Help!!!! Happy-go-lucky cappy????
This topic was created in the Capricorn forum by virgosagscorpio on Thursday, March 14, 2013 and has 13 replies.
I don't understand what you need help with. lol.
When I'm happy, I'm like this. Then again, sometimes I'm depressed. Sometimes I'm serious. Sometimes I'm goofy. Sometimes I'm raunchy (humor-wise). Sometimes I'm quiet. Sometimes I'm talkative.
Perhaps he has a Sag Moon? They are usually happy go lucky types.
Perhaps he has a Sag Moon? They are usually happy go lucky types.
And fly the freak flag high and proud! lol!
His personality sounds cool!! A lot like mine, actually -- I'm one of those rare "happy go-lucky" Caps. (You should see
my Mick Jagger impersonation...)
The dishonest part (IMO withholding info is "lying by omission") is NOT cool and atypical for a Cap. You may be right about the Aries component... If so, I say RUN. Aries (shallow, lying, backstabbing bigmouths!) are no good.
There is no way I wouldn't confront a guy about something so major as his CHILDREN! If you remain silent about that you are doing yourself a disservice and letting him "get away with it." You will gain useful info about him based upon his reaction to said confrontation, too. If he's a typical Cap, his "hiding" that FACT will embarass him and he will fess up and apologize (hopefully with a reasonable explanation). If he's a controlling a-hole or something else is going on, you may glean info on that as well.
Good luck!
my Mick Jagger impersonation...)
The dishonest part (IMO withholding info is "lying by omission") is NOT cool and atypical for a Cap. You may be right about the Aries component... If so, I say RUN. Aries (shallow, lying, backstabbing bigmouths!) are no good.
There is no way I wouldn't confront a guy about something so major as his CHILDREN! If you remain silent about that you are doing yourself a disservice and letting him "get away with it." You will gain useful info about him based upon his reaction to said confrontation, too. If he's a typical Cap, his "hiding" that FACT will embarass him and he will fess up and apologize (hopefully with a reasonable explanation). If he's a controlling a-hole or something else is going on, you may glean info on that as well.
Good luck!
Posted by virgosagscorpio
Met this cap last year and the connection was really great, I think he is not a typical Cap. He was fun to be with- charming and all that, never shy (although he thinks he is) so out-going, he acts before he thinks, he was very energetic, talks a lot, laughs a lot! He likes girls all the time (sometimes I think he's pervert ~ pardon my word caps) he faces life with so much gusto! I don't he knew the word moderation. I can't understand him sometimes, sometimes he was soo sweet but when he was upset he can be so rude, help!!!
Sounds like me. A true evolved Capricorn. One that has over come his insecurities and tries everyday to improve his life daily. One that has or is training to have a DIAMOND SOUL.
Diamond soul --> a state of complete acceptance with myself and my perception of everyone around me. Nothing to hide, nothing to fear. No pretending to be. Just BE. Honest and true. Unaffected by all the shit everyone throws at me, remaining hard and shiny like a diamond. Knowing that in the end... everything will be just fine.
This is normal cap behavior around my part of town. He feels in the comfort zone all the time. Caps are quiet and shy when they feel uncomfortable or are in analyzing mode. People that believe the horoscope quotes are mostly dead wrong on their assumptions on Caps. Social environment plays a lot in up raising a Cap. Also on who he looked up to when he was younger or placed as his role model.
Posted by virgosagscorpio
Should I still continue seeing this guy? I think his moon is Aries... He was fine and he told me that I'm his only gf (not until I found out that he hang out again with his ex, he told me he was the type that would never look back esp. with exes..) another thing he is not telling me bout his family (he has kids but he hasn't told me bout it, I accidentally found out) I didn't confront/ask him bout those though it bothers me... so what do you think? I want pure caps opinion please....
I am a Cap Sun and a Cap Moon, is that pure enough?
Caps have the ability to give info at the right time. I believe there is a time and place for everything. We have the "don't ask, don't volunteer info policy". When the time is right, he will tell you. Trust is earned by us little by little.
