Confusing capricorn woman
This topic was created in the Capricorn forum by GemiGem on Monday, September 16, 2013 and has 9 replies.
Want to make a long story short. Basically she told me she just sees me as a friend and has no romantic feelings for me, fine. I accept that and I told her I was leaving and it was best cause she needed space to be with whoever shes dating now. But she keeps coming around and always wants to spend time, but is that right? I dont want to be mean and avoid her calls/texts or just tell her to go away. I always felt like we liked each other, but since she confirmed Im just a friend why doesnt she do whats best for me as a friend and let me be free? ofcourse I could just disappear, but why does she do that. Im Gemini by the way so I need answers. Im very considerate and wouldnt keep a person around I didnt like that I knew loved me. I do realise its hard for us to be apart as were close, I notice that..but why keep me around?I find it very uncomfortable if I know someone has feelings for me I dont feel for them?
Obviously I still have strong feeling for her, otherwise I wouldnt bother to be here searching for answers. If I felt nothing Id have left her a long time ago with no care in the world. I always felt like she liked me, the way she acted around me, things she did etc.
I wanted to ask her what shed advise me to do if she was another friend just observing the situation, that I must leave or fight for what I love. But Im a mature person that doesnt want to bother or impose myself on anyone..my thing is why does she want to keep my around?
I wanted to ask her what shed advise me to do if she was another friend just observing the situation, that I must leave or fight for what I love. But Im a mature person that doesnt want to bother or impose myself on anyone..my thing is why does she want to keep my around?
I don't find anything confusing in her behavior. Makes perfect sense to me. She likes you as a friend. We Caps don't have a lot of people we truly consider a friend. Therefore she intends to stay in touch as a friend. I realize other people say they want to be friends as an easier letdown, but there are some of us who really mean it when we want to be friends. If you can't handle it, it would be best to fade out of her life.
I have been known to keep people around even if I am not interested in them, if I think they are really a friend to me.
I really don't think about the person having feelings for me, possibly. What matters to me is that I don't have feelings for them.
If I have a good friend connection to them then I don't know why I would cut them off, though I realize that most people can't handle it.
I have been known to keep people around even if I am not interested in them, if I think they are really a friend to me.
I really don't think about the person having feelings for me, possibly. What matters to me is that I don't have feelings for them.
If I have a good friend connection to them then I don't know why I would cut them off, though I realize that most people can't handle it.
Yeah, think Ill fade out. So sad it had to end like this.
I agree with what capgirl said. We value friendships. If I consider you a friend you will have a loyal friend who will stick by your side. We're not going to turn our back on you (we may disappear, but we're always there). We expect for you to be able to accept reality. Our reality is the reality under such circumstances - we can fairly easily differentiate and sometimes fail to realize others struggle with this. Remember, friendships involve a level of caring as well. Why would she want to lose someone she cares about? But, like capgirl said, it is often difficult for others to handle such.
Posted by StillWater
I think unless you make it clear that it is painful for you to be friends with her, she will think you guys can still be friends, and will act accordingly.
Def this!
I had intended on telling her our run had come to an end..but she didnt come through that day, only texted me the next day saying she was busy blah blah blah..I never responded back and this was a week ago, so I guess its safe to say were completely done. She has a guy now, I see them together on fb but it didnt sting me like I thought it would. I guess Im older and wiser now. I feel the more I stay away from here, the faster Im healing. Each day just feels better, though I wonder how it will be when we do run into each other cause I sure as hell will never call her. I even hid her on fb just so I dont have to deal with her life. Moving on isnt that hard. Im glad Im not caring for her anymore, shes a user and Im glad the new guy will have to deal with her. she did me a favour.
I think unless you make it clear that it is painful for you to be friends with her, she will think you guys can still be friends, and will act accordingly.
I agree with what capgirl said. We value friendships. If I consider you a friend you will have a loyal friend who will stick by your side. We're not going to turn our back on you (we may disappear, but we're always there). We expect for you to be able to accept reality. Our reality is the reality under such circumstances - we can fairly easily differentiate and sometimes fail to realize others struggle with this. Remember, friendships involve a level of caring as well. Why would she want to lose someone she cares about? But, like capgirl said, it is often difficult for others to handle such.
Yeh sounds about right.
I agree with what capgirl said. We value friendships. If I consider you a friend you will have a loyal friend who will stick by your side. We're not going to turn our back on you (we may disappear, but we're always there). We expect for you to be able to accept reality. Our reality is the reality under such circumstances - we can fairly easily differentiate and sometimes fail to realize others struggle with this. Remember, friendships involve a level of caring as well. Why would she want to lose someone she cares about? But, like capgirl said, it is often difficult for others to handle such.
Yeh sounds about right.
it will hurt that you still care for her but one day you will realise that you and her did the best thing for both of you and when you get to that level you will not hate her so much. But right now hate her for everything so you can heal from this, makes it easier on yourself in the long run.
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