Help me decipher this.....

This is all probably too soon to inquire about this, but I'm legit so confused.

I've been talking to this guy for the past two days through back and forth text messages. On the first day we had a really nice, casual conversation where we asked each other general questions so we can get to know each other better. We talked for 7 hours that first evening. The next morning, he texted me first and just asked about my day and stuff. I was somewhat busy at work, so I suggested we talk later and he seemed cool with that. We spoke later that evening and all was going well until he asked me to send him a photo. I sent him a photo, I took of myself from earlier that evening and he sent me a photo of him as well. Conversation continued as usual and we talked about a bunch of random stuff, but then he said "he's not looking for anything serious and he doubts I am too". I responded that I prefer to go with the flow and see where things go and that I don't have any set expectations from anything. He replied back saying that he feels the same way, then proceeded to ask for a "sexy, full body photo". I was a little surprised because prior to all of this he gave me the impression that he wanted to take things at a nice pace but here he was asking for a "sexy, full body photo". I told him that I won't be sending such photos and that I'm not interested in a fling or one-night stand type of relationship. He was like "who said anything about one night stands and he bets that my body is super sexy" or something along those lines. At this point, I felt like I was being talked to like a piece of meat and felt somewhat disrespected so I turned off my phone and went to bed.

This morning I checked my phone and didn't receive a reply back after my last message to him, so this morning I sent a quick message saying how I believe we want different things right now, I enjoyed meeting and talking to him, and that I wish him all the best. He hasn't replied back so far, but I also don't expect him to as the message was like a 'goodbye'.

Anyways, I just want to understand was he leading me on, so he could use me just for the sex? And, I'm wondering should I let him know how he made me feel if he does respond back later?

Forget to mention also, that prior to asking for my photo he mentioned that he was 'a little interested'. I do like this guy and I did enjoy our conversations, but I just cannot be rushed into things right now and he seems rather fast. Also, this just seems even more crazy to me because it's only been 2 DAYS! LOL

Posted by confusedgoose
Anyways, I just want to understand was he leading me on, so he could use me just for the sex? And, I'm wondering should I let him know how he made me feel if he does respond back later?

either he wanted the booty or he wanted fap material. either way, he's a waste of time. NEXT.



Okay, thank you. I had a feeling I was being used but was hoping that if I make it clear that I'm not interested in moving so fast, that he'd cool off a little and can continue to get to know each other more. He hasn't even taken the time to respond back to my last message to him, so I guess his intentions are very clear now. Thanks.

I really do think he's a nice guy. He seemed very attentive in our conversations and was surprisingly very polite which I liked.

But there's no hiding that he was probably chatting me up, hoping that I'd put out. He actually said "we should hang out, get drunk, and what happen, happens.". LOL I told him, I don't do that and he just replied "Ok".

I guess I should be thankful that he made his intentions very clear to me, right?

Posted by TwirlingStrawberry
if you were walking down the street and some random man made a cat call to you from across the street and you flipped him off.....

would you stop and tell him how that made you feel or would you keep it moving?

would you care how he felt about you flipping him off?

the guy is a douche. he's that guy that hits on women at the gas pump....when your hair is a mess, you have a stain on your shirt and you almost forgot to put your shoes on.....because it's getting late and you need a gallon of milk and to fill up your car for work the next morning.


Yeah, that's him. 😛

I'm pretty sure after standing around at the gas station all day he'll get at least one sucker to engage him so you he can bait you for "a little more".

Chop it up to an experience and move the hell on.

You owe him no explanation. He does not care about your feelings. He's already on to the next....I'm sure.

Hm, I didn't think of this like that. Great advice. Thank you.

I am curious though, should I ignore him if he does respond later today?

He's looking for casual sex. I'm so proud of you for standing up for yourself and saying no to the sexy pic and turning your phone off!

I had a guy I was just talking to request that one time and I didn't ever respond back. So sleazy!!

Posted by truecap
He's looking for casual sex. I'm so proud of you for standing up for yourself and saying no to the sexy pic and turning your phone off!

I had a guy I was just talking to request that one time and I didn't ever respond back. So sleazy!!

Thank you. I'm very traditional in that respect. Over the years, I've come to understand myself and I'm just not comfortable with new people in 2 days, forget having sex with them so soon. I just do not do that.

Btw, I browsed this sub-forum earlier this morning, and I've read that Capricorns are rather patient, so I wonder what was the rush with this Cappy?

Posted by truecap
He's looking for casual sex. I'm so proud of you for standing up for yourself and saying no to the sexy pic and turning your phone off!

I had a guy I was just talking to request that one time and I didn't ever respond back. So sleazy!!

Thank you. I'm very traditional in that respect. Over the years, I've come to understand myself and I'm just not comfortable with new people in 2 days, forget having sex with them so soon. I just do not do that.

Btw, I browsed this sub-forum earlier this morning, and I've read that Capricorns are rather patient, so I wonder what was the rush with this Cappy?

No, trust me. I have no intentions of messaging him again. I just wanted to end things more amicably. The message that I had sent last night was in regard to how we've only known each other for 2 days and that I don't feel comfortable sending 'sexy photos'. He never responded....go figure!

Anyways, I've been thinking about everything that has transpired the last 2 days and I feel somewhat manipulated by this guy. This is a weird feeling.

We are patient in achieving our goals.

Looks like his goal right here was for no strings sex with as little effort as possible. There are hundreds of other women who would gladly send him the sexy pic, get into a confusing relationship of FWB and end up giving him what he wants. He doesn't want to put out the effort to get a decent woman, so he's going to go for easy pickings. Thank your lucky stars you saw the signs and read the red flags!

If he were ready for something real, he would be more interested in getting to know you because you're the type of woman he will eventually settle down with. He just wants to play at this point in his life.

Posted by truecap
We are patient in achieving our goals.

Looks like his goal right here was for no strings sex with as little effort as possible. There are hundreds of other women who would gladly send him the sexy pic, get into a confusing relationship of FWB and end up giving him what he wants. He doesn't want to put out the effort to get a decent woman, so he's going to go for easy pickings. Thank your lucky stars you saw the signs and read the red flags!

If he were ready for something real, he would be more interested in getting to know you because you're the type of woman he will eventually settle down with. He just wants to play at this point in his life.

Well, good luck to whoever his next, innocent victim is.

Anyways, I've learned a lot while browsing this forum. This is such a fantastic place. I'm glad I came across it because I can now walk away and not look back.

Thank you everyone for all your messages!

Posted by truecap
He's looking for casual sex. I'm so proud of you for standing up for yourself and saying no to the sexy pic and turning your phone off!

I had a guy I was just talking to request that one time and I didn't ever respond back. So sleazy!!

Agreed ^^ good job for resisting and keeping your dignity and respect 🙂