Is love a game to Capricorn men?

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I was on and off again for a year with a very close Capricorn friend of mine. We have liked each other for several years but were never able to pursue anything until recently. Both getting out of bad relationships, we wanted to take things slow. Never the kind to open up, he surprised me one day with sharing his deep feelings for me, but only after several months of playing games. He would be distant at times, ignore messages, break plans, always had to be right and in control of every situation, it hurt everytime. I would end things only to have him wanting to pick things up again days or weeks later. I accepted everytime, I was weak for him. He opened up recently and said he hated himself for hurting me and he thinks he's "emotionally crippled"; that he doesn't know how to let someone care for him. He said he couldn't talk about it anymore and now he's ignoring me again. Is this normal behavior for Capricorn men? Is this a game or tactic to keep me interested, or does he really care about me but doesn't know how to express it?
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This last time around he wasn't distant, and he was very open about how he felt about me. I let him come to me with it instead of prying. He said that I was the first person he actually felt great about being with, that what we had was different than anything else he's ever had. He's had bad relationships in the past, and maybe that's why he used to be distant.. very cautious. As far as ignoring me, he said he never means to, he's just tired or sleeping, or had other things going on. I'm a single mom and don't have a lot of free time so that caused a lot of tension.. unable to spend a lot alone time together like we wanted. We would make plans and he'd fall asleep or forget. I hate wasting my time and people not respecting my time so for that I had ended things a few times. Everytime he would come back to me trying to start things up again. The last conversation we had was after he had fallen asleep on me again and I messaged him explaining that I loved him but I couldn't take it anymore and felt I needed to move on. He seemed very upset and asked why I never told that I may love him. He said I was so important to him and that everytime I end things it cuts him to the core. If you really care about someone why do you repeat the behavior you know bothers them?
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if u stop finding ways to be offended by this you may see he feels vulnerable for opening up to you. i mean he pretty much said that to you in words. i'm not surprised he's ignoring you if you feel he's playing games after that
He's ignoring me because he said he hated himself for making me feel that way, that he never intentionally played games with me. He said he couldn't keep talking about it, so that was it.
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All guys are very similar.

Clueless, lazy, doesn't always prioritize, doesn't consider a girl's feelings, etc

I think your expectations are too high. One reason he might not want to hang out is because he doesn't want to hang out with your kids. It sounds like his needs aren't being met. I think you should do something special with just him and rekindle your relationship.
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I was on and off again for a year with a very close Capricorn friend of mine. We have liked each other for several years but were never able to pursue anything until recently. Both getting out of bad relationships, we wanted to take things slow. Never the kind to open up, he surprised me one day with sharing his deep feelings for me, but only after several months of playing games. He would be distant at times, ignore messages, break plans, always had to be right and in control of every situation, it hurt everytime. I would end things only to have him wanting to pick things up again days or weeks later. I accepted everytime, I was weak for him. He opened up recently and said he hated himself for hurting me and he thinks he's "emotionally crippled"; that he doesn't know how to let someone care for him. He said he couldn't talk about it anymore and now he's ignoring me again. Is this normal behavior for Capricorn men? Is this a game or tactic to keep me interested, or does he really care about me but doesn't know how to express it?

Normal?...not necessarily, he sounds like he's been hurt and he may or may not have sorted himself. He may or may not be ok interested.

Love is not a game to Cap men, especially if he is actually in love. He will give you everything he has and then some and make sure that you are provided for.

Things with Caps is we communicate more through actions than words, and sometimes Caps don't like dealing with their own feelings.

Distant & ignoring messages, sometimes I need space. Breaking plans - did he have a valid reason? Did he offer to reschedule? Always wanting to be right and control each situation- doesn't sound good so why do you want him again?

I'm going to go out on a limb and say that I personally don't believe his feelings are deep enough for you, and I think it would be best to move forward. Just my 2 cents.

