Insatiable

For anyone, but particularly Cap women, something I am thinking about lately.

Do find yourself to be insatiable, in general?
What do you think makes us this way?
Do you feel like never being satisfied has ruined your relationships in the past?

Well, I think Caps can give a lot, but can take a whole lot as well. My personal opinion....I think we have massive voids, that can only be filled thru spirituality.

The beauty of nature, the thoughts of being a tiny part of this universe are what satisfy me most. Like Mary j blige said, being on top of a mountain is where she felt closest to GOD....she's a cap and thats where she shot one of her videos. I think that would be satisfying as well...height and solitude. In a nutshell, Im satisfied by the personal connection I have with GOD thru his creations. Its like I feel him when I look up at the sky, or walk thru a forest, near a river or ocean etc.

people, places, things...not so much. although its all still his creation, im not as fed by these things....maybe because they are created by people who are influenced by society? idk.

My Cap friend is more of the ambitious kind. He's married with kids, own piece of land, own a property, money in the bank, is working on a book...etc etc etc....wants to do more more more. Doesn't think he is where he wants/needs to be....just not satisfied at home or outside of it. So badly I want to tell him that none of what he's trying to achieve will fill him how he wants to be filled. Its not my place though...he'll figure it on his own.

I think that never feeling satsfied is something from within the spirit. I also think it can ruin relationships. Misdirected focus and energy. You dont really know whats bothering you or making you feel incomplete, so you turn to those around you and push for this/that thinking It will improve how you feel. it dont and it wont. I think Caps need a lot of that "We" time..between just us and our creator. Sorry if Im taking this in a different direction..

I'm assuming you're talking about sex? If so, then I think they feel like it puts a lot of pressure on them.

I sometimes feel like I'm the man because I'm the one always wanting it and he's good with just hanging out and spending time together. Yes, this is wonderful and its clear the relationship is deeper than sex, but what's wrong with three times a day? lol! Not to say he has no drive, it's just my drive is stronger than his. It's funny though because usually its the man who has the higher drive.

Maybe its just a cap thing to want more and more and more (of anything). That greed trait we have. Like if we don't get all we can, then they're going to quit making it and we will have to do without forever more.

Could be the passionate side of capricorn? Sexual stamina is supposed to be a cap trait.
Could be our age? Women's prime is around our age and the men's prime was 10-20 years ago.

I don't think it's destroyed any relationships, but I just don't want someone avoiding me because they're too tired or just want to cuddle and give up time with me because they don't want to be "pressured" to perform.

Gosh, I hope this makes sense and I home I'm not sounding like a nympho or something. 🙂

Now I feel bad. Inana's talking about God and spirituality and there I was talking about sex.

*dodges lightening*

@Truecap: I am talking about all areas of life.

Generally I see myself as a satisfied, content person. However, the more I take a look at myself, I see that is simply not true.

Career: I like my job. I like going there. However, daily conditions cause me to be unsatisfied on a daily basis.

Homelife:
I love the Scorp.
I never feel that he helps me enough around the house. Even though he does things, and I see him doing them, it is not on a consistent enough basis to satisfy me. But he does help me in many areas. And I can see how he feels; that I am never satisfied or if I am satisfied it doesn't last long.

Sex:
I can be quite insatiable.
I never really thought that was true.
My ex-husband used to say I was never satisfied. Even though I did not need the frequency we had (daily), he felt I was unsatisfied with the quality of it. Looking back, I can see that this is a true statement.

With the Scorp, I'm satisfied with the quality of the sex, but not the frequency. He says he feels pressure because I am always coming on to him.

@Inana- I get you. Lately I have been hiking a lot, and it really does give me peace to be outdoors and alone with my thoughts.

Posted by truecap
I'm assuming you're talking about sex? If so, then I think they feel like it puts a lot of pressure on them.

I sometimes feel like I'm the man because I'm the one always wanting it and he's good with just hanging out and spending time together. Yes, this is wonderful and its clear the relationship is deeper than sex, but what's wrong with three times a day? lol! Not to say he has no drive, it's just my drive is stronger than his. It's funny though because usually its the man who has the higher drive.

