Friends With Benefits

Posted by CluelessCancer
I want one with a Cancer man...i think i'd like it alot

Posted by CreepyPants
If you are going to do it... do it so well that there's no way you could regret it

Posted by MellyMel909
If You fuck with me, you're stuck with me.. At least for a little while. So it's better saved for a relationship in my case.

Posted by geminicandIe
No guilt and I feel just fine. Actually, that is a good arrangement if a person is a commitment phobic/busy and c
onsidering most males can't be trusted with feelings, why not take what is a natural need?

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Posted by CQ19

Posted by geminicandIe
No guilt and I feel just fine. Actually, that is a good arrangement if a person is a commitment phobic/busy and c
onsidering most males can't be trusted with feelings, why not take what is a natural need?

But even so won't the person feel hurt knowing there's no commitment at the end?

Are you kidding me? Most times I would feel relieved!

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Posted by geminicandIe
No guilt and I feel just fine. Actually, that is a good arrangement if a person is a commitment phobic/busy and c
onsidering most males can't be trusted with feelings, why not take what is a natural need?

But even so won't the person feel hurt knowing there's no commitment at the end?

Are you kidding me? Most times I would feel relieved!

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Posted by CQ19

Posted by geminicandIe
No guilt and I feel just fine. Actually, that is a good arrangement if a person is a commitment phobic/busy and c
onsidering most males can't be trusted with feelings, why not take what is a natural need?

But even so won't the person feel hurt knowing there's no commitment at the end?

Are you kidding me? Most times I would feel relieved!

Spoken like a true gemini
Lol, what about you? Would you say yes to fwb?

AS dirty minded and freaky as i am i love to being in a relationship provides a sense of security to me. But then again a lil play just for a day......

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Posted by MellyMel909
Lol, I'm a girl so idk about my "package"..
Either way I dunno if mouth watering is the best word. I wish I could be more uninhibited, but alas. 'twas not to be
I usually do pretty well with like-minded "bone it to own it" type men. Probably why there are so many Scorpios in my life dating-wise.

Posted by MellyMel909
Lol, I'm a girl so idk about my "package"..
Either way I dunno if mouth watering is the best word. I wish I could be more uninhibited, but alas. 'twas not to be
I usually do pretty well with like-minded "bone it to own it" type men. Probably why there are so many Scorpios in my life dating-wise.

Posted by CQ19

Posted by MellyMel909
Lol, I'm a girl so idk about my "package"..
Either way I dunno if mouth watering is the best word. I wish I could be more uninhibited, but alas. 'twas not to be
I usually do pretty well with like-minded "bone it to own it" type men. Probably why there are so many Scorpios in my life dating-wise.

lol i know you're a female and what i meant by package was the outter appearance and the cookie cake loll. and hmmm tell me about your experience with a scorpio.

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Posted by geminicandIe
Actually, fwb provides more security to me because I know from the get go what it is and how to treat and to enjoy sex with no obligations and inhibitions.
Relationships are complicated and time consuming. Often times not worth the hype.

Posted by MellyMel909
Lol, I'm a girl so idk about my "package"..
Either way I dunno if mouth watering is the best word. I wish I could be more uninhibited, but alas. 'twas not to be
I usually do pretty well with like-minded "bone it to own it" type men. Probably why there are so many Scorpios in my life dating-wise.

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Posted by CQ19

Posted by MellyMel909
Lol, I'm a girl so idk about my "package"..
Either way I dunno if mouth watering is the best word. I wish I could be more uninhibited, but alas. 'twas not to be
I usually do pretty well with like-minded "bone it to own it" type men. Probably why there are so many Scorpios in my life dating-wise.

lol i know you're a female and what i meant by package was the outter appearance and the cookie cake loll. and hmmm tell me about your experience with a scorpio.

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Posted by geminicandIe
No guilt and I feel just fine. Actually, that is a good arrangement if a person is a commitment phobic/busy and c
onsidering most males can't be trusted with feelings, why not take what is a natural need?

But even so won't the person feel hurt knowing there's no commitment at the end?

Are you kidding me? Most times I would feel relieved!

lol, wonder how freaky you really are

I don't know how to answer this. I just love sex.

