Disappearing and reappearing Cap
This topic was created in the Capricorn forum by LovelyP01 on Thursday, October 1, 2015 and has 10 replies.
Cap disappears and reappears
Hey everyone
I was hoping I can get some advice about my ex cap. We meet 2 years ago on a dating site. He's very attractive, charming and has an amazing smile. He messaged me saying how beautiful I was and we flirted back and forth for some time. One year went by before we talked again. He message me again asking me for my phone number, and we started talking on the phone alot. I asked him why didn't he ask me for my number the 1st time he said he was in trouble with the law, which made me back all the way up. I pulled back, he chased me. He kept calling and texting me, I ignored him at first but I gave in and started calling and texting him. Things were going ok, than one day I called him and no answer. I thought he was mad so I went on with my life. A couple of months went by, he contact me again saying he misses me and he got his situation with the law fixed. At that time I was talking to an aries and a virgo guy, ( I'm a virgo BTW ) the cap keep calling and texting me saying he didn't want me to think he was mad at me and how he wanted me to know he missed me alot. So we're now taking again, one day he tells me he has feelings for me. I was shocked because I had no idea, plus we never met. He than asked me to be his girlfriend, I said no because he didn't live in my city. The next week we stop talking once again. He contacts me around xmas saying he's coming home and can we finally meet, I was working two jobs and I'm school so I told him if I have time, I would love too. He came home, and asked me out 4 times, but I didn't go. I wanted too but I was so shy/nervous to meet him. Plus on social media alot of girls like him and I didn't want to be one of them. One month goes by and he contacts me on social media asking me can he call me because hes moving back home I said no because I'm tired of the disappearing act. He asked again So now we're talking again, he's now asking can I be his girlfriend since he's home, I agreed but I honestly didn't take him serious because we didn't meet yet. But once I agreed, he stuck to me like glue. Now I never been a relationship before so I was a little lost and very embarrassed. ( I was 22 he was 26 )
So the day we meet was amazing, he was just like how he was over the phone. He wanted to introduce me to some of his family, which I didn't want that to happen. So now our relationship is going great, we spent alot of time together, talking for hours, laugh, dates, sleep, and having extremely great sex. He would open up here and there. He would say he always wanted me and he was waiting on me, but I know during the disappearing acts he was with other girls. But 4 months into our relationship, his job were making cuts and his hours were dropping. That made him mad, somewhat distant, and it caused a couple of augments. I still had my two jobs but his bills were catching up with him. He's now frustrated and I'm trying to be supportive, but it wasn't enough. He kept saying he's
Hey everyone
I was hoping I can get some advice about my ex cap. We meet 2 years ago on a dating site. He's very attractive, charming and has an amazing smile. He messaged me saying how beautiful I was and we flirted back and forth for some time. One year went by before we talked again. He message me again asking me for my phone number, and we started talking on the phone alot. I asked him why didn't he ask me for my number the 1st time he said he was in trouble with the law, which made me back all the way up. I pulled back, he chased me. He kept calling and texting me, I ignored him at first but I gave in and started calling and texting him. Things were going ok, than one day I called him and no answer. I thought he was mad so I went on with my life. A couple of months went by, he contact me again saying he misses me and he got his situation with the law fixed. At that time I was talking to an aries and a virgo guy, ( I'm a virgo BTW ) the cap keep calling and texting me saying he didn't want me to think he was mad at me and how he wanted me to know he missed me alot. So we're now taking again, one day he tells me he has feelings for me. I was shocked because I had no idea, plus we never met. He than asked me to be his girlfriend, I said no because he didn't live in my city. The next week we stop talking once again. He contacts me around xmas saying he's coming home and can we finally meet, I was working two jobs and I'm school so I told him if I have time, I would love too. He came home, and asked me out 4 times, but I didn't go. I wanted too but I was so shy/nervous to meet him. Plus on social media alot of girls like him and I didn't want to be one of them. One month goes by and he contacts me on social media asking me can he call me because hes moving back home I said no because I'm tired of the disappearing act. He asked again So now we're talking again, he's now asking can I be his girlfriend since he's home, I agreed but I honestly didn't take him serious because we didn't meet yet. But once I agreed, he stuck to me like glue. Now I never been a relationship before so I was a little lost and very embarrassed. ( I was 22 he was 26 )
So the day we meet was amazing, he was just like how he was over the phone. He wanted to introduce me to some of his family, which I didn't want that to happen. So now our relationship is going great, we spent alot of time together, talking for hours, laugh, dates, sleep, and having extremely great sex. He would open up here and there. He would say he always wanted me and he was waiting on me, but I know during the disappearing acts he was with other girls. But 4 months into our relationship, his job were making cuts and his hours were dropping. That made him mad, somewhat distant, and it caused a couple of augments. I still had my two jobs but his bills were catching up with him. He's now frustrated and I'm trying to be supportive, but it wasn't enough. He kept saying he's
supposed to be working just as much as me. His dad reached out to him, telling him to move with him to get back on his feet. He didn't want too, he kept looking for a job, and went on a couple of interviews but he didn't get a job. He text me saying he's moving away, I was devastated. He kept saying he didn't want to leave me but he had no where else to go. I pulled away because I was mad/sad, he pulled away from me and we didn't talk as much. When we did talk, I was being rude and he kept saying I'm hurting him and he doesn't want to hurt me. I felt bad so I apologized. Next day we agreed to meet up before he left after I got off from work, he left without seeing me. I was real upset, so an argument happened. He didn't try to come see me, which made me think he didn't care. We broke up one week later, neither of us wanted to be in aDidn't want to drag me through the distance. When didn't talk as much, I didn't have much to say. When we did talk he said he misses us being together and how he still wants me but him disappearing again makes think otherwise. I miss him but I can't make him talk to me. I just deleted him from social media, from what I seen on his pg he's doing fine. It's going on 5 months since we talk, and I'm not sure if we ever will. I just don't understand the disappearing acts, than he comes back like nothing never happened. I've read that once a cap disappears and reappears, he's always going to do that? I'm new to horoscopes. I'm trying to forget about him and I'm also dating but I still miss him. I thought we "had something"
Sorry if it's too long, I tried to chop it up as much as possible.
