Posted by Capri-sunOhhh yeahh... I hate this type of unknown... hrrr.....
It sounds like he likes you and could be interested. Hard to tell for sure.
Posted by ladylibra21Ohh god that type of device would be a life saver, or at least feelings saver
*Hugs* Ugh this is tough I am in a similar situation I feel your pain. Lets just invent a cap-o-feelings meter device!
Posted by pinkbird03I did and he seemed pleased. As well as became even sweeter whenever we would see each other... But his reaction was always more focused on what I said instead of saying what he likes.
Have you ever told him how you felt?
Posted by RoanaCautious creatures. Mysterious too. I've been trying my best to understand them for awhile.Posted by pinkbird03I did and he seemed pleased. As well as became even sweeter whenever we would see each other... But his reaction was always more focused on what I said instead of saying what he likes.
Have you ever told him how you felt?
Once I told him you know the fact that you tease me and irritate me so much is one of the reasons why I like you so much. And he instead of saying what he thinks he said we should figure out what word is to describe that(but like in a cute sweet way). I just don't get it. He is interested I think and yet something is stoping him from doing that one extra step....
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Posted by daron76No there is no other women in the picture
Sad to say but I still don't think he is. Sounds like a really nice guy and rather friendly but that's about it. You guys aren't even going out on dates or just hanging out alone. Everything you mention revolves around work. The only caveat is that this is at work which always complicates things.
However, 2 years is a long time to be indecisive unless there is another woman in the picture. Have you ever asked him if he was single?
I just don't want to get your hopes up, he sounds like a nice guy. And he is probably just that... a nice guy. I know it's hard to believe but we still do exist lol.
Posted by pinkbird03Yeah... I know that for the first year he was kinda blocked of from the world in general. Than this year (well last one) he became less causious... Shows extra attention and so on... But sometimes I do feel like he is kinda testing me.. Like he says something and looks for my reaction... I wonder sometimes if because he is so busy with his work and so on he is taking it really slow and just figuring me out little by little. He knows that I am against flings or one time things, so I wonder maybe thats why he is extra cautious. He maybe figuring me out to see if I am person who would be good for him in long term. Because even at work we dont see each other often (like there can be weeks without seeing each other). So when we do see each other he seems very happy. But I always find him kinda evaluating not just when I speak with him but when I speak with other people. And as for some weird universal law there is someone who is from some company and so on showing interest in me. Like once I got flowers from a guy that I didnt even knew, other time guy from some other even planning firm offered me to sit with him and so on. And every time that it happens it's like he lingers next to me more, or tries to talk to me more. I mean he never does that for any other female coworker... So it makes me wonder if he does like me to certain extent... But just not enough...Posted by RoanaCautious creatures. Mysterious too. I've been trying my best to understand them for awhile.Posted by pinkbird03I did and he seemed pleased. As well as became even sweeter whenever we would see each other... But his reaction was always more focused on what I said instead of saying what he likes.
Have you ever told him how you felt?
Once I told him you know the fact that you tease me and irritate me so much is one of the reasons why I like you so much. And he instead of saying what he thinks he said we should figure out what word is to describe that(but like in a cute sweet way). I just don't get it. He is interested I think and yet something is stoping him from doing that one extra step....
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Posted by RoanaA lot of us girls on here feel the exact same way. They like us, but not enough to want to commit. It's a struggle. Do you wait it out or do you move on? That's your choice, but not a guarantee he will ever want to date. I also feel like I'm being tested a lot. I think it's their way of understanding how we will handle situations.Posted by pinkbird03Yeah... I know that for the first year he was kinda blocked of from the world in general. Than this year (well last one) he became less causious... Shows extra attention and so on... But sometimes I do feel like he is kinda testing me.. Like he says something and looks for my reaction... I wonder sometimes if because he is so busy with his work and so on he is taking it really slow and just figuring me out little by little. He knows that I am against flings or one time things, so I wonder maybe thats why he is extra cautious. He maybe figuring me out to see if I am person who would be good for him in long term. Because even at work we dont see each other often (like there can be weeks without seeing each other). So when we do see each other he seems very happy. But I always find him kinda evaluating not just when I speak with him but when I speak with other people. And as for some weird universal law there is someone who is from some company and so on showing interest in me. Like once I got flowers from a guy that I didnt even knew, other time guy from some other even planning firm offered me to sit with him and so on. And every time that it happens it's like he lingers next to me more, or tries to talk to me more. I mean he never does that for any other female coworker... So it makes me wonder if he does like me to certain extent... But just not enough...Posted by RoanaCautious creatures. Mysterious too. I've been trying my best to understand them for awhile.Posted by pinkbird03I did and he seemed pleased. As well as became even sweeter whenever we would see each other... But his reaction was always more focused on what I said instead of saying what he likes.
