How to get back capricorn guy??! :(
This topic was created in the Capricorn forum by anna89 on Wednesday, January 16, 2013 and has 20 replies.
I am going to do anything to get back my capricorn ex, I love him soooo much. We started to know his september 2012 and we started to chat. From the first date he said he wanted to be with me forever. He sent me sms every day and called me and wanted to see me as much as possible... After a month he said maybe we should take things slowly to see what will happen in the future... but he still wanted to see me and when I asked him he said that he loved me... He went on a trip, on december and came back home in the end of december. When I contacted him he he said that he wants to see me but just as friends... I always contact him, call him text him.... he never does, but he always answer, sometimes cold sometimes very friendy... But he always repeat that we are just friends, what can I do to get him back?
Btw, I'm a scorpio girl.. 
I agree with Foxglove and have the same questions as R24.
Whatever you do, don't overdo it. I mean don't bug him by texting or calling him constantly. Then, it seems desperate for his attention and that's always a turn off. (hard not to do though, I know). I don't see anything wrong with saying, you seem different are you okay? But that's ALL I would say about any of it. However, I don't know what you've already said or how much you've contacted him. Possibly you've already contacted him too much. If you overdo it, you will send him further away.
I think he's being nice and honest by saying he wants to see you as a friend. Obviously, he doesn't want to hurt you. Like R24, I think something did happen on the trip. This might hurt your feelings, but I will be honest. Perhaps while he was gone, he didn't miss you and he realized he's not as into you as he first thought. ??? I don't know, but it did seem he was into you before. That's the only thing I can come up with.
If you must contact him, only do so once every TWO weeks. Wait and see if he starts missing you or starts thinking about you. If he does, he will contact you. If he doesn't, you will have your answer so keep your dignity and move on. Whatever happens, handle it with class and he will have good memories of you. You don't want to be the crazy girl he remembers.
Whatever you do, don't overdo it. I mean don't bug him by texting or calling him constantly. Then, it seems desperate for his attention and that's always a turn off. (hard not to do though, I know). I don't see anything wrong with saying, you seem different are you okay? But that's ALL I would say about any of it. However, I don't know what you've already said or how much you've contacted him. Possibly you've already contacted him too much. If you overdo it, you will send him further away.
I think he's being nice and honest by saying he wants to see you as a friend. Obviously, he doesn't want to hurt you. Like R24, I think something did happen on the trip. This might hurt your feelings, but I will be honest. Perhaps while he was gone, he didn't miss you and he realized he's not as into you as he first thought. ??? I don't know, but it did seem he was into you before. That's the only thing I can come up with.
If you must contact him, only do so once every TWO weeks. Wait and see if he starts missing you or starts thinking about you. If he does, he will contact you. If he doesn't, you will have your answer so keep your dignity and move on. Whatever happens, handle it with class and he will have good memories of you. You don't want to be the crazy girl he remembers.
I'm with a cap now and am no expert, but I can say they move pretty slow and I usually move pretty fast, but the pace your relationship moved would have scared me. I don't know his or your past but perhaps he just got out of relationship and it scared him because this relationship moved so fast. I agree with everyone else don't come off clingy, if he cares he'll reach out, caps can be cold but if they really care you'll know because they will reach out especially when you allow them their space to think things over, they require that, it's a pain but that's what they need and if you can do it great because they really are warm people you just gotta get past all this cold distant stuff. You can't move as fast as you're trying to though, it scare them, patience is a virtue with this sign. It pays off, if you can handle it though
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Have some dignity! If he doesn't want you, why would you want him? Don't beg.
Thank you for all your comments!!
Anna I say this with love...DO NOT BE DESPERATE...desperation reek with a sour stench and will repel a Capricorn.
" From the first date he said he wanted to be with me forever."
And you believe that shit? Don't be weak minded. Caps gravitate towards intelligent type women. Only an desperate female would believe that lie.
Cap males are infamous for chasing a woman as if he has a whole army behind him, once she's caught, he's through, he's backsliding into "let's be friends."
" But he always repeat that we are just friends, what can I do to get him back?"
You get him back by doing absolutely NOTHING, let him go, you have to create an air of apathy as in I want you but I don't need you so go.
You have to regain a significant amount of power and the only way to do that is to let him go. You lost control over him by falling in love and he lost interest. You are not the only one whose fallen for it, many women on DXP have fallen into that trap.
"Im really confused what should I do? I really love him and Im willing do anything to be with him.. do you think he has feelings for me or he likes me like just friends"
Girl you are going to get dragged to the ground with that desperate nonsense. He is toying with you, controlling you and you're turning into an unattractive hot mess.
