HELP! How To Know When a Venus in Capricorn is in love

I've been dating this Aqua sun, venus in capricorn man for almost 4 months. I feel a strong connection between us and always have the best time together. We have a lot in common and share similar ambitions and values. Up to this point he has not come out and said how he feels about me. A couple of months back, I started to back off because I found him difficult to read and it sometimes felt like he wasn't exactly interested or that I may just be falling into a fwb or bootycall situation. When I spoke with him about this, he was a little hurt that I thought that and made it clear to me that that was not the case. Afterwards I sent him a text kind of apologizing for assuming negatively about his intentions and told him that I really like him and enjoy spending time getting to know him. He replied thanking me for my kind words, but never said how he feels about me. That is the extent that we've expressed our feelings to each other.

I find myself falling in love with him. But am trying my best to remain levelheaded since I don't know where I stand with him. I've learned that venus in cap prefer to show how they feel rather than talk about it. He always tries to accommodate me when we're together and do or provide the things that I've mentioned I like. He's been really helpful and supportive of my career, he's a Dr so he works crazy hours, but still finds a way to make time for us to be together, and he's always asking questions about my family. He's also begun to talk more openly about himself in the last couple of months.

But like I said, I'm falling in love-- not infatuation or deep like. I understand that it can take a venus in cap a long time to fall in love, but what signs should I look for to know if/when it's happened?

(I'm sure many people may reply that I should just ask him, but I'm not going to do that because that's not my style and I'd prefer him to come out and say it on his own rather than coaxing it out of him.)

They show it in actions...help you. Take care of you. Watch out for you.

You'll see it in the way they feel responsible for you.

I doubt they'd express much.. Depends on other placements..

What she ^^ said.

My guy has cap in venus. They do show it through actions and sweetness. Not necessarily affection, but they will take care of you and your well being.

Cap venus takes relationships seriously, so perhaps this is why he got upset that you thought he was only after FWB. I don't know any cap venuses who do FWB. They are also a little insecure in relationships and have a strong need to know where they stand (although they are reluctant to tell you where you stand). Maybe this is why he also reacted that way when you backed off.

I found with mine, that when i did go out on a limb and told him things like I was getting attached to him, he wouldn't always respond in kind, but the actions sure where sweeter and he made it clear how he felt through those actions.

They are slow and cautious. It takes a LONG time to get anywhere, but they appreciate stability, consistency and directness. Patience is key. If he's worth waiting for, then I'd strongly suggest waiting for him to catch up to you. Once they let loose and allow themselves to love and be loved, it's beautiful!!

Yeah, you are correct. Don't ask him. Just tell him where YOU stand. That's all you need to do. He'll come around if he feels it too. If he doesn't go away, then you can bet on it that he feels the same.

Again, did I mention patience? lol!

Of course he's going to support your career. Cap venus like it when women are independent and they like career minded women. Keep that up!
They like women with status, respectability, dignity, classiness and someone who can also help them in their career.

Posted by RumiL
They show it in actions...help you. Take care of you. Watch out for you.

You'll see it in the way they feel responsible for you.

I doubt they'd express much.. Depends on other placements..

Yeah, he definitely watches out for me and likes to give me advice. My ex's were a Taurus (a gushing musician and writer of love songs) and a Cancer so I'm more used to a man verbalizing how he feels about me. I think sometimes I overlook him "displays of affection" until later when I'm home by myself and it finally dawns on me 😢

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What she ^^ said.

My guy has cap in venus. They do show it through actions and sweetness. Not necessarily affection, but they will take care of you and your well being.

Cap venus takes relationships seriously, so perhaps this is why he got upset that you thought he was only after FWB. I don't know any cap venuses who do FWB. They are also a little insecure in relationships and have a strong need to know where they stand (although they are reluctant to tell you where you stand). Maybe this is why he also reacted that way when you backed off.

I found with mine, that when i did go out on a limb and told him things like I was getting attached to him, he wouldn't always respond in kind, but the actions sure where sweeter and he made it clear how he felt through those actions.

They are slow and cautious. It takes a LONG time to get anywhere, but they appreciate stability, consistency and directness. Patience is key. If he's worth waiting for, then I'd strongly suggest waiting for him to catch up to you. Once they let loose and allow themselves to love and be loved, it's beautiful!!

Thanks for your input! He has an aqua sun and so part of me is scared of letting him know how I really feel bc I'm afraid I might scare him off if he feels like it is too soon for him. He got divorced 2 years ago and so is a little weary about relationships plus the fear of commitment that aqua's can posses might get freaked out if I tell him how I feel sooner than he's ready for it. Am I right about this?

