I'm a Aries sun Scorpio moon so I get very clingy. Me & my cap bf live together. I can tell he needs space but how do I do that? I'm like a stage 5 clinger. We live together btw.
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Feb 08, 2015Comments: 88 · Posts: 2780 · Topics: 55
Maybe ask him what his expectations are. If I give space I let them know that I'll give them time while I'll go after my own stuff and that they should hit me up anytime they feel like. Works
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Jan 25, 2012Comments: 8 · Posts: 20090 · Topics: 685
Let him do some things without you if he wants. Poker night with the boys, gym time, shopping alone, watching TV in another room, staying home while you go shopping, etc. Don't insist that you do everything together. It's exhausting having people around 24/7 and caps need a break every so often. I need time alone to reboot, recharge and well, just to be plain ole lazy sometimes.
Ugh he's so confusing I asked him about his thoughts & he said he didn't need any space even when I insisted it wasn't that kind of space & it is totally healthy. True cap you're right we can't do everything together. He does work 8 hours a day everyday so maybe he thinks that's our space apart.
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Jan 25, 2012Comments: 8 · Posts: 20090 · Topics: 685
Well, I wouldn't worry about it. Seems like he wants to spend time with you. I think it'll be obvious when he needs space. He'll just say "I"m going to town, want anything?" and not invite you along or if you're watching TV in one room and he turns on football in another, he's not doing it to leave you out and it's not because he's mad at you.
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Jan 25, 2012Comments: 8 · Posts: 20090 · Topics: 685
You say you can tell he needs space. What makes you think that?
He's just been stressed out with a lot lately.. & I know I can be very demanding. I'm clingy.