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Personality question. Do you guys or girls ever get the feeling that your personality either attracts or creates clingy women/men? I've been reviewing past relationships in my head n things that were said that would support this theory. I've been told in the past that women are "addicted" to me, usually after which, the relationship goes off the deep end, cuz it's like 24/7 contact almost with confusion over love n lust. My current gf told me last week or so that she's addicted to texting me, usually requires all day text convo's, and gets mad if I spend more than a day or 2 by myself. My gf is a Virgo, idk if that would help explain anything. But I'm not really looking to bitch about my current relationship. So, question being, Do you guys or girls ever get the feeling that your personality either attracts or creates clingy women/men? Freely express yourselves, though I would like just Capricorn opinions on this one, don't be offended if I overlook your post. 🙂

I have experienced this with every relationship. I've been with Cancer, Leo, and Scorpio. Each one constantly wanted to be with me constantly. I wouldn't complain until I felt I just couldn't breathe anymore. Every time I would take a day to just enjoy being by myself each one would think I was spending it with someone else. I think Scorpio was the worst with this situation. Cancer would just pout and Leo would act like she didn't care but then blow up my phone soon as I left the house. Scorpio would always think it was something against her and would just ignore me for double the days I needed to myself.

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Posted by CappGuy6330
I would like just Capricorn opinions on this one, don't be offended if I overlook your post. 🙂

don't be offended if you don't get that many posts 😛

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Do you guys or girls ever get the feeling that your personality either attracts or creates clingy women/men?

this is a good question. i find that my relationships with guys are usually the attached at the hip kind. so yes, there's clinginess and a bit of neediness.

i think this is a combination of who i am, what i attract and who i'm attracted to.

i'm a deep love affair type. i dont go for casual and relaxed relationships. i'm a giver and usually make myself available to someone that i like. and it's usually the case that the same availability is given back to me. the guys i date and am with always want my time. they always want me around. i would say i attract these types. im not sure i can say that i create these types, but i definitely enable a guy to be this way.

I have attracted needy people in the past but I read that was a Virgo rising thing. Now I have learned to spot needy people and I've cut them loose early on.

Current bf is not clingy or needy at all.

Not sure about dating but I do attract the unstable and or clingy types. Even in friendships. My Scorpio friend and I would be texting practically every day.

I do remember however that the Sag girl I dated a while ago would be distant when I was with her. She would not be told what to do or owned in any way. True Sag fashion. She was possesive when we went out though.
This one time we went out I was talking to a friend that I hadn't spoken to in a while. She asked me if I was dating anyone. I told her I was. She immediatly picked out the Sag girl. Apparently she was watching me like a hawk. Her words btw. 😆

hi M! 🙂

Posted by BalmyTigress

On a very positive note, this particular Cap cured me of some over-thinking. I was sending him really long e-mails going over my thoughts and explaining everything. He was understanding, but eventually told me to stop. I was butthurt for about 5 minutes and then got over it and noticed that it was actually a good thing.

I read somewhere that Caps can be good at getting through the mind fog that others may be experiencing. So I think a Cap friend can be very grounding and healing, but obviously you'll have to let go of your own ego and allow that to happen.

That's what Caps are good at. Sifting through the emotions of others to help them understand.
Trying to understand our own emotions will take a while though. Something I am dealing with right now took me close to 4 weeks to wrap my head around. Only now can I answer the original question.

I am a cap.

I've dated some clingy people that get that way after about a month. It doesn't last long before I cut and run.

I still get contact every so often from exes. They just want to "keep in touch" is what they say. I remind them I currently have a boyfriend. I am not rude to them but I do make it clear that I am not interested in rekindling anything.

I have some female friends that seem like they can't make a decision unless they consult my opinion. I don't mind, really. They are there for me too.

My sisters Cap friend was nearly in tears the other day over this. She is beyond frustrated with her "fiancee" over him not working and now I guess he's feeling a bit insecure she's going to leave him and his insecurity is causing him to want to be by her 24/7. She cant go anywhere alone....well she can, but theres usually a big argument before. I say its his insecurity, but probably more of his control.

I think Caps like extremely "present" partners when in love.

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or maybe it's all the water sign women we attract so it just seems that way 😉

I think there is something to be said about the attraction between Caps and "water heavy" people. However, it's an ironically bad match because these people have emotionally needs that ya'll can't fulfill.

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My main emotional need is to pour off tones of affection into some solid, cool, deep and stable recipient.

