How are caps when dating?

This topic was created in the Capricorn forum by Alswope307 on Monday, October 8, 2018 and has 17 replies.
I am just wondering how capricorn males are when they start talking to someone. Whats their dating style and how to know if they are interested, losing interest or maybe just trying to take things slow.


I have been talking to one for 3 weeks, he was very talkative through text the first week and a half. We went on a dinner date, second date we slept together and the third as well. He has mentioned no expectations and he doesnt want anyone to get hurt. He is looking for something but has recently stopped communicating as much. He let me sleep over last week after I made him dinner and we hung out. which.... side note he was skeptical about having me come over to make him food because it felt like a girlfriend thing but he didnt want to be an ass and say that. He did appreciate the food and throughtfulness.


He's just hard to read. He goes quiet but is very all about me when i see him. Are capricorn men slow at getting to know someone, do they typically pull away. How should i proceed, id like to see him again this weekend. But i feel like maybe i should see if he asks me to get together instead?
They are the slowest sometimes, especially if they have been hurt in the past.


The whole you coming over his place is a big thing for them. Its one of the steps they hold back on when learning to trust you.


They will pull away a lot. Sometimes because of other dramas in their life that you have nothing to do with. And a rare time is when they have feelings for you that they are not sure of. But I will say for not he has other things to deal with.


You need to do you and have your own thing because there will be times they go missing. They like women with their own goals and independence. Because if you wait around for them you'll nag and they don't like that.


I've been dating (no commitment no relationship) a Cappy for a yr now but he's very broken from his past relationship. He's told me in the past he's not ready for a relationship but I see him making small efforts to change that. Either that or he can't help but have feelings for me and he's hiding them. Because Cappys are great at holding back.


My advice have tremendous patience with him.
Ugh..... you’ve been dating one but without a commitment for a year?! So you still see other people?

That’s such a long time. Lol if I’m into someone I want to start spending more time with them and talking... getting to know them.


I just hope he isn’t keeping me around for sex. Which has been fantastic. He’s just so quiet during the week until I see him.

Like I said... I asked him to come make dinner this last Friday, would it be too much if my Thursday I mentioned I’d like to see him again this weekend?

I’m not trying to make him feel pressured or scare him away. I’ve been keeping texting to a minimum bc he seems of been, as short. He’s just not into talking as much.

He did say he gets distant after sleeping with someone. Also brought it up this last time we were

Together... said he was sorry he did warn me he gets like that but made it a point to still text me.


He’s stated he doesn’t normally let girls sleep over, he has them leave right away but he enjoys me staying.

It’s just hard for me to trust men, their intentions and if their lying or not.

Whats you sun sign?


You kinda invaded his bubble and slept over. Hes distant because hes over thinking the whole thing. Like what it means, where is it going, is she the one.... they have this list in their heads and you have to check off 9 out of 10 for them to committ.


The whole spending alot of time together does not come easy with a Cappy. They love their alone time and space. When they want to settle down is when they will spend more time with you. But still not alot.



Don’t rush him into anything a date for instance. He will come to you if he is interested. Cappys tend to not stay in doing the whole fwb thing. If he wants just sex he wont initiate a date. Dont invite him to your place again, give him space. If he keeps invinting you to his place thats good for you. If he asks to visit your place after being a few times at his, it means he likes you.


Dont bring up the why you disapeared on me topic. It does nothing.


Also dont give more than him in the relationship or move fast. I did that and it bit me in the ass. Mine ghosted me for 3 months for that and another reason but he knows now to never do it again. And i changed alot, i put my emotions away and just gave as mich as he did.


In my case its been back and forth but since day 1 of sex he made me promise not to sleep with anyone else. He likes to drop the “i dont sleep with other women” once every few months. He is super possesive and jeolous. He tends to leave on long business trips so everytime he always jokes like “dont go getting it somewhere else while im gone” he cant committ to me fully just yet and i understand that. Buy my very inuitive cancer also knows he is sooo getting way into me now so its a matter of him being ready. You have to build trust, comfort, security with them and be practical.
Ughhhh haha so basically i shouldn't initiate another date. Let him come to me, i mean clearly that would help me realize if hes interested or not.

