Enigmanupe~~

o.k. my story is so long that im just going to cut and paste the most important post to catch you up!! Sorry in advance for the long story but its been six long months!! lol thank you for you time!!


Im sooo confused...I have been talking/seeing this capy man for about three months. Hes so up and down wishy~washy he tells me he wants to be with me then he doesn't. But there is a twist to our situation...im married in the middle of a divorce with two children and im 7 years older....lol he's twenty! Anyhoo from the moment we saw each other we felt a connection. He said that he does not want to be the reason for my divorce and hes not. I really feel like he could be my soul mate. And when ever I go out and men hit on me I always catch myself comparing him to them (they never messure up)I have read through all the information I could find on him and I and it all said that we are bad for eachother...but i dont think so. I think that he would be perfect for me. He has a beautiful heart and I have never felt the way he makes me feel. I get butterflies in my stomach when im going to see him I get excited when I know he will be calling. Even though he seems a little cold and distant at times....I know he cares for me! My question is, how do I handle him or our situation rather... help : ( I dont want to run him off!


have exciting news...o.k. dont think im a freak! My best friend and I have been having you know DRAMA in our lives so we decided to got to a psychic yesterday! WOW it was freaking nuts...scary but intersesting she gave me some valubale information! She told me that My husband and I both do not love eachother anymore and that the divocre is in out best interest! She mentioned my much younger man!(Brian) She said that this man cares alot for me that he even loves me and that is why he has backed off!!!!(she said he is a wonderful man and that he was not about using me) He wants me to get through my situation and be friends for right now! She said he feels bad about doing it but knows that its best for me! WOW! that made me feel so much better! She said you and him made an "instant connection" when you met and no one knows the feelings that you have for eachother! She said some other scary stuff about my life and my karma and my family wich did not settle well with me bu till be o.k.! Sooooo today I called Brian....I know I know....I said I would not call but I did he answeard and I told him about my reading and he was shocked he could not believe that i did not tell her anything that she would just ask me stuff after she looked at my cards! I told him what she said about him and he did not say anything...he didnt need to I could hear in his tone! I did not want to talk about us... I just wanted to talk to him like friends and we had a great conversation no arguing no attitude it was so nice! I feel so great inside im content knowing what I know and i think it will make it easier to be friends. he also explained to me the reason why he was moving in with his cousins girlfriend! And I was like oh thats cools but showed no jealousy! I'm confident now so who know's girls.....maybe in the future we will be together...but for now im fine being his friend and getting to know him : ) I'm a happy girl! So what is your take on psychics? ~ B


hello!
Well I have some new "G" (gossip) yesterday I called Brian (im a sucker) but in my heart and in my mind I was tapped out emotionally! I told my office gal pal that I was going to call one last time and wash my hands of him if I got nothing out of him...well sure enough I called he was busy and said he would call me back and never did : ( at the end of my day at work I told my friend well I guess that was it, and now maybe I should open up a lil more to Barret! She said ya maybe...I went home cleaned my house (take my mind off things) my husband came home to drop off the kids. And he started going off on me I guess he found out that I was "se

GEG,

I'm sorry that you had to deal with this, but at age 20 he doesn't have a clue. I was explaining to someone else that we can be a complete mess in our younger days. I recall my late teens/early twenties and it wasn't pretty. Don't tell anyone I told you this, but I was having an identity crisis. I cried almost every night trying to figure out who I was, what I wanted out of life, who my friends were, why self control was so difficult, and many other confusing topics. I used women as entertainment (something to do). I used women to get over past disappointments and pain. Since I was in college, my years of making real money didn't start until about 24 or 25 (which is when I started slowing down).

For me, security is a big thing. I felt lost because I had nothing (or so I thought). I made stupid decisions almost on the regular. Looking back, I don't know how I ever survived those years. I walked out with scars (minor law infractions, bad credit, in debt, child out of wedlock, etc.). It took many years to right my wrongs and get my head adjusted. I won't say that I'm perfect now, cause I'm not, but the issues I am dealing with now (at age 30) are more or less about letting go of the pain from my teenage years. I'm learning to identify good women, those less likely to cheat, and place trust in the possibility that it can and will happen for me.