Posted by Piscescorp
lol, Im done with CAP MEN. Even if you guys are wrong you are always going to say you are right and never admit fault. 😛

Chance is a living proof there. 😄 LOL

Aw, why the hate on Cap men all the time. 😢

Though I have to admit a friend of mine accused me of the same thing. Proud and stubborn. 😛

Posted by noonie1801
I have experienced this with every relationship. I've been with Cancer, Leo, and Scorpio. Each one constantly wanted to be with me constantly. I wouldn't complain until I felt I just couldn't breathe anymore. Every time I would take a day to just enjoy being by myself each one would think I was spending it with someone else. I think Scorpio was the worst with this situation. Cancer would just pout and Leo would act like she didn't care but then blow up my phone soon as I left the house. Scorpio would always think it was something against her and would just ignore me for double the days I needed to myself.

I hear you on the scorpio part, I never had a Cancer or Leo though. I did have a Cancer who was just a friend though it would feel quite the opposite all the time. Very needy but I think she was that way before I came into the picture. The Scorpio was great at first. Sex-wise, she was all sorts of submissive, it was like having a "plaything" that was at my every beck n call, even though I never advocated that type of relationship. It crashed n burned after she became rather possessive and promiscuous.

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Posted by CappGuy6330
I would like just Capricorn opinions on this one, don't be offended if I overlook your post. 🙂

don't be offended if you don't get that many posts 😛

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Posted by TigerCap
Not sure about dating but I do attract the unstable and or clingy types. Even in friendships. My Scorpio friend and I would be texting practically every day.

I do remember however that the Sag girl I dated a while ago would be distant when I was with her. She would not be told what to do or owned in any way. True Sag fashion. She was possesive when we went out though.
This one time we went out I was talking to a friend that I hadn't spoken to in a while. She asked me if I was dating anyone. I told her I was. She immediatly picked out the Sag girl. Apparently she was watching me like a hawk. Her words btw. 😆

I have in the past as well. Haven't had another scorp since my first one though. 🙂 Never had Fire either, though I've tried. My Virgal's like that. We were at a party last week, and her friend, who happens to be a cougar, Capricorn lady. She had eyes for me from the time I arrived, in her drunkenness told me the I show her my butt LOL!!!! She really started hitting on me right before we left, I felt as though I was about to be raped. We go to leave, n my gf slams the door shut behind me, n later tells me she told her friend "touch him n i'll kill you". that's just being protective though, doesn't have anything to do with clinginess, just wanted to share.

Posted by Mixtape
Personally I always thought I was the clingy one besides my last excursion. Maybe that's because I love with all I've got? Meh.

Last excursion was effin' psycho about me. Bad bad bad bad bad. So I guess we can create them, but can't anyone?

True, true. I've thinking about this for years now, perhaps it's cuz caps n the father of the zodiac thing? Maybe we naturally attract girls with father issues. Though I'm not sure how that would play out for the ladies.

Posted by WoundedLeo

Posted by TigerCap
Not sure about dating but I do attract the unstable and or clingy types.

Question: Does clingy = unstable in a Cap's dictionary?

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somewhat, kind of a gray area depending on said situation.

Posted by Mixtape
Not to me, clingy can just be clingy. Unstable is like, leaving your driveway texting she loves you and is gonna cut herself when she gets home.

LMAO good example

Posted by Chance11
"Do you guys or girls ever get the feeling that your personality either attracts or creates clingy women/men?"

absolutely. could be a case of opposites attract as caps are pretty independent. the paternal streak could also unconsciously attract. also, most caps (unless they're drunk or in college) don't have frivolous relationships as the norm. i had the feeling in most of my relationships that i could get the former ex back even if they were with someone else. addicting yes- thoughtful cap can be everything to someone or nothing to anyone.

or maybe it's all the water sign women we attract so it just seems that way 😉

Damn good answer! That's the terminology I was looking for!

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Posted by BalmyTigress

On a very positive note, this particular Cap cured me of some over-thinking. I was sending him really long e-mails going over my thoughts and explaining everything. He was understanding, but eventually told me to stop. I was butthurt for about 5 minutes and then got over it and noticed that it was actually a good thing.

I read somewhere that Caps can be good at getting through the mind fog that others may be experiencing. So I think a Cap friend can be very grounding and healing, but obviously you'll have to let go of your own ego and allow that to happen.

That's what Caps are good at. Sifting through the emotions of others to help them understand.
Trying to understand our own emotions will take a while though. Something I am dealing with right now took me close to 4 weeks to wrap my head around. Only now can I answer the original question.

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Speaking of sifting through emotions, prior to being with my current gf, we would have deep conversations that would always somehow lead her to life changing realizations about herself n where she's going. It was like she experienced something groundbreaking everytime we talked. We butted heads a lot too.

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Posted by BalmyTigress

On a very positive note, this particular Cap cured me of some over-thinking. I was sending him really long e-mails going over my thoughts and explaining everything. He was understanding, but eventually told me to stop. I was butthurt for about 5 minutes and then got over it and noticed that it was actually a good thing.

I read somewhere that Caps can be good at getting through the mind fog that others may be experiencing. So I think a Cap friend can be very grounding and healing, but obviously you'll have to let go of your own ego and allow that to happen.