Maybe its just a cap thing to want more and more and more (of anything). That greed trait we have. Like if we don't get all we can, then they're going to quit making it and we will have to do without forever more.

Could be the passionate side of capricorn? Sexual stamina is supposed to be a cap trait.
Could be our age? Women's prime is around our age and the men's prime was 10-20 years ago.

I don't think it's destroyed any relationships, but I just don't want someone avoiding me because they're too tired or just want to cuddle and give up time with me because they don't want to be "pressured" to perform.

Gosh, I hope this makes sense and I home I'm not sounding like a nympho or something. 🙂

This is totally me in a nutshell.
In my case, I am hooked up with a much younger Scorpio male and even he can't seem to keep up with me. lol.

@Stillwater, me too. I dont want too much right now because I already know deep down my ambitions wont satisfy me at this moment. Ive put that all on the backburner a long time ago.

Im pushing for love and faux commitment right now, which is new, but my friend is a smart cookie. I think deep down he knows that if he gives me what i supposedly want it wont satisfy me. If youngin looked me in my eyes right now and said "I want to be with you!" Id have a panic attack...literally...on the spot... yet Im still pushing.

Im glad this thread was created. I wrote what i did subconciously knowing...of course not paying attention to it or following it. I guess ill try to redirect my energy. Im literally pushing everyone around me almost out of my life right now.

what's wrong with three times a day

THREE TIMES A DAY 4 TO 6 HOURS EACH TIME
SOUNDS ABOUT RIGHT TO ME. THE TROUBLE IS WORK
THERE JUST ISN'T ENOUGH TIME FOR IT WITH SLEEP AND WORK
THATS WHY YOU NEED WEEKENDS

Posted by james tate
what's wrong with three times a day

THREE TIMES A DAY 4 TO 6 HOURS EACH TIME
SOUNDS ABOUT RIGHT TO ME. THE TROUBLE IS WORK
THERE JUST ISN'T ENOUGH TIME FOR IT WITH SLEEP AND WORK
THATS WHY YOU NEED WEEKENDS

Exactly.

Sometimes I envy those who work in the porn industry.

QUITE I MADE THOSE MOVIES JUST FOR THE MONEY

i think its because deep down we are perfectionists.

DO NOT TEMPT ME TO REMOVE THOSE CREEPY PANTS

*shrugs* ...if i can return the favor 😛

It's a good question.

Posted by capgirl69
Homelife:
I love the Scorp.
I never feel that he helps me enough around the house. Even though he does things, and I see him doing them, it is not on a consistent enough basis to satisfy me. But he does help me in many areas. And I can see how he feels; that I am never satisfied or if I am satisfied it doesn't last long.

Pfft, women!

This is why you should stick to house chores and leave us men to our business. It's because you care, we don't! We just do it because it needs to be done, which is why we're not thorough either.

My ex drove me insane with that! She always assumed I could do shit anytime it suited her, like I'm some sort of a machine you can just turn on and off. And yeah she was never satisfied with our home. If there were no problems, she'd create them. If nothing was broke, she'd still need to fix it.

Don't get me wrong, a love a tidy woman. There are too many messy ones these days, it's such a turn-off. But I'm not gonna run around with a feather-duster every waking moment I'm at home. There's specific time set aside for housework. I'm not a butler.

lol. I can see why it would feel that way to you guys.
I have no idea why I always feel like that, but it always feels like I am the only one doing everything, and I am never satisfied with what he does.

We had some friction when he moved in over it.
Then I was off for the summer and I did all the housework and it didn't bother me and things were fine.
Since I've been back to work I feel like I am doing everything again.

He likes having me home but we can't afford that.
I'd gladly do everything if I didn't have to go to a job.

Posted by capgirl69
lol. I can see why it would feel that way to you guys.
I have no idea why I always feel like that, but it always feels like I am the only one doing everything, and I am never satisfied with what he does.

Yeah she felt that way too, but it's because she expected me to do housework when it suited her! So if I said I was busy or whatever, she'd still go on and do it herself, so of course she was doing everything because she did it when she felt like it, on her own terms.

You need to organize a schedule so that everyone involved knows what's up. 🙂

Same thing with the dishes. She makes dinner and I'm suppose to do the dishes. That's fine, just let me digest the goddamn meal! lol

Or if it's a late dinner, I 'll do it in the morning. No biggie. But of course, she would make it into a biggie.