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Posted by CreepyPants

Posted by MellyMel909
Lol, I'm a girl so idk about my "package"..
Either way I dunno if mouth watering is the best word. I wish I could be more uninhibited, but alas. 'twas not to be
I usually do pretty well with like-minded "bone it to own it" type men. Probably why there are so many Scorpios in my life dating-wise.

grab your sexuality by the balls, so to speak, and start fulfilling those fantasies. dont get caught looking back wishing you'd been more uninhibited.
its SEX! it's hard to fuck up! lol ALL PUNS INTENDED!

yeah, really.
I think I'd regret not having hot sex more than not having "fulfilling" relationships, lol.

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Posted by geminicandIe
CQ are you a male or female? And what is your sign?

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Posted by CreepyPants

Posted by MellyMel909
Lol, I'm a girl so idk about my "package"..
Either way I dunno if mouth watering is the best word. I wish I could be more uninhibited, but alas. 'twas not to be
I usually do pretty well with like-minded "bone it to own it" type men. Probably why there are so many Scorpios in my life dating-wise.

grab your sexuality by the balls, so to speak, and start fulfilling those fantasies. dont get caught looking back wishing you'd been more uninhibited.
its SEX! it's hard to fuck up! lol ALL PUNS INTENDED!

yeah, really.
I think I'd regret not having hot sex more than not having "fulfilling" relationships, lol.

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Posted by CQ19
Ok ladies be Honest its ok for the men but as for you ladies do you feel comfortable actually giving the sweet cookie to any man just because you're sad and lonely or just have this high craving for that chocolate candy. And after engaging in such a rectifying, vivid, explosive experience does guilt kick in ?

Posted by CreepyPants

Posted by MellyMel909
Lol, I'm a girl so idk about my "package"..
Either way I dunno if mouth watering is the best word. I wish I could be more uninhibited, but alas. 'twas not to be
I usually do pretty well with like-minded "bone it to own it" type men. Probably why there are so many Scorpios in my life dating-wise.

grab your sexuality by the balls, so to speak, and start fulfilling those fantasies. dont get caught looking back wishing you'd been more uninhibited.
its SEX! it's hard to fuck up! lol ALL PUNS INTENDED!

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Posted by CreepyPants

Posted by geminicandIe

Posted by CreepyPants

Posted by MellyMel909
Lol, I'm a girl so idk about my "package"..
Either way I dunno if mouth watering is the best word. I wish I could be more uninhibited, but alas. 'twas not to be
I usually do pretty well with like-minded "bone it to own it" type men. Probably why there are so many Scorpios in my life dating-wise.

grab your sexuality by the balls, so to speak, and start fulfilling those fantasies. dont get caught looking back wishing you'd been more uninhibited.
its SEX! it's hard to fuck up! lol ALL PUNS INTENDED!

yeah, really.
I think I'd regret not having hot sex more than not having "fulfilling" relationships, lol.

tough call... i'd say it's an even split for me. maybe it's shallow but sex is that important to me. part of me honestly dies if the physical part of a relationship isnt satisfying.
and i think having a fulfilling relationship is hard to define ...i think that's what makes finding one so tough.

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Posted by krysrenee7

Posted by CQ19
Ok ladies be Honest its ok for the men but as for you ladies do you feel comfortable actually giving the sweet cookie to any man just because you're sad and lonely or just have this high craving for that chocolate candy. And after engaging in such a rectifying, vivid, explosive experience does guilt kick in ?

Friends with benefit is ONLY ok if you know you'd be 100% ok if things didn't advance to a relationship
If the truth is that you'd be upset, feel lead on, resent him, or anything negative if he were to go sleep with someone else or not wanna be with you after all that sex you've been having, then DON'T do it.
Don't do it if you can't afford the possibility that sex may be all that it ends up being.
Most women start off thinking they can handle it, but then get their feelings involved & are devastated when the man can't see them as more than a friend/F buddy long-term. It doesn't hit her that she couldn't handle it until she looks up 1 day & realizes he's also getting it from someone else or randomly cuts her off b/c he got into a REAL relationship with someone else
If you can't emotionally afford it, DON'T do it
If you can, more power to you!

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Posted by geminicandIe
Some of my best memories are with guys I did not have a relationship with, but slept with. More fun, less headache and heartache and none of that bitter-sweet residue feeling that relationships leave....
I look back and think "wow, that was hot!"

