Fast moving capricorn

This topic was created in the Capricorn forum by librascale75 on Saturday, April 6, 2013 and has 28 replies.
My sister posted a thread on my behalf I am a Libra who was involved with a Capricorn man. I was ending my relationship with my ex husband (Cancer), when I became involved with my Cappie. Things moved real slow I dealt with his disappearing acts, no-call, no shows, need for solitude, non verbal communication, and etc...But as he began to open up, me and my Cappie were pretty hot and heavy. He shared things, personal stories, history, past...that he hasn't shared with anyone else.
The dilemma?
My ex kept showing up unannounced wanting to reconcile. My Cappy man begin to feel real uncomfortable. He never verbalized this. He began to 'ween' me off. There was also a lot of turmoil in his life, the death of his sister, other issues, etc.
Two weeks later, I found out that he became serious about someone else. I found this out through FaceBook. He met this woman at his sister's wake. This woman moved in with him 1 month later, and they were engaged 11 months later.
I know from experience that cappie men move slow, how was he able to move at such a rapid pace with this woman?
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Posted by xxoommmxxoo
Posted by librascale75
My sister posted a thread on my behalf I am a Libra who was involved with a Capricorn man. I was ending my relationship with my ex husband (Cancer), when I became involved with my Cappie. Things moved real slow I dealt with his disappearing acts, no-call, no shows, need for solitude, non verbal communication, and etc...But as he began to open up, me and my Cappie were pretty hot and heavy. He shared things, personal stories, history, past...that he hasn't shared with anyone else.
The dilemma?
My ex kept showing up unannounced wanting to reconcile. My Cappy man begin to feel real uncomfortable. He never verbalized this. He began to 'ween' me off. There was also a lot of turmoil in his life, the death of his sister, other issues, etc.
Two weeks later, I found out that he became serious about someone else. I found this out through FaceBook. He met this woman at his sister's wake. This woman moved in with him 1 month later, and they were engaged 11 months later.
I know from experience that cappie men move slow, how was he able to move at such a rapid pace with this woman?


she was "the one" he didn't want to live without smile
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Cha-ching. no.1 answer. It doesn't matter if your "ex" came back, or interferred. What matter was that there was something about this other woman who was much more of a POWERFUL connection. His LOVE (since he married her) It hurts when men do that, yes, especially when they didnt leave you a word to say goodbye, it's over. But, some men are just like this. He wasn't going to lose that opportunity.
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*engaged, I mean (Pretty much closely the same)
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Even if she was the one he couldn't live without, how could he know that in a couple of months. It took me months of him coming and going, and coming and going again to even get him to the point where I was seeing him on a regular basis. I was pretty confident that he was faithful to me. I was very surprised to read that he was dating someone else on a social website after not hearing from him for two weeks
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I spoke to him months later. He explained to me that, he felt like it was too much to deal with me being separated and having children. The girl he is currently dealing with is a younger girl with no baggage. He also said that he has very strong feelings for me, but he cant deal with all of that. If he has very strong feelings for me, how can he move on so quickly to someone else
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Whether I'm the one or not is not really the question. I know for a fact that Capricorn men moves slow period. If they found the one they move slow, if your not the one they still move slow. I'm trying to figure out, how did he move so quickly with this woman, if his whole personality is set up to move patiently
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@Libra1234, I agree with you % 100. Again, what I'm trying to figure out is, can a Capricorn move that quickly with someone they just met?? It just seem out of character. To meet someone, move them in, and get engaged all in 11months is in my opinion not something a Capricorn generally do
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@xxoo, funny that you say that. His sister died from breast cancer, he met her at the wake, she also happen to be a Gemini. Fast is def not his style , that's why this is so strange to me
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Posted by librascale75
Even if she was the one he couldn't live without, how could he know that in a couple of months. It took me months of him coming and going, and coming and going again to even get him to the point where I was seeing him on a regular basis. I was pretty confident that he was faithful to me. I was very surprised to read that he was dating someone else on a social website after not hearing from him for two weeks