Trust your intuition and do what makes you happy. 🙂



This last time around he wasn't distant, and he was very open about how he felt about me. I let him come to me with it instead of prying. He said that I was the first person he actually felt great about being with, that what we had was different than anything else he's ever had. He's had bad relationships in the past, and maybe that's why he used to be distant.. very cautious. As far as ignoring me, he said he never means to, he's just tired or sleeping, or had other things going on. I'm a single mom and don't have a lot of free time so that caused a lot of tension.. unable to spend a lot alone time together like we wanted. We would make plans and he'd fall asleep or forget. I hate wasting my time and people not respecting my time so for that I had ended things a few times. Everytime he would come back to me trying to start things up again. The last conversation we had was after he had fallen asleep on me again and I messaged him explaining that I loved him but I couldn't take it anymore and felt I needed to move on.



Very understandable and I'm the same way.

That's why I said his feelings aren't strong enough. He is communicating this with his actions. His words mean nothing.

People make time for the people and things that are important to them. Any love interest of mine is a priority. I understand not responding due to being tired, sleeping, or doing something else. The guys I have truly been interested in, don't get excuses as it relates to my time.

If he wanted to be there then he would.

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The last time around he really did want to be there. He went out of his way to do things for me that I never asked him to, and even invited me to more of his social gatherings (his friends are his family).. but you're absolutely right, I still didn't feel like I was first priority. I should have went with my gut on this one, but we seemed to be attached to each other.

Is it normal for a Capricorn to be upset about someone breaking up with them, but then wanting them back soon after? He'll act tough like he doesn't care but then want me to be with him again.
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Posted by pinkbird03
All guys are very similar.

Clueless, lazy, doesn't always prioritize, doesn't consider a girl's feelings, etc

I think your expectations are too high. One reason he might not want to hang out is because he doesn't want to hang out with your kids. It sounds like his needs aren't being met. I think you should do something special with just him and rekindle your relationship.
You're absolutely right, my expectations were too high. I think his were as well.

We've been great friends for several years, he was around even during my pregnancy.. he loves my kid, but I can tell he really wants my time and attention all to himself. It seems to bother him that I'm not free when he'd like me to be. But my son is my first priority and whoever I'm with needs to respect that.

I think it's too late to rekindle this, and although I think I do love him I'm not sure that I have the energy to do this again.
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All guys are very similar.

Clueless, lazy, doesn't always prioritize, doesn't consider a girl's feelings, etc

I think your expectations are too high. One reason he might not want to hang out is because he doesn't want to hang out with your kids. It sounds like his needs aren't being met. I think you should do something special with just him and rekindle your relationship.
We've been great friends for several years, he was around even during my pregnancy.. he loves my kid, but I can tell he really wants my time and attention all to himself. It seems to bother him that I'm not free when he'd like me to be. But my son is my first priority and whoever I'm with needs to respect that.
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Absolutely. I'm just saying I think you should try to schedule times to be alone with him so he gets attention and feels special. Maybe once a week or whatever you can do. Worth a try. I personally think he's still into you.
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All guys are very similar.

Clueless, lazy, doesn't always prioritize, doesn't consider a girl's feelings, etc

I think your expectations are too high. One reason he might not want to hang out is because he doesn't want to hang out with your kids. It sounds like his needs aren't being met. I think you should do something special with just him and rekindle your relationship.
We've been great friends for several years, he was around even during my pregnancy.. he loves my kid, but I can tell he really wants my time and attention all to himself. It seems to bother him that I'm not free when he'd like me to be. But my son is my first priority and whoever I'm with needs to respect that.
Absolutely. I'm just saying I think you should try to schedule times to be alone with him so he gets attention and feels special. Maybe once a week or whatever you can do. Worth a try. I personally think he's still into you.
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Thank you. This has all helped a bit. ☺
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Posted by krimsinandklover
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Posted by pinkbird03
All guys are very similar.

Clueless, lazy, doesn't always prioritize, doesn't consider a girl's feelings, etc

I think your expectations are too high. One reason he might not want to hang out is because he doesn't want to hang out with your kids. It sounds like his needs aren't being met. I think you should do something special with just him and rekindle your relationship.
We've been great friends for several years, he was around even during my pregnancy.. he loves my kid, but I can tell he really wants my time and attention all to himself. It seems to bother him that I'm not free when he'd like me to be. But my son is my first priority and whoever I'm with needs to respect that.
Absolutely. I'm just saying I think you should try to schedule times to be alone with him so he gets attention and feels special. Maybe once a week or whatever you can do. Worth a try. I personally think he's still into you.
Thank you. This has all helped a bit. ☺
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You're welcome. Good luck!!