I've made my peace

This topic was created in the Capricorn forum by Chelsey07 on Tuesday, September 20, 2016 and has 17 replies.
I'm sure a lot of y'all know about the fiery/tumultuous relationship that I had with a Capricorn woman that I couldn't shake. Well, I finally made my peace with her. I told her that I needed closure and while she didn't give the type that I was expecting, it was the type that I needed.


I feel free. I no longer feel like I have some invisible tie to her. I can sleep at night without wondering if she's ever felt the pain that I felt, or if she's even regretful. I don't feel angry or hurt. I want everything good in the world to happen to her.


Although I did get something that I wasn't expecting...an apology.
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Posted by OmniVirgoFlirt
Posted by Chelsey07
I'm sure a lot of y'all know about the fiery/tumultuous relationship that I had with a Capricorn woman that I couldn't shake. Well, I finally made my peace with her. I told her that I needed closure and while she didn't give the type that I was expecting, it was the type that I needed.


I feel free. I no longer feel like I have some invisible tie to her. I can sleep at night without wondering if she's ever felt the pain that I felt, or if she's even regretful. I don't feel angry or hurt. I want everything good in the world to happen to her.


Although I did get something that I wasn't expecting...an apology.
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Am I missing something?
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Posted by OmniVirgoFlirt
Out of sheer curiousness, how many lies did she tell you?


Lies? What are you implying?
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She did. It would be an understatement to say she didn't. As for lies, I feel like there were a lot of lies to keep from hurting my feelings (which actually did hurt), but I'm over that now I got what I needed and an unexpected apology as well. I can go on with my life and have no ill feelings towards her.
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Posted by OmniVirgoFlirt
Posted by Chelsey07
She did. It would be an understatement to say she didn't. As for lies, I feel like there were a lot of lies to keep from hurting my feelings (which actually did hurt), but I'm over that now I got what I needed and an unexpected apology as well. I can go on with my life and have no ill feelings towards her.
Ok....but what a cap women can not answer is why they lie..why do it when they say they like you...


So if everything were to work like magic would you have a relationship with her again? Assuming everything is ok and working. Just a general question I have.
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I can't answer that truly. I feel like in the future that may be possible. We both have some more growing up to do and if fate brings us back together, then so be it. I will always love her. She's my first love and made me realize I was in love.
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Posted by OmniVirgoFlirt


Ok....but what a cap women can not answer is why they lie..why do it when they say they like you...





Have you asked a cap woman? Most are honest and will tell you

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Right. But the lies don't matter to me anymore. I have no ill intent or feelings toward her. She was pretty honest during our closure "conversation" and the overdue apology.
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Ok....but what a cap women can not answer is why they lie..why do it when they say they like you...





Have you asked a cap woman? Most are honest and will tell you

Yes and I got no answer....maybe i should clarify the lie stuff...


Maybe she lied or just told little white lies. What for or what the reasining was behind it, I have no idea. I do know, I never give her a reason to and maybe her friends talked her into crazy stupid stuff.


...the things you do for someone and the sacrifices, the honesty you give them, all for what? nothing in the end? a relationship based on what? nothing....


maybe her way of growing up as a chile, it was ok to do people like that but in my world its not. the thing is, shes had chances to own up and im guessing that will never happen bc shes all to much prideful? if she does ill be shocked.
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Yes honey, Cappies have a lot of pride. The fact that she even apologized showed me that she let go of her pride for a single moment to lay our relationship to rest.


I felt the exact same things you're feeling. How dare he/she do this to me after all of the hard work and dedication I put in?!?! It's like a slap in the face isn't it? She does still have a lot of growing up to do and going our separate ways will allow her to do it. Whether she grows up with another woman or grows and finds her way back to me, I'll always be happy for her.

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Posted by OmniVirgoFlirt


Ok....but what a cap women can not answer is why they lie..why do it when they say they like you...





Have you asked a cap woman? Most are honest and will tell you

Right. But the lies don't matter to me anymore. I have no ill intent or feelings toward her. She was pretty honest during our closure "conversation" and the overdue apology.
That's good & I understand. Glad you made your peace. Was intended more for Omni as he wanted to know the why. Sometimes Caps will like people, still doesn't mean tge long term compatibility is there.
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And you're absolutely right. Just because you want to be with someone doesn't mean that's always a good idea. Growing up has to be done on both ends and someday, we may find ourselves running back to each other, but I'm not holding my breath. smile

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Ok....but what a cap women can not answer is why they lie..why do it when they say they like you...





Have you asked a cap woman? Most are honest and will tell you

Right. But the lies don't matter to me anymore. I have no ill intent or feelings toward her. She was pretty honest during our closure "conversation" and the overdue apology.
That's good & I understand. Glad you made your peace. Was intended more for Omni as he wanted to know the why. Sometimes Caps will like people, still doesn't mean tge long term compatibility is there.
so what you really saying its ok to be lied to, saying your moving to another state when you never had intentions to in the first place? not only that..


what its called is playing with peoples emotions, plain and simple and shes off at the same time tryna screw another guy.


