Help me understand what Cap man is doing in this relationship

Posted by LadyNeptune

Don’t move a casual no strings attached fuck buddy into your home.

Like, are you at least charging him rent?

Posted by Capricorn91

Caps are like this. Not that affectionate on the surface but deeply care for you actually. Some don't even like hugs. But do know he cares for you and likes you. And yes we take a lot of time to develop strong feelings, 9 months is very less. But he is still spending practically all his time with you should tell you that there is something. So just have faith. And he doesn't want to bind you in commitment until his job is stable and he is back there with you. So just agree with it and play it cool.

Posted by zihuatcat

Posted by Capricorn91

Caps are like this. Not that affectionate on the surface but deeply care for you actually. Some don't even like hugs. But do know he cares for you and likes you. And yes we take a lot of time to develop strong feelings, 9 months is very less. But he is still spending practically all his time with you should tell you that there is something. So just have faith. And he doesn't want to bind you in commitment until his job is stable and he is back there with you. So just agree with it and play it cool.

Thanks for your input! It is my plan to go with the flow and see what happens while he's gone 6 months. The thing that concerns me though is the lack of affection. I would love to give things a serious go with him but I think that would wear on me after awhile. I know his lack of affection was a problem in his last 2 relationships so I'm not sure it's something that will ever get better with him. Any suggestions as to getting him to be comfortable with more affection?

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Posted by zihuatcat

First time posting here. I'm a Leo woman with a Cap man (Moon in Sag and Venus in Scorpio, if that helps). He's 10 years younger than me. We met online and agreed to have a casual relationship. The first 2 months all was fine. We met up a couple of times a week, no sleepovers, just flirty texts, etc. Then I went on vacation for a week with a girlfriend and he seemed to miss me a lot. He texted me every day and couldn't wait for me to get back (even though it was only a week). After that, he started sleeping over all the time and we went thru a 5-month period where he stayed with me 5 nights a week. He then got a job overseas where he will be working for 6 month increments then home for a month. During the transition to that job, he gave up his apartment because it didn't make sense to sign a new lease. He began living with me in between his training schedules for the new job. He's now been living with me for 2 months waiting to deploy (and will probably be here a couple more weeks). He has other options of places to live during this transition (parents, friends, etc).

Having spent this immense amount of time together with no conflicts, I have developed feelings for him. We have had several talks about our relationship. He does not want a serious relationship until he gets his career established and is back from overseas (probably 1-2 years). He wants me to continue dating during the time he's gone but says he wants to stay in communication and re-connect when he's on leave for the month. He's going to a country where he will likely not have much of a dating life himself so that's not the motivation. We have a daily sex life that's very exploratory and wonderful. He has met a couple of my close friends. He attended my work Christmas party with me (which is a big deal to me). While he is living with me, he does not go out and socialize with anyone other than his parents. If he goes out and does anything, he's always back to spend time with me. We have a routine. We're like an old married couple. Lol. On the flip side, I have not met any of his friends or family and he is super unaffectionate outside of sex. We kiss deeply before I leave for work every morning but there is no couch cuddling, spontaneous kisses, etc. Nothing that doesn't lead to sex. He also doesn't compliment me outside of sex and Valentine's Day was ignored. Yet he is always considerate, communicates, and listens.

I am listening to what he says (no relationship and you should date others) and paying attention to his actions (no affection, no meeting the friends/family) but I'm having a hard time understanding how someone could get this deep for 9 months with someone and not have any real feelings. Is it really possible a Cap guy can live like this and not develop feelings for someone?

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Posted by Capricorn91

Caps are like this. Not that affectionate on the surface but deeply care for you actually. Some don't even like hugs. But do know he cares for you and likes you. And yes we take a lot of time to develop strong feelings, 9 months is very less. But he is still spending practically all his time with you should tell you that there is something. So just have faith. And he doesn't want to bind you in commitment until his job is stable and he is back there with you. So just agree with it and play it cool.

Thanks for your input! It is my plan to go with the flow and see what happens while he's gone 6 months. The thing that concerns me though is the lack of affection. I would love to give things a serious go with him but I think that would wear on me after awhile. I know his lack of affection was a problem in his last 2 relationships so I'm not sure it's something that will ever get better with him. Any suggestions as to getting him to be comfortable with more affection?

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Posted by LadyNeptune

Don’t move a casual no strings attached fuck buddy into your home.

Like, are you at least charging him rent?

I didn't "move him in" to live. It's a temporary thing for a couple of months. He's leaving in a week or so.

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Posted by MoonshineLeo

Stay far far far away from Capricorn’s they don’t deserve that Leo love!