Does Age Make A Difference???
This topic was created in the Capricorn forum by conn1 on Thursday, August 3, 2006 and has 51 replies.
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Do you think a 35 yr old Cap male and a 26 yr old Cap female can make it in a relationship????
Do they outspoken and like to be in control???
I would say 50 and 2o something could work, if the mentality is right. my dad was a capricorn and my mum was 20 something years younger than him, it really is true that capricorn men get younger mentally as they get older physically!
it really is true that capricorn men get younger mentally as they get older physically!
ooo yaaa... this suga daddy cap ...hes like 72 and he was after my sis' who wasnt even interested in him shes 28)... so ya caps go for younger women as they age
ooo yaaa... this suga daddy cap ...hes like 72 and he was after my sis' who wasnt even interested in him shes 28)... so ya caps go for younger women as they age
yeah it is true honest - cause they spend their younger years so serious and putting all else aside while they climb the career ladder make money and achieve their goals, when they get to around 40-50 ish they finally know themselves and have achieved some of the goals they set out for, made some money achieved some status etc, so they can now sit back and relax a little and enjoy life! My dad was the best father i could ever have wished for, he did everything for hmy bro and i, stayed at home after early retirement to look after us instead of my mum doing it!! And cause hed earnt all his money now he could really spoil us with it lol! Cap men are supposed to look younger than they are when they get older too...
yeah they like younger women cause they like to feel needed and depended on, plus they like someone who looks good on their arm!! It is sooo true ive seen it many times lol
yeah they like younger women cause they like to feel needed and depended on, plus they like someone who looks good on their arm!! It is sooo true ive seen it many times lol
I've read somewhere in the astrology books that cap men don't want a pretty lass because they have to look better than her. This is why they are insecure/sensitive around beauty and may take years to trust it. I have heard this straight from the source. I've even been told by my cap friend that I am way out of his league..whats that all about? Any take on this from Cap men?
My dad was a Capricorn too, he was 18 years older then my mom. 
I've always been attracted to older men too. I had this thing for a 36 Cap and I'm 26. And that Cappie's momma is a taurus. Interesting. Maybe Freud was right...or maybe not
I've always been attracted to older men too. I had this thing for a 36 Cap and I'm 26. And that Cappie's momma is a taurus. Interesting. Maybe Freud was right...or maybe notsensitivity to age really depends on the two involved, though i know a lot of people have shallow objections to it. i had dated an older guy (taurus, 18 yrs older) for 2.5 yrs. at first, before even meeting me, his friends disagreed with what he was doing, but then warmed up to us after meeting me. by a year later, everyone really enjoyed seeing us together. so it's really up to the two people to make something of it. obviously, there's some disparity in common ground due to the eras they are coming from. my ex (we're now still friends) grew up listening to van morrison, the scorpions and def leppard. i grew up listening to pearl jam, the beastie boys and korn. we have our differences, but we know how to have fun with them.
one particular memory... my ex and one of his buddies were talking about a car he had just bought to drive around in the city (he lived in san francisco). an '80 toyota tercel. i kind of interjected... 'wow, that car is older than i am' and the two of them just looked at each other, blinked and started laughing, saying my comment really put the years on them. i was thinkin to myself... *durrr* lol
if that cap femme feels anything like myself with regard to an age gap, no... age does not make a difference. 'its the inside that counts'
"Maybe Freud was right...or maybe not" ...who knows, but did you know that he was a taurus too? :p also interesting.
one particular memory... my ex and one of his buddies were talking about a car he had just bought to drive around in the city (he lived in san francisco). an '80 toyota tercel. i kind of interjected... 'wow, that car is older than i am' and the two of them just looked at each other, blinked and started laughing, saying my comment really put the years on them. i was thinkin to myself... *durrr* lol
if that cap femme feels anything like myself with regard to an age gap, no... age does not make a difference. 'its the inside that counts'
"Maybe Freud was right...or maybe not" ...who knows, but did you know that he was a taurus too? :p also interesting.