Sorry if it's too long, I tried to chop it up as much as possible.
Yeah they will do that sometimes especcially when they think they are dropping their guards. 5 months is a long time but depending on how mad you made him that can happen. I made my Cap friend mad several times and he did the same thing. Only one time he disappeared for this ant of time but I did something very drastic for that to happen. When they do this you just have to back off no matter how hard it seems because the more you try to get them to communicate and and push towards them the more they will pull away from you! Give him a week or 2 without calling him and then call him and he should be fine. If you acted really aggressive with calling him you may need to give him more time than the 2 weeks. I'm in the same boat right now because sometimes it's hard... When you do contact him or he will contact you eventually keep it cordial and let him make the 1st move. You can tell him you miss him and would like to see him.
Learn to use paragraphs. I didn't read it all.
But here's the deal, straight up and simple. A man who constantly disappears isn't interested. Period. He comes back around when someone else doesn't work out. He comes back around for an ego boost.
Cut your losses with him and don't give him another thought.
But here's the deal, straight up and simple. A man who constantly disappears isn't interested. Period. He comes back around when someone else doesn't work out. He comes back around for an ego boost.
Cut your losses with him and don't give him another thought.
Men who love you don't disappear.
Posted by drxpxfJupiterPosted by truecap
Learn to use paragraphs. I didn't read it all.
But here's the deal, straight up and simple. A man who constantly disappears isn't interested. Period. He comes back around when someone else doesn't work out. He comes back around for an ego boost.
Cut your losses with him and don't give him another thought.
I'll disagree.
Most men are more practical than women and some men are just more of "hopeless romantics" than others. Every individual is different and has their own reasons for doing what they do. He seems more practical so he can't commit to a relationship with all the trouble in the background.
It seems like he has a lot going on in his life to give you that stable relationship: 1) First it was his trouble with the law 2) Now lack of work.
When he said he had no where to go... I'm sure you couldn't bring him into your home so why are you mad that he had to go where there was support?
You should never rely on social media for a sense of how someone is doing. People usually post their good times rather than troubles.
I'm not saying go run to him but I am saying you shouldn't be upset at him. He's doing what is best for him to survive. If you love him then have an open mind and an open heart to him. May be it will workout between you guys or may be it wasn't meant to be but to be bitter about something like timing is not fair to you or him.
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There are so many red flags with him and in this situation. She should cut her losses.
Please move on...it is clear he doesn't value you...I agree men who care about you don't disappear...
Life is tough if you are able to still remain who you are and possess the same characteristics via the good times or bad times that's the core essence of a person's true self..he keeps disappearing and you keep allowing it
Stand for something..
Life is tough if you are able to still remain who you are and possess the same characteristics via the good times or bad times that's the core essence of a person's true self..he keeps disappearing and you keep allowing it
Stand for something..
Okay. But she has to draw the line somewhere.
For me, if they disappear, they've got two weeks, then I move on. Even if they come back, I'm gone. Those are my standards and I don't understand why women tolerate the disappearance, re-appearance, disappearance, re-appearance. It's not healthy and you can't find a decent guy if you keep giving the wrong guy chances.
For me, if they disappear, they've got two weeks, then I move on. Even if they come back, I'm gone. Those are my standards and I don't understand why women tolerate the disappearance, re-appearance, disappearance, re-appearance. It's not healthy and you can't find a decent guy if you keep giving the wrong guy chances.
I agree with you about the disappearing and reappearing acts, and I am moving on. Well I'm dating and having fun I just think about him alot. Maybe more than I should but I'm sure I'll stop sooner or later.
@ drxpxf Jupiter
I know I was bitter at him, I was mad he had to go because I didn't want us to breakup. Than by him being my first boyfriend, I was just hurt that it was going to be over. He was a great boyfriend and yes I know he had to do what he had to do to survive.
Thanks for the advice
@ drxpxf Jupiter
I know I was bitter at him, I was mad he had to go because I didn't want us to breakup. Than by him being my first boyfriend, I was just hurt that it was going to be over. He was a great boyfriend and yes I know he had to do what he had to do to survive.
Thanks for the advice
@FrenchKpricorn for some reason my laptop won't let me reply back to your message.
He probably will come back, his family lives in FL while only his dad lives in New York. But I don't know.
Love? We never said that word I don't know if I love him or not. But it's nothing wrong with you thinking that haha
Thanks
He probably will come back, his family lives in FL while only his dad lives in New York. But I don't know.
Love? We never said that word I don't know if I love him or not. But it's nothing wrong with you thinking that haha
Thanks
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