Is he seeing if I'm a good woman?

This topic was created in the Capricorn forum by LadyTate on Monday, September 5, 2016 and has 24 replies.
How to tell if a cap man is not into u or if he's just being slow and steady? I been seeing this cap man, he 38, I'm 33, he work a lot and me too but I make time to talk to him everyday. If I don't text him he won't text me. But when I text him he always reply and if he don't reply right away he text me and tell me why he took long to reply. I been seeing him for a yr and he not tried to make us serious and we never met his family of friends. When j see him it's just always at his house we never go out. And when I stay with him it's just 1 night. But when we talk he say how he like me. He playing games or I think he seeing if I'm a good woman to date?
LadyTate you been hacked?
Open communication. Talk to him. Caps can

listen. Yes and don't forget they can't be wrong!

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A year and all you're getting are these crumbs? Do have time to waste or something? Sounds like bullshit to

Me.

If a person only talks to you when you reach out you have your answer. If you don't hit him up he will happily move on with his life as you stated. No dates either? Just Netflix and chilling? No no no no. And you've done yourself a disservice by accepting that.


He is not that into you.

You're are too old to just accept house dates, I'd give you a pass if you were a teen but they must learn too. A man that is into will take you out, will want you to have fun, want to show you off, want to experience things with you.

Are you sleeping with him?
And this has shit to do with him being a cAp. nothing. Why would you accept this from any man?
Posted by LadyTate
How to tell if a cap man is not into u or if he's just being slow and steady? I been seeing this cap man, he 38, I'm 33, he work a lot and me too but I make time to talk to him everyday. If I don't text him he won't text me. But when I text him he always reply and if he don't reply right away he text me and tell me why he took long to reply. I been seeing him for a yr and he not tried to make us serious and we never met his family of friends. When j see him it's just always at his house we never go out. And when I stay with him it's just 1 night. But when we talk he say how he like me. He playing games or I think he seeing if I'm a good woman to date?
Sounds like he's not putting much effort into things with you, and that's what Caps are about.

Are you sure he's not dating other people?

I suggest that you have a talk with him and get a better understanding of what he's thinking when it comes to your relationship.

It's about the sex. He's not serious about you. If he were serious you'd know without a doubt. Especially after a year.
Who wants a good woman these days? Everyone prefers hookers.
Posted by bkbella86
A year and all you're getting are these crumbs? Do have time to waste or something? Sounds like bullshit to

Me.

If a person only talks to you when you reach out you have your answer. If you don't hit him up he will happily move on with his life as you stated. No dates either? Just Netflix and chilling? No no no no. And you've done yourself a disservice by accepting that.


He is not that into you.

You're are too old to just accept house dates, I'd give you a pass if you were a teen but they must learn too. A man that is into will take you out, will want you to have fun, want to show you off, want to experience things with you.

Are you sleeping with him?
Yes

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Posted by LadyTate
How to tell if a cap man is not into u or if he's just being slow and steady? I been seeing this cap man, he 38, I'm 33, he work a lot and me too but I make time to talk to him everyday. If I don't text him he won't text me. But when I text him he always reply and if he don't reply right away he text me and tell me why he took long to reply. I been seeing him for a yr and he not tried to make us serious and we never met his family of friends. When j see him it's just always at his house we never go out. And when I stay with him it's just 1 night. But when we talk he say how he like me. He playing games or I think he seeing if I'm a good woman to date?
Sounds like he's not putting much effort into things with you, and that's what Caps are about.

Are you sure he's not dating other people?

I suggest that you have a talk with him and get a better understanding of what he's thinking when it comes to your relationship.

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He say he not if he do he will tell me

I talk to my Cap today and I ask him where this going and if he want a relationship with me and he said he don't know yet. He likes me but he not definite if we go be a good match. I told him no more sex and he said he understand but still want to be friends and hang out. I said maybe and he ask that I just be patient and let him figure things out.
Posted by LadyTate
I talk to my Cap today and I ask him where this going and if he want a relationship with me and he said he don't know yet. He likes me but he not definite if we go be a good match. I told him no more sex and he said he understand but still want to be friends and hang out. I said maybe and he ask that I just be patient and let him figure things out.
If a relationship was important to you, you should've made that known from the start.

