is there still potential w/Cap guy?

This topic was created in the Capricorn forum by Freedombell on Tuesday, July 28, 2015 and has 9 replies.
I'm a Virgo and met this Cap guy a year ago, but he had a girlfriend. I seen him again in April, and he and his girlfriend are no longer together (of 3+ yrs) as of last October. We text back-and-forth for about three weeks before he got comfortable enough to come over. It was instant connection and chemistry, both talked about it, and each time we were together grew more intense. I'm 42 years old, was married for 16 years, and no man has ever made me feel the way he has. He was always too busy and know he was deeply hurt by last gf. me being a Virgo and not researching a cap, I over analyzed/thought, was too heavy, and pushed him away to the point he ignored me. After two weeks, I called him, he didn't answer, but called me back and we talked for a while mostly of what all is new. Is there still potential for this to go somewhere? Thanks so much for your time reading this and appreciate any feedback or thoughts on how to fix thissmile
I don't understand what happened or not happened between the two of you. Could you please clarify?
Sorry not sure how much detail you want...
When we 1st met, instant attraction. After texting for three weeks, saying he liked me a lot and in one message he wanted to touch me, he finally got the nerve to come over and we spent the majority of the weekend together. The chemistry and connection we had was unbelievable, and grew more intense each time we were together. After a couple of months of seeing each other once or twice a week, he's always busy doing something, I wanted a little more time. To make a long story short, me being a Virgo and not researching a Capricorn male traits, I was a little too emotional/heavy and pushed him away to the point he ignored me. After two weeks, I called him, we talked about everything, except for what happened between us. Any thoughts to what this means?
Posted by cowpuncher
"aaaahhhhh" relief.

That moment when you see the one bit of data that means the new poster isn't talking about YOU. lol



Lol care to weigh in?
Posted by cowpuncher
Posted by Freedombell
Posted by cowpuncher
"aaaahhhhh" relief.

That moment when you see the one bit of data that means the new poster isn't talking about YOU. lol



Lol care to weigh in?

No "gf of 3 years", thus none of this is MY fault! Big Grin
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No b/f of almost 5yrs now, the above is mostly my fault...don't stay out of the "game" too long! smile
Posted by cowpuncher
Could you clarify something? Did you and Mr. Cap start messaging while he was still with that gf of 3 years.... or did you start messaging when you bumped into him again after they split up?

Some of what you said makes it seem that you two started talking romantically after the breakup, but some of it looks like maybe it could have been before the breakup? That would yield two entirely different answers to your questions.

games... bah!

No, he was not with her. They were split up for 7 months before we bumped into each other again and started talking.
"I was a little too emotional/heavy and pushed him away to the point he ignored me."
What did you do?

"After two weeks, I called him, we talked about everything, except for what happened between us. Any thoughts to what this means?"
As cowpuncher says, it could be a hint for you to just move on. But, judging by some of the other things you wrote, it seems to me he can be a tad shy, which could, imo, very well be the reason why he didn't say anything about the situation. And to add to that - you called him. If you didn't bring it up in a call that you initiated he may think you didn't want to talk about it. I mean, what was the objective of your call? Does he know? If you let him think it was about something else, he may think that it wasn't that important to you.

Just bouncing ideas. What do you think? What is your gut feeling?
And also, you can't be expected to research his zodiac sign to be able to handle a situation between the two of you. You still have to handle things from your pov depending on how you feel and depending on he treats the situation. Imo. Astrology can be helpful, but just because a person handles themself according to his or her astrological sign doesn't mean you have to accept it. It's still up to you to see what you can and/or want to handle and not. And also, only knowing his sun sign is not a huge load of information - that's just one part of him.
Posted by Freedombell
I over analyzed/thought, was too heavy, and pushed him away to the point he ignored me.

This is what struck out to me.... curious to what happened here.

My gut instinct says you pushed for too much, too fast and he backed off.

As far as any potential....I'd play that by ear. Go ahead and live your life. I wouldn't contact him again...you reached out, now the ball is in his court. Wait and see if he reaches out to you. The positive is he did call you back, soooo.....at least he's not completely done. Whether he wants to pursue anything is still up in the air though.

If you do hear from him, don't ask him any questions about why he backed off. Just let him know you're happy to hear from him and smile while you're talking to him (yes, you can "hear" a smile in someone's voice). Men like to feel good when they talk to a woman, they do not like to feel pressured or nagged.