I've heard A LOT about the slow pace venus in cap like to move. But how slow is slow? We're at month 4... so how soon before we can move to the next level? Are we talking a couple more months, several months? A couple of years or SEVERAL years? Bc honestly, I don't have several years... I'm hoping to be married in the next 2-3 years max, lol

Posted by truecap
What she ^^ said.

My guy has cap in venus. They do show it through actions and sweetness. Not necessarily affection, but they will take care of you and your well being.

Cap venus takes relationships seriously, so perhaps this is why he got upset that you thought he was only after FWB. I don't know any cap venuses who do FWB. They are also a little insecure in relationships and have a strong need to know where they stand (although they are reluctant to tell you where you stand). Maybe this is why he also reacted that way when you backed off.

I found with mine, that when i did go out on a limb and told him things like I was getting attached to him, he wouldn't always respond in kind, but the actions sure where sweeter and he made it clear how he felt through those actions.

They are slow and cautious. It takes a LONG time to get anywhere, but they appreciate stability, consistency and directness. Patience is key. If he's worth waiting for, then I'd strongly suggest waiting for him to catch up to you. Once they let loose and allow themselves to love and be loved, it's beautiful!!

What Sun/Moon is your guy? This describes my Venus in Cap guy so well..

Haha, He's an aqua sun libra moon. What about yours?

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Posted by RumiL
They show it in actions...help you. Take care of you. Watch out for you.

You'll see it in the way they feel responsible for you.

I doubt they'd express much.. Depends on other placements..

Yeah, he definitely watches out for me and likes to give me advice. My ex's were a Taurus (a gushing musician and writer of love songs) and a Cancer so I'm more used to a man verbalizing how he feels about me. I think sometimes I overlook him "displays of affection" until later when I'm home by myself and it finally dawns on me 😢

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It's very subtle. You'll get used to it.

I tend to need more affection than he does. I just go up and hug him whenever I want. He's never backed up from it. Has always been responsive. Like if I hold his arm when we're walking, when I go to pull my arm away, he pulls it in tighter. So he likes it. He says he just doesn't think to do it first.

Hope that helps.

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Posted by truecap
What she ^^ said.

My guy has cap in venus. They do show it through actions and sweetness. Not necessarily affection, but they will take care of you and your well being.

Cap venus takes relationships seriously, so perhaps this is why he got upset that you thought he was only after FWB. I don't know any cap venuses who do FWB. They are also a little insecure in relationships and have a strong need to know where they stand (although they are reluctant to tell you where you stand). Maybe this is why he also reacted that way when you backed off.

I found with mine, that when i did go out on a limb and told him things like I was getting attached to him, he wouldn't always respond in kind, but the actions sure where sweeter and he made it clear how he felt through those actions.

They are slow and cautious. It takes a LONG time to get anywhere, but they appreciate stability, consistency and directness. Patience is key. If he's worth waiting for, then I'd strongly suggest waiting for him to catch up to you. Once they let loose and allow themselves to love and be loved, it's beautiful!!

Thanks for your input! He has an aqua sun and so part of me is scared of letting him know how I really feel bc I'm afraid I might scare him off if he feels like it is too soon for him. He got divorced 2 years ago and so is a little weary about relationships plus the fear of commitment that aqua's can posses might get freaked out if I tell him how I feel sooner than he's ready for it. Am I right about this?

I've heard A LOT about the slow pace venus in cap like to move. But how slow is slow? We're at month 4... so how soon before we can move to the next level? Are we talking a couple more months, several months? A couple of years or SEVERAL years? Bc honestly, I don't have several years... I'm hoping to be married in the next 2-3 years max, lol

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Mine is aqua sun too!!!

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Posted by truecap
What she ^^ said.

My guy has cap in venus. They do show it through actions and sweetness. Not necessarily affection, but they will take care of you and your well being.

Cap venus takes relationships seriously, so perhaps this is why he got upset that you thought he was only after FWB. I don't know any cap venuses who do FWB. They are also a little insecure in relationships and have a strong need to know where they stand (although they are reluctant to tell you where you stand). Maybe this is why he also reacted that way when you backed off.

I found with mine, that when i did go out on a limb and told him things like I was getting attached to him, he wouldn't always respond in kind, but the actions sure where sweeter and he made it clear how he felt through those actions.

