HELP! Hot Cappy Fight

Hi,

First off, we are not "dating" -- not yet, anyway. We have just been lusting after each other
for a couple of months. He has incredible "bedroom eyes" and for that reason and others (secrecy,
asking all about me, etc.) I thought he was a Scorpio!

He's 10 years older than I. He is upset with me for "ignoring" him (actually I was sick!), and he
let me have it just like a Scorpio would! In fact, he cryptically (in front of others, but I could
read between the lines) "stung" me repeatedly, several times. Since I was still sick/medicated I didn't
engage him in an argument but tried to cheer him up (it didn't work -- he persisted), then retreated.
(Due to the circumstances and milieu, an argument with him would have been impossible anyway.) I
*think* he knows my personality well enough to know that I'm no doormat. But it's our first "argument"
so I'm not sure.

What should I do when I see him next -- act as though nothing happened? That's how to react to a
Scorp, and he acts just like one! I am RELIEVED, however, that he isn't a Psycho Scorp! (been there,
done that) Tell him how disappointed I am that he wasn't kinder to me while I was sick? Ignore him
completely?

BTW, I'm a Cappy with Scorpio rising, Cancer moon, Mars in Leo, and Venus in Sag.

Thanks.

Posted by FoxGlove
Hmmm... interesting one. Well, first I would advise not to necessarily chalk everything up (or excuse a lot, as I am guilty of) in a person due to his or her sign. Bad behavior is bad behavior. On the other hand, the Caps I know are not exactly great at exuding a 'caring' side -- and some tend to notice how things affect THEM, first, last and always -- without necessarily thinking of the other person. Give me more information -- does he know you were sick? How do you know he thought you were ignoring?

Everyone knew I was sick! Numerous people were wishing me well -- plus it was all over my face.

He made it quite clear -- via several comments -- that I was being "punished" for not talking to him that day.

Right now I just need advice on how to respond to him, as I'll be seeing him in a few days.

Posted by ellessque
TG?

man....it sure sounds like TG.

so, what sign is he?

What the hell is "TG?"

Posted by ellessque
what the hell is going on today? *sigh*

tg has a scorp moon. *facepalm*

it seems you were getting all excited because you thought he was a scorpio.

what sign is he?

what happens now that suspense is gone for you?

I don't really know what else to say because it doesn't really look like you've even had one full conversation. *shrugs*

Who the hell is TG?

Uh, "excited" in a bad way! Scorps are psychos, especially the men. Everyone KNOWS that, right? After being
stalked by 2 of them, I certainly do! I am so HAPPY that he's a Cap it's not even funny. Caps I understand!
No doubt he has some Scorp influence(s) somewhere.

As to that last bit, you are spot on! Due to the milieu in which we interact (trust me, there are several
restraints on free-flowing convos), there is no way we can really talk to each other. I don't want to go into
the details of that here. Suffice it to say that there is full-on attraction on both sides -- of that I am
positive.

Posted by ellessque
nevermind, you just sounded familiar and your writing style was the same. TG was a cap here a long time ago, a quite amazing cap.

seems neither one of you are able to come clean about your attraction to the other. until one of you say something, I imagine a lot of the same coming from both sides until one gets bored or finds someone new to agitate.

Wow, you do a LOT of ASSuming -- about people whom you have never met or even seen -- based on only a coupla forum posts.

He has made it very clear that he's attracted, so he has "come clean," as have I. You no idea what the treetrunk
you're talking about! Ergo, your opinion is MOOT.

Well, you're a Cap, how do you think you should react?

I fought harder with another Cap than I ever fought with anyone else. lol. I fought him tooth and nail about everything.

Personally I think you should acknowledge it, not ignore it. Because if I was not talking to someone, and they acted like nothing happened next time I saw them, it would seriously annoy me.

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Posted by CapsRule


Uh, "excited" in a bad way! Scorps are psychos, especially the men. Everyone KNOWS that, right? After being
stalked by 2 of them, I certainly do! I am so HAPPY that he's a Cap it's not even funny. Caps I understand!
No doubt he has some Scorp influence(s) somewhere.

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Lol I wonder if he has a Scorpio moon like my ex cap. He was always provoking arguments too, and I have a cancer moon like you so even he was too much for this Scorpio. Do you have his chart?

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Quiet, TBH I suspect the same. 🙂

Unfortunately, no I don't have his chart but am working on it.

