Met a Swoonerific Cap But.......
This topic was created in the Capricorn forum by justSophs on Wednesday, November 9, 2011 and has 22 replies.
So met awesome Capricorn.
I have grown a lot personally and can appreciate getting to know someone rather as a friend then moving fast because my most successful relationships have been with guys that I got to know as friends first rather than relationship first. So its been nice just getting to know him.
But, he just got out of prison.
He was incarcerated for 4 years for being a large scale drug dealer and left a halfway house in February. He told me that he is very regretful of the life style he chose and want to finish school and start his own business. He has problems finding a job because of his felony conviction. Plus he said that he feels less of a person because of that fact and that women often run for the hills after he told them this and the one he was sorta of dating wanted sex and a commitment fairly early so that turned him off.
I appreciate his straightforward approach because he put the cards on the table very early. I wasn't scared off because I come from a Social Work background and plenty of men in my family have lived the same life style and suffered the same consequences but have bounced back from their past.
He has a son that currently lives with his mom and he hasn't been with her since 2001 because she cheated on him with a friend.
I just want to know your thoughts? He is a Cap dont really know the rest, I am Cancer sun with Cap moon.
With all that being said i just wanted to know your thoughts
I have grown a lot personally and can appreciate getting to know someone rather as a friend then moving fast because my most successful relationships have been with guys that I got to know as friends first rather than relationship first. So its been nice just getting to know him.
But, he just got out of prison.
He was incarcerated for 4 years for being a large scale drug dealer and left a halfway house in February. He told me that he is very regretful of the life style he chose and want to finish school and start his own business. He has problems finding a job because of his felony conviction. Plus he said that he feels less of a person because of that fact and that women often run for the hills after he told them this and the one he was sorta of dating wanted sex and a commitment fairly early so that turned him off.
I appreciate his straightforward approach because he put the cards on the table very early. I wasn't scared off because I come from a Social Work background and plenty of men in my family have lived the same life style and suffered the same consequences but have bounced back from their past.
He has a son that currently lives with his mom and he hasn't been with her since 2001 because she cheated on him with a friend.
I just want to know your thoughts? He is a Cap dont really know the rest, I am Cancer sun with Cap moon.
With all that being said i just wanted to know your thoughts
knock knock anybody hoooommme :-)
all i can say girl friend if the chemistry is there and you can withstand his past which is totally fine if you do....cause if its there physically emotionally and mentally i know im all there, but just dont do it llike i did my situation with this virgo man....I was goin with the flow which seemed as though it was not reall to him..he had just got out of prison also, which he is out on bond but he has also told me until he has this finalized we can not fully be togther so we have cut out any sex, which i can respect that but he still comes over and were friends which is totally crazy cause i buried my lil cuzzin then i have to deal with tryin to be strong enough to substain my emotions cause he doesnt want to be on that level anymore...so just be careful and truely take it slower than usual but enjoy the time you have together with one another, cause when you push for anything they pull away
Thanks Capgal....... that's what he said about the other girl.....she pushed for a relationship and he couldn't commit plus she was pushing sex on him, but he is not comfortable being intimate with someone that he is not really into.
I cant read his mind but the thing is, I don't think he would feel totally comfortable committing to someone when he cant even find a job because he mentions it a lot. And I am fine just being cool and going slow because I am getting myself together too but there is definitely chemistry there.
So I think he and are on the same page.
I cant read his mind but the thing is, I don't think he would feel totally comfortable committing to someone when he cant even find a job because he mentions it a lot. And I am fine just being cool and going slow because I am getting myself together too but there is definitely chemistry there.
So I think he and are on the same page.
that was pretty much my situation , I was not tryin to it was that chemistry and it seems to still be there plus he is always sayin is wont feel right commiting under these circumstances of the matter also, so he says that we should remain friends but he doesnt understand how that hurts but i remain there as his cook friend but i also know the only time i do this is when i dont intend to be with them but he says its the opposite for him, i feel as though we are speakin about the same man only thing is they have different signs and all....i usually dont say that what is my opinion on things like suck, i just think you should be carefull to not get physical anytime soon because it is so crazy how that makes things intensify even though everyone claims to have an understandin about what your doin but your a big girl you know your limits me, im just goin through much and it may make a man lose intrest in me, i thought off of the connection we had we'd last although that maybe still the case because he comes around he still calls everyday but he does say we arent there we need time to grow and get some of this ignorance out, we need to learn from this , but it is torture then im dealin with this death rather hard so its to much at once but i main tain your cookl but to stay gucci knowin is best befor physical and even then give time but what you think i should do bout mine through you lookin on the outside
"But, he just got out of prison."
