How to handle this Capricorn man...

Hey (Sorry, this is a bit long, but I really need some advice), been going through the site for a while now and decided that it's time I ask for help with my Cappy (I'm a Virgo ) :-)

We met through our circle of friends in around November 2012, and 2 months ago we started hanging out together (alone), coffee, drinks, and then more recently it became physical (and let's just say nobody has ever done to me what this man does to me and he says that the feeling is mutual, lol)... We have both had horrible experiences in the 'dating / relationship' world, so think that we are both insecure and nervous. To cut a long story short, I sent him a text a few days ago and told him that I like him and that I really enjoy his company and that he is a super guy. However, I am not the type of lady to just share physical things with just any guy and that I definitely feel a connection between us and really do trust him, but if he doesn't feel the same that he should please tell me and we can take it one step back to being just (strictly) friends (I also told him that I am not a green eyed monster who is going to turn psycho b*tch on him if he is honest with me, which I really and truly won't). This was his response:-

"lol, I do understand and the thing is obviously I enjoy just being around you and having a good time and good healthy conversations :-) I am unable to commit now, but it doesn't mean that I won't be ready if sometime in the future there is something serious. I am just saying that at this moment in time I won't be able to commit and that is not because of feelings. I don't feel like I am in the right space that I need to be to provide someone with all that I have. I know that I am keeping back and I am not always one to just open up, but that's a patience thing with me. At the same time I also don't want to hurt you or over complicate things because you are awesome and I like what we have, the conversations, the coffee's, the chilling and 'stuff'. I also want to continue with the coffees and the chilling etc. but you need to tell me if there are danger signs or if things become too complicated..." (Then I proceed to say —See, you were totally honest with me and I really respect you and thank you for that. It's not that bad huh and I didn't turn into a green eyed monster, lol" Then he said "No it wasn't, lol :-)").

Anyhoooo, after this much needed chat between the two of us, we still speak on a daily basis and nothing has changed, we just

seem to be able to not feel awkward after 'deep' emotional type discussions or even after being intimate, it sort of feels like it just comes naturally between the two of us - he does hide his emotions quite well, but I think by now he knows, that I know, when he does it, so slowly but surely he exposes more of himself every time we see one another — I mean 6 months ago I thought he was arrogant and I thought, that he thought, that he was too good to speak to me by the way he would just ignore me or brush me off in conversation.

He is a work-a-holic I tell you, and I understand that he cannot commit now, am I crazy for wanting to stick it out and to show him that just because you are in a relationship, it does not mean that your life has to come to a standstill? That you are able to date someone who encourages you to achieve your goals, someone who will stand by you through thick and thin and someone who doesn't demand all your time and energy (I am a very career orientated woman too, I head up a company, so it demands quite a lot of my time as well, so know what it feels like to be with someone who doesn't understand how your job is your priority). I really feel that he is worth the time and the effort that it is going to take to prove to him that an 'us' may just actually work, in time obviously. How do I deal with this, do I just keep doing what I am doing, chat to him like I always do, support him when he is working terribly long hours and studying, what else can I do to show him that he can trust me and that I won't hurt him?

E.g. The other day I had an 'anonymous' gift delivered to his work (he loves coffee). I sent him a coffee plunger and some really classy daily obsession medium roast coffee and wrote a little note, which I hoped would hint to him who the gift was from. My driver called me to say that he had delivered the gift (and my driver said that he read the note and it looked like his smile travelled through his entire body) and 2min later I got a message to say thanks for the gift and that he absolutely loved it! :-) (Obviously I won't do this often, but perhaps every now and again, something nice to show him that I listen to what he says and take note of what he enjoys and doesn't enjoy?) I also, every now and again, send a cute message like "Just wanted to send you a kiss on the cheek to ensure that you have an awesome day..." - Is this too much? lol

Anyway, thanks for totally reading my essay... lol — To the experienced

Cappy's and others who have dealt with them, your input is greatly appreciated :-) Thanks a million xox

Thank you Metoo :-) I appreciate your response x

He sounds very interested. Just go with the flow. If he calls, makes a point of seeing you -- it's all good 🙂

damn
she gave you good advice

Isn't it true James? Can you shed some light on the enigmatic Cap male?

I SHOULD TELL HER TO FIND SOMEONE ELSE WE AREN'T WORTH THE EFFORT

Thanks aquapiscescusp :-) lol, James & WoundedLeo, thanks, I have taken a bit of a step back, will just let things happen the way that they should, if he puts in any effort I will know where I stand, if he doesn't - oh well, there is pretty much nothing I can do about it... Men speak through their actions and not words right? :-) Have a lovely day x