LadyAnon
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Do Capricorns Yo-Yo?
I started chatting with one in Nov. Had an awesome first date in December sex even he took me home the next day. I stop by his house that Tuesday to hang out we had sex and his mom called and said she was on her way to it house so I could get dressed and leave. Friday we're supposed to have another day it was December 23rd we were going to spend the 24 together we are excited texting about it and then on the 23rd he texts me and says that he can't get together with me that night too get back with him after December 26th. He said that he got called the work on the 24th. So I text him after the 26th don't hear anything from him until January 9th he sent a text are you in town and I said no I'm at a Christmas party then he said he wanted to talk the next day and I said that's fine I would look to on the phone or in person and he said in person and I said I would text him when I was leaving to head to town he said great. Sunday noon I text him that I'm headed into town he said see that's just what I was trying to tell you now my parents are coming and Your coming... I said I'm just doing what you asked me to do I don't understand why you're angry with me and I think I was done at that point again and stopped talking. But I never really got over it because I knew that he wasn't over the relationship that would never was because he text me a whole month later. March 31st I text him I say get out of my POF matches 2out3 really?!?! He says let's go for pizza and beer I'm starving. Mind you it took me like 5 minutes to decide what to do because I knew it was not a good idea but I wanted to hear what he had to say of why he did everything that he did and I want an apology. So I go and he apologizes all over the place never really gives a reason because we got distracted at the bar but we had a great night stayed out really late he ended up taking me home again I did not have sex with them because I was on my. But I had told myself that I wasn't going to have sex with him. I had asked him before if he wanted a relationship and he said he did not want to have a relationship at this time. That's why I was kind of trying to move on. I don't know what to think. I really like him and care for him and I think that we would make a great couple but he wouldn't even give us that chance but I also wonder if I'm supposed to be waiting and I'm just not being patient because I've read all the Capricorn boards
Posted by CandicornAnd he never does! Hahja
He could have also been serious about not knowing if he could make you happy
He is a merchandiser so the holidays are the busiest time for his job. I understood all that. It just made it hard to get together!!
Taking this bit seriously is exactly why I decided to discontinue our communication. Even though I've not found it to be true, the possibility of him being self-absorbed is not lost with me.
He could have also been serious about not knowing if he could make you happy
You are saying
And occasionally, it could be genuine if he needed time to decide what he wants or felt like you needed time to calm down & be open to forgivenessclick to expand
1. HE needed time to decide what HE wants,
2. HE felt like I need time to calm down, and
3. I would be open to forgiveness?
I'm just clarifying. Wouldn't be a total miss to say all 3 could be true in this situation.
He's done it before when I asked if he's looking for a relationship. He responds with how he is open to enjoying all the universe gives. He is a man of few words outside of his passions for work, money, and learning.
Work. He approached me at the end of a networking mixer the first time I attended, asked for my fb contact and if I go there often. I asked him the same, turns out he was the host I was introduced to on the way in and totally forgot. 4 months later he hits me up on fb to meet for drinks. Chatted for over an hour, he stole a kiss and scurried away. For three weeks, nothing. No text, no call, nothing. Then, we went to the movies, he stole another kiss and ran away. SMDH.
Posted by ColdFire17Posted by LadyAnonHe just misses the attention. Doesn't mean much.
Is it a Capricorn trait to push you away and then pull you back in?
6 weeks ago I told my guy that I have emotions invested. He stated that he doesn't know if he can make me happy and doesn't want to cause any pain. I stopped communication. Done. No crossing paths, no back and forth.
A few days ago, I figure I don't need to see his updates and won't be reaching out to him, so I go ahead and delete him off my social media account. Within the hour, he texts me to say he misses my cuddles.
Do any Capricorns on here do anything aimilar to this? Capricorns are the last species I would think to be wishy washy like this.
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Agree. Stand your ground.
Did you sleep with him?
I slept with him for the span of about one month. Then I brought the relationship question up. He came up with the idea of just hanging out and not having sex, so I gave it a try. It was nice for a little bit, but I wasn't feeling like I was recieving all of him. That's when I gave us some space.
He's got this sweet, gushy inside which is the only side I see/he shows me when we are together. Of course super sensitive... my breathing adjusts and he asks me what I'm thinking. Gives me the sense that I could hurt him easily. Look what that got me. Haha
Its when I am direct with my communication that he scrambles away for a bit. It would really help to get some tips on how to have effective and clear communication with a Capricorn.