Stop beating yourself up. You didn't do anything wrong. In all reality, you really weren't ready for a serious relationship, even though you thought you were and he sensed that. By rule of thumb it takes one month for every year to be ready for another relationship. You were finishing up your marriage and there was unfinished business. That is normal. So, no, you really weren't ready. Cap was. He found someone who was. It has nothing to do with your personality or anything you did.
It's just when you've met "the one" you've met "the one". You just know. I knew I loved my guy after about 5 months. 11 months is plenty of time to meet someone, get to know them and get engaged.
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Posted by librascale75
@Libra1234, I agree with you % 100. Again, what I'm trying to figure out is, can a Capricorn move that quickly with someone they just met?? It just seem out of character. To meet someone, move them in, and get engaged all in 11months is in my opinion not something a Capricorn generally do


You're letting the stereotype cloud your thinking.
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Posted by xxoommmxxoo
i dunno. my leo mom was killed in a car accident and my cap dad remarried a gemini in 6 months. he's told me behind closed doors he has never fell out of love with my mom. so sad, so i really don't know how cap men are. fast is definitely not my style at all. Fast is a turn off.



awww sorry to hear that....
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Posted by librascale75
@xxoo, funny that you say that. His sister died from breast cancer, he met her at the wake, she also happen to be a Gemini. Fast is def not his style , that's why this is so strange to me


Perhaps he realizes how fast and fragile life is and he may have known this woman for a long time. (she was his sister's friend).
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Posted by aquapiscescusp
Posted by xxoommmxxoo
i dunno. my leo mom was killed in a car accident and my cap dad remarried a gemini in 6 months. he's told me behind closed doors he has never fell out of love with my mom. so sad, so i really don't know how cap men are. fast is definitely not my style at all. Fast is a turn off.



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Yes, me too.
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Posted by truecap
Posted by librascale75
@xxoo, funny that you say that. His sister died from breast cancer, he met her at the wake, she also happen to be a Gemini. Fast is def not his style , that's why this is so strange to me


Perhaps he realizes how fast and fragile life is and he may have known this woman for a long time. (she was his sister's friend).
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He may have just reconnected with her at the wake, I mean. He may have known her years ago.
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I hear this often about Cap men and one has confirmed it lately, they always have a woman ready before they exit a relationship. It might appear all of a sudden to an outsider but he's been keeping a few options open.
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Capricorns are CAUTIOUS not SLOW. Not necessarily the same thing.
Once we are sure, we are 100% positive and we can go from 0-60 very, very fast. It's just the initial stages, we have to get to know a person, and we have to be sure that they are genuine. Once the person proves that, we can let our guard down. Most people impede this with their actions, they are wishy washy, inconsistent, or holding back, and cause us to doubt and/or turn cold on them.
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Well... lordy lawd. I get attention from a cap guy from being just the opposite of the stereotype of woman they supposedly want. When he disappeared, I broke up with him. He would come back. Then do it again. Then I would break up with him. He came back, rinse and repeat even to this day. My recent breakup has rewarded me with lots of attention and "love yous" and calls all day long. So I guess SOME caps only want you if youre dramatic. I really don't like being dramatic to get attention. I like to being control and containing negative reactions, but I am highly emotional, unstable, active volcano land if I develop feelings and feel toyed with, tho I rather keep myself eruption free. The push/pull, hot/cold, on/off makes it provocative to me, and magma will surface and blow...cuz I hate games... then he says he hates it, BUT acts like he loves it. So I have no idea what the hell these men want. And I doubt they will tell you, whether in an anonymous setting or not.
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Posted by AreTwoFour
Well... lordy lawd. I get attention from a cap guy from being just the opposite of the stereotype of woman they supposedly want. When he disappeared, I broke up with him. He would come back. Then do it again. Then I would break up with him. He came back, rinse and repeat even to this day. My recent breakup has rewarded me with lots of attention and "love yous" and calls all day long. So I guess SOME caps only want you if youre dramatic. I really don't like being dramatic to get attention. I like to being control and containing negative reactions, but I am highly emotional, unstable, active volcano land if I develop feelings and feel toyed with, tho I rather keep myself eruption free. The push/pull, hot/cold, on/off makes it provocative to me, and magma will surface and blow...cuz I hate games... then he says he hates it, BUT acts like he loves it. So I have no idea what the hell these men want. And I doubt they will tell you, whether in an anonymous setting or not.