It depends...on your characteristics...for me, my cap man 42 and im 28...i'm crabby girl..w/c is emotional...we always fight..but still..from time to time, we see each other again..,if i get hurt by his lies..what i did is to send him (bad messages..and goodbye messages every time)but after one or two weeks maximum 1-month no communication...at the end, either me or he will call first,..we talked again, as if nothing happened.!!! kinda weird!
I don't like big age gaps. They catch up with you eventually emotionally.
Missmorals my paternal grandparents were 17 years apart in age. But you have to realise that they were married in the late 40s early 50s, and thing were way different back then.
I absolutely agree with this point Branh and generally your comments on this issue.
I absolutely agree with this point Branh and generally your comments on this issue.
Its easier to control the younger partner.
"Its easier to control the younger partner."
LOL!!!!
LOL!!!!
trust me guys age is not a big deal
"Lets not bullshit ourselves here. Age does matter, and half of the time guys who go after women 20 years young because their stupid. Yes, women who are like 21 are stupid."
why not just say that age matters to YOU. not only does age not matter to me or the countless others in similar relationships, but what people like you have to say also does NOT matter. that's like trying to tell someone that the color of a person's hair matters. it's another matter of taste. some prefer blondes, other's it doesnt matter at all. go ahead and tell me that this is a far fetched comparison... it is a less significant point, but it is the SAME EXACT PRINCIPLE. only made a big deal by conservative minds who have their fire-by-the-hip reactions thinking as if they know everything 'oh those two are just in it for the novelty'. indeed, let's not bullshit ourselves here... those who want to impose their opinions on these types of relationships, which by the way... their opinions were never asked for, are just threatened. for some reason, it's taken personally by a few petty people when a 'different' and happy couple walk down the street.
i remember at least a couple times noticing other people giving me and my ex sketchy looks. only a few times in the 2.5 yrs we dated. i'm sure it happened more often than that x100. im just really happy that i never noticed it or paid any attention. what a bummer that would have been.
idealistic? that could very well be a word created and used by people who believe they cant get what they want in life.
why not just say that age matters to YOU. not only does age not matter to me or the countless others in similar relationships, but what people like you have to say also does NOT matter. that's like trying to tell someone that the color of a person's hair matters. it's another matter of taste. some prefer blondes, other's it doesnt matter at all. go ahead and tell me that this is a far fetched comparison... it is a less significant point, but it is the SAME EXACT PRINCIPLE. only made a big deal by conservative minds who have their fire-by-the-hip reactions thinking as if they know everything 'oh those two are just in it for the novelty'. indeed, let's not bullshit ourselves here... those who want to impose their opinions on these types of relationships, which by the way... their opinions were never asked for, are just threatened. for some reason, it's taken personally by a few petty people when a 'different' and happy couple walk down the street.
i remember at least a couple times noticing other people giving me and my ex sketchy looks. only a few times in the 2.5 yrs we dated. i'm sure it happened more often than that x100. im just really happy that i never noticed it or paid any attention. what a bummer that would have been.
idealistic? that could very well be a word created and used by people who believe they cant get what they want in life.
I think the most important is that she doesn't miss out on steps of her growth and vice versa and that the couple is made of two solid individuals going forward.
ya i agree... thats very important but some women grow pretty fast both mentally and emotionally and they dont have a problem having a serious relationship with an older man... i mean i know what im talkin about coz i've dated a guy 11 years older than me and trust me we connected perfectly....and age was neva an issue... like i always say there are other things to worry about then a guy's age, color, race, religion... If u love a person and u both understand each other and communicate well.... it'll work out regardless of your age gap....
OK i think im repeating myself for like the BILLIONETH time now coz this topic always comes up again and again and again
love bullshit is for kids, love is overrated.
hahahahah branh0913,
u remind me of that song from cindrella that her step mom was singin':
Falling in love with love
Is falling for make believe
Falling in love with love
Is playing the fool
Caring too much
Is such a juvenile fancy
Learning to trust
Is just for children in school
I fell in love with love
One night when the moon was full
I was unwise with eyes unable to see
I fell in love with love
With love everlasting
But love fell out with me!