They are slow and cautious. It takes a LONG time to get anywhere, but they appreciate stability, consistency and directness. Patience is key. If he's worth waiting for, then I'd strongly suggest waiting for him to catch up to you. Once they let loose and allow themselves to love and be loved, it's beautiful!!

Thanks for your input! He has an aqua sun and so part of me is scared of letting him know how I really feel bc I'm afraid I might scare him off if he feels like it is too soon for him. He got divorced 2 years ago and so is a little weary about relationships plus the fear of commitment that aqua's can posses might get freaked out if I tell him how I feel sooner than he's ready for it. Am I right about this?

I've heard A LOT about the slow pace venus in cap like to move. But how slow is slow? We're at month 4... so how soon before we can move to the next level? Are we talking a couple more months, several months? A couple of years or SEVERAL years? Bc honestly, I don't have several years... I'm hoping to be married in the next 2-3 years max, lol

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You're going to need more patience. My guy was very similar circumstance. Very leery. His ex really did a number on him financially, among other things.
You're only at month 4. You've got a long, long way to go.

I told him I loved him at month 8. He didn't say it back until we had been together 1 1/2 years. We've been together for 4 years and are just now getting married.
I decided a long time ago he was worth waiting for.

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Posted by truecap
What she ^^ said.

My guy has cap in venus. They do show it through actions and sweetness. Not necessarily affection, but they will take care of you and your well being.

Cap venus takes relationships seriously, so perhaps this is why he got upset that you thought he was only after FWB. I don't know any cap venuses who do FWB. They are also a little insecure in relationships and have a strong need to know where they stand (although they are reluctant to tell you where you stand). Maybe this is why he also reacted that way when you backed off.

I found with mine, that when i did go out on a limb and told him things like I was getting attached to him, he wouldn't always respond in kind, but the actions sure where sweeter and he made it clear how he felt through those actions.

They are slow and cautious. It takes a LONG time to get anywhere, but they appreciate stability, consistency and directness. Patience is key. If he's worth waiting for, then I'd strongly suggest waiting for him to catch up to you. Once they let loose and allow themselves to love and be loved, it's beautiful!!

What Sun/Moon is your guy? This describes my Venus in Cap guy so well..

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Aqua sun, virgo moon, cap venus.

Very earthy aqua.

Posted by gengbenghiskhan
They will make a big formal production of telling you directly.

My Scorp sun/Cap Venus hub basically did an elaborate setup similar to how people propose.

He took me on an impromptu beach day trip at a small private beach, packed a picnic and wine glasses, set everything up on the beach just before sunset, and as the sun was setting, poured us each a glass of pink wine, and said the 3 words, with tears in his eyes.

Awwww....how romantic!!!
I guess that scorpio sun softens up the hard cap venus.

Posted by gengbenghiskhan
They will make a big formal production of telling you directly.

My Scorp sun/Cap Venus hub basically did an elaborate setup similar to how people propose.

He took me on an impromptu beach day trip at a small private beach, packed a picnic and wine glasses, set everything up on the beach just before sunset, and as the sun was setting, poured us each a glass of pink wine, and said the 3 words, with tears in his eyes.

Awwww....how romantic!!!
I guess that scorpio sun softens up the hard cap venus.

I'm kinda like that too.

Aqua sun / cap moon/venus/mercury

I do a lot of stuff for my hubby, always cleaning, washing, cooking good and healthy. Thats my way of showing love. He already told me to hug and kiss him more hehe of course I love to do that too but no1 sign of my love is taking care!

Just let him know that u r in for the real deal and he'll open up like u deserve it. Show him u r reliable no matter what.

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What she ^^ said.

My guy has cap in venus. They do show it through actions and sweetness. Not necessarily affection, but they will take care of you and your well being.

Cap venus takes relationships seriously, so perhaps this is why he got upset that you thought he was only after FWB. I don't know any cap venuses who do FWB. They are also a little insecure in relationships and have a strong need to know where they stand (although they are reluctant to tell you where you stand). Maybe this is why he also reacted that way when you backed off.

I found with mine, that when i did go out on a limb and told him things like I was getting attached to him, he wouldn't always respond in kind, but the actions sure where sweeter and he made it clear how he felt through those actions.

They are slow and cautious. It takes a LONG time to get anywhere, but they appreciate stability, consistency and directness. Patience is key. If he's worth waiting for, then I'd strongly suggest waiting for him to catch up to you. Once they let loose and allow themselves to love and be loved, it's beautiful!!