Posted by krysrenee7
But if you're gonna do it, use protection! And don't expect "girlfriend" or "wife" treatment if you're just the F buddy!
Not using protection is how men end up impregnating crazy chicks or spreading STDs. No bueno!
F buddy treatment means that he's not obligated to only be sexually exclusive with you. It means he doesn't have to be consistent, communicate with you all the time or invest in you (takes you out on dates, etc.) like he would other girls. F buddy means he's only obligated to give you the D lol
Some guys will naturally do more (cuddle with you, tell you sweet nothing's in your ear, etc.) & if that's their choice, cool, but it's up to YOU to remember that all you are is a F buddy & that if he were to randomly stop doing all of those things with you, you have no right to throw a tantrum & be mad
Understand that a F buddy is just that. Sex. Nothing more, nothing less. Don't act like you understand that going into it, but then act like you forgot these things later on when you're ready to fall in love & get married to the guy! And don't call him a bad guy or a scumbag all b/c he all you are is sex to the guy! He's not gonna wanna hear it b/c you knew what it was going in.
Know fully what you're signing up for

Posted by geminicandIe
That's why you don't keep only one fwb buddy that you keep doing it with. You have several throughout the years. I like to meet mine when I am out of town, that way I never run into them again unless I really want to, lol.

Posted by CQ19

Posted by krysrenee7
But if you're gonna do it, use protection! And don't expect "girlfriend" or "wife" treatment if you're just the F buddy!
Not using protection is how men end up impregnating crazy chicks or spreading STDs. No bueno!
F buddy treatment means that he's not obligated to only be sexually exclusive with you. It means he doesn't have to be consistent, communicate with you all the time or invest in you (takes you out on dates, etc.) like he would other girls. F buddy means he's only obligated to give you the D lol
Some guys will naturally do more (cuddle with you, tell you sweet nothing's in your ear, etc.) & if that's their choice, cool, but it's up to YOU to remember that all you are is a F buddy & that if he were to randomly stop doing all of those things with you, you have no right to throw a tantrum & be mad
Understand that a F buddy is just that. Sex. Nothing more, nothing less. Don't act like you understand that going into it, but then act like you forgot these things later on when you're ready to fall in love & get married to the guy! And don't call him a bad guy or a scumbag all b/c he all you are is sex to the guy! He's not gonna wanna hear it b/c you knew what it was going in.
Know fully what you're signing up for

Yes Yes Yes!!!! which is why personally i think women give men the upper hand to cheat and be players. throwing themselves to them so easily makes men hard to commit because they always know some women are openingly willing to give up the cookie

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Posted by CQ19

Posted by krysrenee7
But if you're gonna do it, use protection! And don't expect "girlfriend" or "wife" treatment if you're just the F buddy!
Not using protection is how men end up impregnating crazy chicks or spreading STDs. No bueno!
F buddy treatment means that he's not obligated to only be sexually exclusive with you. It means he doesn't have to be consistent, communicate with you all the time or invest in you (takes you out on dates, etc.) like he would other girls. F buddy means he's only obligated to give you the D lol
Some guys will naturally do more (cuddle with you, tell you sweet nothing's in your ear, etc.) & if that's their choice, cool, but it's up to YOU to remember that all you are is a F buddy & that if he were to randomly stop doing all of those things with you, you have no right to throw a tantrum & be mad
Understand that a F buddy is just that. Sex. Nothing more, nothing less. Don't act like you understand that going into it, but then act like you forgot these things later on when you're ready to fall in love & get married to the guy! And don't call him a bad guy or a scumbag all b/c he all you are is sex to the guy! He's not gonna wanna hear it b/c you knew what it was going in.
Know fully what you're signing up for

Yes Yes Yes!!!! which is why personally i think women give men the upper hand to cheat and be players. throwing themselves to them so easily makes men hard to commit because they always know some women are openingly willing to give up the cookie

Lol exactly
When a woman agrees to be a F buddy, a man is thinking, "YES! I get all the benefits w/o having to do the work for an emotional attachment! YES!" lol
He gets spoiled & used to obtaining those benefits with very low investment in return on his part
So when a chick all of the sudden changes & expects a commitment, he's like Nooooooooooo! lol

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Posted by geminicandIe
Yeah, most of the guys are kinda good-looking but on the dumb side in my experience. Or I hate their personality because they act like bossy jerks sometimes, but hey, what's sex got to do with it?
I mean as long as they come across as decent persons and not too much of a dick/asshole, then I am cool with it.
And yes, relationships can develop too from fwb. Albeit rarely, but it happens.

