First time dating a Capricorn...

I'm a Libra. I just wanted some insight from you guys because things are really confusing at the moment.

Ok so I'm just going to try to make this short and sweet and just start off by saying we've been on three dates. The first night we met he wanted my number right away, added me on Facebook, followed me on Twitter etc. He acted very boyfriend-y towards me like taking out my trash and making future plans with me. He would text me all the time too. After the last time we hung out he stopped contacting me for a week. His room mate is my best friends boyfriend, so I asked her if she knew if anything was up with him. She said that he didn't want anything serious with me. I finally confronted him and he said I'm a really cool girl and he would love to see me again but he doesn't want to be tied down. I explained to him I don't want anything serious right away either and told him I'd love to see him again also. A month goes by with no contact at all besides one text at 2am when he was drunk. He asked how I was and sorry he fell of the radar. I didn't get a reply after I responded to him in the morning. I'm not the needy/clingy type at all and I didn't want to get a hold of him because I just figured he wasn't interested anymore. It just throws me off because of his actions/words towards me and then he goes cold. I haven't even given him any indication of my feelings towards him. Anyway, this weekend I ran into him at the bar. He bought me a drink and he seemed genuinely mad that I didn't bother to get a hold of him and asked me why I haven't. He told me to never be a stranger and told me to text him. Should I move on because I feel like this could be a waste of time. Another thing that sucks is that I'm going to see him around a lot since my best friend is dating his room mate.

Oh and we did have sex (only once) and he was very cuddly and would kiss me all the time if that helps anything.

Ahhh yes thank you. And thank you for replying. I really didn't plan on having sex with him so early :\ but he is very tall dark and handsome haha!

I agree with PM, seems like you're his second choice. 😢

But if you like him, then maybe you could give it a try. I dunno if I'd feel comfortable doing that though, because anytime anyone was my second choice, it stayed that way, there was a reason that they weren't my first choice, know what I mean?

after reading this, i realise how much similar capricorns and libras are. For us capricorns, if we like someone and they just seem too available, we start to neglect them, but still be decent when we meet u in person. and honestly, we are busy people...work, and the things that go on in our minds.sending a text message can be a chore at times, and being in serious relationships can be depressing coz we like our space. i do drunk text alot of my exes or potential mates, but i will definetly ignore u the next day. capricorns can be cold though, just watch out for that. and also, if u act like u dont care, we will see right through u, laugh in your face and that will give us more reason why we wouldnt wanna date u.

i would definetly advice you to stay friendly with him, dont over think things, dont do romantic things with him. just be yourself, and if he likes you, he will most definetly come back and start acting like a man. i promise u that!

Posted by msvenus
after reading this, i realise how much similar capricorns and libras are. For us capricorns, if we like someone and they just seem too available, we start to neglect them, but still be decent when we meet u in person. and honestly, we are busy people...work, and the things that go on in our minds.sending a text message can be a chore at times, and being in serious relationships can be depressing coz we like our space. i do drunk text alot of my exes or potential mates, but i will definetly ignore u the next day. capricorns can be cold though, just watch out for that. and also, if u act like u dont care, we will see right through u, laugh in your face and that will give us more reason why we wouldnt wanna date u.

i would definetly advice you to stay friendly with him, dont over think things, dont do romantic things with him. just be yourself, and if he likes you, he will most definetly come back and start acting like a man. i promise u that!

That sounds exactly like him. When he drunk texted me he said he was sorry he was busy working all the time haha. Thanks for the advice, I do plan on staying friendly with him because he is in my social circle now. I think things moved way too fast in the beginning too. But we shall see! Thank you.

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Oh and we did have sex (only once) and he was very cuddly and would kiss me all the time if that helps anything.

He got want he wanted... most likely started dating another girl... and now is not. If you did not work out the first time what makes you think you will work out... now... He played games... I highly doubt he will stop unless he has had some type of major life change.

Good Luck Either way...

PM

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I like to think I'm very good at reading people and I'm usually spot on about someone. But this Cap IS SO HARD TO READ and it frustrates me to no end. I asked my best friend if he was sleeping around with other girls (because she stays there all the time and I myself don't want to play the waiting game) and she said no. When we had sex it was the first time he's actually been with someone in months. So i dont think he's the type to sleep around. But who knows! Thank you!

Posted by capgirl69
I agree with PM, seems like you're his second choice. 😢

But if you like him, then maybe you could give it a try. I dunno if I'd feel comfortable doing that though, because anytime anyone was my second choice, it stayed that way, there was a reason that they weren't my first choice, know what I mean?

Yeah I know what you mean. I'm not the type of girl that likes to waste her time on something that might never happen. I love to love and if you aren't in it for that then get the hell away from me and leave me alone! Haha.

He just didn't "feel it". It's no offense to you. Sometimes you have chemistry with someone, sometimes it's just not there.

He could have been more honest about it, but some people feel it's easier to fade away. But when you confronted him, he was truthful with you and you should appreciate that. He doesn't sound like a jerk.