Falling in love with love
Is falling for make believe
Falling in love with love
Is playing the fool
hahahahah branh0913,
u remind me of that song from cindrella that her step mom was singin':
Falling in love with love
Is falling for make believe
Falling in love with love
Is playing the fool
Caring too much
Is such a juvenile fancy
Learning to trust
Is just for children in school
I fell in love with love
One night when the moon was full
I was unwise with eyes unable to see
I fell in love with love
With love everlasting
But love fell out with me!
Falling in love with love
Is falling for make believe
Falling in love with love
Is playing the fool
So eliza, I'd like to have your opinion on age gaps ? does it matter ? if not why ?
ummmmmmm.... didnt i just say age doesnt matter and stated why.... .......
"I have to make sure that it's because our mind set is at the same level, and that her being younger is not a make up to my insecurities or me being older is not a make up to hers. I think the most important is that she doesn't miss out on steps of her growth and vice versa and that the couple is made of two solid individuals going forward."
i gotta say, i wasnt about to explain why my relationship worked, because i didnt feel i needed to justify anything, but this mindset between my ex and i is exactly why he and i worked out. ironically, it is why i ended up splitting from him 2 and a half years later. i came to a point in my life where i decided i wanted to go singularly into the next big phase following my undergraduate. he and i are still thick as thieves though.
my point is yes, it can work despite any disparity. you just have to be smart enough. fortunately for he and i... it was easy doing what it took.
i gotta say, i wasnt about to explain why my relationship worked, because i didnt feel i needed to justify anything, but this mindset between my ex and i is exactly why he and i worked out. ironically, it is why i ended up splitting from him 2 and a half years later. i came to a point in my life where i decided i wanted to go singularly into the next big phase following my undergraduate. he and i are still thick as thieves though.
my point is yes, it can work despite any disparity. you just have to be smart enough. fortunately for he and i... it was easy doing what it took.
Eliza, that song makes a lot of sense.
i KNEW it wud make ALOT of sense to ya branh0913
it can work despite any disparity.
i agree creepypants ( jeeez LOVE that name
)..My X scorpio and i didnt break up coz of da age differences and all...... there were other issues.... love is for stupid people.
maybe in your world..
maybe in your world
.. well branh0913,
i already know that song does make sense
... thats why i dont trust anyone If it came down to love or respect, I'd take respect.
me too..me too... i wanna be respected...
you will feel it when it comes whether you want it or not,
Jackodaniel, Love is a choice... you CHOOSE to fall in love... a person is always incontrol of his/her feelings......
From what I have experienced age does NOT matter. It is the connection (mental, emotional, physical) between the two people that really matters. In TRUE love emotions and feelings run so deep that the link between the two just happens and it is beyond anyone's control. You may feel that it was MEANT to be.
i think the only choice you have when it comes to love is how much you're gonna take over the reins, if at all.
jackodaniel,
ofcourse i'm serious....I've never fallen nor will i fall in love with any one unless i CHOOSE to.... like with my X scorpio, i never really liked him but he pursued me like crazy and we went out and i started liking him.... ' I CHOSE' to like him and fall in love with him.... i dont believe how people say they have no control over their feelings....coz i have on mine
u should read Branh0913's post.. hes puts it really well... im not mighty in writing
... im more of a practical person thats HOW BRANH0913 puts it
It seems the theme lately is: "I Can't help who I fall in love with?!. This is of course followed with ambigious statements like, "It just happened". I do think people have a choice. So why is it that people don't think they have a choice in the matter? I'll tell you, it as a lot to do with personal responsibiility.
People like to walk around like they are perfect, infallable, and just flawless. So they go around listing a bunch of charactistic for partners that sound like the right answer, but in action, they do the contary. The old saying is that actions speak louder than words, and how you act on things is probably what you ultimately want. No one is willing to own the fact that they make mistakes in their partnership, that they lean towards the superficial, and that they really don't know what they want. They simply rather exonerate themselves from taking full responsiblity for their choices, by acting as if love is no longer a choice. It is a choice, and it speak volumes about your personal character. This is something that people simply don't want to get real with, so they pretend that they never made the decision to begin with.