Have you ever told him how you felt?
Once I told him you know the fact that you tease me and irritate me so much is one of the reasons why I like you so much. And he instead of saying what he thinks he said we should figure out what word is to describe that(but like in a cute sweet way). I just don't get it. He is interested I think and yet something is stoping him from doing that one extra step....
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Posted by RoanaI guess you're right... you've already waited 2 years, what's another 20? Go for it.Posted by daron76No there is no other women in the picture
Sad to say but I still don't think he is. Sounds like a really nice guy and rather friendly but that's about it. You guys aren't even going out on dates or just hanging out alone. Everything you mention revolves around work. The only caveat is that this is at work which always complicates things.
However, 2 years is a long time to be indecisive unless there is another woman in the picture. Have you ever asked him if he was single?
I just don't want to get your hopes up, he sounds like a nice guy. And he is probably just that... a nice guy. I know it's hard to believe but we still do exist lol.I know that because he went from very very long term relashionship he didn't want anything serious for a long time. And I am not surprised that there are nice guysI meet alot of them
But the thing is sometimes the way we talk or the way we flirt really is above and beyond the I am just being nice to you. I just can't understand what is stoping him from making that one little step.
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Posted by piscespoppyEch... yeah that sounds very very similar... But I have never ever kissed man first, I am the type that shows person that I am interested and so on or kinda "seducing" but I have never actually made that first real step... I already feel like I am steeping out of my own comfort zone with him
Aww, he may just be being cautious but he obviously likes you regardless of signs, however where I work there is a cap who behaved very similarly to your friend towards another of my female co-workers and they are now dating, but he has been hurt before, and confided in me a few times before he 'went for it ' with her, she just grabbed him and kissed him one evening out on a works night out, he was confused at first and a little hesitant, but they are taking it steady and both of them seem happy. She is a Libra.He told me once after her kissing him he was out with friends and there were lovely woman all around, but he could only think of her, so wasn't interested in any of them, aww.
You said he became more sweet after you told him how you feel, so perhaps he needs you to be a little more assertive, I hope it works out for you hun, my son is a cap his girlfriend is an Aries, well no messing about there! She wanted him, job done, they've been together 9 years, they are quite well suited with their placements I found out.
Posted by daron76Cha cha that made me giggle.Posted by RoanaI guess you're right... you've already waited 2 years, what's another 20? Go for it.Posted by daron76No there is no other women in the picture
Sad to say but I still don't think he is. Sounds like a really nice guy and rather friendly but that's about it. You guys aren't even going out on dates or just hanging out alone. Everything you mention revolves around work. The only caveat is that this is at work which always complicates things.
However, 2 years is a long time to be indecisive unless there is another woman in the picture. Have you ever asked him if he was single?
I just don't want to get your hopes up, he sounds like a nice guy. And he is probably just that... a nice guy. I know it's hard to believe but we still do exist lol.I know that because he went from very very long term relashionship he didn't want anything serious for a long time. And I am not surprised that there are nice guysI meet alot of them
But the thing is sometimes the way we talk or the way we flirt really is above and beyond the I am just being nice to you. I just can't understand what is stoping him from making that one little step.
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Posted by CAPRILICIOUSYeahh I know... that's why it's kinda disheartening... since in the past if guy liked me he let me know with words... But he does all the things that person that likes you would do but than he doesn't say anything directly... And he never ever ever does that to anyone else... even the ones that he works in the same department and I think considers them his friends... And yet still... I just dont get him... like I said it's first person in my life that totally confuses me...
I have to agree with daron here.
In your post you have tried explaining why he may not be ready for a relationship yet. I would advice against doing that.
I'm dating a Cap who is really shy. There are a lot of differences between us, which could have made it difficult for him to approach me, but they did not. He was the one to pursue me and the first to declare his feelings.
I can be intimidating for most guys, so the fact that he could be so bold with me, came as a surprise. It's finally made me start believing that if a guy really likes you, he will let you know.