So, again I say, Brian is in a weird place. Deep down inside, I believe we feel similarly when it comes to drama, arguments, and confusion...we don't want any, but he's just all over the board. I've done that MANY times. There were some women who, looking back, were good for me, but they lacked something too. Example, I loved this one girl for what she looked like (which happens often), but later found that she was kind of dingy (that happens a lot too). Drama Queens turn me off too. The way I think of it, my home is my castle. I need PEACE and TRANQUILITY when I'm at home NOT drama.

My suggestion, feel free to borrow anything (or not), is to let him be. He may have liked you, but I think there is far too much going on in your corner. With friends in your business, it makes it hard to trust you. Coming over doing a Veronica Mars on him is scary, I'd probably do the same thing. It also appears that he's getting flack from all over (his family and friends). Not to mention, you're still legally married. I had this one girl who was married, but I couldn't mess with her because of it. Even though I was a nutcase at the time, wishy washy is one of those traits, I didn't want to deal with husbands' rage. I was even cautious about divorcees for the same reason.

I'd say, give him a lot of room and time. While it may be hard to do, go find someone else to date. Be unattainable at this time. Let time heal some of his wounds. As much as you may want to make things work, they'll happen if it was meant to be. And, with your present state of affairs, you have a lot on your plate. Take some time to deal with your issues/problems/entanglements and help your situation become a little less murky.

I hope this helps. Just an opinion that you can use for insight. Need more? Let me know.

E~


thank you so much and sorry again for such a long post. You are a great, and your advise is awesome! Thank you for giving us Ladies your time.


Yes I need to leave him alone give it time and let nature take its course. What do you think about me just calling and offering my friendship? That way I'm not worried about "what happened" and I can move on..(maybe) I love him ! But let him know that im here and I care and I wont judge him?


~ B

GEG,

At this point, I wouldn't push the issue. Give him time (I can hear you say, "But, it's been two weeks already?!") and allow him the room to think things through. From the sound of things, ya'll have a lot of people connections between the two of you. One way or another, he's gonna hear or see you. Take care of you, first, and don't let him (or your thoughts of him) rule you too much. Trust me, I know it's hard to accept and practice, but he's on something else right now and wouldn't advise any further contact for awhile. Give him time to miss you, if he actually feels that way for you. If not, you would have cleared your issues up and made it possible to see other "quality" men. Besides, you deserve the best....although, you have to be in a position to receive those kinds of offers. Being married is a tough chip to swallow.

I hope I haven't offended you in anyway,if I have, I apologize, but I'm being honest from one guys point of view.

Good luck, hon.

E~
Noway Im not offended at all!! I can handle a lot. Thank you so much, you are so right I will give him time and do my own thing. Im so glad you posted as soon as you did I was getting ready to call!! lol I have issues with self control I dont like it!!


p.s.
I love my feet!!
B~ my feet are prettier!! lol

Yeah, ya'll keep talking about pretty feet up in here and we'll be forced to start a contest. Don't tempt me. (laughing)

im down!! lol
I love my feet..when people ask what do you like most about your body... I say my feet!!LOL
my best feature "eyes"!!

Your eyes are your best feature GEG! You're gorgeous...are you out there dating mama?! You need to be.

Well thank you so much ***GEM*** i still want to see a picture of you so I can have a name to a face! I know that you have to be beautiful as well! That makes me feel good!

How are you sweetie I know these boys get the best of us but we will be o.k.! As long as we have Oaf and Enigmanupe here to walk us through 😉 big bear hugs to you!!

Yeah I might marry enigma...he's already enlightened. hahaha. I'm kidding. You know I'm just flirting...it's a gem thing! Yeah I'll get a pic as soon as possible and let you see it. I wanta' go out tonight! I'm finding me some tail! LOL. My best friend told me last night, "we need to find you some new penis to erase him from your noggin." She made me laugh so hard.

