Dating a Cap Man for the first time, NEED HELP!!

This topic was created in the Capricorn forum by JoanieSagi707 on Wednesday, July 16, 2014 and has 18 replies.
Hi everyone,
Okay this is my first post, so I'll try to keep it simple. I am a Sagittarius (sun), with a virgo moon, scorp venus, and aqua mars. He is a Cap sun and idk his other signs - yet. We went on one date last weekend, and it went really well. They say most Sagi's are very outgoing and irresponsible, and wasteful, and I admit I was like that when I was younger, but I have built myself a very stable foundation with a great career within that past few years and I go to school full-time, so I'm very homebody. Do I like to go out? Sure, but I would rather stay home and control the "beast" lol... Maybe I have my Cap rising to thank for that, not sure.
Anyways, I am fully aware that I cannot escape a lot of Sagi ways such as foot in mouth disease, impatience, truthfulness, and my humor is out of control lol. We had a great time, I do see that he was very shy on talking about himself, asked me a lot of questions, was very attentive, and very... well gentlemen like. Which is a breath of fresh air, most men are very selfish.
They say Sagi's always make the first move and blah blah blah, but I'm very opposite of that. I don't like to make the first move for fear of giving the wrong impression and I don't like to sleep around as most Sagi's are known to do that. My father was a Cap and I was raised by him and a Taurus grandmother, so they have taught me to be more grounded and more respectable towards myself and to others. I will admit, he seems kind of boring, but he is so cute and he was so sweet, I am thinking of keeping him around for a while. I've never dated a Cap before. But I will say it is very hard to keep me interested for very long. I like to be entertained when I'm out regardless if I'm sober or not. I've been reading a lot about Caps and how long it takes for them to open up, is that true? I did ask him when his bday was and he said to me simply, "I will tell you one day." Wtf? To me it's just a birthday, so why not tell? And I think, so you tell me your sign but not your bday? How amusing. He intrigues me. So now I am unsure of how to proceed because I feel as though he is a very dominating sign and I am also a very dominating sign, will that be a problem? I read that Caps want to possess, is that true? I am not a jealous lover, not a possessive lover, I do love my freedom even if it's the freedom of staying home and watching tv by Myself. Please help smile
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Oh, dear Sagi! Love you guys!!!!!
Be patient! Let him take the lead. Let him pursue, make him work for it. Be patient. Give him time to warm up and he will gradually open it. Yes, it takes us a long time to get there, but it is well worth the wait. Once he does, you will find the warmth, the humor, the loyalty, the fun side of a cap that isn't so shielded. Be patient. Did I say that? lol!
You will start to see him relax and once he trusts you, I promise he won't seem as boring as he does now. Caps can be social and we can be hilarious, if you like that dry, sarcastic, observational humor.
Caps need people like you to brighten our day, lighten our hearts and pull us out of our comfort zones. We need your laughter, your warmth, your glow.
Please, be patient with him and don't get bored or give up before he has a chance to drop some of those shields.
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OH, Sunmoonstars is a sag who's with a cap. She might be a good one to talk to when you need it.
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I don't think they are possessive..at least mine isn't. In fact, they love selfie time, which worked great for me being a Libra. Most Caps are more laid back and homebody-ish, but with a little persuasion, they will get out with you more. They are very disciplined, by the book type of folks, but also very gentlemanly. One things for sure, he's probably going to be very aggressively opinionated as well, so you all may be on the same page in the respect. ..especially if he has any Aries in his personality. My Cap was never about games. He was very sure of himself and under no uncertain circumstances very upfront about what he wanted out of the relationship very early on. Hmmm...if he didn't tell you his b-day, but did admit that he's a Cap is just that mysterious side of the Cap man, and he probably know why you asked him, so he's refusing to tell you in order to keep you from trying to figure him out...LOL. Overall, when these men are into you, there is no boundaries they won't cross to prove their love. It may take him a while, but once he gets there, more than likely it's forever.
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Posted by truecap
Oh, dear Sagi! Love you guys!!!!!
Be patient! Let him take the lead. Let him pursue, make him work for it. Be patient. Give him time to warm up and he will gradually open it. Yes, it takes us a long time to get there, but it is well worth the wait. Once he does, you will find the warmth, the humor, the loyalty, the fun side of a cap that isn't so shielded. Be patient. Did I say that? lol!
You will start to see him relax and once he trusts you, I promise he won't seem as boring as he does now. Caps can be social and we can be hilarious, if you like that dry, sarcastic, observational humor.
Caps need people like you to brighten our day, lighten our hearts and pull us out of our comfort zones. We need your laughter, your warmth, your glow.
Please, be patient with him and don't get bored or give up before he has a chance to drop some of those shields.


