true and what if he is only doing it in order to manipulate you into taking the kids (yours and his if you have any) away from you ,so he could get custody

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was with him for 2 years

how could i have known him

if he had double standards

said one thing one moment and another

at another moment

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i just wanted to know from his side how he would be re acting and feeling

just a general question from a sag to a cap

doesnt really matter what i say

as there are two sides to every story

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he has double standards

so thats why i ask

one moment he tells me he cares

the next he curses me and says ill be alone forever

sometimes he texts me and asks why am i still awake i must go sleep

and sometimes he tells me i should take him with to where i travel

and later he shouts me and says i must go live my life

i feel confused

does this man have mental issues

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thats one of the facts..

i think he is manipulating me in order to get hold of his kid

he broke his words in the past

so i dont trust him now

he could be playing the same old game

like trying to make me think im the wrong one

so my soft sag heart can give in as i would if i was still naive

but not anymore

trying to be nice with me

just so i could think o wow if i share my kid with him 6 months ..6 months

he will take me back

but i know these things cant be forced

if he wanted me back he would simply take me back...logic

i have made it clear to him that i want him back he said no

i initiated the divorce

we human we faulter

but we fix too

so i got his no

and moved on

but why is he still double standard

wana snach my kid away from me?

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i login i read ..i think like what the hell is this man going on about and why? why is he even caring to see if i am online and asking why am i awake???

i reply i say because i cant sleep

then his like ok

and some months later

same text why you awake so late go sleep

if he shouts and insults like he said ill be alone

i just keep quiet logoff

until the next curse

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ya but my situation is way different i never cheated on this man i just asked him to change and he said he cant he is how he is

so i asked divorce

i thought he dont love me coz isnt when somebody loves you they will compromise ?

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hey sweety thanks for taking time to even indulge in my issue

your super sweet

well its been 4 years since we have been divorced

i have recently blocked him off social media

(thats where he usually checked if im online)

once a sag loves they never stop

but not the bollywood kind where id become his slave for love

not the hollywood kind where id fuck around with him and join his mental drives

more like the realistic love if i cant have him then ill need to ler him go

i ask these questions because i wouldnt be texting him asking him why he is online

i wouldnt be saying take me with (to where he is travelling)

aside from that he pays child support

as a sag i told him he doesnt have to

he may go live in peace

he insisted and well pays it anyway

he sometimes buys me lunch when he buys for our kid

like he has it delivered to my place

he once invited me out to have lunch with our kid together

i said i couldnt make it

he once sent me a cheque with a huge amount of money

but i cant help think hes doing all of this just for me to send our kid his way so he could later not bring her back

hes in another country

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What is the story with this? Please don't skip the details.

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yes cold and quiet

but not all caps are like that

so i got confused

and that time i didnt even know astrology existed

so i thought hes cold coz he hates me?

or i just wasnt good enough to be sweet to?

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read all my comments as the story is a long story

and i prefer to answer you when u ask something specific so you could give me an answer on that and help me understand this man

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So let me get this straight; 1) You wanted him to change something about who he is as a person, he declined 2) You asked for divorce, 3) You believe he is trying to manipulate you to get custody, 4) You come on here trying to figure out if he still loves you.

Does that sum it up accurately? If so, then I suggest a very, very long hard look in the mirror. That's where you are most likely to find the source of any manipulation going on here (based on your version of events).

As for him loving you; the answer is yes- he married you. We don't take the issue of love lightly, so if he said it and acted on it- he definitely meant it. But again, the more important question seems to be did you ever love him? Because you probably liked the fact that he accepted you for who you are but, according to you, you couldn't reciprocate on that- cause you asked him to change and asked for a divorce when you didn't get your way. Sounds like your love for him was rather conditional.

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1) You wanted him to change something about who he is as a person, he declined 2) You asked f, 4) You come on here trying to figure out if he still loves you.

yes but not in the way i seem to be putting it out there

more like i just have this curiousity

and another reason is i want to know how i should treat him based on how he feels towards me

another reason is i want to know if he is manipulating me so that i could be careful in the decisions i make for our kid when it concerns him

i loved him and always will

but im a sag i compromised alot

i never nagged

i never asked for any material things

i asked for love he said love takes time

but what if i died a day later

not have been loved

why would i waste my time with somebody who is unrealistic

who said id have the time to get his love back someday?

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i asked divorce because i compromised alot i changed alot for him so i was simply expecting the same in return ...and when he refused to change ..well we came to an end.

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You are a mutable sign. It's in your nature to adapt and change. He is Cardinal. He will most likely never change unless he feels the need. If he knew that you changing would make you later resent him or ask him to reciprocate he would have never shown interest. I'll guess somehow he got the impression that you were okay bending how you did. Normally we don't look to change people, and definitely don't look for people that like to change us. We try not to enter these types of situations.