Posted by pinkbird03Yeah... I hate it... I have never been in situation like that. Usually for me it was : we meet, we become friends, he and I like each other, we have a talk, we are a couple... with him he never says yes or no. even when I said to him that I promise that I will be cool if he will say that he doesnt like me. That I will just move on and remain friends. But even then he didnt sayPosted by RoanaA lot of us girls on here feel the exact same way. They like us, but not enough to want to commit. It's a struggle. Do you wait it out or do you move on? That's your choice, but not a guarantee he will ever want to date. I also feel like I'm being tested a lot. I think it's their way of understanding how we will handle situations.Posted by pinkbird03Yeah... I know that for the first year he was kinda blocked of from the world in general. Than this year (well last one) he became less causious... Shows extra attention and so on... But sometimes I do feel like he is kinda testing me.. Like he says something and looks for my reaction... I wonder sometimes if because he is so busy with his work and so on he is taking it really slow and just figuring me out little by little. He knows that I am against flings or one time things, so I wonder maybe thats why he is extra cautious. He maybe figuring me out to see if I am person who would be good for him in long term. Because even at work we dont see each other often (like there can be weeks without seeing each other). So when we do see each other he seems very happy. But I always find him kinda evaluating not just when I speak with him but when I speak with other people. And as for some weird universal law there is someone who is from some company and so on showing interest in me. Like once I got flowers from a guy that I didnt even knew, other time guy from some other even planning firm offered me to sit with him and so on. And every time that it happens it's like he lingers next to me more, or tries to talk to me more. I mean he never does that for any other female coworker... So it makes me wonder if he does like me to certain extent... But just not enough...Posted by RoanaCautious creatures. Mysterious too. I've been trying my best to understand them for awhile.Posted by pinkbird03I did and he seemed pleased. As well as became even sweeter whenever we would see each other... But his reaction was always more focused on what I said instead of saying what he likes.
Have you ever told him how you felt?
Once I told him you know the fact that you tease me and irritate me so much is one of the reasons why I like you so much. And he instead of saying what he thinks he said we should figure out what word is to describe that(but like in a cute sweet way). I just don't get it. He is interested I think and yet something is stoping him from doing that one extra step....
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Posted by CAPRILICIOUSWow 4 years... that's alot. I don't have that patiencePosted by daron76Ouch! I have been guilty of waiting on an Aries guy for 4yrs during college. He would stare at me everyday during classes and was absolutely crazy about me.Posted by RoanaI guess you're right... you've already waited 2 years, what's another 20? Go for it.Posted by daron76No there is no other women in the picture
Sad to say but I still don't think he is. Sounds like a really nice guy and rather friendly but that's about it. You guys aren't even going out on dates or just hanging out alone. Everything you mention revolves around work. The only caveat is that this is at work which always complicates things.
However, 2 years is a long time to be indecisive unless there is another woman in the picture. Have you ever asked him if he was single?
I just don't want to get your hopes up, he sounds like a nice guy. And he is probably just that... a nice guy. I know it's hard to believe but we still do exist lol.I know that because he went from very very long term relashionship he didn't want anything serious for a long time. And I am not surprised that there are nice guysI meet alot of them
But the thing is sometimes the way we talk or the way we flirt really is above and beyond the I am just being nice to you. I just can't understand what is stoping him from making that one little step.
I'm ambidextrous and he started copying that. Everyone on the campus knew he liked me. He told my friends how much he liked me, but he could never approach me. Everytime he tried speaking to me, his face would go red.
After having waited 4yrs, I decided to date a Virgo.
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Posted by cheekyfaerieWell I wanted one person in the party to think that, not all. He decided to act like that with everyone himself. Granted I didn't stoped him... And I did tell him in the past that I like him... I think not in a coy way, this time I just reminded that... Also I offered to meet up outside the work.
Kinda sounds like you're giving him mixed signals.
You wanted people at the party to think you were together, which he was more than happy to accommodate. Then if people actually mentioned it, you corrected them. Even when you told him you liked him, it sounds like it was done in a coy, non direct way.
Dude may feel like he's being friendzoned.
Posted by RoanaIf you need to know, how are you going to find out? What's your plan?Posted by pinkbird03Yeah... I hate it... I have never been in situation like that. Usually for me it was : we meet, we become friends, he and I like each other, we have a talk, we are a couple... with him he never says yes or no. even when I said to him that I promise that I will be cool if he will say that he doesnt like me. That I will just move on and remain friends. But even then he didnt sayPosted by RoanaA lot of us girls on here feel the exact same way. They like us, but not enough to want to commit. It's a struggle. Do you wait it out or do you move on? That's your choice, but not a guarantee he will ever want to date. I also feel like I'm being tested a lot. I think it's their way of understanding how we will handle situations.Posted by pinkbird03Yeah... I know that for the first year he was kinda blocked of from the world in general. Than this year (well last one) he became less causious... Shows extra attention and so on... But sometimes I do feel like he is kinda testing me.. Like he says something and looks for my reaction... I wonder sometimes if because he is so busy with his work and so on he is taking it really slow and just figuring me out little by little. He knows that I am against flings or one time things, so I wonder maybe thats why he is extra cautious. He maybe figuring me out to see if I am person who would be good for him in long term. Because even at work we dont see each other often (like there can be weeks without seeing each other). So when we do see each other he seems very happy. But I always find him kinda evaluating not just when I speak with him but when I speak with other people. And as for some weird universal law there is someone who is from some company and so on showing interest in me. Like once I got flowers from a guy that I didnt even knew, other time guy from some other even planning firm offered me to sit with him and so on. And every time that it happens it's like he lingers next to me more, or tries to talk to me more. I mean he never does that for any other female coworker... So it makes me wonder if he does like me to certain extent... But just not enough...Posted by RoanaCautious creatures. Mysterious too. I've been trying my best to understand them for awhile.Posted by pinkbird03I did and he seemed pleased. As well as became even sweeter whenever we would see each other... But his reaction was always more focused on what I said instead of saying what he likes.
