indecisive me!!

love (or issit lust?) is in the air, and this young capricorn has attracted a lotta water signs lately!

One is a cancer and another is a pisces/aries cusp.


the cancer seems so un-cancer-ish; he's got a big ego (bcos once he knew i was also dating other ppl - not serious, just 'sorting out through the frogs'- he wants it to be just me and him, even though we've just met), tons of confidence (which some may find bordering obnoxiousness but alarmingly charming!), afters me for a date (persistent! after i kept procrastinating), texts me once a day since the day we met (which is recently). with cancer i feel as if i have to be careful..'dangerous' alert comes to mind whenever he pulls out his charm but undeniably sexy and hard to fight off lol.


the pisces/aries cusp on the other hand is sweet, safe, funny!, he shows that he cares:texting me more than once everyday etc.i felt that whenever he comes to visit (he's studying 2 hours away from me)I can be as silly as I want and be accepted by him. he has already made a commitment to come see me every month for a long stay.and we have talks abt serious relationships, our expectations etc. moreover, I've known him a tad bit longer than the cancer


since cancer and i live closer to each other, cancer wants to see where our relationship can go...


i've read on dogsbody recent post that a lot of people put 'pisces' in a relationship and 'cancer' as friends..

but i'll let you lot elaborate this time as to why pisces and not cancer and if any, vice versa as well.

the cancer seems so un-cancer-ish; he's got a big ego (bcos once he knew i was also dating other ppl - not serious, just 'sorting out through the frogs'- he wants it to be just me and him, even though we've just met), tons of confidence (which some may find bordering obnoxiousness but alarmingly charming!), afters me for a date (persistent! after i kept procrastinating), texts me once a day since the day we met (which is recently). with cancer i feel as if i have to be careful..'dangerous' alert comes to mind whenever he pulls out his charm but undeniably sexy and hard to fight off lol.

Uh oh ...


the pisces/aries cusp on the other hand is sweet, safe, funny!, he shows that he cares:texting me more than once everyday etc.i felt that whenever he comes to visit (he's studying 2 hours away from me)I can be as silly as I want and be accepted by him. he has already made a commitment to come see me every month for a long stay.and we have talks abt serious relationships, our expectations etc. moreover, I've known him a tad bit longer than the cancer

Hmmm ....


Well, it depends on what you want. If you want a serious relationship, both seem to have potential but I would be careful with the cancer guy -- the fact that he wants it to just be, you and him right now (being that you two just met) ...

sigh...

the cancer appears to be a mature one; seems sure of himself and his decisions. he claims hes tired of past bedroom relationships and wants something serious this time around and i cant help but believe him.

and recently on his facebook, he's no longer listed as single lol


anyway, spent almost everyday with him last week,and towards the end of the week,he asked me what id tell my friends..are we seeing each other.

the day before I told him that i told my friends i was sorta seeing him and he made it clear that he wants me to scratch the 'sorta' out lol

im taking everything w a pinch of salt - i dont want to dive into it too quickly,having been w another cancer b4 but he seems different from the last one; a thinker.


i let him make all the moves, let him seek me but at the same time i show enough interest.
I just got an IM from him, wanting me to come for lunch at his place this saturday lol and since he has to work afterwards, trusts me enough to give me his keys - which he himself pointed out lol


too fast cancer too fast...


or is this an alpha male cancer who doesnt want to let go of what he sees as 'treasure'?

the cancer appears to be a mature one; seems sure of himself and his decisions. he claims hes tired of past bedroom relationships and wants something serious this time around and i cant help but believe him.

and recently on his facebook, he's no longer listed as single lol


UH OH!!!! Cancer men 🙂 Once they ACTUALLY want you as a girlfriend, theres no going back (... much like virgo men ...). If you are having second thoughts, than you better tell him now or else your his girlfriend girl 😉

Lol, im back!

been spending a HELLOVALOTTA time at cancer's home. even week (uni) nights. If i want to go home cos i miss my bed etc etc (seriously, its like I havent been home in awhile), he'd hint by saying things like "but you'll sleepover tomorrow right?" lol cute!

he'd want me to leave at least one personal belonging behind, to reassure him that Id return for them (and then he wouldnt let me go back home since it'll be "too late" and "dangerous to go out")

I find him emotionally draining at times..wanting me to let go and just be comfortable with him, being open. I told him abt my past bout w a cancer and how badly it went. He keeps reassuring me that hes innit for the long run.

tell me, should i keep my guard up still?

me being a cap, i want things to be so uber stable; until then i wont rest.cancer just doesnt get that..hes convinced himself that hes not going to hurt me...do cancers say this all the time? does it even have meaning to them?

I find him emotionally draining at times..wanting me to let go and just be comfortable with him, being open. I told him abt my past bout w a cancer and how badly it went. He keeps reassuring me that hes innit for the long run.