I read nothing of where he has interest in manipulating you for the kids. You are his ex wife and the mother of his children, not some stranger on the streets. What's the harm in inviting you to lunch or making sure you eat too. Just decline if you feel he may get the wrong idea, but I don't see manipulation in that.

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I'll be honest with you and say, according to what you've posted here, you have a personality or way about you that would clash with a Cap. You'll bend, change, beat around the bush on your real issues, and play victim...then pull the rug from underneath a person when you don't get what you want. Seems VERY passive aggressive and controlling.

I think he lashes out verbally because he may actually feel manipulated. Again, decline his offers, and just move on. Don't wonder or worry, just move forward.

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the ability to let go and start anew with an open and pure heart is extremely understated

i think it actually determines how happy a person can be in life

it's unfortunate that many equate the lack of this ability as being loyal. wasting your precious time, heart and damaging your spirit by staying in the past is not loyal to yourself. if you fail yourself, how can you not fail others

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ok thanks

i did say i have already moved on i blocked him

so even if he tried or is trying to play mind games so that he can benefit by taking my kid it wont work hes blocked

in our relationship he wanted me to do everything his way how i talked how i dressed

i changed for him

i feel its unfair to say its fine for me to change coz im a sag and not for him coz hes a cap

totally unfair we all human

marriage is about compromise

i know other caps

similar story

they just want things their way if you not that

then u not worthy

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I don't think it's fair either, but it is what it is. Still, not to dismiss his actions. I just maybe think you made yourself so willing to compromise it gave him the wrong idea, and made him more controlling. To say he wanted to change you, when it comes to us...we dont view someone wanting to change us as love. Double standard there, yes. I think this is a reason why we will stop contacting people or disappear because once we see something that we'd want to change about them, we then know relationship won't work. Unfortunately the two of you kept pressing forward. Caps do usually want things their way...it's why many are single.

I think your kids (s) will be fine and you shouldn't have to worry. He volunteered child support and unless they come to him complaining about you, I don't see why he'd want to take them.

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you are right

after finding out about astrology i realised it is what it is

but he still gets emotional sometimes with me

the shouting

the crying

the blaming

the judging

complaining

because of this i have cut him off

as it is clearly unhealthy

he is free to visit his kids in my country

but there is no way am sending

them overseas

because he says i should

as a sag i wont allow this unfairness where he wana be in control no

he has to meet me half way

he has to meet any woman half way anyway.

Calm before the storm

@Aquistorm

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What does he do for a living and where does he go that is "in another country"? Is he from that said country?

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Posted by Aquistorm
What does he do for a living and where does he go that is "in another country"? Is he from that said country?

he works there...he is born from the said country

i am now with an aquarian man

ur questions are the exact questions my aquarian has asked already ..

Calm before the storm

@Aquistorm

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Posted by yellowsaggitarius
Posted by Aquistorm
What does he do for a living and where does he go that is "in another country"? Is he from that said country?
he works there...he is born from the said country

i am now with an aquarian man

ur questions are the exact questions my aquarian has asked already ..
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What country is it?

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sorry wont tell due to privacy reasons.

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i don't get the point of why you need to know whether he still loves or is manipulating you to get you to allow the kid to visit him in his country

if there is 0.1% of chance that he can hold the kid hostage in another country, it's your duty as a mother to protect your kid to never let that happen. he loves your or just pretending is irrelevant. shut it down. end of story

Calm before the storm

@Aquistorm

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This whole situation makes me go hmmm. She is only telling the story in bits and pieces.

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Posted by lnana04
I'll be honest with you and say, according to what you've posted here, you have a personality or way about you that would clash with a Cap. You'll bend, change, beat around the bush on your real issues, and play victim...then pull the rug from underneath a person when you don't get what you want. Seems VERY passive aggressive and controlling.

I think he lashes out verbally because he may actually feel manipulated. Again, decline his offers, and just move on. Don't wonder or worry, just move forward.

its amazing how i dont know any of urll

but some of urll replies are similar to his

thanks for urll honest opinions it makes me feel better that all this issues between me and him is a cap sag issue and not something to do with revenge or mental illness.

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Posted by Aquistorm
This whole situation makes me go hmmm. She is only telling the story in bits and pieces.

Yeah, where the heck does the Aqua she's dating come from?

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Posted by Aquistorm
This whole situation makes me go hmmm. She is only telling the story in bits and pieces.

omw oooo myyy worrrd you sound like my aquarian man

exact same way of talking

astrology is now scaring me

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Posted by lnana04
Posted by Aquistorm
This whole situation makes me go hmmm. She is only telling the story in bits and pieces.
Yeah, where the heck does the Aqua she's dating come from?

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lol far faaar away from the usa...