Have you ever told him how you felt?
Once I told him you know the fact that you tease me and irritate me so much is one of the reasons why I like you so much. And he instead of saying what he thinks he said we should figure out what word is to describe that(but like in a cute sweet way). I just don't get it. He is interested I think and yet something is stoping him from doing that one extra step....
Ech...Like how person can be so closed about what he feels. At this point I dont care if he likes me or he doesnt like me
I just need to know.
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Posted by pinkbird03UsuallyI would just ask person, but since he is amazing at kinda giving answer while not giving one... I think I will have kidnap him, tie to the chair and get the answers out of himPosted by RoanaIf you need to know, how are you going to find out? What's your plan?Posted by pinkbird03Yeah... I hate it... I have never been in situation like that. Usually for me it was : we meet, we become friends, he and I like each other, we have a talk, we are a couple... with him he never says yes or no. even when I said to him that I promise that I will be cool if he will say that he doesnt like me. That I will just move on and remain friends. But even then he didnt sayPosted by RoanaA lot of us girls on here feel the exact same way. They like us, but not enough to want to commit. It's a struggle. Do you wait it out or do you move on? That's your choice, but not a guarantee he will ever want to date. I also feel like I'm being tested a lot. I think it's their way of understanding how we will handle situations.Posted by pinkbird03Yeah... I know that for the first year he was kinda blocked of from the world in general. Than this year (well last one) he became less causious... Shows extra attention and so on... But sometimes I do feel like he is kinda testing me.. Like he says something and looks for my reaction... I wonder sometimes if because he is so busy with his work and so on he is taking it really slow and just figuring me out little by little. He knows that I am against flings or one time things, so I wonder maybe thats why he is extra cautious. He maybe figuring me out to see if I am person who would be good for him in long term. Because even at work we dont see each other often (like there can be weeks without seeing each other). So when we do see each other he seems very happy. But I always find him kinda evaluating not just when I speak with him but when I speak with other people. And as for some weird universal law there is someone who is from some company and so on showing interest in me. Like once I got flowers from a guy that I didnt even knew, other time guy from some other even planning firm offered me to sit with him and so on. And every time that it happens it's like he lingers next to me more, or tries to talk to me more. I mean he never does that for any other female coworker... So it makes me wonder if he does like me to certain extent... But just not enough...Posted by RoanaCautious creatures. Mysterious too. I've been trying my best to understand them for awhile.Posted by pinkbird03I did and he seemed pleased. As well as became even sweeter whenever we would see each other... But his reaction was always more focused on what I said instead of saying what he likes.
Have you ever told him how you felt?
Once I told him you know the fact that you tease me and irritate me so much is one of the reasons why I like you so much. And he instead of saying what he thinks he said we should figure out what word is to describe that(but like in a cute sweet way). I just don't get it. He is interested I think and yet something is stoping him from doing that one extra step....
Ech...Like how person can be so closed about what he feels. At this point I dont care if he likes me or he doesnt like me
I just need to know.