Yes, cancer men can be emotionally draining -- I've dealt with 2 -- but there is a sort of sweetness about them that keeps us smiling and wanting more of those emotions 🙂 Its like they freak me out yet ... its exactly what I need, if that makes any sense haha.

tell me, should i keep my guard up still?

me being a cap, i want things to be so uber stable; until then i wont rest.cancer just doesnt get that..hes convinced himself that hes not going to hurt me...do cancers say this all the time? does it even have meaning to them?

Its really hard to know if a cancer means anything they say because they can be so darn changable. You want to believe they want you but at the same time, a capricorn woull put her guard "all the way" up because she doesn't want to be hurt. I think its good that you show him that you care but don't give him too much assurance. Remember, an over confident cancer is a dangerous one.


he'd want me to leave at least one personal belonging behind, to reassure him that Id return for them (and then he wouldnt let me go back home since it'll be "too late" and "dangerous to go out")

Sounds like my virgo ... that sort of concern makes a capricorn girls heart melt with joy 🙂 The only difference is that a virgo guy will want to 'rut' most of the night before finally going to bed. A cancer would want to cuddle most of the night lol. Capricorns girls can deal with either BUT I would like more cuddling less ''rutting', that can get tiring after a while lol!!!!

Diora_Capri, Hi, as I read this I thought it was about me. Girl I will advise you "PROCEED WITH CAUTION". I had a BAD experience with a Cancer that left me wondering because they are supposed to be our opposite and you know opposites attract. I just seem to size them up as pathological liars who like to chas eskirts. I could be wrong. I just recently was pursued by a Cancer online who told me he has been watching me for a year plus on this forum we are members of. He started sending me these flirt messages saying he would love to get to know me yadda yadda. They are somewhat similar to ecards. He sent me like 20 over 2 days. Ok get this, we finally chat online ALL night long, literally. He kept me laughing although I really don't like all the flattery Cancers try to pour on, it seems FAKE. Then over the next couple of days he says that I am sweet, pretty, yadda yadda but that I act TOUGH. I couldn't get what he was talking about so I told him is it that I won't let you run over me and I am assertive that you are confusing with tough? He couldn't seem to handle that I guess. So he kinda distanced himself. We were talking on the phone that weekend and suddenly the phone goes dead, ok we know cell phones can do that but I kinda got a bit upset---

I got upset because he could have called me from his other phone to let me know instead he didn't pick up the phone or answer my text. Now my old Cancer would do stuff like this and would prob be entertaining another girl so that brought back memories. Ok I go through my lil Capricorn phase and decide to ignore his calls when he do finally calls back. He sends me a message online and said the battery went dead so we talk about it and he tries to make me talk but I am really giving off cold responses. he cracks a joke and then we are back to laughing. Then I don't hear from him. Called him and left him a message, nothing. Then he sends me a instant message saying "hey fine babe" I was like uhh are u angry, he says NO not at all he has been busy and about to travel overseas. Preparation for going back home can be something so I said ok. And I haven't talked to him sense. Now I know why I just can't gel with Cancers, they are kinda fickle and something just won't let me TRUST them at ALL.

With your Cancer though it sounds promising, just Proceed with CAUTION, they have a way with words. Don't get caught up in them.

Absolutely adore you guys! thank you for the advices! i thought i was being paranoid.

Im sorry about your past experiences; I'd say its down to them being immature cancer.

[Sounds like my virgo ... that sort of concern makes a capricorn girls heart melt with joy] - exactly cappy, oh so sweet!

Recently I told him I wont be able to see him because I want to focus on my work (oh-so-cappy me!) and want to meet my dateline. That was 4 days ago. Today I gave him a ring and he said "see you on monday!" and I was like, "maybe, we'll see"
and he would not accept that as an option lol even after I gave him excuses. Mind, I only gave excuses to test his reaction. so ofc I'll see him lol He's off work next week and he wants us to hang out more, outside his home, during the day (since his work demands his evening to midnight hours most weekdays and weekends; and uni during the day). I find this sweet.


he even remembered to send me a msg telling me that its been a month now since we know each other lol I DIDNT EVEN GIVE A BUTTER before he told me lol

whenever we are together, he worries when I close up ie fighting my own battles ie not telling him things that clearly (although i did try to hide) upset me; he would tend to me, poking me for answers, drilling me and it can go on for a few hours until i break down my wall and spill the beans..reluctantly ofc

is this healthy? he expects me to trust him but at times i get this idea that, the less i tell him things, opening up, the less hurt id be if bad things ever happen,because I didnt fully let him into my head?

does that make sense to you caps?

You speak fluent capricorn, I see. It would be a different situation for me, still cancers need a lot of communication which we all know is not the capricorn's best suit.

true warholian - he always says " communication is important, i want you to tell me things esp thats bothering you ". and if i say its not a big deal, he'd counter that with " if its not a big deal, then u can tell me" LOL