I mean the first time we slept together i had to leave bc i worked early but he had made the comment he didn't mind if i stayed he enjoyed having me. And when i went over this last week to cook for him he was the one who brought up that i could sleep over he just had to work at 11 so he would be up and rushing around slightly early. The night was great, both times we have drank though as well. The last time he had just bought a vape pen and we both tried that right before bed...ended up getting the giggles and then just passed out. lol


But like i said said i haven't heard much from him and hes a bit short when texting. So weird. Im not sure if its just bc hes wanting to keep distance from getting hurt or keeping his options open. Sleeping together before we even had he said once he sleeps with someone and he likes it he typically only sleeps with that one person consistently. So i'm hoping that wasn't a lie. I also feel like i rocked his world by doing some things he hadn't done before in bed... lmao but yeah. Just weird all around. I just hope he thinks i'm still interested if i'm not reaching out.


Girl, kudos to you for not being in a committed relationship. But clearly its like you guys "Are" just not with the title. That's reassuring for you of course...... i just want reassurance like hey, i'm interested lets see where it goes... i'm only sleeping with you right now.

We have already kind of had the talk about no expectations and that we were both interested. So i know i cant bring it up again......maybe in a few weeks if things are still going steady.


Thank you so much for your feedback by the way!!
Posted by starlord

Nothing about this makes it seem like he is really really interested in you though. Just sounds like he likes to hang out and eat and drink and have sex. As for getting emotionally involved that´s something completely else....
Its only 3 weeks ofcourse it will seem like that but only time will tell
Posted by Alswope307

Ughhhh haha so basically i shouldn't initiate another date. Let him come to me, i mean clearly that would help me realize if hes interested or not.

I mean the first time we slept together i had to leave bc i worked early but he had made the comment he didn't mind if i stayed he enjoyed having me. And when i went over this last week to cook for him he was the one who brought up that i could sleep over he just had to work at 11 so he would be up and rushing around slightly early. The night was great, both times we have drank though as well. The last time he had just bought a vape pen and we both tried that right before bed...ended up getting the giggles and then just passed out. lol


But like i said said i haven't heard much from him and hes a bit short when texting. So weird. Im not sure if its just bc hes wanting to keep distance from getting hurt or keeping his options open. Sleeping together before we even had he said once he sleeps with someone and he likes it he typically only sleeps with that one person consistently. So i'm hoping that wasn't a lie. I also feel like i rocked his world by doing some things he hadn't done before in bed... lmao but yeah. Just weird all around. I just hope he thinks i'm still interested if i'm not reaching out.


Girl, kudos to you for not being in a committed relationship. But clearly its like you guys "Are" just not with the title. That's reassuring for you of course...... i just want reassurance like hey, i'm interested lets see where it goes... i'm only sleeping with you right now.

We have already kind of had the talk about no expectations and that we were both interested. So i know i cant bring it up again......maybe in a few weeks if things are still going steady.


Thank you so much for your feedback by the way!!


Capps cant reasurre you for nothing. They are walls. Until you crack them they wont show anything. Once they care for you then you’ll see it but it wont be goey romance stuff. It will be like “how do you like this” “what do you want to watch” “you want me to help you with that” its weird they suddendly want to please you and interact with you more like texting. Thats how they show their soft side.


The short texts is because they are super practical and simple. He will probably respond to a 2 day old text with the simplest of things and not even mention why he didnt answer 2 days ago.


The older Caps dont do the sleeping around from person to person thing.


I once heard a joke to get to a Cap you get to him through his penis. So great sex is a plus. Food too.
Posted by Alswope307

Ughhhh haha so basically i shouldn't initiate another date. Let him come to me, i mean clearly that would help me realize if hes interested or not.

I mean the first time we slept together i had to leave bc i worked early but he had made the comment he didn't mind if i stayed he enjoyed having me. And when i went over this last week to cook for him he was the one who brought up that i could sleep over he just had to work at 11 so he would be up and rushing around slightly early. The night was great, both times we have drank though as well. The last time he had just bought a vape pen and we both tried that right before bed...ended up getting the giggles and then just passed out. lol


But like i said said i haven't heard much from him and hes a bit short when texting. So weird. Im not sure if its just bc hes wanting to keep distance from getting hurt or keeping his options open. Sleeping together before we even had he said once he sleeps with someone and he likes it he typically only sleeps with that one person consistently. So i'm hoping that wasn't a lie. I also feel like i rocked his world by doing some things he hadn't done before in bed... lmao but yeah. Just weird all around. I just hope he thinks i'm still interested if i'm not reaching out.


