Male Cap and Female Pisces

What are the chances of us getting back together after one year and he has changed his mind after being with someone else and wants to be with me again? Im apprehensive about it. Any advice would be apprecited. Thanks.

Well, I went back to a cap after being apart for a long while. Yes, it was the bomb (sex,coversation,companionship) for a few months but then the luster wore off and it was back to dealing with our issue. That issues was trust, we didn't. I never beleived a word he said because the proof was never in the pudding. And he didn't trust me. You see, we had this "let's not discuss it" thing going on. It worked for me, but cap's can't live that way. They want to know 100% that you are theirs, but he never gave me that security. So it was a lot of mind games. And you know who the winner is of mind games are. You can't play a fish. Unless the fish wants to play. Believe that. Anyway, your cap will simply need to state his case and you need to be able to believe him. Cap's are so vage that you would never know how much one cared about you. They live in this lettle secret shell hidding thier true feelings. I read on this board the other day that cap's are usuall testing you to see how far you will bend. I hate them for that but, if that's their way so be it. Honey, if you feel good about your lifepath then keep on moving. If he is serios time will tell. What will really ruffle his feathers is if you just don't sweat him. Let him call you, let him do all the work. Maybe he will appreciate you more this time around.

Let me know what happens, I'm curious.
Good Luck

Should you always let a male cap do the work? I have one that gives me very mixed signals, seems to open up to me and then when I go to where he seems to be leading (whether it be emotional or sexual), he backs off and its as though it never happened. Then he comes back and it starts again, but each time we move a little deeper. If it is that he needs to be in control doesn't that conflict with the need for me to prove myself too him? He is cutting off his nose to spite his face if I tell him I care about him and he runs away, I don't want to bother saying it again and end up being a doormat. Men seem to need a bit of a challenge but I hate to play games. It has got to the point where I feel like saying 'you want it, I want it, why don't we just give in to it and see what happens?' Or would that scare him off again? I guess I will just say what I want when I want and he can go away and digest. If he wants what I have to offer he can take me up on it. If someone else comes along in the meantime so be it. I tend to believe that things happen if they are 'meant to be' so whatever comes of it, it is a learning experience. The stupid thing is that neither of us want a heavy relationship anyway, we just get on well and are attracted to each other and would like a bit of companionship, fun and sex and would rather have it with the same person than pick up strangers. Or is he just saying that to test me—

It's a test. If he really wants you, let him show you. Not make you guess all the time. Make him work!

Well there's an update on the situation anyway, he called me out of the blue yesterday and it turns out that in the 6 weeks since I last saw him he had fallen madly in love with some Swedish girl who has since gone home leaving him wondering if she was 'the one' or not. He did acknowledge that it might have been intensified by the fact she was leaving and that it was a bit of a challange as she had come here following another man. But whatever, I am just a friend who he happens to fancy and we can keep each other company whenever we are both single. I guess I knew that anyway, I have felt the 'magic' before and know it isn't there with him. So now I know that its not that he is scared of falling in love, its just that he knows I am not the one for him and is worried he will break my heart. Or he is so screwy that he only goes for girls he can't have. Whatever, I like his company as a friend and am fine with that, as long as I know where I stand.

Good for you for knowing who you are and where you want to stand. The neat thing is you can stand wherever you want to and the view will be different in each place. Enjoy the places you pick to stand 🙂

But if he is still testing me and this other girl is really some sort of benchmark, how do I pass the test. I've just told him I am happy for him and that she will be back if she is 'the one'. When if fact I am hurt that he only wanted to use me for sex (I don't know why, I'm attractive but no femme fatale) and it wasn't that he was just 'not ready' for a heavy relationship. He was quite willing to jump in head first with this other girl, but then she was leaving anyway... and I am here and available, maybe too available— Is he secretly wanting me to declare my undying love for him— Its not that I even feel that way yet, I just wanted a chance to start something nice and see where it led. I feel like I am caught up in some kind of game for which I don't know the rules. And maybe I am testing him too, being his friend, sometimes teasing him sexually, but secretly wanting him to fall for me first. It all seems so silly when I write it down.