I Know . . . . .
This topic was created in the Capricorn forum by shaiessence on Monday, February 20, 2006 and has 13 replies.
I know that I've been back and forth with my feelings with the Cap ex (if y'all haven't noticed) but I finally gave up caring about anything with him. Last night we had another heated argument which resulted in him hanging up in my face and I said forget it. I don't want to be treated this way. I don't want to feel not important enough to share things with or tell things to. We've known each-other for almost 2 years and have gotten nowhere but in the same spot.
What really ticked me off is when I asked him about the women calling his cellphone (which I believe i had a somewhat right to since I was his girlfriend then) and he said it was none of my buisness. That was when we were in a relationship, and I asked him are you still going to tell me that same thing? Once again he said it's none of my buisness what girls he talk to. Ok, well damn. Do y'all think I don't have a right to know? If i was his girlfriend?
I just don't want to do it anymore. I jus't dont . . care enough to care.
What really ticked me off is when I asked him about the women calling his cellphone (which I believe i had a somewhat right to since I was his girlfriend then) and he said it was none of my buisness. That was when we were in a relationship, and I asked him are you still going to tell me that same thing? Once again he said it's none of my buisness what girls he talk to. Ok, well damn. Do y'all think I don't have a right to know? If i was his girlfriend?
I just don't want to do it anymore. I jus't dont . . care enough to care.
IMO, I think u should just let him go. Just as a normal cap, he doesn't know what he wants. One minute he wants to get back w/you, and the next he's being mean. Just back off for a while and see where he goes. If he comes back and wants to work things out again, it's only going to be the same cycle, I've learned that w/these men. They don't give up easily, but they repeat the same cycles. Weird, I know.
I just got to a point also where I just don't care enough anymore to go thru all the torture w/these Caps. It's rather frustrating and not worth all my worries. And I've found it rather relieving.
He does have a right to tell u who this chick is if she called when u two were dating, but I guess there isn't anything u can do if he won't tell u. Mine would always be honest w/me if I asked him something, whether it'd hurt me or not.
I just got to a point also where I just don't care enough anymore to go thru all the torture w/these Caps. It's rather frustrating and not worth all my worries. And I've found it rather relieving.
He does have a right to tell u who this chick is if she called when u two were dating, but I guess there isn't anything u can do if he won't tell u. Mine would always be honest w/me if I asked him something, whether it'd hurt me or not.
I thought so, and this whole time he's trying to make me feel bad for asking him, like it was invasion of his privacy.
No, you do have a right to know. But he likes it that u care so much to know. Gives him sort of the ego boost that these dumb caps seem to need.
Lol, I see but I don't have time to boost his ego all day every day, I have a daughter and better things to do.
Exactly, we do have our own lives and better things to do besides reassuring them about stuff that they should already know. I used to do that sh!t all the time, finally I said hell w/it and didn't give the boost anymore. Finally told him one day how I felt about him and that I was not going to prove that to him anymore by keeping up the boosting part. He was like d@mn...I said, well u should just already know.
(As u can see I'm hatin on and frustrating w/these Cap guys today!)
(As u can see I'm hatin on and frustrating w/these Cap guys today!)
Girl, I feel you. I'm hating on them and fed up and frustrated with them for the longest. They can give you a bad headache sometimes.
For sure...and they can give us more than just a headache too. I'm so glad I finally got to the point of saying f--- it to the whole situation w/the cap. I've never felt better. Yeah I miss him and u will too, but I just realized how much better off I am w/out him. I realized how difficult he was to get along with, and how sh!tty he really treated me. A guy that I've known for months now decided to take me out since I've broken up w/this cap...he's not a cap, thank God. If I ever see another one of those guys I'm running...Lol...anyways this guy has taken me out, and has really shown me what I do deserve and treats me like pure gold compared to what the cap did. It's amazing. It has really put a different perspective on the situation w/the cap.
What I don't understand is how we could become so obsessed w/a person that is like they are. So strange in so many different ways, yet we still want them? It didn't make sense to me.
What I don't understand is how we could become so obsessed w/a person that is like they are. So strange in so many different ways, yet we still want them? It didn't make sense to me.
MyCap~ I wonder the same myself as to your last question. I need to be done w/ mine too. I will not IM, call or contact him. He makes me feel like I'm only good enough for sex. It's like he wants to make it clear that he'll get laid before agreeing to see me. He's such a PIMP. And I've told him I don't do casual sex, and he says he understands, and then a few weeks later, we're right back flirting and him thinking that he can get some! Asks me what I'm looking for, again, when he knows! A relationship, marriage, kids- for goshsakes- I'm 36. I swear he just has this script and says the same things over and over and doesn't care what the answers are.