Girl, kudos to you for not being in a committed relationship. But clearly its like you guys "Are" just not with the title. That's reassuring for you of course...... i just want reassurance like hey, i'm interested lets see where it goes... i'm only sleeping with you right now.

We have already kind of had the talk about no expectations and that we were both interested. So i know i cant bring it up again......maybe in a few weeks if things are still going steady.


Thank you so much for your feedback by the way!!


Capps cant reasurre you for nothing. They are walls. Until you crack them they wont show anything. Once they care for you then you’ll see it but it wont be goey romance stuff. It will be like “how do you like this” “what do you want to watch” “you want me to help you with that” its weird they suddendly want to please you and interact with you more like texting. Thats how they show their soft side.


The short texts is because they are super practical and simple. He will probably respond to a 2 day old text with the simplest of things and not even mention why he didnt answer 2 days ago.


The older Caps dont do the sleeping around from person to person thing.


I once heard a joke to get to a Cap you get to him through his penis. So great sex is a plus. Food too.
He‘s not that into you 🌷 good luck with the next, you can do better
Posted by starlord

Posted by fullmoongirl

Posted by starlord

Nothing about this makes it seem like he is really really interested in you though. Just sounds like he likes to hang out and eat and drink and have sex. As for getting emotionally involved that´s something completely else....
Its only 3 weeks ofcourse it will seem like that but only time will tell
Ofcours but it seems like this is what she as asking about.


And I don´t mean to come off rude, but let´s say I am pessimistic, and you - to me - seem to be VERY optimistic. One year without commitment, and you talk about cracking the cap code and getting to a guy through his penis...
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Yea I haven't cracked any code, I am just talking from my experience theses are the dos and don'ts I went through. And yes I am very optimistic and patient. Sometimes some people need patient people who are not out there looking for a title to make themselves feel whole, at least for me.
Ahhh i remember when this was me lol


I second that he’s just not that into you. I moved on from mine and found someone amazing.

Don’t settle for this crap ladies you’re queens!!
So I’m horrible. I have a job where I have downtime and my mind just goes in circles when something is bothering me.

I know I said I wasn’t going to ask him to hang out this weekend bc I just did last time.

However advice.... should I or not?

Maybe he’d appreciate it.

I thought about waiting till Thursday, just sending out a short and cute text saying something like “ is it bad I’d like to see you again this weekend?”


Or maybe a bit more “ is it bad I’d like to see you again this weekend? I feel like we both expressed wanting to get to know each other more and we haven’t really done that much besides in the bedroom. Maybe go out this weekend, my place after?”


OR just be a bit more fun with it and say “come do something fun with me this weekend!”


If I do reach out... option 1, 2 or 3 would be better? Lol fml

He’s still short txting today its so Freaking annoying I want to just bring it all up now but I’m just trying to keep my composure and play it cool. 😒 I like to go off actions as well and his ass hardly reaching out makes me frustrated. He said he would always be upfront and honest... I mean at least he’s still reaching out, I would think he’d just straight up ignore me or let me know if he wasn’t.
Forward what? lol
I will stop stand for this Cap man slander!
No advice, just a comment huh? Disappointing....
Yeah i dont know what it is about them. Im still talking to this one but hes clearly backed off. Ive seen him once more and went to his house, our time was good and affectionate. We slept together and he told me i could stay the night so i did. Didnt hear one word from him the next day. At one point he said he is focused on work and has been as forward as possible and didnt want to lead me on. So at this point im taking it as we're fwb. Not really what im looking for but ill go along with it for now since i enjoy the company and sex is great.


I will say i made him cum in under 3 minutes and it caught us both off guard, he was extremely embarrassed so perhaps thats another reason i havent heard from him since Sunday night after staying over. We did a round two and he lasted longer but i could tell he was mortified about the first time. I was flattered and thought it was cute...a little funny but cute.
Sounds like he has an avoidant attachment style .

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