Pass
Pass
Why Tiki?
@Capgal, I am not getting physical with him, right now, i am not ready for a relationship for personal reasons and i want him to feel ready to be with me, and I have been with Caps, they will not commit unless they feel like life is going according to their plan.
but he is the first person to give me butterflies in a long while, and i need that butterfly feeling.
I think that i will follow my heart instead of judging, many people have gone that path and turned out very successful.
but he is the first person to give me butterflies in a long while, and i need that butterfly feeling.
I think that i will follow my heart instead of judging, many people have gone that path and turned out very successful.
Ex-convict is enough for me to pass, too much down low sh*t going on in prison and he just doesn't have his life together which will make it more complicated to bond in a loving healthy balanced relationship, after being in prison 4 years he probably is in denial about his sexuality which is why he's pushed women away which let's me know he has an intimacy issue and possibly covering that issue up with the she is moving too fast excuse, just too much work and too many red flags IMO.
Why do you gravitate towards broken men? I notice a lot of your post are like that, it's like you can find the most fucked up man to be with and paint him into a prince...I don't get it.
Why do you gravitate towards broken men? I notice a lot of your post are like that, it's like you can find the most fucked up man to be with and paint him into a prince...I don't get it.
Ahhh Tiki somethings never change. First off he had sex 2 months ago with a chick he was talking to, I dont know who, I didnt delve deeper. He didnt have sex with this chick because she said she wanted a commitment to have sex and he wasn't that into her and she was just getting over a relationship and was very broken.
Secondly, do all men who go to prison have gay sex? Jumping the gun a little on that one.
Thirdly, every guy in this world is broken. Everyone has a past, no one is perfect.
Fourthly, this is the only jobless broke guy I've ever come to DXP to vent about, My exes: 1 is an Avionics Mechanic for Delta (ex husband), the other is a Master Sergeant in the Army, the 3rd is a Sergeant in the Army and is currently in Law School, the 4th graduated Magna Cume Laude from Morehouse with a B.A degree and was on a Baseball scholarship with them. 3 of them are Capricorns, 1 is a Gemini.
My point is miss all knowing jumping the gun perfection of the universe Tiki33, EVERY GUY IS BROKEN!!! EVERY GUY HAS A PAST!!
And I have a past too......Like I said I have plenty of family members, cousins, brothers, and uncles that lived that same life and have felonies on their record and bounced back and have thriving fulfilling lives with lovely marriages and children.
I am just getting to know him, I am not walking down to the altar.
Wake up Tiki, you are not perfect stop judging people and jumping the gun and put a muzzle on that reckless mouth of yours.
Secondly, do all men who go to prison have gay sex? Jumping the gun a little on that one.
Thirdly, every guy in this world is broken. Everyone has a past, no one is perfect.
Fourthly, this is the only jobless broke guy I've ever come to DXP to vent about, My exes: 1 is an Avionics Mechanic for Delta (ex husband), the other is a Master Sergeant in the Army, the 3rd is a Sergeant in the Army and is currently in Law School, the 4th graduated Magna Cume Laude from Morehouse with a B.A degree and was on a Baseball scholarship with them. 3 of them are Capricorns, 1 is a Gemini.
My point is miss all knowing jumping the gun perfection of the universe Tiki33, EVERY GUY IS BROKEN!!! EVERY GUY HAS A PAST!!
And I have a past too......Like I said I have plenty of family members, cousins, brothers, and uncles that lived that same life and have felonies on their record and bounced back and have thriving fulfilling lives with lovely marriages and children.
I am just getting to know him, I am not walking down to the altar.
Wake up Tiki, you are not perfect stop judging people and jumping the gun and put a muzzle on that reckless mouth of yours.
It was fine for her to ask but it is an assumption on her misguided God complex.
How did I paint this guy into a prince? He is a ex-convict, broke, with a kid and I still want to get to know him, I pretty much laid it out there. He is actually a frog. But I am still interested.
I talk to him as a friend, plus he is not the only guy I am dating i.e Pisces forum.
Actually one of the guys I talked about was a Cap I met on here that Tiki absolutely adores......wont say no names though. Is he a so called painted prince too?
Tiki just need to come down to the real world.
How did I paint this guy into a prince? He is a ex-convict, broke, with a kid and I still want to get to know him, I pretty much laid it out there. He is actually a frog. But I am still interested.
I talk to him as a friend, plus he is not the only guy I am dating i.e Pisces forum.