If he doesn't know if he wants to be with you after a year, more time isn't going to change that. Move on.
After a year you should definitely be exclusive... I think he's holding onto you until he meets someone else.
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I talk to my Cap today and I ask him where this going and if he want a relationship with me and he said he don't know yet. He likes me but he not definite if we go be a good match. I told him no more sex and he said he understand but still want to be friends and hang out. I said maybe and he ask that I just be patient and let him figure things out.
If a relationship was important to you, you should've made that known from the start.

If he doesn't know if he wants to be with you after a year, more time isn't going to change that. Move on.
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I am I text him this "I enjoy ur company but I want more than a friendship. It's been a yr and u stilll don't know if u want me or not so I think it's best we go our separate ways." His reply was "I never said I didn't want a relationship with I. I just said that at that moment I wasn't sure. I'm scared that I if we do get together and things done work out I will lose a beautiful friend. So with that I need u to make a promise to me that if things don't work with us that we will end the relationship amicably and stay friends." I never reply back to him.

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I talk to my Cap today and I ask him where this going and if he want a relationship with me and he said he don't know yet. He likes me but he not definite if we go be a good match. I told him no more sex and he said he understand but still want to be friends and hang out. I said maybe and he ask that I just be patient and let him figure things out.
If a relationship was important to you, you should've made that known from the start.

If he doesn't know if he wants to be with you after a year, more time isn't going to change that. Move on.
I am I text him this "I enjoy ur company but I want more than a friendship. It's been a yr and u stilll don't know if u want me or not so I think it's best we go our separate ways." His reply was "I never said I didn't want a relationship with I. I just said that at that moment I wasn't sure. I'm scared that I if we do get together and things done work out I will lose a beautiful friend. So with that I need u to make a promise to me that if things don't work with us that we will end the relationship amicably and stay friends." I never reply back to him.

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Where you friends prior to dating each other?

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I talk to my Cap today and I ask him where this going and if he want a relationship with me and he said he don't know yet. He likes me but he not definite if we go be a good match. I told him no more sex and he said he understand but still want to be friends and hang out. I said maybe and he ask that I just be patient and let him figure things out.
If a relationship was important to you, you should've made that known from the start.

If he doesn't know if he wants to be with you after a year, more time isn't going to change that. Move on.
I am I text him this "I enjoy ur company but I want more than a friendship. It's been a yr and u stilll don't know if u want me or not so I think it's best we go our separate ways." His reply was "I never said I didn't want a relationship with I. I just said that at that moment I wasn't sure. I'm scared that I if we do get together and things done work out I will lose a beautiful friend. So with that I need u to make a promise to me that if things don't work with us that we will end the relationship amicably and stay friends." I never reply back to him.

Where you friends prior to dating each other?

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Yea we talked on the phone a lot like everyday before we started having sex

Dang this guy is totally taking the piss. After playing for a whole year with you he's still not sure if he wants to commit to you or not? Ha, the nerve ! Let him go and invest your time and energy on someone that truly cares for you.
Posted by LadyTate
He likes me but he not definite if we go be a good match.
Is he seeing if I am a good woman?

Here is the answer to your question.

He doesn't see a chance for longevity.

By the way, the term "Good Woman" is subjective, it can indicate a myriad of things depending on what that specific man is looking for.

Just out of curiousity, what prompted you to ask this specific question?

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I talk to my Cap today and I ask him where this going and if he want a relationship with me and he said he don't know yet. He likes me but he not definite if we go be a good match. I told him no more sex and he said he understand but still want to be friends and hang out. I said maybe and he ask that I just be patient and let him figure things out.
If a relationship was important to you, you should've made that known from the start.

If he doesn't know if he wants to be with you after a year, more time isn't going to change that. Move on.
I am I text him this "I enjoy ur company but I want more than a friendship. It's been a yr and u stilll don't know if u want me or not so I think it's best we go our separate ways." His reply was "I never said I didn't want a relationship with I. I just said that at that moment I wasn't sure. I'm scared that I if we do get together and things done work out I will lose a beautiful friend. So with that I need u to make a promise to me that if things don't work with us that we will end the relationship amicably and stay friends." I never reply back to him.