Another reason I like this question is that it can be interpreted so differently and personally.

DOING DISHS
YOU BREAK A FEW GOOD PICES OF CHINA
AND I,LL BE DAMN THEY NEVER ASK YOU TO DO THEM AGAIN.

lol.

Mine is awesome at the dishes but he hates to do them.

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Posted by capgirl69
lol. I can see why it would feel that way to you guys.
I have no idea why I always feel like that, but it always feels like I am the only one doing everything, and I am never satisfied with what he does.

Yeah she felt that way too, but it's because she expected me to do housework when it suited her! So if I said I was busy or whatever, she'd still go on and do it herself, so of course she was doing everything because she did it when she felt like it, on her own terms.

You need to organize a schedule so that everyone involved knows what's up. 🙂

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Great idea, thank you.

OMG PERSONAL SHIT LEAVE IT IN THE LOO

Stillwater- I don't care if he leaves his stuff around.
I just don't want to be cleaning up after everyone. I'm talking about the bathroom, kitchen, dishes, etc.

He does help, just not enough to make me happy.

Adding: point of the thread is, not sure if it would ever be enough for me, and this seems to be a flaw in my (and presumably other Cap women's) personality

Hahaha we don't live in igloos or in the woods over here you know!!
DAMN SLAVE DRIVER IM GLAD SHE TROW ME UNDER THE BUS

i understand you perfectly Capgirl. When I get home from work I dont want to lift a finger, yet time and time again I have to. it just becomes too much after a while. I do everything in my place. my sis will clean the room...her and my niece dirtied, and she really think she's doing something if its the room AND kitchen. Meanwhile, I have to clean the rooms, bathroom, kitchen...Im responsible for vaccuming and mopping the floors..cause she wont do THAT much..etc etc etc its just too much.

on top of being responsible for 95% of the bills.

Its the same with my Cap friend at his house. He pays all the bills, come home and has to clean up and sometimes cook....then on certain days pick up the kids, then when he's off, take care of his business with his 1yr old. I think if not careful, we can become enablers from time to time. His wife goes to school...and thats about it lol. Oh yeah, he's in school too smh.

I DON'T KNOW HOW I FUCKED THIS UP
SOMETHING WRONG HERE I COPY AND PASTE BUT WHAT I COPY DOESN'T COME OUT
He does help, just not enough to make me happy.
THERE IT IS
DAMN SLAVE DRIVER IM GLAD SHE TROW ME UNDER THE BUS
DISREGUARD THE ONE ABOVE

Posted by james tate
I DON'T KNOW HOW I FUCKED THIS UP
SOMETHING WRONG HERE I COPY AND PASTE BUT WHAT I COPY DOESN'T COME OUT
He does help, just not enough to make me happy.
THERE IT IS
DAMN SLAVE DRIVER IM GLAD SHE TROW ME UNDER THE BUS
DISREGUARD THE ONE ABOVE

haha.

Posted by lnana04
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Its the same with my Cap friend at his house. He pays all the bills, come home and has to clean up and sometimes cook....then on certain days pick up the kids, then when he's off, take care of his business with his 1yr old. I think if not careful, we can become enablers from time to time. His wife goes to school...and thats about it lol. Oh yeah, he's in school too smh.

Yes. We are big time enablers!
I was telling a coworker about this. One thing is that he forgets to take out the trash, then I end up doing it. My coworker said, "You are an enabler. What would happen if you just didn't take out the trash? Is it really that terrible that it piles up for a week? Let him live with the stink, he will remember next time."

But I shudder to think of that. Can't handle it. lol.
What's the definition of insanity again? haha.

Posted by capgirl69

Posted by lnana04
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Its the same with my Cap friend at his house. He pays all the bills, come home and has to clean up and sometimes cook....then on certain days pick up the kids, then when he's off, take care of his business with his 1yr old. I think if not careful, we can become enablers from time to time. His wife goes to school...and thats about it lol. Oh yeah, he's in school too smh.

