Is this Capricorn man interested or not?
This topic was created in the Capricorn forum by jaxz on Tuesday, March 4, 2014 and has 18 replies.
So meet this 25 year old cappy at a mutual friends birthday. We seem to hit it off, it seemed he was interested in me first but didn't really show a lot at start.
He added me on Facebook at the party.We flirted and said i would cut his hair some time (as I'm hairdresser and his hair was long) We went to the markets together with the mutual friends the next day we flirted a wee bit he asked on of the mutual friends if he could have my number so mutual friend said "yea ask her for it". We all went to breakfast after the markets and the cappy suggested for someone to go in his car hint hint so everyone said i go so of course i did. Was great we chatted away nicely. Had all had breakfast and said good by as he was going to meet his friends he kissed me on the cheek and on our way we went.
I was excited that I had meet this very relaxed chilled gentleman. So the monday came around as I would naturally get a message at some stage through Facebook. Well he went to work and was asking about me to another mutual friend he works with and said i was cute but that was it. So I buy thursday messaged him on Facebook. and way by friday invited him to get that hair cut i said i would do as i was cutting a friends hair so he said he had a party on that night. So i just left it and said another time.
He then messaged by friday last minute that he would come for a hair cute. So he did also asked for my number in case he got lost. I cut his hair and he had some dinner as there were couple people having a bbq with us. We had a few drinks and he quietly invited us to the birthday he was going to anyway we went with him and we had fun i was socializing with all his friends trying not to be clingy I bought couple rounds of drinks so then he bought me couple of interesting drinks. He asked a mutual friend if i was interested.
Anyway he ended up come home with me and the mutual friend that came to the birthday as well and yes we had sex! I don't usually do this but it just happened from both parts i was the one that started kissing him first though. I had work the next day and dropped him home. he was very breif but kissed me on the cheek. I messaged him later in the day at work saying i was dying and thanking him for the fun night. he messaged later replying and asking how i was etc. We both had tickets to the same festival on sunday but didn't plan on meeting up as were going with different friends. I messaged him asking if he was there at the festival now repl
He added me on Facebook at the party.We flirted and said i would cut his hair some time (as I'm hairdresser and his hair was long) We went to the markets together with the mutual friends the next day we flirted a wee bit he asked on of the mutual friends if he could have my number so mutual friend said "yea ask her for it". We all went to breakfast after the markets and the cappy suggested for someone to go in his car hint hint so everyone said i go so of course i did. Was great we chatted away nicely. Had all had breakfast and said good by as he was going to meet his friends he kissed me on the cheek and on our way we went.
I was excited that I had meet this very relaxed chilled gentleman. So the monday came around as I would naturally get a message at some stage through Facebook. Well he went to work and was asking about me to another mutual friend he works with and said i was cute but that was it. So I buy thursday messaged him on Facebook. and way by friday invited him to get that hair cut i said i would do as i was cutting a friends hair so he said he had a party on that night. So i just left it and said another time.
He then messaged by friday last minute that he would come for a hair cute. So he did also asked for my number in case he got lost. I cut his hair and he had some dinner as there were couple people having a bbq with us. We had a few drinks and he quietly invited us to the birthday he was going to anyway we went with him and we had fun i was socializing with all his friends trying not to be clingy I bought couple rounds of drinks so then he bought me couple of interesting drinks. He asked a mutual friend if i was interested.
Anyway he ended up come home with me and the mutual friend that came to the birthday as well and yes we had sex! I don't usually do this but it just happened from both parts i was the one that started kissing him first though. I had work the next day and dropped him home. he was very breif but kissed me on the cheek. I messaged him later in the day at work saying i was dying and thanking him for the fun night. he messaged later replying and asking how i was etc. We both had tickets to the same festival on sunday but didn't plan on meeting up as were going with different friends. I messaged him asking if he was there at the festival now repl
no reply. but then I randomly bumped into his friend which this cappy was coming up behind him so we all chatted and couldn't believe we bumped into each other in such big crowd!!!! We he was meeting a friend feather over and his friends suggested they move on he said He wanted to stay but i said no you go text me! I texted him again later on saying i wanted to party with him after the festival. he replyed a lot later saying he was looking after a friend who was much too wasted. I replied with good friend. That was it now its is tuesday and he hasn't texted me or anything I don't now if i should text him or wait for him or have i recked things my having sex to soon with him?