Where you friends prior to dating each other?



Yea we talked on the phone a lot like everyday before we started having sex

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That's not a friendship...that's dating.

The whole purpose of the communication between you two was to pursue a romantic relationship.

So you can't 'go back to being friends' if you never were to begin with. Him saying that is code for...lets continue to Netflix and chill/hookup.

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I talk to my Cap today and I ask him where this going and if he want a relationship with me and he said he don't know yet. He likes me but he not definite if we go be a good match. I told him no more sex and he said he understand but still want to be friends and hang out. I said maybe and he ask that I just be patient and let him figure things out.
If a relationship was important to you, you should've made that known from the start.

If he doesn't know if he wants to be with you after a year, more time isn't going to change that. Move on.
I am I text him this "I enjoy ur company but I want more than a friendship. It's been a yr and u stilll don't know if u want me or not so I think it's best we go our separate ways." His reply was "I never said I didn't want a relationship with I. I just said that at that moment I wasn't sure. I'm scared that I if we do get together and things done work out I will lose a beautiful friend. So with that I need u to make a promise to me that if things don't work with us that we will end the relationship amicably and stay friends." I never reply back to him.

Where you friends prior to dating each other?



Yea we talked on the phone a lot like everyday before we started having sex

That's not a friendship...that's dating.

The whole purpose of the communication between you two was to pursue a romantic relationship.

So you can't 'go back to being friends' if you never were to begin with. Him saying that is code for...lets continue to Netflix and chill/hookup.

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He say no sex is fine but ask that we both don't sleep with no one else until we figure out what we go do. He came just now and have me flowers and a ring he said is a promise ring
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I talk to my Cap today and I ask him where this going and if he want a relationship with me and he said he don't know yet. He likes me but he not definite if we go be a good match. I told him no more sex and he said he understand but still want to be friends and hang out. I said maybe and he ask that I just be patient and let him figure things out.
If a relationship was important to you, you should've made that known from the start.

If he doesn't know if he wants to be with you after a year, more time isn't going to change that. Move on.
I am I text him this "I enjoy ur company but I want more than a friendship. It's been a yr and u stilll don't know if u want me or not so I think it's best we go our separate ways." His reply was "I never said I didn't want a relationship with I. I just said that at that moment I wasn't sure. I'm scared that I if we do get together and things done work out I will lose a beautiful friend. So with that I need u to make a promise to me that if things don't work with us that we will end the relationship amicably and stay friends." I never reply back to him.

Where you friends prior to dating each other?



Yea we talked on the phone a lot like everyday before we started having sex

That's not a friendship...that's dating.

The whole purpose of the communication between you two was to pursue a romantic relationship.

So you can't 'go back to being friends' if you never were to begin with. Him saying that is code for...lets continue to Netflix and chill/hookup.

He say no sex is fine but ask that we both don't sleep with no one else until we figure out what we go do. He came just now and have me flowers and a ring he said is a promise ring
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A promise ring for what? Ask him what he's promising by putting that ring on your finger.

So you made an ultimatum and got results that a year of being at his side couldn't produce. It's obvious that he is scared to lose you.

Now it's time to decide what you ultimately want from him. Flowers and jewelry are flattering, but it's not the relationship status you asked for...

@Tiziani....

The OP is romanticizing.

I think she wants to replace the current female.


Thus the question.....

"Is he seeing if am a good woman"

It's a methodical question.

There was NEVER a courtship.

Which mean the 'promise' ring was a LIE!
Lmao
Posted by tiziani
Are you making these stories up? Last time you said you were both engaged to be married next year, and apparently fighting off his baby mother from attacking your car, where you happened to be online at the time to post the story live. Now you're friends and he's delivering you promise rings live, on the web, once more.


I started to think that when she said he showed up with flowers and ring.

Not saying it can't happen but given his history based on the OP, it's far fetched.