About the Ex. I never go back to the past that wasn't meant to be, with kids or not. People do mature, so the can be a friend in the future. I am friends with all my exes. We are wise, We forgive, but we will never forget...
Well, about the kids. He would have told you eventually. Kids are something to be left out of a new relationship. Not the fact you have them, but it's a while before kids meet someone. Perhaps, he didn't feel he knew you well enough for that discussion yet. Also, depending on your ages and the kid's ages, some people run when they find out you have kids, especially young ones and then, teenagers with bad attitudes can be hell on a relationship. So, maybe he didn't want to mention it until you got to know him better. Yes, omission is lying, but don't look at it as a lie. There is a time frame (like sureshot mentioned) to tell more intimate details about your life. You didn't say how long yall have been together. If it's been a while, then disregard what I said.
As far as the ex. Caps are capable of being friends only with exes. Sometimes we move on with no contact whatsoever. Sometimes, after a significant amount of time has passed, we are capable of becoming friends only with them. When we're done with a relationship, we're done romantically - but that doesn't mean we can't be friends. I'd find out more about their relationship before making any judgements on it. If this ex is the mother of the kids, then for the kid's sake it is better if they are friends or at least friendly. If they are sleeping together, then that's a different story.
As far as the ex. Caps are capable of being friends only with exes. Sometimes we move on with no contact whatsoever. Sometimes, after a significant amount of time has passed, we are capable of becoming friends only with them. When we're done with a relationship, we're done romantically - but that doesn't mean we can't be friends. I'd find out more about their relationship before making any judgements on it. If this ex is the mother of the kids, then for the kid's sake it is better if they are friends or at least friendly. If they are sleeping together, then that's a different story.
Posted by truecap
Well, about the kids. He would have told you eventually. Kids are something to be left out of a new relationship. Not the fact you have them, but it's a while before kids meet someone. Perhaps, he didn't feel he knew you well enough for that discussion yet. Also, depending on your ages and the kid's ages, some people run when they find out you have kids, especially young ones and then, teenagers with bad attitudes can be hell on a relationship. So, maybe he didn't want to mention it until you got to know him better. Yes, omission is lying, but don't look at it as a lie. There is a time frame (like sureshot mentioned) to tell more intimate details about your life. You didn't say how long yall have been together. If it's been a while, then disregard what I said.
As far as the ex. Caps are capable of being friends only with exes. Sometimes we move on with no contact whatsoever. Sometimes, after a significant amount of time has passed, we are capable of becoming friends only with them. When we're done with a relationship, we're done romantically - but that doesn't mean we can't be friends. I'd find out more about their relationship before making any judgements on it. If this ex is the mother of the kids, then for the kid's sake it is better if they are friends or at least friendly. If they are sleeping together, then that's a different story.
Whether or not one has kids is a VITAL STAT, like marital status or whether or not one smokes. It's hardly "intimate." Anything but full disclosure is secretive at best and highly suspect at worst. *Meeting* said kids is an entirely different issue.
I do agree with a lot of what you wrote here. It disgusts me to no end how many parents of young children introduce their "boyfriends" (or "girlfriends") to their kids too soon. Those people have a constant parade of new "significant others," and with small kids forming attachments to them that is just WRONG!
Well, it could partly be the OP's fault she didn't know about the kids. That's something I ask right up front. Do you have kids? That's a getting-to-know-you first date question.
Posted by JahliaHope I was able to help.
Oh yes, you do honey! Thank you so much for the inputs
Well, if the kids are living with the ex, then yes, he is living single and solo, except when he has visitation with the kids. So, in reality, he didn't lie about that.
Dang, sorry to hear that. sounds like he is messy(as in have way too much going on).
Posted by lnana04
Dang, sorry to hear that. sounds like he is messy(as in have way too much going on).
That's ok, we no longer communicate with each other, it seems that both of us has pulled as far as we can with ech other. I'm living on my own again without him. Now he's just another cap who used to be a part of my life, I'm a magnet of January born cap lol!
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