Just want your imput on something....
I have been talking to a Cap Guy for 3 months, first part was great. He was very communicative, very affectionate, we clicked right away. Then 1/2 way through something happened with his daughter which made him do a 180. He still was communicating just not as often (I should say very very seldom was there contact). I had no clue if he was still interested or not but at least he was still commincating. A few of you gave me some really good advice and I did some of it, pulling away, not being so clingy but in the end nothing changed. I knew I need patience to be with this man, but being a virgo that was the hard part. I am always analizing things no matter what. So I talked with him last week and told him how I felt, that I need just a little more communication from him and maybe a little more time. I suggested to see eachother once a week or even once every 2 weeks but that to me communication was valuable to me. I was scared that he wasn't going to recieve it well but he did but still nothing. So this morning I called it off, whatever it is that we had. He came back with "look friends it is".
But now I feel horrible, I feel like I let him down in some way. Which is impossible because he really didn't let me in to his emotional side, just his physical.
My question is, why do I feel so horrbile if I was only looking out for the best for me?
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Sep 09, 2006Comments: 0 · Posts: 419 · Topics: 80
I'm going through the same thing with a Pisces. I told him how I felt and that I needed a serious relationship. He said let's remain friends, to which I replied that I was not sure whether that was a good idea.
It's been four days now and no contact on either end.
Yeah he hasn't contact me and I haven't him. It is so hard not to contact him, I want to talk about it and make everything ok.......But at the same time I keep thinking on how he can ignore me and make me feel like I am nothing.
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Jan 25, 2012Comments: 8 · Posts: 20090 · Topics: 685
Don't feel bad for asking what you need!!! You weren't happy with the way things were going and you shouldn't have to take crumbs from him. I think you did the right thing for breaking it off. Now you're free to persue someone who can actually give you what you need.
Hang in there and stay strong!!
It looks like you had a good reason to call it off, so there's no need to feel bad. Being friends is fine, but I wouldn't expect him to contact you much because now you're relationship is not that serious.
I'm guessing you feel bad because you're not satisfied with just being friends and you wanted him to fight to be more than that?