Yes. We are big time enablers!
I was telling a coworker about this. One thing is that he forgets to take out the trash, then I end up doing it. My coworker said, "You are an enabler. What would happen if you just didn't take out the trash? Is it really that terrible that it piles up for a week? Let him live with the stink, he will remember next time."

But I shudder to think of that. Can't handle it. lol.
What's the definition of insanity again? haha.

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My Cappy Mother-in-law is so not an enabler though. When we were all on vacation with her, renting out a country vacation house with her old colleagues friends and my family too, she just has an "authoritative" way of saying without words, "You all have chores! I dont have to tell you which one it is."
Lol.
We buy groceries, we take turns, we sweep the floors, cook, prepare the table, serve, pile up the dishes, clean them, make sure all the laundry is in order, no one is going to be lazy at all with her around. Nooooo sirreeee. But we honestly are just like that anyway.

Oh and she reminds us too of schedules and events, ect. She's our planner most of the time. Hmmm I guess that does kind of make her an 'enabler' Lol.

mountains are kind of scary looking, but when you watch "Sound of music" it looks so beautiful up there in the hills. And Austrian hills/mountains are beautiful because of the thousands of waterfalls.

I never been near a mountain but they are beautiful to me. I love looking at pics of them.

I love greenery though. Im about tired of Georgia but it is a beautiful state.

I love hiking. But I don't like anything too strenuous or dangerous.
I am not going to climb anytime soon. I can be more adventurous if I have someone with me, but usually I stick to the low trail. I'm afraid of getting lost or falling if I am alone.

True Story:
One time me and the ex-Gem went to Picacho peak in Arizona.
Here is where we each made it to. There is a bench in the saddle where I stopped. I waited for him to climb to the top and come down. I wasn't about to plummet to my death. lol.

I can relate to that ^^

Being a true cap.. 12/31... I'm fully aware that I may never be totally satisfied. I've learned that sexually an emotionally, well publicly you'd never know, we're freaks

Insatiable, hm. I see it as a challenge to be comfortable with who I am, as well as a challenge to find someone else who compliments that individuality. Once you know just what you want and value in life, you have a goal set.

Being insatiable has a good ring to it, after all...

Posted by capgirl69
@Truecap: I am talking about all areas of life

Generally I see myself as a satisfied, content person. However, the more I take a look at myself, I see that is simply not true.


Career: I like my job. I like going there. However, daily conditions cause me to be unsatisfied on a daily basis.

Homelife:
I love the Scorp.
I never feel that he helps me enough around the house. Even though he does things, and I see him doing them, it is not on a consistent enough basis to satisfy me. But he does help me in many areas. And I can see how he feels; that I am never satisfied or if I am satisfied it doesn't last long.

Sex:
I can be quite insatiable.
I never really thought that was true.
My ex-husband used to say I was never satisfied. Even though I did not need the frequency we had (daily), he felt I was unsatisfied with the quality of it. Looking back, I can see that this is a true statement.

With the Scorp, I'm satisfied with the quality of the sex, but not the frequency. He says he feels pressure because I am always coming on to him.

Homelife part = scorpio moon. Scorpio planets want more & more of everything imo..and it's never enough.

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Posted by capgirl69
@Truecap: I am talking about all areas of life

Generally I see myself as a satisfied, content person. However, the more I take a look at myself, I see that is simply not true.


Career: I like my job. I like going there. However, daily conditions cause me to be unsatisfied on a daily basis.

Homelife:
I love the Scorp.
I never feel that he helps me enough around the house. Even though he does things, and I see him doing them, it is not on a consistent enough basis to satisfy me. But he does help me in many areas. And I can see how he feels; that I am never satisfied or if I am satisfied it doesn't last long.

Sex:
I can be quite insatiable.
I never really thought that was true.
My ex-husband used to say I was never satisfied. Even though I did not need the frequency we had (daily), he felt I was unsatisfied with the quality of it. Looking back, I can see that this is a true statement.

With the Scorp, I'm satisfied with the quality of the sex, but not the frequency. He says he feels pressure because I am always coming on to him.

Homelife part = scorpio moon. Scorpio planets want more & more of everything imo..and it's never enough.

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Hmmmm....maybe that's why I focused on sex when I read the question....hmmm....

(scorpio venus)