No im not dating yet...its just too weird for me right now! All I think about is you know who and what I "thought" we had. Im also a bit scared....I cant go through this again!! It takes to much out of me. lol

What's the thing with Gemini's? I don't know much about them other than the multiple personality thing.

I see you, GEM! (laughing)

Big bear hugs all around.

Gem,

Sorry girlie but E is mine already......lol!

(laughing) ...to funny.

no girls hes mine!! lol!!

Wow "E" you dont know anything about gemini's? You may have bitten off more than you can chew!! lol j/k we are big "FLIRTS"!!

let me enlighten you!
Gemini, the Sign of the Twins, is third in the Western Zodiac and extends from May 21 to June 20. It is also an Air Sign. Typical Geminis are very lively and charming, and excellent conversationalists. They are possessed of very active minds and bodies, and are often much younger-looking than they really are. Invention is their stock in trade. On the down side, they are also restless, easily bored, and unable to concentrate on any one thing for a prolonged period of time.

Forever changing their mind at the drop of a hat, they are notoriously undependable. There is also present a tendency to manipulate others to serve their own purposes. But a Gemini will more than make up for any negative qualities though the sheer scintillating entertainment value of their very presence!


The female Gemini is characteristically tall and slim, with long legs and a small bust. You are incredibly agile and restless, and this energy manifests itself in a tendency to talk with your hands a great deal -- which comes into play often, as you talk all the time, to everyone. You are highly optimistic, and prefer to use this outlook to start a career and have a life of your own.

You are an incurable romantic, but sometimes despair at ever finding true love. You can be quite cerebral during your infrequent periods of rest. You have a wide variety of interests and goals, and have a wide circle of friends to go along with these interests, conveniently compartmentalized by subject. You are a different person in each of your separate social spheres.

As a Gemini female, you are a complete and total flirt -- it's a sport to you, and you always play to win, although your definition of victory may change according to the situation and the desirability of your prey. When you do get your ideal partner, you may be unsure what to do with him, since inside you are rarely as aggressive as you may portray yourself to be in a social setting.

When you fall in love you fall hard, but you have difficulty expressing your emotions to your mate, whether physically or verbally (the latter being your preferred method). You will talk for two hours in order to make love for one hour. You are hopelessly addicted to the glamorous trappings of love and its sexual corollary -- they're the only way to keep your restless eye and mind from wandering on a daily basis.

People born under the Sign of Gemini tend to treat love affairs as a sort of game, and rarely devote the proper level of seriousness to any of their many intrigues and affairs of the heart. The real question for a Gemini person is whether they can find that one person who completes them and will keep them happy forever.

If there is any doubt that a given candidate will not satisfy all of Gemini's many facets and interests, they will simply duck out the back door before things get too complicated. When in love, Gemini can be a very caring and thoughtful partner, someone who will do somersaults to keep their lover happy. Regardless of all the party chatter and intellectual intensity, however, Gemini people tend to have a bit of a melancholy spot, and tenderness and affection can be the perfect antidote.

Gemini people enjoy being free to move around, the excitement of travel, talking, telephones, gadgets, instant food, acting as "devil's advocate," doing several things at once, knowledge, information, acting quickly on decisions, variety, novelty, change, company and being among people, pseudonyms, and getting to the bottom of things.

Gemini people dislike listening to endless complaints, regimentation and order, not knowing what's going on, wasting time, being kept waiting, making irrevocable commitments, being defeated at any sort of contest or

although our moon, rising and venus can change us a bit!

GEG ~ you're right! haha. Yeah...I'm a big flirt, but I'm very loyal. I have a cancer rising and cancer moon. I do need to date to get my mind off of this boy. He's killing me. I need to be preoccupied. I'm not flirting because I don't love him anymore...it's because I'm not receiving what I need from him right now.

E ~ our multiple personality comes out when it's provoked...key advice...I see I'll have to fight my way to you now...all these girls are ga ga. hehee 😉

lol hey ***gem*** should i post the capricorn one and ask "E" how accurate it is!!