He's got this sweet, gushy inside which is the only side I see/he shows me when we are together. Of course super sensitive... my breathing adjusts and he asks me what I'm thinking. Gives me the sense that I could hurt him easily. Look what that got me. Haha
Its when I am direct with my communication that he scrambles away for a bit. It would really help to get some tips on how to have effective and clear communication with a Capricorn.
Posted by LadyAnonSounds like he only wanted sex, not a relationship. I've always been able to talk to Capricorn very openly. Just ask him what you want to know. They seem to be very honest. To help with his scrambles, do it through text message because they like to take their time to think their answer through and say it in the best way possible.
I slept with him for the span of about one month. Then I brought the relationship question up. He came up with the idea of just hanging out and not having sex, so I gave it a try. It was nice for a little bit, but I wasn't feeling like I was recieving all of him. That's when I gave us some space.
He's got this sweet, gushy inside which is the only side I see/he shows me when we are together. Of course super sensitive... my breathing adjusts and he asks me what I'm thinking. Gives me the sense that I could hurt him easily. Look what that got me. Haha
Its when I am direct with my communication that he scrambles away for a bit. It would really help to get some tips on how to have effective and clear communication with a Capricorn.
Posted by pinkbird03If she's trying to keep him from running away the best method would be to face him head on face to face and be direct about it. Texting him would just enable his wishy washy behavior.Posted by LadyAnonSounds like he only wanted sex, not a relationship. I've always been able to talk to Capricorn very openly. Just ask him what you want to know. They seem to be very honest. To help with his scrambles, do it through text message because they like to take their time to think their answer through and say it in the best way possible.
I slept with him for the span of about one month. Then I brought the relationship question up. He came up with the idea of just hanging out and not having sex, so I gave it a try. It was nice for a little bit, but I wasn't feeling like I was recieving all of him. That's when I gave us some space.
He's got this sweet, gushy inside which is the only side I see/he shows me when we are together. Of course super sensitive... my breathing adjusts and he asks me what I'm thinking. Gives me the sense that I could hurt him easily. Look what that got me. Haha
Its when I am direct with my communication that he scrambles away for a bit. It would really help to get some tips on how to have effective and clear communication with a Capricorn.click to expand
@OP Although, when you speak to him, do not be confrontational about it. Be polite and voice your concerns of how you feel and let him know where you stand. They will respect you for your honesty.
Posted by RindarooMercury could have an effect on it. I'm a Virgo Merc and his is Cap. We prefer to hash our issues out in person or over the phone if it's not feasible. The tone of texting, to us, can be easily misconstrued. At least with the former two, emotions can be detected.Posted by VirgoreanWith my Cap, we are going through stuff & text messaging works. It gives him time to process instead of just reacting on the spot. I really prefer face to face but it really is about the communication however that happens.Posted by pinkbird03If she's trying to keep him from running away the best method would be to face him head on face to face and be direct about it. Texting him would just enable his wishy washy behavior.Posted by LadyAnonSounds like he only wanted sex, not a relationship. I've always been able to talk to Capricorn very openly. Just ask him what you want to know. They seem to be very honest. To help with his scrambles, do it through text message because they like to take their time to think their answer through and say it in the best way possible.
I slept with him for the span of about one month. Then I brought the relationship question up. He came up with the idea of just hanging out and not having sex, so I gave it a try. It was nice for a little bit, but I wasn't feeling like I was recieving all of him. That's when I gave us some space.
He's got this sweet, gushy inside which is the only side I see/he shows me when we are together. Of course super sensitive... my breathing adjusts and he asks me what I'm thinking. Gives me the sense that I could hurt him easily. Look what that got me. Haha
Its when I am direct with my communication that he scrambles away for a bit. It would really help to get some tips on how to have effective and clear communication with a Capricorn.
@OP Although, when you speak to him, do not be confrontational about it. Be polite and voice your concerns of how you feel and let him know where you stand. They will respect you for your honesty.
Really there is nothing you can do to stop them running away. They will get the message either way. Just important to be honest and direct and not attacking.click to expand
But I agree, the communication should be a discussion and not an attack.