That's what Caps are good at. Sifting through the emotions of others to help them understand.
Trying to understand our own emotions will take a while though. Something I am dealing with right now took me close to 4 weeks to wrap my head around. Only now can I answer the original question.

I think we all have some special abilities that allows us to help others. It becomes a problem when another person becomes dependent on that ability. Mental/emotional clarity and security definitely are something one should not outsource, but most of us don't want to work on our own problems, and would rather just use a patch.

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So true, especially that last sentence.

Posted by WoundedLeo

Posted by Mixtape
It wasn't a joke WL, that shit happened to me. DAILY.

Well that is scary if women wanna cut themselves over you. Then again, I shouldn't talk. So I'll just STFU because I'm still addicted to a stupid Cap.

Excuse me for calling you babe... should I have called you something like fuck head instead? I thought I was being nice.

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Dating a girl who cuts or used to cut is a scary thing and an emotional rollercoaster. If you're the cause, get out, if not, be emotionally supportive n build her back up.

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Posted by Chance11


or maybe it's all the water sign women we attract so it just seems that way 😉

I think there is something to be said about the attraction between Caps and "water heavy" people. However, it's an ironically bad match because these people have emotionally needs that ya'll can't fulfill.

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Water signs in my experience seem to have an insatiable hunger for love n sex, etc. It's never enough. I could never be with a cancer though, they're sweet but have far too much emotion that they unleash at once. it blindsides you. then they cheat the next day LOL.

Posted by Piscescorp
lol, Im done with CAP MEN. Even if you guys are wrong you are always going to say you are right and never admit fault. 😛

Chance is a living proof there. 😄 LOL

We'll admit fault, you just have to have a strong argument n prove us wrong. I don't mind to admitting when I'm wrong, it's not a blow to my ego or anything.

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Posted by Piscescorp
lol, Im done with CAP MEN. Even if you guys are wrong you are always going to say you are right and never admit fault. 😛

Chance is a living proof there. 😄 LOL

Aw, why the hate on Cap men all the time. 😢

Though I have to admit a friend of mine accused me of the same thing. Proud and stubborn. 😛

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Proud and Stubborn is a good thing. though I'm more individualistic n set myself apart from the normal grind of the day. Maybe they're all just mad we can't be broken like everyone else, well, we can, it's just a mission to do so.

Posted by ellessque
virgos are notorious for not admitting being wrong or at fault. If you removed the words "I'm sorry" from their vocabulary they would go in epileptic shock.....because they use it so much to passify others and never really mean it.

I've never came across a cap that couldn't say they were wrong if they were truly and genuinely wrong. Seriously.

However, if you are talking about disagreements based on emotions, you will not get them to say they are wrong....because that is illogical to them....due to the fact their "feelings" are correct, which is a true statement, because they are "theirs"...not someone elses.

I envy that quality, tbh.....because a lot of people, specifically water signs, project their feelings on others to get them to agree or validate them. I don't see cap going down that path often.

Jeeeez, you hit that nail on the head. My girl says I'm sorry more often than she kisses me during the day. I've even told her so. She'll apologize for knocking a box of tissues over. I'm like, What for? There's only so many times you can say sorry before they're just words. As for Caps, there are good ones and bad ones, as with any sign. Ya just gotta find them. I'm living proof. It's like finding a needle in a stack of needles.

Posted by Mixtape
We're uhhhhhhhhhhh professional. That's why everyone fucking adores us. I mean, come on. Look at this charm.

You couldn't cut through this charm if you tried......😉

Guilty as charged! hehehehe! 😉 Cheeky, I agree on the strong personality. I was thinking about this yesterday, my current gf, very strong personality. all the women before her seemed to go completely submissive. She is, but her headstrong personality remained. She's a huge pain in the ass, but I wouldn't have it any other way. Too much passiveness and complete submission bores me.

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On a very positive note, this particular Cap cured me of some over-thinking. I was sending him really long e-mails going over my thoughts and explaining everything. He was understanding, but eventually told me to stop. I was butthurt for about 5 minutes and then got over it and noticed that it was actually a good thing.

I read somewhere that Caps can be good at getting through the mind fog that others may be experiencing. So I think a Cap friend can be very grounding and healing, but obviously you'll have to let go of your own ego and allow that to happen.

That's what Caps are good at. Sifting through the emotions of others to help them understand.
Trying to understand our own emotions will take a while though. Something I am dealing with right now took me close to 4 weeks to wrap my head around. Only now can I answer the original question.

I think we all have some special abilities that allows us to help others. It becomes a problem when another person becomes dependent on that ability. Mental/emotional clarity and security definitely are something one should not outsource, but most of us don't want to work on our own problems, and would rather just use a patch.

So true, especially that last sentence.

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Wow. Stunning insight. This is true. Perhaps, this is why Caps can be so addicting...