...so that fits your definition of no lt compatibility? thats ludicrous.
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Whoa whoa whoa...I don't think that's what Capri meant at all. It is NEVER right to lie to someone you care about. I'm genuinely wanting to know the whole story. PM me whenever you're ready.

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Ok....but what a cap women can not answer is why they lie..why do it when they say they like you...





Have you asked a cap woman? Most are honest and will tell you

Yes and I got no answer....maybe i should clarify the lie stuff...


Maybe she lied or just told little white lies. What for or what the reasining was behind it, I have no idea. I do know, I never give her a reason to and maybe her friends talked her into crazy stupid stuff.


...the things you do for someone and the sacrifices, the honesty you give them, all for what? nothing in the end? a relationship based on what? nothing....


maybe her way of growing up as a chile, it was ok to do people like that but in my world its not. the thing is, shes had chances to own up and im guessing that will never happen bc shes all to much prideful? if she does ill be shocked.


Yes honey, Cappies have a lot of pride. The fact that she even apologized showed me that she let go of her pride for a single moment to lay our relationship to rest.


I felt the exact same things you're feeling. How dare he/she do this to me after all of the hard work and dedication I put in?!?! It's like a slap in the face isn't it? She does still have a lot of growing up to do and going our separate ways will allow her to do it. Whether she grows up with another woman or grows and finds her way back to me, I'll always be happy for her.

what you dont is....how another person feels. nor what they went through. nor what they sacrificed to try and make it work when the other person never had desires of making it work in the first place.

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No they don't know and that's because some don't care. In my case, my Cap didn't care about my feelings while we were together otherwise she wouldn't have done or said the things she did during our relationship and after our breakup. It was during our closure "conversation" that I told her everything that I felt.


The Caps have a heart...it's just thousands of feet below the surface.


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Posted by Capri-sun
I'm sorry you both had bad experiences
It's all good on my end. This post went all the way into left field lol. I was trying to keep this post full of positive vibes and show that Cappies do have redeeming qualities.


This post was supposed to be about my story of peace and redemption.
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@OmniVirgoflirt


These cappies do have hearts love. While it did hurt, I'm all about forgiving and turning over a new leaf. Please PM me, you're bringing down the positive vibes of my post.
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I'm very happy that you got some type of closure.I know how hard it is to shake off a Cap when they made a impact on your heart
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Happy you moved on. Its a good feeling :-)


I recently had a similar experience of lying with a cap girlfriend of mine. She tried to gaslight me when i asked her why.

Too many lies for no reason. Could be the pride as someone mentioned? I dont know. Lying just destroys the friendship eventually and is psychologically abusive overtime. But all signs can lie so you have to know your worth and move on.


I cut her off.
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Posted by netpower
Happy you moved on. Its a good feeling :-)


I recently had a similar experience of lying with a cap girlfriend of mine. She tried to gaslight me when i asked her why.

Too many lies for no reason. Could be the pride as someone mentioned? I dont know. Lying just destroys the friendship eventually and is psychologically abusive overtime. But all signs can lie so you have to know your worth and move on.


I cut her off.


Yep and that's what I did. During our "conversation", she did the exact same things. The gaslighting, playing the victim, etc. In my case it was definitely pride because believe it or not, when she was in the process of apologizing, she said something like:


"I'm not your average person when it comes to this" and I'm thinking "What the fuck is that supposed to mean?" My ex is very prideful.

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Posted by sugarplumeow
I'm very happy that you got some type of closure.I know how hard it is to shake off a Cap when they made a impact on your heart
It is. It definitely is, but I'm better off without her. And thank you. I feel tons better.
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Posted by Chelsey07
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Happy you moved on. Its a good feeling :-)


I recently had a similar experience of lying with a cap girlfriend of mine. She tried to gaslight me when i asked her why.

Too many lies for no reason. Could be the pride as someone mentioned? I dont know. Lying just destroys the friendship eventually and is psychologically abusive overtime. But all signs can lie so you have to know your worth and move on.


I cut her off.


Yep and that's what I did. During our "conversation", she did the exact same things. The gaslighting, playing the victim, etc. In my case it was definitely pride because believe it or not, when she was in the process of apologizing, she said something like:


"I'm not your average person when it comes to this" and I'm thinking "What the fuck is that supposed to mean?" My ex is very prideful.

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Not your average person?????


Lol sounds very grandiose to me and yes pride has alot to do with it. There could be deep seated insecurities as well which causes them to say such things.


Yes, Victim playing is a big one and often done to justify their wrong actions and manipulate you.


Be glad you saw that sooner and ran.... hahahha




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