Actually one of the guys I talked about was a Cap I met on here that Tiki absolutely adores......wont say no names though. Is he a so called painted prince too?
Tiki just need to come down to the real world.
Thanks Elle....and you are awesome and sorry to hear that you broke up.
Its just that I am in the middle on that issue now, I have come the realization that I am Bi. I just kind of go with who I vibe with.
I was deeply in love with ex girlfriend, and when we broke up I thought the world was going to end. But I have felt that same way with my Cap ex boyfriend.
So I am taking time to just get to know people and go off of the energy i feel with people because I still have attraction to men and women.
Its just that I am in the middle on that issue now, I have come the realization that I am Bi. I just kind of go with who I vibe with.
I was deeply in love with ex girlfriend, and when we broke up I thought the world was going to end. But I have felt that same way with my Cap ex boyfriend.
So I am taking time to just get to know people and go off of the energy i feel with people because I still have attraction to men and women.
Sounds like you are attracted/interested in this man irregardless of his present circumstances. You are clear on your sexual identity and don't seem concerned as to whether he may or may not be having issues with his own. You like each other and are taking things slow. You have friends and relatives who have lived this man's life style and in spite of have gone on to better lives and relationships.
I guess my question then would be why are you seeking out anyone else's thoughts about what already seems clear to you in your own mind? If you are enjoying this man's company and want to see where it leads then I don't see the point in the thread simply because you seem to already set your course. JMO
I guess my question then would be why are you seeking out anyone else's thoughts about what already seems clear to you in your own mind? If you are enjoying this man's company and want to see where it leads then I don't see the point in the thread simply because you seem to already set your course. JMO
4 yrs? Yep. He was engaged in some homosexual acts. Those who don't after being locked up that long are few and far between.
Its just something no one likes to talk or think about.
Its just something no one likes to talk or think about.
But...I don't think it necessarily makes them gay, either. Men just have needs.
Anyway, you don't need justification from dxp. Do what feels right.
Anyway, you don't need justification from dxp. Do what feels right.
@Pidelight I asked myself the same question. I already made my mind up to get to know him.
I havent been on here for awhile and I seem to attract Cap men a lot, just wanted to hear some feedback. But you are right, I did make my decision.
@Ms.Pisces I dunno. Its hard for me to make the assumption that every single man who has been incarcerated for years have done something gay. Its definitely something I asked him, but I will never know. All I know is he likes women, been dating them since he's been out and I am still getting to know him. I am not gonna close the door just yet.
We all have a past and mistakes so we shall see how it goes.
I havent been on here for awhile and I seem to attract Cap men a lot, just wanted to hear some feedback. But you are right, I did make my decision.
@Ms.Pisces I dunno. Its hard for me to make the assumption that every single man who has been incarcerated for years have done something gay. Its definitely something I asked him, but I will never know. All I know is he likes women, been dating them since he's been out and I am still getting to know him. I am not gonna close the door just yet.
We all have a past and mistakes so we shall see how it goes.
We all have past but not all of us have past that involve high risk behavior. Some people with certain past are high risk, he's high risk IMO. Jail 4 years well IMO some homosexual activities most likely took place and any man that's been in jail for more than a year that's honest will agree that men will either willingly give themselves up or risk being broken and there are men who fight or attempt to fight off other men inevitably those men succumb to sex willingly out of fear of being brutally beaten or killed, there is no way around not being preyed upon in jail, it's a part of life for them but with that being said it's your life, your body, your way. Do what feels right for you. I don't feel me not dating ex convicts, men with high risk behavior makes me have a God complex, that makes me safe.
I'm not judging his sexuality, there is nothing wrong with being gay, straight, bi-sexual but if he's down low than he's high risk, let's hope he's not and all is well.
I'm not judging his sexuality, there is nothing wrong with being gay, straight, bi-sexual but if he's down low than he's high risk, let's hope he's not and all is well.
Right, you would know Tiki33 because you've done hard time or was it the couple of episodes of Dateline & 20/20?
This is my response to you ZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZ.
@Elle Thank you much for the positive energy....I really appreciate your input.....I will try and get it for sure.
Cheers.
This is my response to you ZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZ.
@Elle Thank you much for the positive energy....I really appreciate your input.....I will try and get it for sure.
Cheers.LOL
So some events have occurred, he is an AQUARIUS!
Noooooooooooooooo!
Noooooooooooooooo!
LOL awww shit!
Out the window with that one
Out the window with that one
@lildol why you say that?
@ellessque, it can be so wicked, cant it!
@ellessque, it can be so wicked, cant it!
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