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Posted by geminicandIe
Yeah, most of the guys are kinda good-looking but on the dumb side in my experience. Or I hate their personality because they act like bossy jerks sometimes, but hey, what's sex got to do with it?
I mean as long as they come across as decent persons and not too much of a dick/asshole, then I am cool with it.
And yes, relationships can develop too from fwb. Albeit rarely, but it happens.

Agreed but still later down the line do you feel as if the guy will respect his lady?

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Posted by geminicandIe
Yeah, most of the guys are kinda good-looking but on the dumb side in my experience. Or I hate their personality because they act like bossy jerks sometimes, but hey, what's sex got to do with it?
I mean as long as they come across as decent persons and not too much of a dick/asshole, then I am cool with it.
And yes, relationships can develop too from fwb. Albeit rarely, but it happens.

Agreed but still later down the line do you feel as if the guy will respect his lady?

Maybe he would respect her. But for women, respect is NOT enough. Women want you to respect them AND love them.
Problem is, a man can respect you and yet not wanna be with you. So even if you succeed in getting his respect, you probably didn't succeed in getting him to be with you, which was the ultimate goal anyway so it's really a lose/lose
Men aren't that deep. They're simple. They fall for what you show them. If all you're giving them is sex, then they'll love your BODY & your sex. That's it lol
The reason F buddies are not encouraged by everyone is b/c a man's peak interest in you is most likely in the beginning. If you're showing him your emotional, physical, sexual & OTHER sides, he is most open to seeing you for who you are as a WHOLE.
By the time you've screwed him 1,000 times & then later try to show him the rest of you, he's already friend-zoned you & is most likely giving his REAL attention to another girl on the side who was smart enough to give him more to gawk over than just her body. And THAT girl is the one who gets the relationship/the ring

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Posted by geminicandIe
Well, if he is so moronic that he lets sex get in the way if he wants to be with me or not while he enjoyed it also, it means he is a hypocrite douche and I wouldn't wanna be with him long-term anyways.
I have had relationships where I waited with sex and some where I did not wait at all, and they all ended for different reasons. Ultimate reason: not compatible/ irreconcilable differences/fell out of love.

Posted by Synapse
Can't do FWB. I'm picky with what I sandwich my dick between, ya feel me?
I mean.. I could, but for the sake of the female's sanity, I don't do them. It'd be hook up, and if that woman is still in my motherfucking bed in the morning.. LAAAAWD HELP HER. "You see that curb? GO SIT ON IT AND WAIT FOR THE FUCKING BUS/YOUR DAMN FRIEND."
Point blank, I'd be a dick after because you've overstayed your welcome. "Once I wear they pussy out, they wear their welcomes out."
If she's out right after? It'd be alright, so long as it's "Thanks, bye."
Really prefer no FWB though.

Posted by geminicandIe
I just follow no rules. Maybe I should follow some rules and then finally settle and get married.
Oh wait, I don't really want that. But then I do. Ah, geminis never know what they truly want

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Posted by geminicandIe
I just follow no rules. Maybe I should follow some rules and then finally settle and get married.
Oh wait, I don't really want that. But then I do. Ah, geminis never know what they truly want

make up your own rules

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Posted by geminicandIe
Krysrenne, I think this comes with the maturity. Now that I am older and wiser, I can handle my emotions and expectations better. I learned by my past mistakes.
Also, not to mention that I am in my sexual peak these days, hard to control your sexuality, lol, but yeah...

Posted by JenLove
Not interested. I think it's a stupid idea that seems to fail time and time again. Personally, I don't enjoy the limitations, especially the sexual ones considering that the whole thing is based on sex so if there are limitations then wtf is the point. Plus sex without some type of intimacy is not in the least bit satisfying to me. So yeah I am simply not about that life lol

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Posted by WaterCup
No Friends with benefits here, I've got some gold shit up in here & it's no goldrush. So any Tom, DICK & Harry won't get to hit the jackpot.

What about just benefits? :-?

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