just venting

oh..i know.I'm so turned off because he never had to lie and it sounded like he didnt want to answer methen but was backed into a corner..

"now the whome four months that we have been friends he has told me on more then one occasion that he DID NOT HAVE A GIRLFRIEND"



What the fuck is the matter with this world?


A man to whom is just your friend has no obligation to tell you anything. If he chooses to keep his personal life private from a pryer, then this is his right. And if you decide to pry anyway, even it's none of your business, then you deserve what you got.

And I know you're a pryer into his business because there would be other reason for him to tell you on more than one occasion that he doesn't have a girlfriend unless you ASKED him.

For you to even say the word "girlfriend" in reference to the possibility of it being a woman beside you, is clear indication that you are NOT his girlfriend, and you know it.


So, what the fuck are you doing thinking you have any right to hold this man accountible to your morals and standards .. your not even his woman, you have no place to make this kind of judgement against him, simply because he chooses to have a woman in his life.

What a fucking bitch.


"His already shown you he lies and cheats."


Cheats?

What the hell? Did you really say that, Crazy4Cappy?



How the fuck can a man cheat on her when she isn't even his woman?


People are fucked up ..... it's amazing humans are still in existence, to be honest.

Actually I think that he was referring to His girlfriend when she/he said "He lies and cheats"...I didnt ask him more then once, he volunteered the information more then once and in different conversations.If you are dating someone YES you do owe it to them to be honest about your status. Maybe you misinterpreted my post or just did alot of assuming.

P-Angel...Relax please.

Softy I am sorry but I got to agree with P-Angel. You and this guy are just friends. He doesn't owe you anything about his romantic life. This isn't any of your buisness. Did you like him more than just friends?

Yes I liked him more then a friend and he expressed that he liked me more then a friend as well..we spent a lot of time together when he was here.

A man to whom is just your friend has no obligation to tell you anything. If he chooses to keep his personal life private from a pryer, then this is his right. And if you decide to pry anyway, even it's none of your business, then you deserve what you got.

*bits lips*

I'm sorry that happened softly, I am 😢

I must say ... P-Angel has a point. People share what they want to share I suppose. I (myself) don't sure everything with one friend. Nope, I do not.

However, I agree that he didn't have to lie although he didn't really have to tell the truth. Lying was by no means the answer.

Alright then, if you want to try your hand at reading between the lines ... check this out ..


"So I got intoxicated the other night and called my cap friend..several times(which besides that I hardly ever call)"

Notice how the first mention is using the word "friend" .. but, mainly just after that it is highlighted in parathesis that she doesn't call him .. hardly ever. If these two people were a couple, item, then telephone communication would be more than hardly ever, don't you think.

"..he answers and sounds kinda dry..he asked me if I called him the night before and I tell him yea..sorry and that I had been drinkng.."


Sorry?

Why would a man's girlfriend say she is """"""sorry"""""" for ringing him?

If you are going to read between the lines to make assessments, then make sure you read accurately. And I can assure you, as sure as I am sitting here, that a woman to whom is one of a man in the aspect that she considers herself to actually being the woman of this man will NOT apologize for ringing him ... and secondly ....

... she would remember everything about the night, except a person actually answering the phone?

Think about that .... first, she just said tipsy .. who (forgets) what they are doing simply because they are tipsy? And then to take it further ..... she remembers calling, she just doesn't remember anyone answering ... though, she actually remembers calling several times.

Selective memory. And suddenly when a woman answers the phone ... she has amnesia.

Any woman .. mark my words here ... any woman who considers herself the woman of this man, who rings him and another woman answers the phone is NOT GOING TO FORGET, I dont' care how fucking drunk she is.


How absurd .... don't be so gullible as to believe something that is out of the ordinary of human behaviour.

A woman scorned .. forget?


rflmao

And that's just the first part of her original post ..... there is loads more to read inbetween the lines.


You're crap at reading between the lines, to be honest .....



Because he hasn't lied .... he just kept his private life private, where it belongs .... because ding-dong, if he was doing as you suggested, he wouldn't let one of the Hers answer his phone.


Dah .... hello.

..... she felt compelled to apologize to him for calling him .......




lol

I'm not his girlfriend, never said I was. I apologized for the HOUR that I called him. And I do not remember ANYBODY answering the phone PERIOD. He was sleep and did not LET HER answer his phone. He didnt knowshe answered until the morning.OMG..I'm still trying to figure where I said I was his girlfriend? Never said that. Weird.

And to be honest..I dont think she ever said hello..I think if anything she might of picked upand not said anything. Reading IS fundamental I must say.

