Hey there! I am a cappy myself but I seem to fall easily.. Is this normal with the other caps?
Same, after we've opened up and I've gotten a glimpse of who you really are and I actually like that, then yeah it's a quick fall from there.
If I don't trust you initially though, it's going to take a while; if it ever happens. I'm very picky about who I fall for (or should I say, my subconscious is)
It takes zillion years to fall for someone but once I do...there is no hope.
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Jan 25, 2012Comments: 8 · Posts: 20090 · Topics: 685
Once I feel someone has the qualities I respect and need, yes, I can fall in love fast (maybe 3-4 months) but its very guarded. I won't mention it to anyone for a long time.
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Jan 25, 2012Comments: 8 · Posts: 20090 · Topics: 685
The cap hardness doesn't have to be hard. I think its viewed as self protection and fear. We have very big hearts, but it's hard for us to allow ourselves to be vulnerable.
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Jan 25, 2012Comments: 8 · Posts: 20090 · Topics: 685
Yes! And when we drop that shield and get burned, it's devastating!
I'm with an aqua and I think we are both afraid to tell each other how we feel. One of us is going to have to give for things to advance further. My friends say he's probably waiting on me, I say its the man who should go first. Soooo, what next? lol!
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Jan 25, 2012Comments: 8 · Posts: 20090 · Topics: 685
You know, though, once we let that shield down for someone who doesn't burn us. It is a beautiful, loyal friendship or relationship. I'm talking hide the body for someone type of loyal. But there are very, very few.
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Crazy thing is Im so use to feeling a bit heavy I like it almost. When I think of a more positive, happier me I almost cringe lol.
Not saying Im a depressed, negative, debbie downer, but I find comfort in being a bit gloomy.
We usually are our own worst enemies but its both good and bad to know that.
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Jan 25, 2012Comments: 8 · Posts: 20090 · Topics: 685
My New Years Resolution last year was to be more honest with people about how I'm feeling. My Sag BFF told me close to the end of the year "no one but me knows what you're thinking. You should try to shake that unreadable image. It's a real turn off". I used to not say anything, then resentment would set in. So I started trying.
Some examples: Like using feeling words. Such as instead of saying "the sunset is beautiful," I say "the sunset feels magical". Also in the honesty of being asked "where do you want to eat" I actually think and give an answer. Another way is to say, "hey, that statement just pissed me off".
Anyway, I'm still learning to give more honest and feeling feedback, but I've noticed a turn for the better. People seem to respect me more and I'm having less fear of rejection. Hardest thing is teaching that cap mercury how to approach nicely and not bluntly.