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o ok thanks alot harukka for that fact

i was definitely lost before i posted this

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Posted by iCloud9
the ability to let go and start anew with an open and pure heart is extremely understated

i think it actually determines how happy a person can be in life

it's unfortunate that many equate the lack of this ability as being loyal. wasting your precious time, heart and damaging your spirit by staying in the past is not loyal to yourself. if you fail yourself, how can you not fail others

you know what i like about you inana your blunt honesty

something us sags value

and i think this is where me as a sag and u as a cap has come to an understanding

my ex just isnt so understanding and he doesnt explain anything

hes just cold demanding controlling

i dont even know you but u there explaining to me my issues aswell as urs and we came to an understanding as simple as that

something me and my ex never reached for 8 years

but now since after this post if ever i meet or talk to him again i will chat to him with total respect and in a way a cap would want to talk

thanks alot for the inspiration.

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Posted by lnana04
You are a mutable sign. It's in your nature to adapt and change. He is Cardinal. He will most likely never change unless he feels the need. If he knew that you changing would make you later resent him or ask him to reciprocate he would have never shown interest. I'll guess somehow he got the impression that you were okay bending how you did. Normally we don't look to change people, and definitely don't look for people that like to change us. We try not to enter these types of situations.

I read nothing of where he has interest in manipulating you for the kids. You are his ex wife and the mother of his children, not some stranger on the streets. What's the harm in inviting you to lunch or making sure you eat too. Just decline if you feel he may get the wrong idea, but I don't see manipulation in that.

i qoated wrong

but my last message in the thread was meant for you.

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Zodiac signs don't label you as a different species. Talk to him like a human being rather then talk to him for his sign. As the kid situation, Some point the kid is gonna want to learn about his heritage, best way to learn is to experience it first hand.

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Wtf did I just read?

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Posted by Solesan
Zodiac signs don't label you as a different species. Talk to him like a human being rather then talk to him for his sign. As the kid situation, Some point the kid is gonna want to learn about his heritage, best way to learn is to experience it first hand.

tried talking to him like a woman like a human

didnt work

only way now seems d cap way

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Posted by Vulcansfire
Wtf did I just read?

its a cap sag phase

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Posted by magikarp
capricorn are the father of zodiac.so the main reason he still care about you is purely for the children. no lies no games.

again double standards here

if you say father it means somebody who is there no matter what guiding you

or just a father biologically

this cap chose to be himself instead of changing simple things to remain in his kids lives

he chose freedom over responsibility

so i disagree

maybe he is the father of himself

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Posted by yellowsaggitarius
the signs

the actions

the words

His face should look like this when he looks into your eyes....

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Posted by Kodak
Posted by yellowsaggitarius
the signs

the actions

the words

His face should look like this when he looks into your eyes....

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damn thats a weird looking dude couldnt u get a pic froma more interesting looking fella he use to look at me like that

now hes always angry

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Posted by magikarp
Posted by yellowsaggitarius
Posted by magikarp
capricorn are the father of zodiac.so the main reason he still care about you is purely for the children. no lies no games.
again double standards here

if you say father it means somebody who is there no matter what guiding you

or just a father biologically

this cap chose to be himself instead of changing simple things to remain in his kids lives

he chose freedom over responsibility

so i disagree

maybe he is the father of himself
freedom from you. not from his children.
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exactly his words

well because of his choice he landed in a situatian where he has freedom from his kids too coz his far

its what i tried telling him too

thats why he said i must send them to him

in his dreams

i can also turn cap for a moment as i did

i blocked him and now i have freedom from him and not from my kids.they with me.

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situation*

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Posted by yellowsaggitarius
Posted by magikarp
capricorn are the father of zodiac.so the main reason he still care about you is purely for the children. no lies no games.
again double standards here

if you say father it means somebody who is there no matter what guiding you

or just a father biologically

this cap chose to be himself instead of changing simple things to remain in his kids lives

he chose freedom over responsibility

so i disagree

maybe he is the father of himself
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As a Sagittarius myself I can't believe you can be this stupid. Sagittarius are about freedom. He accepted you as you are but you can't handle the fact that he is being himself. It shouldn't deter him from seeing his kid. You're only creating baby momma drama.

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You are using your kids to make him suffer. Why?

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You are so afraid of him being manipulative and taking the kids from you, but you are setting the situation up by using them to get back at him.

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damn u typical cap

sorry u sound so like him its amazing

ive blocked him and chose to have the ball in my hand only because im afraid he will take advantage

his overseas if he was here he could come see them or pick them up for visits as he usually did

and take away my kids thats alll

seriously am not using the kids to get him

i know it looks like that but am not

another thingis when he use to be a here he use to say ill pick them upjusy for 2 days then he only brought them back after a week

like i like he keeps saying this and changes it later

as a sag i hate this

we can have peace just keep your word

dont play with me just to benefit yourself

lets be civilised adults

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