Because you are making him chase you. He wants you because he can't have you. You are not easy. If he has it in his mind that he wants you, he will stop at nothing until he eventually has you. He is using the principle that if he works at it hard enough, eventually you will be his. Eventually he will get tired of it, but he isn't going down without a fight.
He sounds like my Scorp's twin brother (Capricorn moon). He has been on/off with this girl for several years. It is just like you describe here. They go out, he gets to be too much, she leaves, he comes after her. MUCH later though.
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Posted by capgirl69
Posted by AreTwoFour
Well... lordy lawd. I get attention from a cap guy from being just the opposite of the stereotype of woman they supposedly want. When he disappeared, I broke up with him. He would come back. Then do it again. Then I would break up with him. He came back, rinse and repeat even to this day. My recent breakup has rewarded me with lots of attention and "love yous" and calls all day long. So I guess SOME caps only want you if youre dramatic. I really don't like being dramatic to get attention. I like to being control and containing negative reactions, but I am highly emotional, unstable, active volcano land if I develop feelings and feel toyed with, tho I rather keep myself eruption free. The push/pull, hot/cold, on/off makes it provocative to me, and magma will surface and blow...cuz I hate games... then he says he hates it, BUT acts like he loves it. So I have no idea what the hell these men want. And I doubt they will tell you, whether in an anonymous setting or not.


Because you are making him chase you. He wants you because he can't have you. You are not easy. If he has it in his mind that he wants you, he will stop at nothing until he eventually has you. He is using the principle that if he works at it hard enough, eventually you will be his. Eventually he will get tired of it, but he isn't going down without a fight.
He sounds like my Scorp's twin brother (Capricorn moon). He has been on/off with this girl for several years. It is just like you describe here. They go out, he gets to be too much, she leaves, he comes after her. MUCH later though.
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Hasn't been much later, cuz I don't give that long. Not after "I love you's" are exchanged (fwb is a whole 'nother scenario and I dont want "i love you's") But that is a land mark, turning point, and I think act like it of eff off and quit playing. And I told cap this bluntly. Do not try that loner/aloof shit afterwards. It is confusing. I'm wanting a real connection but u are want to maintane a relationship with me in your own head? No thanks. But this too shall pass, and he will ignore the shit out of me. But it won't hurt anymore. I'm expecting it, and I'm faking it...
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Truth of the matter... my life is quite shitty right now. Im at the LOWEST point in my life so far. Cappy knew from the get-go. I believe in full disclosure regardless of scorp stereo-types. But I think I am either dealing with a masochist cap, or one that is merely entertained by all this shit. I'm thinking its the latter, and I read another thread where a cap guy put up with a bitchy girlfriend merely to learn from it. I kinda think its like that. Cuz going back to my initial statement, I don't play games. If I am bitchy, he will know EXACTLY what lit my fuse. No feminine mystique. I am too old for that shit. Now his life is almost as shitty as mine right now. But I will not give him a pass for that, cuz he KNEW my situation. To make it shittier is just an act of cruelty imo.
But, I do think he is entertained by it all. I tell him FUCK OFF's when he ignores, then he say it hurts. I say tell it to the marines, and he keeps coming back. He says its all sort of humorous after the fact.
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Posted by AreTwoFour
Truth of the matter... my life is quite shitty right now. Im at the LOWEST point in my life so far. Cappy knew from the get-go. I believe in full disclosure regardless of scorp stereo-types. But I think I am either dealing with a masochist cap, or one that is merely entertained by all this shit. I'm thinking its the latter, and I read another thread where a cap guy put up with a bitchy girlfriend merely to learn from it. I kinda think its like that. Cuz going back to my initial statement, I don't play games. If I am bitchy, he will know EXACTLY what lit my fuse. No feminine mystique. I am too old for that shit. Now his life is almost as shitty as mine right now. But I will not give him a pass for that, cuz he KNEW my situation. To make it shittier is just an act of cruelty imo.
But, I do think he is entertained by it all. I tell him FUCK OFF's when he ignores, then he say it hurts. I say tell it to the marines, and he keeps coming back. He says its all sort of humorous after the fact.