I am not going to get on a pedestal and pretend that I am immune to this level of self-deceit. We are are vulnerable to it. The real thing is that we don't want to look at ourselves and change what we once valued, because this level of self evaluation is painful. We simply want to look like victims of destiny instead of victims of our own superficality and shallowness. We all can't be people of substance right out of the box, we eventually have to reacesses our situation and build a stronger foundation to avoid these mistakes in the future. So love is a choice, and the sooner people get real with this, the sooner they are to the path of true happiness
love if he's not right for you, if you're in love with a loser you should only be ....
jackodaniel,
please define love?? how do YOU define love???
jackodaniel,
please define love?? how do YOU define love???
Love-is defined by the individual's mental, physical, and emotional experiences. I don't think there is an exact definition of love.
I felt very different intensities of love for the two fellas I fell in love with. I also felt two completely distinct physical blows when I fell out of love.
Branh-When in "love" you excuse things, I wouldn't call it being stupid though. I know people that have been too scared to let themselves go in those areas...do you consider them Smart? I don't view love as being "smart" nor "stupid" but I do think that those that don't allow themselves to feel "love" are cheating themselves of an experience. But that is their choice...and why judge them or waste time analyzing their actions or non-actions. We are all different.
Eliza-I agree that love is a choice once the chemistry is there. You can't make the chemistry though. I wish I could love a certain man the way he loves me. I YEARN to be loved like that, but I can't love him back with that intense passion. There is no passion for him in my body, not even when I'm tipsy. I feel absolutely nothing with his touch. However, I mentally think it would be awesome if I could make myself "love" him but I can't. So please enlighten me if you know something I don't know Eliza!!
The times that I was in love/lust...it was a whole new level of being. I guess you can choose to walk out of love when you know that it will take more then just love to keep the relationship going (be it financially, or due to his extra-cirricular habits). But I've been in a love drought for 2 years...so I've gotten used to not feeling the "love" thing.
About the age thing...I am attracted to men that are older because of their experiences and I find them sexy. Especially Capricorn men...prrr! Sometimes Leo men get me worked up too.
I felt very different intensities of love for the two fellas I fell in love with. I also felt two completely distinct physical blows when I fell out of love.
Branh-When in "love" you excuse things, I wouldn't call it being stupid though. I know people that have been too scared to let themselves go in those areas...do you consider them Smart? I don't view love as being "smart" nor "stupid" but I do think that those that don't allow themselves to feel "love" are cheating themselves of an experience. But that is their choice...and why judge them or waste time analyzing their actions or non-actions. We are all different.
Eliza-I agree that love is a choice once the chemistry is there. You can't make the chemistry though. I wish I could love a certain man the way he loves me. I YEARN to be loved like that, but I can't love him back with that intense passion. There is no passion for him in my body, not even when I'm tipsy. I feel absolutely nothing with his touch. However, I mentally think it would be awesome if I could make myself "love" him but I can't. So please enlighten me if you know something I don't know Eliza!!
The times that I was in love/lust...it was a whole new level of being. I guess you can choose to walk out of love when you know that it will take more then just love to keep the relationship going (be it financially, or due to his extra-cirricular habits). But I've been in a love drought for 2 years...so I've gotten used to not feeling the "love" thing.
About the age thing...I am attracted to men that are older because of their experiences and I find them sexy. Especially Capricorn men...prrr! Sometimes Leo men get me worked up too.
To answer the orginal post:
No,I don't think age makes a difference if the age gap isn't to large. If a man is more then a decade order then I, then the relationship will not be as emotionally stable as I would like it to be. So in order to have some common ground, my cut off age is 10 years -- since I am 21, I would date someone who is 31. Other then that .... no way.
If I'm old enough to be a man's daughter, what on earth would he want me for, besides the obvious.
No,I don't think age makes a difference if the age gap isn't to large. If a man is more then a decade order then I, then the relationship will not be as emotionally stable as I would like it to be. So in order to have some common ground, my cut off age is 10 years -- since I am 21, I would date someone who is 31. Other then that .... no way.
If I'm old enough to be a man's daughter, what on earth would he want me for, besides the obvious.
If you choose to fall, is it really a fall ?
