Losing my mind

Me: Gemini Sun Capricorn Moon Pisces Venus
Capri Male: Capri Sun, Aquarius Moon, Aquarius Venus

So I met a 30 yr old male online we have been talking through text / phone for 6 months. In the beginning I was really not into him being that in a way I felt like we had nothing in common but his constant texting,calling giving me all the attention in the world made me fall for him. Very smart man and I think I fell for his brain lol. 3 months into it he pulled his 1st disappearing act... I did not contact him,,, he came bak (being that we talked everyday) well texted me a few days later and asked why i hadnt contacted him... being that i very rarely initiated contact with him every now and then I would text but he did most of the work (im old fashion guys)I just said sorry I have been caught up with a school project. He has told me that he likes me a lot and that he is looking forward to what the future holds for us yet he hasnt made any initiating as in to meet up or anything... we live 1 hr away from each other so not too bad to spend some time with someone you supposely like that much right.? Well now 6 months into it he has pulled a couple disappearing acts and yeah (tiki23) he switched the tables around and I started contacting him which is something i dont do for any guy which catches me off guard on why he would be an exception when he hasnt even showed or given me any reason to other then being sweet and affectionate when he feels up for it.... he told me that I intimidated him because he said I have such a positive aura and a good heart and he wasnt sure if I had seen his full heart and that he can be very cold... he said that i make him want to be a better person but if we havent even met and Im already doing this for him why not take the chance to meet me so he can see for himself. Why is he scared? I don't want to give up on a potential good man but I also feel like this is going no where. He does have a daughter and I understand that he has a life aside from talking to me and that might be why he hasnt tried to meet me. I feel foolish trying to comeup with excuses for him. Am I wasting my time with this cappy? I heard patience is the key but geesh we havent even met for coffee Im taking it as if he hasnt offered to meet hes not ready? Any advice is appreciated
Thanks

No I havent asked him out for coffee (Im taking it as if he hasnt asked he's not interested in hanging out) lastmonth after working up all the courage to go against my own self I asked him if he wanted to celebrate with me my graduation. He said that he would love to...I told him when it was.. well he blew me off got a text that evening saying congrats and where the party was at I said thanks and thats it. Next day he asked me what I had done and I told him that I had gone to dinner with a couple of friends that had also graduated. and that was that and he never brought it up and niether did I just made it seem like it was no biggie

I see a few red flags, him constantly chasing you, initiating constant contact but not initiating a date is suspicious behavior then disappearing, maybe he's married or already in a longterm commitment with someone else but the disappearing acts would raise my awareness that he's not who he says he is...

I sense red flags as well. Something is definitely up. Sounds to me like you need to revamp your "challenge" quotient in order to get a handle on the disappearing act pattern that has emerged.

If this guy wants you then he needs to come and claim you like a man face-to-face or stop wasting your valuable time. He's not scared merely, for the moment, in control of both you and the relationship to a greater extent. Sounds like he's testing your level of loyalty, devotion, admiration, etc. to him over yourself. Doesn't make him a bad guy but testing comes with the territory on both sides and he's exercising that perrogative with his disppearing acts to see-test your reaction to it all. Distance, a daughter, work and so on are only valid excuses for so long. If he truly wants to be a better man because of you then he needs to be just that and do better starting with introducing himself to you properly.

Or maybe he's an obese 62 year old guy pretending to be his good looking twentysomething son...LOL it's the internet it could be anything going on. Have you been on skype or webcam together? Just curious

No Skpe or web cam. Hes been pretty distant for about a month or so. Texts me every now and then keeping it casual. Im throwing in the towel. Hes messing with my head and if he were real about his butter he would of handled business how a man would do it. If he can prove to me that he doesnt want to lose me than hey ill reconsider but as far as im concern thats it for me.
I appreciate you guys taking the time

Never trust GEMINI...

P.S : I am a typical Capricorn and I can assure you that any zodiac is trustworthy but GEMINI

Read about GEMINI personalty (esp:FEMALE) or you may observe it by meeting one.I had a very deep study
on GEMINI female personality.Lots of book and 4 and a 1/2 year with real personality.

Posted by everevolvingepithet

Posted by tiki33
Or maybe he's an obese 62 year old guy pretending to be his good looking twentysomething son...LOL it's the internet it could be anything going on. Have you been on skype or webcam together? Just curious

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You're blowing mah coool/cred here !🙂

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LOL ooops my bad!

Posted by gem14
No Skpe or web cam. Hes been pretty distant for about a month or so. Texts me every now and then keeping it casual. Im throwing in the towel. Hes messing with my head and if he were real about his butter he would of handled business how a man would do it. If he can prove to me that he doesnt want to lose me than hey ill reconsider but as far as im concern thats it for me.
I appreciate you guys taking the time

You should skype or cam first...Remember it's the internet and there are things you have to figure out first before putting so much trust in a person. He's cooled off so it's best to move on and let it be for awhile, he probably isn't the person he pretended to be.