i'm sorry you're going through a tough time in your life.
your cap guy does sound confused. I read somewhere that SOME cap men like capriciousness. they're intrigued by it. Although, my two cap uncles display absolutely OPPOSITE traits. yes both are hardworking and family types, but one wanted a more dramatic woman, or actually chose one, and the other chose a quiet, demure, housewife, mother and kind of meekish but strong inwardly. It's really really hard to tell. I didnt do their charts though, but one is January, the other is December cap.
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Aww, I was gonna respond I just needed to "process" your message. Now my blondeness has forgotten what I was gonna say after you hid it, but thanks, it did give me a fresh perspective
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Posted by AreTwoFour
Truth of the matter... my life is quite shitty right now. Im at the LOWEST point in my life so far. Cappy knew from the get-go. I believe in full disclosure regardless of scorp stereo-types. But I think I am either dealing with a masochist cap, or one that is merely entertained by all this shit. I'm thinking its the latter, and I read another thread where a cap guy put up with a bitchy girlfriend merely to learn from it. I kinda think its like that. Cuz going back to my initial statement, I don't play games. If I am bitchy, he will know EXACTLY what lit my fuse. No feminine mystique. I am too old for that shit. Now his life is almost as shitty as mine right now. But I will not give him a pass for that, cuz he KNEW my situation. To make it shittier is just an act of cruelty imo.
But, I do think he is entertained by it all. I tell him FUCK OFF's when he ignores, then he say it hurts. I say tell it to the marines, and he keeps coming back. He says its all sort of humorous after the fact.


i'm sorry you're going through a tough time in your life.
your cap guy does sound confused. I read somewhere that SOME cap men like capriciousness. they're intrigued by it. Although, my two cap uncles display absolutely OPPOSITE traits. yes both are hardworking and family types, but one wanted a more dramatic woman, or actually chose one, and the other chose a quiet, demure, housewife, mother and kind of meekish but strong inwardly. It's really really hard to tell. I didnt do their charts though, but one is January, the other is December cap.
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He is a Jan 10th cap. I think he is intrigued. His exes are also dramatic. They make me look small time. So DRAMATIC, lol!!!
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Posted by capgirl69
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He sounds like my Scorp's twin brother (Capricorn moon). He has been on/off with this girl for several years. It is just like you describe here. They go out, he gets to be too much, she leaves, he comes after her. MUCH later though.


He is kinda of like a scorpio... no scorp in his chart. The saying that "caps are scorps in a business suit" yeah, more bad-er ass, I concede to the bad assery
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Cap men who have different things in their chart can vary greatly. Even Caps though can experience love at first sight.
He told you the truth. As a cap woman I broke up a 2 year intense relationship with a loving, doting, wonderful faithful man because he had an ex and 2 kids and it always seemed so messy and complicated. Our love couldt overcome what looked like to me a future with so much baggage and potential drama. It was too much and I LOVED him but needed out.
It wasnt you or even that she was better. It was that he needed a love WITH stability and balance. He wont forget you, if he said you mean alot to him...you do. He can be a friend to you.. much later though when you have let him go 100% romantically. I know it can sting and we have all been there..but better things are in store for you!! Hugs!


Maybe this is where scorps differ from caps. If I am truly loved by a faithful partner, I will wade the depths of hell for that. Practicality and complications can be damned
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Posted by AreTwoFour
Posted by capgirl69
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He sounds like my Scorp's twin brother (Capricorn moon). He has been on/off with this girl for several years. It is just like you describe here. They go out, he gets to be too much, she leaves, he comes after her. MUCH later though.


He is kinda of like a scorpio... no scorp in his chart. The saying that "caps are scorps in a business suit" yeah, more bad-er ass, I concede to the bad assery


Blow girl! What do you have to lose anyway? A half-@ssed relationship? Might as well get it over with. or git r done
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^^^That was for AkuaBaby, sorry for quoting you there capgirl... too much alcohol
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He was thinking like what if you end up leaving him for ur ex husband plus u have kids and moving fast with the other girl is like life's to short to wait so they move in and get married

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