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Posted by RoanaPosted by pinkbird03UsuallyI would just ask person, but since he is amazing at kinda giving answer while not giving one... I think I will have kidnap him, tie to the chair and get the answers out of himPosted by RoanaIf you need to know, how are you going to find out? What's your plan?Posted by pinkbird03Yeah... I hate it... I have never been in situation like that. Usually for me it was : we meet, we become friends, he and I like each other, we have a talk, we are a couple... with him he never says yes or no. even when I said to him that I promise that I will be cool if he will say that he doesnt like me. That I will just move on and remain friends. But even then he didnt sayPosted by RoanaA lot of us girls on here feel the exact same way. They like us, but not enough to want to commit. It's a struggle. Do you wait it out or do you move on? That's your choice, but not a guarantee he will ever want to date. I also feel like I'm being tested a lot. I think it's their way of understanding how we will handle situations.Posted by pinkbird03Yeah... I know that for the first year he was kinda blocked of from the world in general. Than this year (well last one) he became less causious... Shows extra attention and so on... But sometimes I do feel like he is kinda testing me.. Like he says something and looks for my reaction... I wonder sometimes if because he is so busy with his work and so on he is taking it really slow and just figuring me out little by little. He knows that I am against flings or one time things, so I wonder maybe thats why he is extra cautious. He maybe figuring me out to see if I am person who would be good for him in long term. Because even at work we dont see each other often (like there can be weeks without seeing each other). So when we do see each other he seems very happy. But I always find him kinda evaluating not just when I speak with him but when I speak with other people. And as for some weird universal law there is someone who is from some company and so on showing interest in me. Like once I got flowers from a guy that I didnt even knew, other time guy from some other even planning firm offered me to sit with him and so on. And every time that it happens it's like he lingers next to me more, or tries to talk to me more. I mean he never does that for any other female coworker... So it makes me wonder if he does like me to certain extent... But just not enough...Posted by RoanaCautious creatures. Mysterious too. I've been trying my best to understand them for awhile.Posted by pinkbird03I did and he seemed pleased. As well as became even sweeter whenever we would see each other... But his reaction was always more focused on what I said instead of saying what he likes.
Have you ever told him how you felt?
Once I told him you know the fact that you tease me and irritate me so much is one of the reasons why I like you so much. And he instead of saying what he thinks he said we should figure out what word is to describe that(but like in a cute sweet way). I just don't get it. He is interested I think and yet something is stoping him from doing that one extra step....
Ech...Like how person can be so closed about what he feels. At this point I dont care if he likes me or he doesnt like me
I just need to know.
D jk jk. I think the only thing that I can try is to try to figure out when he is more or less free from work and to invite him to meet outside the work
But be more specific not just we should meet, but to say the date and time
Other than that I have no idea... I don't think I can do anything else... But I would be more than upen to sugestions of what I could do?
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Posted by pinkbird03Och... I wish I could just flip something in me and tottaly remove my personal feelings. Because like I said (I think) I have never ever felt like that with any other person... I dont know why he has that effect on me... But you are right it's tiring... It's better to know the truth even if it may be not what I want to hear...Posted by RoanaPosted by pinkbird03UsuallyI would just ask person, but since he is amazing at kinda giving answer while not giving one... I think I will have kidnap him, tie to the chair and get the answers out of himPosted by RoanaIf you need to know, how are you going to find out? What's your plan?Posted by pinkbird03Yeah... I hate it... I have never been in situation like that. Usually for me it was : we meet, we become friends, he and I like each other, we have a talk, we are a couple... with him he never says yes or no. even when I said to him that I promise that I will be cool if he will say that he doesnt like me. That I will just move on and remain friends. But even then he didnt sayPosted by RoanaA lot of us girls on here feel the exact same way. They like us, but not enough to want to commit. It's a struggle. Do you wait it out or do you move on? That's your choice, but not a guarantee he will ever want to date. I also feel like I'm being tested a lot. I think it's their way of understanding how we will handle situations.Posted by pinkbird03Yeah... I know that for the first year he was kinda blocked of from the world in general. Than this year (well last one) he became less causious... Shows extra attention and so on... But sometimes I do feel like he is kinda testing me.. Like he says something and looks for my reaction... I wonder sometimes if because he is so busy with his work and so on he is taking it really slow and just figuring me out little by little. He knows that I am against flings or one time things, so I wonder maybe thats why he is extra cautious. He maybe figuring me out to see if I am person who would be good for him in long term. Because even at work we dont see each other often (like there can be weeks without seeing each other). So when we do see each other he seems very happy. But I always find him kinda evaluating not just when I speak with him but when I speak with other people. And as for some weird universal law there is someone who is from some company and so on showing interest in me. Like once I got flowers from a guy that I didnt even knew, other time guy from some other even planning firm offered me to sit with him and so on. And every time that it happens it's like he lingers next to me more, or tries to talk to me more. I mean he never does that for any other female coworker... So it makes me wonder if he does like me to certain extent... But just not enough...Posted by RoanaCautious creatures. Mysterious too. I've been trying my best to understand them for awhile.Posted by pinkbird03I did and he seemed pleased. As well as became even sweeter whenever we would see each other... But his reaction was always more focused on what I said instead of saying what he likes.
Have you ever told him how you felt?
Once I told him you know the fact that you tease me and irritate me so much is one of the reasons why I like you so much. And he instead of saying what he thinks he said we should figure out what word is to describe that(but like in a cute sweet way). I just don't get it. He is interested I think and yet something is stoping him from doing that one extra step....
Ech...Like how person can be so closed about what he feels. At this point I dont care if he likes me or he doesnt like me
I just need to know.