It's funny, but when I was younger I used to do that too (provoke fights). Must have been my Scorpio rising or sumthin.' 🙂

Posted by capgirl69
Well, you're a Cap, how do you think you should react?

I fought harder with another Cap than I ever fought with anyone else. lol. I fought him tooth and nail about everything.

Personally I think you should acknowledge it, not ignore it. Because if I was not talking to someone, and they acted like nothing happened next time I saw them, it would seriously annoy me.

Yeah, I don't think I can just act normally. But -- given the circumstances -- we can't exactly "fight" either, at least not openly.

So, what happened with your Cap whom you took on? Who WON?! 🙂

You're suggesting confrontation, correct? Or am I misinterpreting what you wrote here? Maybe a dirty look will suffice, LOL.

No one won. I walked away. But as for the fights, I would fight him and he would give in to me to keep the peace.

As a fellow Cap, I knew I just had to stand my ground with him. It was just over little things but he was constantly trying to control me. I date a Scorpio now and the Cap was probably 10x more controlling than the Scorp. But he had Moon and Mars in Scorpio, so he was like half a Scorpio anyways. And he had Aries rising.

My Scorpio is a lot softer than the Cap was.

I'm not sure if I would full out confront him, because I am not a confronter, but I would acknowledge that we hadn't spoken. I wouldn't just act like nothing happened.

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Posted by ellessque
nevermind, you just sounded familiar and your writing style was the same. TG was a cap here a long time ago, a quite amazing cap.

seems neither one of you are able to come clean about your attraction to the other. until one of you say something, I imagine a lot of the same coming from both sides until one gets bored or finds someone new to agitate.

Wow, you do a LOT of ASSuming -- about people whom you have never met or even seen -- based on only a coupla forum posts.

He has made it very clear that he's attracted, so he has "come clean," as have I. You no idea what the treetrunk
you're talking about! Ergo, your opinion is MOOT.

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Lol...

Aww, I miss kstarks too. She most definitely was a feisty little thing.

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Posted by FoxGlove
Hmmm... interesting one. Well, first I would advise not to necessarily chalk everything up (or excuse a lot, as I am guilty of) in a person due to his or her sign. Bad behavior is bad behavior. On the other hand, the Caps I know are not exactly great at exuding a 'caring' side -- and some tend to notice how things affect THEM, first, last and always -- without necessarily thinking of the other person. Give me more information -- does he know you were sick? How do you know he thought you were ignoring?

Everyone knew I was sick! Numerous people were wishing me well -- plus it was all over my face.

He made it quite clear -- via several comments -- that I was being "punished" for not talking to him that day.

Right now I just need advice on how to respond to him, as I'll be seeing him in a few days.

God...too bad he didn't just bend you over the table, hike up your skirt, and spank you as your punishment. I admit...I kinda like the dominant side of this guy, but he maybe a little insensitive.

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Funny you should say that, because ALL my friends are telling me to RUN! (the other way, LOL) And "spank" is precisely
the word used by one of my friends.

Dominant or ubercontrolling? I mean, he didn't just "correct" me, he stung me four times in as many minutes! It was pretty vicious, especially since I was sick.

Right now I'm looking into his background (not a formal "check" as it were, but some cursory "snopping") to see what turns up. My radar is onto something. He may not make the cut: We shall see.

Perhaps what you thought of as "stings" were just dry witted jokes and teasing on his part. Sometimes for people that don't know me very well, I come across as mean spirited when I'm joking and teasing.

*shrugs*

Posted by ellessque
nevermind, you just sounded familiar and your writing style was the same. TG was a cap here a long time ago, a quite amazing cap.

seems neither one of you are able to come clean about your attraction to the other. until one of you say something, I imagine a lot of the same coming from both sides until one gets bored or finds someone new to agitate.

OK, based on the posts here about TG I take that as a compliment. 🙂

Posted by truecap
Perhaps what you thought of as "stings" were just dry witted jokes and teasing on his part. Sometimes for people that don't know me very well, I come across as mean spirited when I'm joking and teasing.

*shrugs*

Ah, no. But I do appreciate your point, as I have been on the receiving end of teasing as well.

Gotta sign off now. I'll post the stings later, when I'm in the mood to relive them. Grrrrrr..........

Cursory background check is interesting:

Shoplifting charge in a grocery store (was he that hungry?) that was later plead out as "2nd-degree (commercial) trespassing."