Perhaps yall can build a friendship. Doesn't look like you had too much invested in the relationship. Maybe he'd end up being a good male friend to run things by and be a good sounding board in the future.

Posted by truecap
He just didn't "feel it". It's no offense to you. Sometimes you have chemistry with someone, sometimes it's just not there.

He could have been more honest about it, but some people feel it's easier to fade away. But when you confronted him, he was truthful with you and you should appreciate that. He doesn't sound like a jerk.

Perhaps yall can build a friendship. Doesn't look like you had too much invested in the relationship. Maybe he'd end up being a good male friend to run things by and be a good sounding board in the future.

I think you're right about building a friendship first since we went from strangers to him sleeping in my bed within two weeks. I wish he would've came to me instead of telling my best friend then her telling me. I do appreciate his honesty when I asked him about it though. I'm just wondering if I should even text him this week or not. I think if he really gives a crap he'd get a hold of me. But before we parted ways at the bar he kept reminding me to text him. So I dunnno.

If he thinks that you feel awkward about the whole sex thing, he will give you space and most likely not contact you. He was putting the ball in your court for a reason. That's how I see it.

Posted by lildol
If he thinks that you feel awkward about the whole sex thing, he will give you space and most likely not contact you. He was putting the ball in your court for a reason. That's how I see it.

Hmm I'm not sure if he thinks that. The last time he stayed with me we didn't end up having sex. Everything seemed normal and he stuck around for coffee when we woke up. After that was when he went cold on me.

I don't mean to sound like a mean old prude or anything, but sometimes jumping into bed really fast just confuses the whole thing. For instance, if you'd had three dates and no sex, you wouldn't think as much about it and there wouldn't be as much awkardness. It would be a lot easier when one of you realizes there's no chemistry afterall and it's a simple thing to part ways and work on the friendship. Sex just throws a curve on that sometimes.

I think he wants to be friends with you and that's why he said text him. Just say "hey, a bunch of us are going to so and so, be there or be square! Oh, and bring a date!"

Posted by truecap
I don't mean to sound like a mean old prude or anything, but sometimes jumping into bed really fast just confuses the whole thing. For instance, if you'd had three dates and no sex, you wouldn't think as much about it and there wouldn't be as much awkardness. It would be a lot easier when one of you realizes there's no chemistry afterall and it's a simple thing to part ways and work on the friendship. Sex just throws a curve on that sometimes.

I think he wants to be friends with you and that's why he said text him. Just say "hey, a bunch of us are going to so and so, be there or be square! Oh, and bring a date!"

No you don't at all! I think the same way. I'm never usually one to jump into bed with someone so quickly. It just kind of happened and I went with the flow. But thank you for the advice, I think I'll try that out and see what happens.

I really didn't get that impression of you and I'm glad you realized I wasn't being judgmental. We've all been there! 🙂

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I think he wants to be friends with you and that's why he said text him. Just say "hey, a bunch of us are going to so and so, be there or be square! Oh, and bring a date!"

hmm that's a very modern approach 🙂. I would most certainly not feel comfortable doing that but to each their own

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It wouldn't bother me at all, unless I had some major feelings for them. But a few dates, nah, wouldn't bother me. If it were going to bother me, I wouldn't invite him.

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Posted by truecap


I think he wants to be friends with you and that's why he said text him. Just say "hey, a bunch of us are going to so and so, be there or be square! Oh, and bring a date!"

hmm that's a very modern approach 🙂. I would most certainly not feel comfortable doing that but to each their own

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I was thinking of more along the lines of just asking how he's been doing haha! I don't really want to see him unless he actually asks me out on a date, like you said earlier. I just can't decide if I want to because I have a feeling he'll do his disappearing act again and be busy and then I'll just feel stupid for talking to him. Big sigh.

But I guess I'll never know if I don't try. Libra indecisiveness! Anyway, I appreciate the input so far. It's much better getting insight from strangers than my friends, that's for sure. And none of them love astrology as much as I do.

Posted by Metoo
I think he might see it getting messy.
Since your friend is dating the roommate, if things don't work out or he wanted it casual, you would still be there if something went wrong.
He wouldn't be able to move on and get distance and since he is unsure about you, I think he might just want to be friends and have a booty call every now and then!

That sounds about right. I ended up texting him yesterday afternoon and just had a causal conversation. Then at 2am he called and texted asking when I'm going to come see him next. Then no reply today. It's getting old and nobody has time for that! But I definitely plan on playing it cool and just be casual friends first and not a booty call. Thanks for your insight.

Posted by libraCUSPscorpio
Just view it as a friendship. That's it. Let it all unfold with no expectations. You won't torture yourself that way and you could get a very positive outcome from it! Slow.

For suuuure, thank you! 🙂

Don't answer or respond at 2 am. That's an inappropiate time to call.

Posted by truecap
Don't answer or respond at 2 am. That's an inappropiate time to call.

I didn't, I always keep my phone on silent at night. He's lucky I do because I had to be up at 6am!