If she's trying to keep him from running away the best method would be to face him head on face to face and be direct about it. Texting him would just enable his wishy washy behavior.Thanks Candicorn & Virgorean
@OP Although, when you speak to him, do not be confrontational about it. Be polite and voice your concerns of how you feel and let him know where you stand. They will respect you for your honesty.
With my Cap, we are going through stuff & text messaging works. It gives him time to process instead of just reacting on the spot. I really prefer face to face but it really is about the communication however that happens.I prefer face to face for real convos, too, which is frustrating. I'll have something ready for him when he comes around. This is what two cerebral introverts dating looks like. — He mostly texts in full sentences, I can work with this.
Really there is nothing you can do to stop them running away. They will get the message either way. Just important to be honest and direct and not attacking.click to expand
Posted by RindarooI totally get the texting instead of calling. I can get that way myself over some topics. As far as caring, he's not left me hanging when I ask a serious questions. He thinks about what he says even though he takes his time.
Oh I agree in theory. But sometimes with emotions or baggage, it is the way it happens. It is far better to happen then not to. Texting is really just a start to the conversation really in that case. And if hes not listening in person or on the phone, texting can get a message across.
With a Cap, they do a lot of processing so it seems to work with them. We are both Cap Mercury& well I do better writing due to some of my past history. At least for the really tough issues. ( to bring the subject up) .
I was just thinking with the OP situation, it might be a better thing texting because really it's a tough one that could lead to a defensive reaction. And texting even if he didn't respond right away, the message is still getting through. Then you see how much he still cares.
Posted by LadyAnonYes. Seems kind of like a bit of me. You see we might like you so we will be all sweet and gushy with you but sometimes we are also not sure of ourselves that whether we can keep the other person happy. So we might say things like these and try to keep you at bay. But the truth is what he wrote you later.
Is it a Capricorn trait to push you away and then pull you back in?
6 weeks ago I told my guy that I have emotions invested. He stated that he doesn't know if he can make me happy and doesn't want to cause any pain. I stopped communication. Done. No crossing paths, no back and forth.
A few days ago, I figure I don't need to see his updates and won't be reaching out to him, so I go ahead and delete him off my social media account. Within the hour, he texts me to say he misses my cuddles.
Do any Capricorns on here do anything aimilar to this? Capricorns are the last species I would think to be wishy washy like this.
But the right approach would be to talk directly if he is not going through any personal upheaval. As to and fro only causes the thread to break. May be he is not ready yet for a commitment and relationship.
Posted by Capricorn91God! Do I ever appreciate clear and concise communication. Thank you Capricorn91!
Yes. Seems kind of like a bit of me. You see we might like you so we will be all sweet and gushy with you but sometimes we are also not sure of ourselves that whether we can keep the other person happy. So we might say things like these and try to keep you at bay. But the truth is what he wrote you later.
But the right approach would be to talk directly if he is not going through any personal upheaval. As to and fro only causes the thread to break. May be he is not ready yet for a commitment and relationship.
I figured as much that he is not ready for a full on relationship and commitment. I fully respect this and recognize that this is not going the pace that works for me so, moving on even though I have feelings. I feel he is playing around in my emotions while he is figuring his self out. That's just cruel.
Not that into you, keep walking. I think he just wanted sex. I don't mean to be harsh but yeah. We usually say what we mean and mean what we say. If I was acting like he is, it's just because I was attracted to them, but want no emotional entanglements.
Generally no, if you hurt their feelings they become reserved , if you are overly emotional they can detach. Got into an argument they become cold. If you're very confrontational they become reserved. Many different reasons really.
From time to time depending on the other person intentions and where we are in life. Time and people are important to use so if the equation does not add up I don't waste their time or mines.
Funny those were the exact words I used. Not wanting to waste his time nor mine, but a few weeks later he rolls right back around.
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6 weeks ago I told my guy that I have emotions invested. He stated that he doesn't know if he can make me happy and doesn't want to cause any pain. I stopped communication. Done. No crossing paths, no back and forth.
A few days ago, I figure I don't need to see his updates and won't be reaching out to him, so I go ahead and delete him off my social media account. Within the hour, he texts me to say he misses my cuddles.
Do any Capricorns on here do anything aimilar to this? Capricorns are the last species I would think to be wishy washy like this.