D jk jk. I think the only thing that I can try is to try to figure out when he is more or less free from work and to invite him to meet outside the work
But be more specific not just we should meet, but to say the date and time
Other than that I have no idea... I don't think I can do anything else... But I would be more than upen to sugestions of what I could do?
There comes a point when you're tired of feeling confused and you want answers. That's normal. Don't be afraid to lose him. Say what you need to- your wants and needs. See how he responds and act accordingly.click to expand
Posted by CAPRILICIOUSBut hey it was unique experience, that teached you something so I guess the time was not completely wastedPosted by RoanaYes, 4 years. Lol. Apparently I have lots of patience.Posted by CAPRILICIOUSWow 4 years... that's alot. I don't have that patiencePosted by daron76Ouch! I have been guilty of waiting on an Aries guy for 4yrs during college. He would stare at me everyday during classes and was absolutely crazy about me.Posted by RoanaI guess you're right... you've already waited 2 years, what's another 20? Go for it.Posted by daron76No there is no other women in the picture
Sad to say but I still don't think he is. Sounds like a really nice guy and rather friendly but that's about it. You guys aren't even going out on dates or just hanging out alone. Everything you mention revolves around work. The only caveat is that this is at work which always complicates things.
However, 2 years is a long time to be indecisive unless there is another woman in the picture. Have you ever asked him if he was single?
I just don't want to get your hopes up, he sounds like a nice guy. And he is probably just that... a nice guy. I know it's hard to believe but we still do exist lol.I know that because he went from very very long term relashionship he didn't want anything serious for a long time. And I am not surprised that there are nice guysI meet alot of them
But the thing is sometimes the way we talk or the way we flirt really is above and beyond the I am just being nice to you. I just can't understand what is stoping him from making that one little step.
I'm ambidextrous and he started copying that. Everyone on the campus knew he liked me. He told my friends how much he liked me, but he could never approach me. Everytime he tried speaking to me, his face would go red.
After having waited 4yrs, I decided to date a Virgo.
I must say, that was a good learning experience for me.![]()
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Posted by Roanalol that's too funny. I was thinking the same thing. I'd love to turn my feelings off! Put a fuck-you wall up kind of thing. But seriously- Definitely better to know where you stand than to keep guessing and having a false sense of hope. Or the other way around. You could turn into the happiest girl you've ever been. I really hope it's the second theory ?Posted by pinkbird03Och... I wish I could just flip something in me and tottaly remove my personal feelings. Because like I said (I think) I have never ever felt like that with any other person... I dont know why he has that effect on me... But you are right it's tiring... It's better to know the truth even if it may be not what I want to hear...Posted by RoanaPosted by pinkbird03UsuallyI would just ask person, but since he is amazing at kinda giving answer while not giving one... I think I will have kidnap him, tie to the chair and get the answers out of himPosted by RoanaIf you need to know, how are you going to find out? What's your plan?Posted by pinkbird03Yeah... I hate it... I have never been in situation like that. Usually for me it was : we meet, we become friends, he and I like each other, we have a talk, we are a couple... with him he never says yes or no. even when I said to him that I promise that I will be cool if he will say that he doesnt like me. That I will just move on and remain friends. But even then he didnt sayPosted by RoanaA lot of us girls on here feel the exact same way. They like us, but not enough to want to commit. It's a struggle. Do you wait it out or do you move on? That's your choice, but not a guarantee he will ever want to date. I also feel like I'm being tested a lot. I think it's their way of understanding how we will handle situations.Posted by pinkbird03Yeah... I know that for the first year he was kinda blocked of from the world in general. Than this year (well last one) he became less causious... Shows extra attention and so on... But sometimes I do feel like he is kinda testing me.. Like he says something and looks for my reaction... I wonder sometimes if because he is so busy with his work and so on he is taking it really slow and just figuring me out little by little. He knows that I am against flings or one time things, so I wonder maybe thats why he is extra cautious. He maybe figuring me out to see if I am person who would be good for him in long term. Because even at work we dont see each other often (like there can be weeks without seeing each other). So when we do see each other he seems very happy. But I always find him kinda evaluating not just when I speak with him but when I speak with other people. And as for some weird universal law there is someone who is from some company and so on showing interest in me. Like once I got flowers from a guy that I didnt even knew, other time guy from some other even planning firm offered me to sit with him and so on. And every time that it happens it's like he lingers next to me more, or tries to talk to me more. I mean he never does that for any other female coworker... So it makes me wonder if he does like me to certain extent... But just not enough...Posted by RoanaCautious creatures. Mysterious too. I've been trying my best to understand them for awhile.Posted by pinkbird03I did and he seemed pleased. As well as became even sweeter whenever we would see each other... But his reaction was always more focused on what I said instead of saying what he likes.
Have you ever told him how you felt?