"Truecap" hit the nail on the head, and Yes..they LOVE LOVE LOVE humor, so bring it on. They are truly one of the most positive signs you will ever meet. They despise negativity to the umteenth power just as Libra's do.
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Posted by LIb4Life
Posted by truecap
Oh, dear Sagi! Love you guys!!!!!
Be patient! Let him take the lead. Let him pursue, make him work for it. Be patient. Give him time to warm up and he will gradually open it. Yes, it takes us a long time to get there, but it is well worth the wait. Once he does, you will find the warmth, the humor, the loyalty, the fun side of a cap that isn't so shielded. Be patient. Did I say that? lol!
You will start to see him relax and once he trusts you, I promise he won't seem as boring as he does now. Caps can be social and we can be hilarious, if you like that dry, sarcastic, observational humor.
Caps need people like you to brighten our day, lighten our hearts and pull us out of our comfort zones. We need your laughter, your warmth, your glow.
Please, be patient with him and don't get bored or give up before he has a chance to drop some of those shields.


"Truecap" hit the nail on the head, and Yes..they LOVE LOVE LOVE humor, so bring it on. They are truly one of the most positive signs you will ever meet. They despise negativity to the umteenth power just as Libra's do.
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Now, we can get down and little pessimistic sometimes, when we get in that dark place. But usually, obstacles are seen just as that - an obstacle to be overcome on the way toward achieving our goal. We get hit with an obstacle and we will find a way around it. So, yes, it is pretty positive thinking to be able to see it that way.
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Posted by LIb4Life
I don't think they are possessive..at least mine isn't. In fact, they love selfie time, which worked great for me being a Libra. Most Caps are more laid back and homebody-ish, but with a little persuasion, they will get out with you more. They are very disciplined, by the book type of folks, but also very gentlemanly. One things for sure, he's probably going to be very aggressively opinionated as well, so you all may be on the same page in the respect. ..especially if he has any Aries in his personality. My Cap was never about games. He was very sure of himself and under no uncertain circumstances very upfront about what he wanted out of the relationship very early on. Hmmm...if he didn't tell you his b-day, but did admit that he's a Cap is just that mysterious side of the Cap man, and he probably know why you asked him, so he's refusing to tell you in order to keep you from trying to figure him out...LOL. Overall, when these men are into you, there is no boundaries they won't cross to prove their love. It may take him a while, but once he gets there, more than likely it's forever.


This is pretty accurate, too.
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Oh yay!!! Thank you for responding, I will do my best to be patient smile
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Posted by truecap
Oh, dear Sagi! Love you guys!!!!!
Be patient! Let him take the lead. Let him pursue, make him work for it. Be patient. Give him time to warm up and he will gradually open it. Yes, it takes us a long time to get there, but it is well worth the wait. Once he does, you will find the warmth, the humor, the loyalty, the fun side of a cap that isn't so shielded. Be patient. Did I say that? lol!
You will start to see him relax and once he trusts you, I promise he won't seem as boring as he does now. Caps can be social and we can be hilarious, if you like that dry, sarcastic, observational humor.
Caps need people like you to brighten our day, lighten our hearts and pull us out of our comfort zones. We need your laughter, your warmth, your glow.
Please, be patient with him and don't get bored or give up before he has a chance to drop some of those shields.



Oops I responded and I didn't quote you, I meant thank you for responding and I will do everything I can to be patient smile
That is a challenge in itself lol
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Posted by LIb4Life
I don't think they are possessive..at least mine isn't. In fact, they love selfie time, which worked great for me being a Libra. Most Caps are more laid back and homebody-ish, but with a little persuasion, they will get out with you more. They are very disciplined, by the book type of folks, but also very gentlemanly. One things for sure, he's probably going to be very aggressively opinionated as well, so you all may be on the same page in the respect. ..especially if he has any Aries in his personality. My Cap was never about games. He was very sure of himself and under no uncertain circumstances very upfront about what he wanted out of the relationship very early on. Hmmm...if he didn't tell you his b-day, but did admit that he's a Cap is just that mysterious side of the Cap man, and he probably know why you asked him, so he's refusing to tell you in order to keep you from trying to figure him out...LOL. Overall, when these men are into you, there is no boundaries they won't cross to prove their love. It may take him a while, but once he gets there, more than likely it's forever.



Thanks for your response! I got that he was very aggressively opinionated and I think that's what I enjoyed about him, he wasn't scared to say that he disagreed lol I like a man that will stick to his guns, but I am hoping that he won't become to overbearing where he won't be open to different perspectives. And he seems very mysterious to me, he texted me a few times telling me I'm beautiful and when I respond he'll say it again, and then not text me back after I've texted lol it's very strange. So not sure if it's because he's not a texter, but it's not like I wrote a novel. Maybe it's me giving him short answers? not sure lol
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Posted by Caplove
LOL, to the "I'll tell you one day" comment. He might have been trying to be silly. Maybe try to play along w/ him when he does that. Make it into a fun game or something. I love games! I think some Caps can be super silly once our guard is down but yeah, it might take a little while. I guess some could lose interest because it might take awhile to get to the good stuff.
I know for me, it really does take time to share that part of myself w/ a SO. I don't want to say that I'm possessive but I do expect loyalty and I give it right back.