Posted by jaxz
Anyway he ended up come home with me and the mutual friend that came to the birthday as well and yes we had sex!
Please tell me you didn't bang both of them.
It's a bit too soon to tell...
He could've been in it for the sex or for the haircut. You never know with Cap males so if you work in any service related industry, never offer to do stuff for them again.
Now that you've had sex DO NOT CHASE HIM and by chase him I mean initiate text, emails etc.
Sex is sex so don't get to hung up on if you had sex too soon, it's too late for that so now you must get on with your life and forget about him for awhile.
The ball is in his court, he either follow up with you or he don't.
Sometimes a woman's eagerness and availability can turn a man off, some men sense his freedom is at risk so he'll go off and pursue other things until he can figure out what he wants.
Free hair cut and sex, well he got a bargain but you don't have to beg nor chase...Gather your pride, kiss your bruised ego and get on with your life.
Oh and don't ask about him through your friends either, just play it cool and see what happens.
Usually women PANIC and do all the wrong unattractive things to cause a permanent disaster. Don't do that.
Instead get busy, don't forget to get some ice cream, curl up in nice warm blanket and get on with your life.
Sex is sex so don't get to hung up on if you had sex too soon, it's too late for that so now you must get on with your life and forget about him for awhile.
The ball is in his court, he either follow up with you or he don't.
Sometimes a woman's eagerness and availability can turn a man off, some men sense his freedom is at risk so he'll go off and pursue other things until he can figure out what he wants.
Free hair cut and sex, well he got a bargain but you don't have to beg nor chase...Gather your pride, kiss your bruised ego and get on with your life.
Oh and don't ask about him through your friends either, just play it cool and see what happens.
Usually women PANIC and do all the wrong unattractive things to cause a permanent disaster. Don't do that.
Instead get busy, don't forget to get some ice cream, curl up in nice warm blanket and get on with your life.
It's the free haircut that sold it for him.
He's a Cap.
He's a Cap.
Posted by Damnata
It's the free haircut that sold it for him.
He's a Cap.
Lol!!!
I agree with Tiki.
You've let him know you are interested, obviously, so let him make the next move. If he's interested he will. If he's not, he won't. A cap man will definitely go after something he's interested in. So don't contact him or ask anyone about him. Doesn't hurt to "accidentally" bump into him.
Just figure out a logical reason for doing so, so it doesn't look obvious.
A cap man also likes independent women. So be that women. If you play it cool and don't get all desparate-clingy-needy-afraid-insecure, then you might be the one girl that acts different, which would set you apart from all the rest and might peak his interest enough to want to figure out why you didn't go all crazy psycho, ya know.
Okay, now I reckon I gotta go into mom mode and suggest you wait for sex in the future and you won't have to be worrying or wondering or second guessing or whatever that makes you feel like. See, if they're interested, they're going to be interested with or without sex and it's better to wait for this reason alone. You wouldn't have to question his behavior as much if sex weren't involved (or it wouldn't bother you as much if it turns out he isn't interested).
Okay. Mom mode aside.
Just be cool, girl. Be cool! Keep living your fabulous life.
You've let him know you are interested, obviously, so let him make the next move. If he's interested he will. If he's not, he won't. A cap man will definitely go after something he's interested in. So don't contact him or ask anyone about him. Doesn't hurt to "accidentally" bump into him.
Just figure out a logical reason for doing so, so it doesn't look obvious.
A cap man also likes independent women. So be that women. If you play it cool and don't get all desparate-clingy-needy-afraid-insecure, then you might be the one girl that acts different, which would set you apart from all the rest and might peak his interest enough to want to figure out why you didn't go all crazy psycho, ya know.