Once I told him you know the fact that you tease me and irritate me so much is one of the reasons why I like you so much. And he instead of saying what he thinks he said we should figure out what word is to describe that(but like in a cute sweet way). I just don't get it. He is interested I think and yet something is stoping him from doing that one extra step....
Ech...Like how person can be so closed about what he feels. At this point I dont care if he likes me or he doesnt like me
I just need to know.
D jk jk. I think the only thing that I can try is to try to figure out when he is more or less free from work and to invite him to meet outside the work
But be more specific not just we should meet, but to say the date and time
Other than that I have no idea... I don't think I can do anything else... But I would be more than upen to sugestions of what I could do?
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Posted by SweetLily89Yes I did showed direct interest
My ex Cappy hid, behind the guise of friendship. At the time I had made it clear that I wasn't emotionally ready for more than that. So, although he would go above and beyond in some ways, he continued play the part of just a really good and supportive friend. It wasn't until I started showing direct interest with him, that he felt like the coast was clear to be more direct towards me. Are you showing interest?
Posted by CAPRILICIOUScha cha maybe you shouldPosted by RoanaHaha. I did learn a lot...about guys and most importantly about myself. I could write a book!Posted by CAPRILICIOUSBut hey it was unique experience, that teached you something so I guess the time was not completely wastedPosted by RoanaYes, 4 years. Lol. Apparently I have lots of patience.Posted by CAPRILICIOUSWow 4 years... that's alot. I don't have that patiencePosted by daron76Ouch! I have been guilty of waiting on an Aries guy for 4yrs during college. He would stare at me everyday during classes and was absolutely crazy about me.Posted by RoanaI guess you're right... you've already waited 2 years, what's another 20? Go for it.Posted by daron76No there is no other women in the picture
Sad to say but I still don't think he is. Sounds like a really nice guy and rather friendly but that's about it. You guys aren't even going out on dates or just hanging out alone. Everything you mention revolves around work. The only caveat is that this is at work which always complicates things.
However, 2 years is a long time to be indecisive unless there is another woman in the picture. Have you ever asked him if he was single?
I just don't want to get your hopes up, he sounds like a nice guy. And he is probably just that... a nice guy. I know it's hard to believe but we still do exist lol.I know that because he went from very very long term relashionship he didn't want anything serious for a long time. And I am not surprised that there are nice guysI meet alot of them
But the thing is sometimes the way we talk or the way we flirt really is above and beyond the I am just being nice to you. I just can't understand what is stoping him from making that one little step.
I'm ambidextrous and he started copying that. Everyone on the campus knew he liked me. He told my friends how much he liked me, but he could never approach me. Everytime he tried speaking to me, his face would go red.
After having waited 4yrs, I decided to date a Virgo.
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I would not ask anyone to put up with that. It's either meant to be or not.![]()
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Well, yes you could say our time wasn't wasted. We both believed it was love, it was probably just infatuation. Despite everyone wanting to see us together, it never happened.
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Posted by SweetLily89Ohh I did offer him to go for coffee, or for drinks and like I said he would say we could some day and so onPosted by RoanaDid you just say you like him or did you tell him that you like him as more than a friend? Have you asked him out at all? It doesn't have to be "let's go on a date" ask him if he'd like to meet up for lunch sometime or meet up for coffee or drinks. It sounds like a lot of your time together is at work or work related gatherings.Posted by SweetLily89Yes I did showed direct interest
My ex Cappy hid, behind the guise of friendship. At the time I had made it clear that I wasn't emotionally ready for more than that. So, although he would go above and beyond in some ways, he continued play the part of just a really good and supportive friend. It wasn't until I started showing direct interest with him, that he felt like the coast was clear to be more direct towards me. Are you showing interest?I even said to him that I like him.
If all else fails, plant a nice wet one on him.Tell him you just couldn't take it anymore, it may invade that little bubble he has around himself, but that just may be what he needs
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Posted by CAPRILICIOUSYes I will try. Not getting too attached might be issuePosted by RoanaSounds like a good idea.Posted by CAPRILICIOUScha cha maybe you shouldPosted by RoanaHaha. I did learn a lot...about guys and most importantly about myself. I could write a book!Posted by CAPRILICIOUSBut hey it was unique experience, that teached you something so I guess the time was not completely wastedPosted by RoanaYes, 4 years. Lol. Apparently I have lots of patience.Posted by CAPRILICIOUSWow 4 years... that's alot. I don't have that patiencePosted by daron76Ouch! I have been guilty of waiting on an Aries guy for 4yrs during college. He would stare at me everyday during classes and was absolutely crazy about me.Posted by RoanaI guess you're right... you've already waited 2 years, what's another 20? Go for it.Posted by daron76No there is no other women in the picture
Sad to say but I still don't think he is. Sounds like a really nice guy and rather friendly but that's about it. You guys aren't even going out on dates or just hanging out alone. Everything you mention revolves around work. The only caveat is that this is at work which always complicates things.