Ohhhhhh, ok! I can relate to the entertaining and talkative Gemini's. I had a best friend that could talk your ear off, but it was fun to listen to him.

Thanks for sharing, GEG!

GEG,

I'd like to see what they say about us Caps. Would you mind posting?

In my best Lion (from the wizard of oz) voice I say, "Awwww, Shucks guys....Ya'll have me *blushing* over here." (smile)

lol cute..cute!! o.k. ill post it hang on one sec.

Capricorn, the Sign of the Goat, is the tenth Sign of the Western Zodiac, occurring between December 22 and January 19 of the following year. It is the cardinal Earth Sign, and this quality is made manifest in the intensely pragmatic nature of those who are natives of Capricorn.

All of the traits associated with this Sign mirror this essential nature: good organizational skills, neatness and tidiness, hardheaded practicality, cautious realism, a strong work ethic, materialistic tendencies, a conservative streak a mile wide, conventionality and great respect for authority. The down side to all of these admirable traits is obvious to the less regimented observer: egotism, the tendency to be a cruel taskmaster, servility when on the bottom rung of the ladder, and excess perfectionism.

The male Capricorn is typically stocky of build, with sharp, penetrating eyes and prominent white teeth. You are very conscious of your appearance, and will never dress down for any occasion, which may lead to you looking out of place at more casual get-togethers. As one might infer from the previous statement, you have a strong sense of the proprieties and are extremely polite, refusing to sacrifice your sense of personal dignity no matter what the situation.

You prefer to avoid the spotlight. You are very wary of close contact with others, preferring to weigh fully the exact worth of another before you unbend a bit and allow them to get to know you in a social way. This approach makes you seem cold and distant to the casual acquaintance.

The male Capricorn knows no distinction between love and sex -- you prefer to combine the two whenever possible. Casual sex is not for you, as you are the marrying kind with a vengeance. Capricorns mate for life, and enjoy large families, so you'd better prepare yourself for your patriarchal duties.

A few wild oats may be sown when young, but all in all, you're better off settling down, seeing as how a stable family life will provide you with the support (and incentive) you need to advance your career. You will know by instinct when you have found the correct partner for yourself, and when you do, sex will transform itself into a magic ritual that results in complete and total fulfillment. This is what you aim at in the act of love -- total satisfaction of both partners.

People born under the Sign of Capricorn can often have a difficult time experiencing true love, since love can at times be difficult for these folks. This measure of mistrust might well be attributed to a fear of losing oneself in affairs of the heart. The good news is that with the right person, they positively bloom in love and are both loyal and devoted as a love partner. When they give, their love is total.

Not only that, it's also delicious for both, since Capricorns can easily engage in dreamy states where their lover's complete satisfaction is all that is on their mind. This can mean creating a beautiful home (although it's likely to be with their lover's money) or being the perfect partner at a party. Love is a blissful state for them and one that they will work hard to keep.

Capricorn people like hot, simple food, antiques, history, duties and responsibilities, not being pressured by others, having plenty of unconditional love, lots of personal privacy and "me time," that which is regarded as the best of anything, membership of an exclusive club, home and family, personalized gifts, new books, and expensive gemstones (in this last they are not, of course, unique!).

Capricorn people dislike untidiness and disorder of all kinds, being teased (even in good humor or among friends), humdrum familiarity with their immediate environment or surroundings, surprises (no matter how beneficial), new ideas or approaches to old problems, loneliness, being made to feel useless or incompetent, and being embarrassed in public.


there you are my "beast" lol

GEG, he's my "beast" so you better back off girlie...

Yep, that's me for the most part. Some of the minor differences would be that I don't mind being in the spotlight. I love acting.

I've never been one to use other people's money too often. When I bought my house, it was all me.

I always thought we would have a slim build, but like the Scorpio (I hear) I am stocky like a football player. Interesting.

I liked that description. Thanks for bringing that up.

your very welcome!! l
ol Besos o.k. you can have him!!! As Im in love with another cappie that I can not have!! lol what gives huh?