Stop helping him, stop initiating anything with him and he'll be back on your ass like hot sticky rice but you gotta chill with the desperation mess.
" From the first date he said he wanted to be with me forever."
And you believe that shit? Don't be weak minded. Caps gravitate towards intelligent type women. Only an desperate female would believe that lie.
Cap males are infamous for chasing a woman as if he has a whole army behind him, once she's caught, he's through, he's backsliding into "let's be friends."
" But he always repeat that we are just friends, what can I do to get him back?"
You get him back by doing absolutely NOTHING, let him go, you have to create an air of apathy as in I want you but I don't need you so go.
You have to regain a significant amount of power and the only way to do that is to let him go. You lost control over him by falling in love and he lost interest. You are not the only one whose fallen for it, many women on DXP have fallen into that trap.
"Im really confused what should I do? I really love him and Im willing do anything to be with him.. do you think he has feelings for me or he likes me like just friends"
Girl you are going to get dragged to the ground with that desperate nonsense. He is toying with you, controlling you and you're turning into an unattractive hot mess.
Stop helping him, stop initiating anything with him and he'll be back on your ass like hot sticky rice but you gotta chill with the desperation mess.
rewrite...you lost control over your interaction with him
Can you please give me some of his character traits. All Caps are different. Describe his personality.
tiki33: thank you for your advices, ye I will not initiate any contact now
SureShotCap: my cap likes to work out at the gym, he works a lot.. These last months he worked mon to fri 9 to 21... He wants to keep his home clean and tidy..takes a shower every day.. He said he want me to wear make up.... I have never seen him getting angry and shout..he sais he gets quiet when hes sad or angry.. Its always me who gets angry lol
in the beginning he said to me he dont want to know anything about my pas or previous bf..he dont want to know if i had bfs before knowing him..... When I do something he dont like he stops being nice and makes joke of me until i get sad lol.... He sings and i love his voice
SureShotCap: my cap likes to work out at the gym, he works a lot.. These last months he worked mon to fri 9 to 21... He wants to keep his home clean and tidy..takes a shower every day.. He said he want me to wear make up.... I have never seen him getting angry and shout..he sais he gets quiet when hes sad or angry.. Its always me who gets angry lol
in the beginning he said to me he dont want to know anything about my pas or previous bf..he dont want to know if i had bfs before knowing him..... When I do something he dont like he stops being nice and makes joke of me until i get sad lol.... He sings and i love his voice What part of "we are friends only" do you not understand??? I don't mean it rudely, but, geesh!
He likes you enough to be friends and you won't accept it. You want more and are pressuring him. You are probably driving him crazy with the constant calls and texts. That gets old fast!! Eventually, probably sooner than later, he will tire of your desperation and will not contact you at all and go to great lengths to avoid you.
This is said with love and hopefully you will be a little smarter and stronger for the next relationship.
He likes you enough to be friends and you won't accept it. You want more and are pressuring him. You are probably driving him crazy with the constant calls and texts. That gets old fast!! Eventually, probably sooner than later, he will tire of your desperation and will not contact you at all and go to great lengths to avoid you.
This is said with love and hopefully you will be a little smarter and stronger for the next relationship.
A man who is genuinely in love with you will show you how he feels along with all those pretty words we women tend to focus on first, last and most. He may have said all the right things but his actions contradict therefore the words mean nothing. Focus on you and allow him the space and time to figure out on his own if he really wants something real with you. If and when he does you will now because he'll do everything in his power to show you what you mean to him. Best of luck.
truecap and ellessque: so you say there is no hope? 
Pidelight: ye I will try to give him time..
Today I found out something and Im really sad in january he made a new fb.and closed his old one... He told me his new fb was for his family and didnt add me.... But some ours ago I saw he has added some of his friends too I dont know what to do... Should I say something to him?
Pidelight: ye I will try to give him time..
Today I found out something and Im really sad
in january he made a new fb.and closed his old one... He told me his new fb was for his family and didnt add me.... But some ours ago I saw he has added some of his friends too I dont know what to do... Should I say something to him? I'm not saying there is no hope. Caps like a "friends first" routine usually. Anything else would be a long time coming, if ever. If you're capable of being just friends with him then do so. BUT, you're going to be hurt if he starts dating someone else and talks about her around you.
As far as the facebook. Don't say anything. Don't send him a friends request. He probably only wants family and close friends on it. One, he doesn't want a lot of people to have access to his status and pictures. Two, he may not want you to know what he's up to - like if he posts a pic with him and a girl. He knows it will hurt you. So, leave the facebook subject alone.