However, 2 years is a long time to be indecisive unless there is another woman in the picture. Have you ever asked him if he was single?
I just don't want to get your hopes up, he sounds like a nice guy. And he is probably just that... a nice guy. I know it's hard to believe but we still do exist lol.I know that because he went from very very long term relashionship he didn't want anything serious for a long time. And I am not surprised that there are nice guysI meet alot of them
But the thing is sometimes the way we talk or the way we flirt really is above and beyond the I am just being nice to you. I just can't understand what is stoping him from making that one little step.
I'm ambidextrous and he started copying that. Everyone on the campus knew he liked me. He told my friends how much he liked me, but he could never approach me. Everytime he tried speaking to me, his face would go red.
After having waited 4yrs, I decided to date a Virgo.
I must say, that was a good learning experience for me.![]()
I would not ask anyone to put up with that. It's either meant to be or not.![]()
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Well, yes you could say our time wasn't wasted. We both believed it was love, it was probably just infatuation. Despite everyone wanting to see us together, it never happened.
We stayed on the university campus 24/7, so we saw each other all the time. Had that not been the case, it would not have dragged on for so long.D Och I wonder if I would be working with him every day maybe I would see how it really is. But I guess for now I will just focus on my own stuff and see and try to maybe get him to meet up outside the work
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This could turn into a long chase, but as long as you're having fun and not getting too attached... I'd say go for it.![]()
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Posted by Capri-sunI hope he will say what he wants to
It's the assumptions you made.
Anyhow it's quite obvious that you don't like me (well at least not in the way that I like you).
Don't worry you don't have to tell me anything on this topic
& to me his comment sounded a bit like there is nothing to see through.
I'm sorry for the confusion...hope things work out for your best interest.
Posted by sakuraflowersYes I think so tooPosted by RoanaI'm more inclined to think it's the last part as well
Well so my patience snapped and I wrote this to him: "ech I thought I will tell you this because I just don't want to keep this inside me. I want you to know this (even I am sure you are already aware of this) I really really like you (just as you are. With your annoying qualities, your responsible attitude, your friendly and caring nature and even the fact that I can't understand you). One thing about me that I don't think you knew about is the fact that I pride myself on being able to see through people really fast (even though I rarely show it). But the fact is with you I just don't seem to be able too, which makes me wonder why not... Anyhow it's quite obvious that you don't like me (well at least not in the way that I like you). But even though I realize that I just had to finally say it because I hate carrying those types of things inside me, and since you and I promised to each other to always be open about everything I decided to do it todayDon't worry you don't have to tell me anything on this topic, because as I said I just needed to finally let those thoughts out. And now I will stop bothering you, have a nice rest you really truly deserved it! "
I thought he will say: " ok "noted" or "thanks for sharing". Or thanks for sharing but you are right I like you as a person and a friend but nothing else".
Instead he wrote this: "Heyso you wouldn't think that I am hiding you I promise to answer you as soon as I will have tiny bit more free time. Because right now I am driving a car and doing some chores."
I get the busy part, but I specifically sayd he doesn't need to answer and so on. And if he did wanted to answer he could have just done the things he need and answered then. Why did he needed to send this little message of telling me that I wouldn't think that he is hiding
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Also it makes me thing that probably he is thinking that he will need to let me down gentlyso he will try to make time for that
god... suddenly all the courage that I had yesterday is gone...
god dammit....
because I think otherwise, I think he would have tried to ask you out.
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Posted by Capri-sunWell I hope for the bestPosted by Roana
OMG HE DOES LIKE ME! The issue is not meSo I knew that almost two years ago he ended very long relashionship that he had. But he never told me what happened and so on. So today he finnaly told me that since he is closed off person he never talked about the lows or highs in that relashionship. But the reason why they broke up as well as whole relashionship left huge wound inside him. And he is trying to heal them up, and until he will be done with that they block him from even thinking about any new relashionship. Since he likes me and does care about my well being, getting to close to me would be unfair to me since he wouldn't be able to be normal in a relashionship.
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Ohhh... So I guess all in all it ended up better than I excpected, worse than I hoped forIn any case I will just live my life, me and him will remain friends and we will see who knows maybe in the future I won't be in relashionship and he will be done with healing and we will come together. If not than well it's not ment to be
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Funny enough his answer made me kinda happyI guess just the finnaly knowing part made my heart at ease
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I don't want to bring you down from your high. Hopefully he is being honest with you. It could just be an excuse to let you down easily.
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