call, I feel no way about it. No harm, no foul. Sometimes I just don't want to be on the phone chitter chattering about whatever. I'm an in person type of physical person, lets do something together and experience each other.

Right now I'm just tired of playing the submissive role to please him or any man. I like Cap men but I am kind of an Alpha female who prefers to open my own doors and pay my own bills. I wish I could translate all of this to him without hurting his feelings.

But I KNOW Cap men, they hate when you walk away from them in an argument, or reject them in any small way or what they perceive to be rejection. But shit I got a mind of my own dammit. Why do I have to submit. Blah! advice, anyone?

Posted by scorpio_chic
Ooooh girl.. your cap really likes you. 🙂 Keep doing what you're doing. They like a challenge.. it's not hurting your situation at all that you're not always available. If anything, I think it is helping. He might sound a little disappointed and I'm sure he is.. but the higher the mountain, (that the goat has to climb) the better. 😉

Keep doing you.

Thanks scorpio chic...you always give good advice. I will try and be positive about it....I just hate hurting anyones feelings but I know what you mean when they like a challenge.

And its the truth, I'm insanely busy sometimes. I hope he can handle it. Thanks chica bonita :-)

Posted by scorpio_chic
I think as long as you're throwing in little comments like "I miss you", it's plain as day that you're into him too, and that will keep him going. However I do know that caps want a lot of mind stimulation too.. especially if his venus sign is aquarius. They love good conversation..on the phone OR in person. I was told that the way to a cap mans heart is through his mind! And I've found this to be true with my cap. That's not to say that you have to be there EVERYTIME he calls, or everytime he wants to see you. But do make time for him like you'd make time for anything else that you value in your day. (work, church, working out.. etc)
My cap doesn't like texting at all.. which works for me because I really don't either. Only time we text is when one of us is at work or something. Otherwise we are on the phone or in person.

You are sooooooooo right. This one talks a lot, and when we do hang out, we laugh and talk about Army stuff, the future, whatever. Just everything. AND he hates text. He only text me when he can't get me on the phone.

You are right I have to condition myself to the talking on phone thing cause he will call, and call but no text. Thanks again.

@lovelyScorp, you're so gracious, thank you ma'am.

**UPDATE** So went out with Cap to the concert this weekend. Got backstage passes cause I knew the publicist. OMG I was trying to give him a little fragment of my life, seeing if he can at least handle it. OMG would you believe he was tad bit embarrassing, trying to talk to everyone, he said he was networking. I didn't take it to heart but dammm, he wants to get in the celebrity life, I'm trying to get out of it. We had a talk about it but I dunno.

Speaking of phone calls. My ex Cap who is in the military called me last nite but I was asleep. HE NEVER CALLS. Must of been one of those drunk calls. I miss him too. He was the one that got away.

all the cap boys i know looooove talking on the phone and like you, i hate it! my cap knows to keep it short but he calls often. like they said, he's definitely into you, especially if he's making plans with you and calling as much as he is.

also you trying to get back with the ex?

Posted by cancergem
all the cap boys i know looooove talking on the phone and like you, i hate it! my cap knows to keep it short but he calls often. like they said, he's definitely into you, especially if he's making plans with you and calling as much as he is.

also you trying to get back with the ex?

Hey cancergem!

Hmmm I dunno what to think but it was a surprise to see that he called bc the last time we talked over facebook it wasn't good, he was flaunting his current girl in my face and it hurts. Plus when we were together he was a lowly private, I slept on single beds with him, barely scraped by, nothing materialistic with us, pure love, 50/50, I got along great with his mom and siblings. Now he's a Master Sergeant and bought an expensive BMW, getting paid really well and he's just not sure who like him for him.


I'm sure he misses me too bc we were extremely compatible with most things and we traveled the world together. I was his first love, and I KNOW that he really loved me, ugly morning face and breath and all (lol). No guy has ever loved me like that. Plus I blame me about 65% of why the relationship didn't work, I was just really you and hurt from my divorce and took it out on him. I regret that part, but I'm older and wiser now. So yes I would get back with him because it was REAL love. He LOVED the hell out of me and the same for me. Joni Mitchell never lie....."Don't know what you got till its gone"

Sooo spoke to ex-Cap. It was such a pleasant conversation for like an hour. It was like we never broke up he even invited me to D.C. We spoke mostly about army stuff.....I dont want to get too excited but it was nice.....I miss him. He even said our word that we used to say to each other. We never said bye...we always said "lata" of course later in english.

So ironic he called last night. The accidental psychics.