As far as the facebook. Don't say anything. Don't send him a friends request. He probably only wants family and close friends on it. One, he doesn't want a lot of people to have access to his status and pictures. Two, he may not want you to know what he's up to - like if he posts a pic with him and a girl. He knows it will hurt you. So, leave the facebook subject alone.
My advice - if you can handle friends, be friends. If it hurts you, then don't. But definitely quit thinking about him and go out and find someone else.
Posted by truecap
My advice - if you can handle friends, be friends. If it hurts you, then don't. But definitely quit thinking about him and go out and find someone else.
+1
Thank you for all your advices!!! I tried to contact him a lot less than before... In two and a half week I called him two times and sms him two times and he didnt wait to answer these times even he was at work...and he sent me sms one time after one week asking how are you and stuff like that.... But when I called him he was really friendly and asked about my studies and about my parents and told me he has changed his work...he also asked if Im going to travel this summer and when if I will travel, when Im coming back... Both times he said to me say hi to your mother and he said thank you for calling and take care of yourself alot...when talking he used words like baby sweetheart....
What do you think about his behaviour? When we talk he is really nice and it feels so good, Im sure Im in love with him...but I dont show it anymore.. It feels like he will not miss me because he doesnt contact me....
Someone said to me I should meet him and tell him that I love him and ask him where I stand in his life...and if he sais we are just friends I should say to him I cant be just friends with someone who I loved.. And then dont talk with him anymore and dont even enswer him if he wants to contact me... Then if he likes me he will confess it and if he doesnt care then I will know.. Do you think this is a good idea? Does this work on capricorns?
And facebook... I didnt want to mention it but I couldnt stop myself... I told him I was sad about something and he asked what? Then I said: you have added everyone in facebook but not me!! The he said: awww.. I cant find you,can you add me? And I added him and he accepted after a second... In the facebook settings I have choosed only my friends can find me in the search.
I have another question... If I share feeling with him like saying to him that Im sad or Im feeling bad about something and I want to talk about that with him, how will a capricorn man react? Two monthes ago I was stressed about my studies and I was getting depressed..and then I called him and talked about it with him and he said I should take a break and dont study for a while and do something else..after that every time we talked he asked about it... An another time when I had a bad dream I woke up 4 in the morning and texted him if I could talk with him... He got awake from the sms and sent me asms call me..and I called him and he talked with me so I became calm and slept again... Should I do things like this or will he think Im clingy?
What do you think about his behaviour? When we talk he is really nice and it feels so good, Im sure Im in love with him...but I dont show it anymore.. It feels like he will not miss me because he doesnt contact me....
Someone said to me I should meet him and tell him that I love him and ask him where I stand in his life...and if he sais we are just friends I should say to him I cant be just friends with someone who I loved.. And then dont talk with him anymore and dont even enswer him if he wants to contact me... Then if he likes me he will confess it and if he doesnt care then I will know.. Do you think this is a good idea? Does this work on capricorns?
And facebook... I didnt want to mention it but I couldnt stop myself... I told him I was sad about something and he asked what? Then I said: you have added everyone in facebook but not me!! The he said: awww.. I cant find you,can you add me? And I added him and he accepted after a second... In the facebook settings I have choosed only my friends can find me in the search.
I have another question... If I share feeling with him like saying to him that Im sad or Im feeling bad about something and I want to talk about that with him, how will a capricorn man react? Two monthes ago I was stressed about my studies and I was getting depressed..and then I called him and talked about it with him and he said I should take a break and dont study for a while and do something else..after that every time we talked he asked about it... An another time when I had a bad dream I woke up 4 in the morning and texted him if I could talk with him... He got awake from the sms and sent me asms call me..and I called him and he talked with me so I became calm and slept again... Should I do things like this or will he think Im clingy?
I think if he were into you, he would be calling or texting you a LOT.
Posted by truecap
I think if he were into you, he would be calling or texting you a LOT.
Yes exactly I think he is not into me...
because when I like someone I can not stop getting worried when I dont hear from them, and then I cony... But Im a scorpio, I dont know how capricorns are....Something else I forgot to say...some months ago when Me, him, his friend and my friend where at his place, he told them in front of me that Im normal and text him everyday but suddenly I get strange and dont text... Both my friend and his friend said to him: you can start to text her sometimes...but he didnt answer them and became upset..
Sorry for my bad english..
Ugh I understand how you feel, why are they so complicated?!
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