Thanks for your input! He has an aqua sun and so part of me is scared of letting him know how I really feel bc I'm afraid I might scare him off if he feels like it is too soon for him. He got divorced 2 years ago and so is a little weary about relationships plus the fear of commitment that aqua's can posses might get freaked out if I tell him how I feel sooner than he's ready for it. Am I right about this?

I've heard A LOT about the slow pace venus in cap like to move. But how slow is slow? We're at month 4... so how soon before we can move to the next level? Are we talking a couple more months, several months? A couple of years or SEVERAL years? Bc honestly, I don't have several years... I'm hoping to be married in the next 2-3 years max, lol

You're going to need more patience. My guy was very similar circumstance. Very leery. His ex really did a number on him financially, among other things.
You're only at month 4. You've got a long, long way to go.

I told him I loved him at month 8. He didn't say it back until we had been together 1 1/2 years. We've been together for 4 years and are just now getting married.
I decided a long time ago he was worth waiting for.

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Wow, I don't know if I have 4 years to wait... hmmm, but he might be worth it...

Posted by Foreverloveme
What everyone else has said so far is accurate.

Honestly the 2nd paragraph of your original post is the answer yo your question. That being said just relax you 2 are headed in the right direction.

I have cap venus and libra moon. I would say he should be ready for the next level between 6-12 months. I was ready around month 8, but I can tell within 3 months if the person has relationship potential. Your time frame for marriage is fine as well, his is probably similar. I'd be comfortable marrying someone after 2 years of dating.

As long as he's making time for you, asking questions, remembering things about you, you're fine. Š

Ok, great! This is a timeframe i could manage. This gives me hope 🙂

Having similar placements as him- should I keep doing what I've been doing? Or should I start being more verbal about how I feel about him- but in a light-hearted, casual way? or is this not necessary?

Eh I haven't been so lucky with Venus in Cap. To the point of avoiding them altogether but I refuse to generalize a group. There are other things at play.

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What she ^^ said.

My guy has cap in venus. They do show it through actions and sweetness. Not necessarily affection, but they will take care of you and your well being.

Cap venus takes relationships seriously, so perhaps this is why he got upset that you thought he was only after FWB. I don't know any cap venuses who do FWB. They are also a little insecure in relationships and have a strong need to know where they stand (although they are reluctant to tell you where you stand). Maybe this is why he also reacted that way when you backed off.

I found with mine, that when i did go out on a limb and told him things like I was getting attached to him, he wouldn't always respond in kind, but the actions sure where sweeter and he made it clear how he felt through those actions.

They are slow and cautious. It takes a LONG time to get anywhere, but they appreciate stability, consistency and directness. Patience is key. If he's worth waiting for, then I'd strongly suggest waiting for him to catch up to you. Once they let loose and allow themselves to love and be loved, it's beautiful!!

Thanks for your input! He has an aqua sun and so part of me is scared of letting him know how I really feel bc I'm afraid I might scare him off if he feels like it is too soon for him. He got divorced 2 years ago and so is a little weary about relationships plus the fear of commitment that aqua's can posses might get freaked out if I tell him how I feel sooner than he's ready for it. Am I right about this?

I've heard A LOT about the slow pace venus in cap like to move. But how slow is slow? We're at month 4... so how soon before we can move to the next level? Are we talking a couple more months, several months? A couple of years or SEVERAL years? Bc honestly, I don't have several years... I'm hoping to be married in the next 2-3 years max, lol

You're going to need more patience. My guy was very similar circumstance. Very leery. His ex really did a number on him financially, among other things.
You're only at month 4. You've got a long, long way to go.

I told him I loved him at month 8. He didn't say it back until we had been together 1 1/2 years. We've been together for 4 years and are just now getting married.
I decided a long time ago he was worth waiting for.

Wow, I don't know if I have 4 years to wait... hmmm, but he might be worth it...

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We also waited for our sons to both graduate high school. I think

I think he decided by the 2nd year, just from hints, but he wouldn't say anything until we could make it a done deal.

Posted by kissmygrits
Eh I haven't been so lucky with Venus in Cap. To the point of avoiding them altogether but I refuse to generalize a group. There are other things at play.

Aren't you a cancer? If so, I could see how a cap venus is too unemotional or not affectionate enough for a cancer. You guys are comfortable with your emotions and have no problem expressing them and yall like to be lovey dovey. Just saying I could see how it's not a good fit.

If you're not a cancer, then disregard.

It was like dating a mannequin.

Cancer with Venus in Gemini