Personally, I think they're 'attention-whores', kinda like you said. They like and need the ego-boost. He had asked me what I was doing this weekend, and luckily I was able to say I was leaving town, but I don't think he had any plan probably of "making a date". It was more likely just to string me along.
We've got to kick this habit! I should block him from my buddylist, but part of me finds it fun and thinks I can toy with him right back. Yet it's eroding my self-esteem in the process- when someone doesn't even want to have drinks with you, unless you're offering sex. Pathetic.
Personally, I think they're 'attention-whores', kinda like you said. They like and need the ego-boost. He had asked me what I was doing this weekend, and luckily I was able to say I was leaving town, but I don't think he had any plan probably of "making a date". It was more likely just to string me along.
We've got to kick this habit! I should block him from my buddylist, but part of me finds it fun and thinks I can toy with him right back. Yet it's eroding my self-esteem in the process- when someone doesn't even want to have drinks with you, unless you're offering sex. Pathetic.
Boy do I know where u r coming from CapGirl. I felt the same way! He also made me feel as if I was only good enough for sex. Could be why we never really had a relationship. We were at 3 different levels over the whole 9 mos, but all involved sex. First it was just dating, not exclusive, but we would hang out, go out on his boat, etc. Then when we stopped seeing each other one time I remember him calling just as friends and saying somehting to the extent of wanting sex. At the time I was on my period, so I told him that there was one problem and told him that. He said, well can I get a raincheck...I was like what the f---, are you kidding me? I was pissed and didn't talk to him for a couple of wks. Then we talked again, and we went back to dating. Then there were times we were just friends, and then we were exclusive a while back for a whole spankin week....lol...that's still funny to me. One whole week, WOW! What the hell did I do to deserve that week of exclusivity? I'm just being a smart@ss if you couldn't tell. It's just p!ssing me off thinking about it.
Anyhow there were just times that he'd make sure we were going to for sure have sex before I went over there. That sucked, but then again I was in this head over heels phase and I was good to go for anything just to see and spend time w/him...that wore off along with the my self-esteem. But I'm trying to get back and get better from it and realize that I deserve so much more, and so do you CapGirl.
They do need these ego boosts...my cap would say to me every once in a while that he thought I didn't want him anymore, then I'd reassure him that i did and that's all he wanted to hear. He was great at having sex, the best I've ever had and he knew it...u know how? because I told him. That was a mistake, cause he knew it then. And he probably just felt like he was awesome! I shouldn't have ever said that to him.
All of these cap men are just starting to really make me irate! They don't deserve loving women like us because they just treat us like $ hit...they need some b!tch to come along and treat them like they are treating us and then maybe they'll realize.
ARGGGGGGHHH...I'm in one of those moods today!
Anyhow there were just times that he'd make sure we were going to for sure have sex before I went over there. That sucked, but then again I was in this head over heels phase and I was good to go for anything just to see and spend time w/him...that wore off along with the my self-esteem. But I'm trying to get back and get better from it and realize that I deserve so much more, and so do you CapGirl.
They do need these ego boosts...my cap would say to me every once in a while that he thought I didn't want him anymore, then I'd reassure him that i did and that's all he wanted to hear. He was great at having sex, the best I've ever had and he knew it...u know how? because I told him. That was a mistake, cause he knew it then. And he probably just felt like he was awesome! I shouldn't have ever said that to him.
All of these cap men are just starting to really make me irate! They don't deserve loving women like us because they just treat us like $ hit...they need some b!tch to come along and treat them like they are treating us and then maybe they'll realize.
ARGGGGGGHHH...I'm in one of those moods today!
This is crazy, he made me feel the EXACT same way. Like I was some booty buddy instead of a girlfriend. He also made sure we was gonna have sex before I even seen him. Wow, these cappy men are very much alike. What A Surprise.
I feel for you. I can see you are tormented but you had every right to ask and it's not invasion of privacy.
I think he's negative for you and I hope for you to be strong enough to let him go and to realize you are worth more and deserve someone who won't feel that clostrophobic.
Be strong... MC xxxx
I think he's negative for you and I hope for you to be strong enough to let him go and to realize you are worth more and deserve someone who won't feel that clostrophobic.
Be strong... MC xxxx
Yea, I have to be if I want to be treated like I should be. Thanks for those words MC. I really appreicate that.
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