Okay, now I reckon I gotta go into mom mode and suggest you wait for sex in the future and you won't have to be worrying or wondering or second guessing or whatever that makes you feel like. See, if they're interested, they're going to be interested with or without sex and it's better to wait for this reason alone. You wouldn't have to question his behavior as much if sex weren't involved (or it wouldn't bother you as much if it turns out he isn't interested).
Okay. Mom mode aside.
Just be cool, girl. Be cool! Keep living your fabulous life.
I don't see challenge for him. You seem a bit too easy. It should be pretty simple: stop initiating texts and make him come to you
"I don't usually do this...but" lol ^_^
it's always that same ole' line. I watch too many movies. "I don't usually do this..." but...WOOPS...we're in bed. Oh me oh my!
well, i feel that you should just go for it. you're both single and enjoying your togetherness. Enjoy eachother's company.
Don't lose this opportunity!
it's always that same ole' line. I watch too many movies. "I don't usually do this..." but...WOOPS...we're in bed. Oh me oh my!
well, i feel that you should just go for it. you're both single and enjoying your togetherness. Enjoy eachother's company.
Don't lose this opportunity!
ok thanks guys!!!!! yea well it was fun and yea i did have sex to soon but its happened now ??_??_. so ill just wait for him to text me and we shall see aye
LOL and no i didn't bang both of them but it did sound like it though didn't it hahahaha
I REALLY WAnt to text him something funny/relaxd and mention i was pretty wasted when was texting after the festival so don't sound so needy?
Sex too early. You blew it I'm afraid.
What's left? For me, the worst thing you can do is jump in the sack with me too soon. Conquered!
On to the next challenge.
Remember this.
What's left? For me, the worst thing you can do is jump in the sack with me too soon. Conquered!
On to the next challenge.
Remember this.
Posted by jaxz
I was excited that I had meet this very relaxed chilled gentleman.
A real gentleman doesn't....
Posted by jaxz
He then messaged by friday last minute that he would come for a hair cute.
Message a woman the last minute and invite himself for a haircut.
Allow a woman to get him and his friends a round of drinks without politely declining.
Posted by jaxz
Anyway he ended up come home with me and the mutual friend that came to the birthday as well and yes we had sex!click to expand
Take you up on a sex offer while his neighborly friend waited outside your bedroom.
Most Cap (not all) men are quite traditional.
I'm sure there will be more Cap men to comment on this topic soon.
+1 Taurusbull & Captenn
We advised you not to chase him!
Your hormones are telling you to bond with him, find him and domesticate him, fix it with him, call, text, pursue him but that will only serve to demonstrate to him that he can get whatever he wants without putting in effort and you'll still show up to be used.
This guy has gotten you without putting in zero effort and because of that he know on some level you are either needy or desperate or both. Why chase a man so he can use you, take from you again.
Lean all the way back, so far that he'll eventually have to contact you but if he doesn't contact you then it's done, it's over, move on.
We advised you not to chase him!
Your hormones are telling you to bond with him, find him and domesticate him, fix it with him, call, text, pursue him but that will only serve to demonstrate to him that he can get whatever he wants without putting in effort and you'll still show up to be used.
This guy has gotten you without putting in zero effort and because of that he know on some level you are either needy or desperate or both. Why chase a man so he can use you, take from you again.
Lean all the way back, so far that he'll eventually have to contact you but if he doesn't contact you then it's done, it's over, move on.
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What if she wants him for sex?
Just playing devils advocate...
Just playing devils advocate...
A woman chasing a man for sex, he will run.
If the sex is good he'll be back...
If the sex is good he'll be back...
Thanks tiki !!I know you are right Lean all the way back! but it was fun as Ive just come out of a 2 year relationship a few months ago and this cap was the first guys to have sex with since. so would be nice to just causally see him like sun moons suggests but yea i will just leave it and keep you up dated "IF " he texts hahaha
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