LOLS!! Thanks for responding, I did respond back with, "at least you're thinking of the future, I can be patient lol" I don't think I'll be able to understand a Cap's humor very well, I do know from other Caps (friends and my dad) that they don't like it when the joke's on them, so I am steering away from making quick jokes about him lol trying to control what I say is very difficult since I'm naturally so open... :/
Also, how do I know if he's serious about a relationship? Are there ways a cap man shows he's more interested in you than just sex?
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Posted by truecap
OH, Sunmoonstars is a sag who's with a cap. She might be a good one to talk to when you need it.


I will message her smile Thank you!
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I will keep that in mind thank you smile
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Posted by JoanieSagi707
Posted by Caplove
LOL, to the "I'll tell you one day" comment. He might have been trying to be silly. Maybe try to play along w/ him when he does that. Make it into a fun game or something. I love games! I think some Caps can be super silly once our guard is down but yeah, it might take a little while. I guess some could lose interest because it might take awhile to get to the good stuff.
I know for me, it really does take time to share that part of myself w/ a SO. I don't want to say that I'm possessive but I do expect loyalty and I give it right back.


LOLS!! Thanks for responding, I did respond back with, "at least you're thinking of the future, I can be patient lol" I don't think I'll be able to understand a Cap's humor very well, I do know from other Caps (friends and my dad) that they don't like it when the joke's on them, so I am steering away from making quick jokes about him lol trying to control what I say is very difficult since I'm naturally so open... :/
Also, how do I know if he's serious about a relationship? Are there ways a cap man shows he's more interested in you than just sex?
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His actions will show it.
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Posted by truecap
OH, Sunmoonstars is a sag who's with a cap. She might be a good one to talk to when you need it.


Anytime smile Happy to help!
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Patience is key with Cap men...you know how us Saggies love that...not! smile This is by far the most challenging part for me because I lose interest quickly. You will learn a lot about yourself through him..and how to be more grounded.
They like to be in control, and you cannot get them to do something they don't want to do. It's not that they don't know how to have fun, but...you know that feeling that a stern father gives off? LOL...kind of like that...he'll let you know when you get out of hand with his silence and/or a look...
You can tell he cares about you if he does things for you, if he wants you to meet his family and friends, if he spends most of his free time with you, if he remembers what you say, if you only have to tell him once, and if he wants to meet you family... If he changes for you on his own, that's pretty significant I think.
I'm not sure how to tell if he wants you for more than sex because I ravage my goatboy as much as I can. He's been complaining that I only want him for sex this week..so sorry, maybe someone else can help you with that Winking
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Posted by SunMoonStars
Patience is key with Cap men...you know how us Saggies love that...not! smile This is by far the most challenging part for me because I lose interest quickly. You will learn a lot about yourself through him..and how to be more grounded.
They like to be in control, and you cannot get them to do something they don't want to do. It's not that they don't know how to have fun, but...you know that feeling that a stern father gives off? LOL...kind of like that...he'll let you know when you get out of hand with his silence and/or a look...
You can tell he cares about you if he does things for you, if he wants you to meet his family and friends, if he spends most of his free time with you, if he remembers what you say, if you only have to tell him once, and if he wants to meet you family... If he changes for you on his own, that's pretty significant I think.
I'm not sure how to tell if he wants you for more than sex because I ravage my goatboy as much as I can. He's been complaining that I only want him for sex this week..so sorry, maybe someone else can help you with that Winking



Omg thank you for your input! I can tell he likes to be in control and I'm not sure how I feel about it so I just shut up but that's so hard for me to do especially when I disagree. Don't get me wrong, I still add my two cents, but when I feel he's being stubborn about it I just let him have the last say. Then roll my eyes.
I do admit that I just don't get him. He says jokes that I think aren't funny at all, they almost sound belittling, and I called him out on it last night that I don't like that and he says he's trying to make a good impression - I don't get it lol... we are from different worlds and then he called me bro lol maybe he panicked? He is very sweet but I keep him at bay because I feel like he could just want sexy time and I don't wanna give in. But the scorpio venus could be making me paranoid ahah they say make Caps work for it, but then I feel like if I invest too much time and he doesn't like me the same way then it'll be for nothing, maybe a Sagi thing? not sure
And you're right patience is something I lack... not sure how to go about this one because I don't understand his humor... so I feel like we are always having a miscommunication. And he still won't tell me his bday lol wtf ahah...
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Posted by SunMoonStars
Patience is key with Cap men...you know how us Saggies love that...not! smile This is by far the most challenging part for me because I lose interest quickly. You will learn a lot about yourself through him..and how to be more grounded.
They like to be in control, and you cannot get them to do something they don't want to do. It's not that they don't know how to have fun, but...you know that feeling that a stern father gives off? LOL...kind of like that...he'll let you know when you get out of hand with his silence and/or a look...
You can tell he cares about you if he does things for you, if he wants you to meet his family and friends, if he spends most of his free time with you, if he remembers what you say, if you only have to tell him once, and if he wants to meet you family... If he changes for you on his own, that's pretty significant I think.
I'm not sure how to tell if he wants you for more than sex because I ravage my goatboy as much as I can. He's been complaining that I only want him for sex this week..so sorry, maybe someone else can help you with that Winking


also I understand that it's still too new so I will be patient... for now... lol
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