LOL... ummmmm ok its Landing safely in love
( ok that was lame ) Aww JD..you have such a way with words..Mmmwah!
choice is from the mind not the heart
i disagree...when i make a decision i use both my Heart and my mind....
'...you give and don't expect any returns, ...'
OK your talking about unconditional love here which unfortunately doesnt exist in a Loving relationship...i always thought it did but ah..ah.. noone ever loves you unconditionally... love is ALWAYS based on conditions....
Human love is ALWAYS selfish, it is expressed with expectations of a return.
What the problem with most people is that they sit and wait for the feeling of love to come hit them before they act on that feeling. But right thinking produces right behavior - the feelings will follow.
Choose to show the other person love, even if you don't feel like it and the feelings will come! trust me they will come
SO LOVE is a choice and u can love a person who hates ya because u CHOOSE to do so...
i disagree...when i make a decision i use both my Heart and my mind....
'...you give and don't expect any returns, ...'
OK your talking about unconditional love here which unfortunately doesnt exist in a Loving relationship...i always thought it did but ah..ah.. noone ever loves you unconditionally... love is ALWAYS based on conditions....
Human love is ALWAYS selfish, it is expressed with expectations of a return.
What the problem with most people is that they sit and wait for the feeling of love to come hit them before they act on that feeling. But right thinking produces right behavior - the feelings will follow.
Choose to show the other person love, even if you don't feel like it and the feelings will come! trust me they will come
SO LOVE is a choice and u can love a person who hates ya because u CHOOSE to do so...
disagree...when i make a decision i use both my Heart and my mind....
I do too Eliza
I do too Eliza
"OK your talking about unconditional love here which unfortunately doesnt exist in a Loving relationship...i always thought it did but ah..ah.. noone ever loves you unconditionally... love is ALWAYS based on conditions...."
I disagree with you there Eliza. TRUE love in all its essence - the alll giving , real love - the all consuming UNCONDITIONAL love DOES exist. It cannot be preplanned because it just happens and catches you unawares and you just become lost in it. I would die for my man. I would bear ANYTHING for him. And he can live his life and suceed in any way as per his wishes. Whatever happens I will be there for him, because what I feel for him is NOT a decision of mine, but something meant to be as I am totally helpless here.
And I can say very truly from the bottom of my heart that I have NEVER felt like this to ANYONE ELSE.
I disagree with you there Eliza. TRUE love in all its essence - the alll giving , real love - the all consuming UNCONDITIONAL love DOES exist. It cannot be preplanned because it just happens and catches you unawares and you just become lost in it. I would die for my man. I would bear ANYTHING for him. And he can live his life and suceed in any way as per his wishes. Whatever happens I will be there for him, because what I feel for him is NOT a decision of mine, but something meant to be as I am totally helpless here.
And I can say very truly from the bottom of my heart that I have NEVER felt like this to ANYONE ELSE.
Whats your partners sign Topazwoman?
I've seen unconditional love too, and I believe it exists. LOL!!! It's so funny how those that don't believe in such things never really understand until it actally "Hits" them
MM he is also a scorpio
yes sb & cappysweetie it does exist
yes sb & cappysweetie it does exist
Thats fantastic Topazwoman..Then I can totally see the unconditional love..lol..
until it actally "Hits" them
I hope it hits my guy
I hope it hits my guy
And I can say very truly from the bottom of my heart that I have NEVER felt like this to ANYONE ELSE.
i hope i feel that way someday....its awesome to love someone with all your heart, might mind and strength with wanting nothin in return for all that u give.....I've yet to meet someone so devoted and awesome... I respect and admire u for ur awesomeness Topazwoman
I hope it hits my guy - LOL...
During an argument I said to my scorpio friend (potential for growth) why I haven't yet seen the gentleman side of him and only the sordid one, he quickly fires back with "shall I compare thee to a summers night....."..
IDIOT..I had to laugh though..
IDIOT..I had to laugh though..
lol MM. thats friggin cute.
Thank you Eliza and MM. Thanks a lot...
LOL..I know..bless his cotton socks..soo keen.
Aww JD..You gotta love em really.
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