All this just to get you to admit you aren't his girlfriend .. so now what I said originally is validated.


He hasn't lied to you .. he simply chose not to make you privy to his personal business.
He hasn't cheated on you .. since he has no responsibility in honoring his fidelity to you.

This is a case of you being a wanna-be-his-girlfriend, and so intruded upon his privacy late at night when he was asleep with his woman ....


It's none of your business, his comings and goings in his personal life .. keep prying and intruding and he won't even want you as a friend.

"He was sleep and did not LET HER answer his phone. He didnt knowshe answered until the morning.OMG"


How do you know that ^^^^^^^ ... you don't.


In your original post, which is the accurate one because it is what you were conveying openly before your back being put against the wall defensively .. you said ..

"he answers and sounds kinda dry..he asked me if I called him the night before and I tell him yea..sorry and that I had been drinkng..he goes on to say that someone answered but it wasn't him..I say well who was it? He pauses..says nothing..I say WHO? He says nothing..I say YOUR GIRLFRIEND?? He pauses and says yea.."


there's nothing in there that says he didn't know until morning .. you only say this now because I am questioning your integrity, and so you have to come up with a defense. Originally, when you were being biasdly candid (your side of course) ..... you only mentioned that he told you somebody else answered the phone, but was reluctant to tell you who it was until you pressured him into through a guilt trip.


Upon first answering the phone ..... "he answers and sounds kinda dry"

Upon first answering the phone ..... "he answers and sounds kinda dry"

He hasn't lied to you .


Yea..actually he did, when he VOLUNTARILY said he didnt have a girlfriend. It is that simple.He said he did not have a girlfriend,because if he had, I wouldve respected that situation and NEVER called at the time of night. And thats my point.

Softy, I won't be as brusque as P-Angel at the risk of injuring your feelings or ego but I will say QUIT while you are ahead- You kinda , sorta tripped yourself up in your post(s). You not on the jury stand by no means but umm you said you were drunk and called someone but didn't remember who answered the phone? May I ask your age? Just out of curiosity. And oh yeah I'm not a Scientist but I don't think there is a stage of drunkness or delerium where one wouldn't remember who they spoke to on a phone. Initially I think you wanted to vent and so far have rec'd a lot of unwanted advice. But to be frank, Why MAKE someone WANT you and WHY force an issue? if he has a girlfriend then move on. I'm having a problem understanding the part where you said he lied to you. Well , um I don't know if he truly embellished anything or if he withheld the part that he has a girlfriend. The phone call thing with him going silent when you kept asking him who answerd the phone is a bit juvenile hence I asked your age. Nevertheless, I'd say move on it is obvious he has someone.

lol, again ... you refer to him as her boyfriend, eventhough she admits he is not one ... and yet, it is I who isn't comprehending this situation. If you have a problem with how I talk to other people ... then that is exactly what it is ..... your problem.



Softy ...... "I say well who was it? He pauses..says nothing..I say WHO? He says nothing..I say YOUR GIRLFRIEND?? He pauses .."


That ^^^^^^ is an intrusion.


Three times you made reference that he should tell you about his private life, and when he either tried to side-step your question, or if he says nothing ... then you come back with Caps to infer yelling, or pressuring him into telling you ..... then when he wouldn't, you say in caps (yell) your girlfriend.

That put him on the spot ....... it is obvious from you asking him this question 3 times when he tried to not have to answer you ... that you guilt him into telling you things that is none of your business.


Seriously ..... if you are stepping over bounds with men like this ....

You're not cut out to be the partner of a Capricorn .../


:::: scratches head ::::



I can't think of any sign that will overlook being forced to reveal personal information ... so, I'm not sure who could be your partner.

Crazy4Cappy I can see were you are coming from and I mean no disrespect here but I need to be blunt. To me softy sounds like a young girl who is confused about her situation with this guy. We are only hearing one side of the situation. Guys are allowed to have chick friends even if we have a girlfriend. Just because this Cappy guy sees her as a friend, hangs out with her, and maybe tells her he misses her. Doesn't mean he wants something more from her other than friendship.

If they had both admitted to each other they had feelings, "more than friends", then why weren't they going out? It doesn't entirely make sense.

I think softy has embelished a few things to make it sounds like he lied to her about having a girlfriend. In truth, I am not convinced. He didn't lie, he probably withheld information. He may like softy more than a friend, but I would wager he likes his girlfriend even more, because the fact remains, he is still with the chick and not with softy.

My two cents.

P-Angel you are a Pieces Rat. Hmm it explains a few things about your demeanour now, but rats arn't usually so shrude. They are generally happy and kind people.