need some advice from cappy men...

A few months ago I met a capricorn man and began a relationship of "friends with benefits"(my first time in this kind of relationship), we had a great time together, but as always happens, the feelings showed up, and I talked about whether there was an opportunity for us as a couple. He replied that he was not seeking a relationship, he was very busy at work etc..

At first I was not expecting this friendship to grow, because I had the same thought as my friend Cappy. Unfortunately for me the feelings evolved, and that's why I decided to talk with him to clarify them.

After that conversation, I decided to go ahead because I think if he said NO to a relationship, he really meant it.

When we see each other anywhere (club, bar, party, etc), sometimes say hello sometimes not. I have known him for almost 1 year, my friends say he stares to me all the time, or simply he moves around me and at the end I am the one who decides to say hello.

Please help me answer these questions:

*Why he does the stares thing?
*The Capricorn man is more comfortable with a casual relationship?
*Is there any chance that I have labeled as just 'FWB'.
*He said he knows me very well, that I'm a good girl and I do not have to prove it to him, (because I told him that I would like to be known as really I am)

* "Caps will often stare at people they know"

I kind of agree with this statement. I don't know much about CAPs, but my intuition tells me so. I don't take cap stare too serious. It could be just curiousity of your current state.

**"The Capricorn man is more comfortable with a casual relationship?"

Somehow I believe CAPs are not that comfortable with casual.. they could be but that's not their real intention, I believe. As little as I may know...


Iri77 -- I think you should relax and bring out your confident side. If your perception about YOU is the "good girl image", then you should be very firm about it. More like the "take it or fuck it" attitude... "am not going to change..." kind of way.

So relax... be yourself. Only the guy should deserve you, who you think is worth it.

*Why he does the stares thing? You cut off his sex and men don't like losing sex thus he's staring to lure you back into the sexual relationship it's the dance of seduction, he's attempting to seduce you back in, doesn't mean much if he's staring outside of him losing something he wants back which is good sex

*The Capricorn man is more comfortable with a casual relationship? Yes

*Is there any chance that I have labeled as just 'FWB'? Yes you have

*He said he knows me very well, that I'm a good girl and I do not have to prove it to him, (because I told him that I would like to be known as really I am)? Uhm yeah okay, he doesn't care as long as you provide him with sex, being a good girl was thrown out the window with the baby and the bathwater the moment you agreed to sex with no intimate connection FWB

He replied that he was not seeking a relationship, he was very busy at work etc..

That is your answer, he's not interested in any connections beyeond sexual relations I would stick with that and let him find someone else to be FWB with UNLESS your okay with that arrangement...

thank you all for your answers, I?m aware that FWB isn?t a good option if you can not handle it. Fortunately I am already on track to move forward with my life. To be honest I feel uncomfortable with the stares thing, what I do is ignore him, but sometimes I would like to go and ask him why he does it, however, ignore him it?s a better way to move on. 😄

im starting to think that caps dont want a serious relationship because they cant handle it. theyre a feminine sign.. and soft on the outside and hard on the inside. opposite of cancer.
i think it seems like too much work to get anymore serious than below the surface. serface serious- thats capricorn male.
i am speaking from frustration.

surface*

im starting to think that caps dont want a serious relationship because they cant handle it. theyre a feminine sign.. and soft on the outside and hard on the inside. opposite of cancer.

Well, Caps and Cancers are opposite signs after all. My experience is that Cap males can't afford to go soft because too many people rely on their strength. If truth be told, wasn't it the Capricorn male's quiet, inner strength & aura of invincibility that attracted you to him?

i think it seems like too much work to get anymore serious than below the surface. serface serious- thats capricorn male.

I think Chance11 is right about the Cap's intuition thing. My Cap guy friend is always picking women based on his 'gut feeling' rather than how attractive she is.

"My Cap guy friend is always picking women based on his 'gut feeling' rather than how attractive she is."

I heard this about the Caps intuition.
You get this "ping" sensation about a situation or someone and it turns out as a good move.

Beowolf: Does your friends "gut feeling" always work out for him "picking women" that way?

Sorry, I spelt your name wrong BeoWulf .... ;}

this is WHY FWB is BAD BAD BAD BAD.
because you develop feelings. SO DO NOT DO THIS AGAIN.

lol - not always, you just have to not go in with ulterior motives - one of the major reason it fails is, at least one of the partner usually has feelings for the other partner, especially if the other partner seems a bit on the less emotionally available side. Use that as an opportunity to wait maybe the person will change their mind

im starting to think that caps dont want a serious relationship because they cant handle it. theyre a feminine sign..

no - it's just not with you, if someone is unwilling to commit before they're ready, doesn't it follow that your wanting them to will not achieve anything? The caps I know are very intense in relationships so this seems a bit too general, no...... ?

FWB will not help someone see another side of you and fall for you 🙂 usually - especially not males when they fix on where you fit in.
The question is 'do you still have feelings for him?'

this is WHY FWB is BAD BAD BAD BAD.

because you develop feelings. SO DO NOT DO THIS AGAIN.

Agreed, its cool if thats what you want, but there's something that puzzles me about this.

A friend you have sex with is like kissing your sister/brother or something. *Shakes head* there are fine lines in place for a reason lol.

Bena, people forget that Capricorns are not ordinary goats. They are, in fact, Mer-Goats (half-fish, half-goat).

http://www.eastrovedica.com/IMAGES/Capricorn3.jpg<BR> http://www.josephinewall.co.uk/zodiac/web_capricorn.jpg<BR>
This means that they are just as intuitive (some even say 'psychic') as water signs like the Pisces and Cancer. Caps just keep it better hidden (the 'ol poker-face) and seldom wear their feelings on their sleeves.

My Cappy friend's "gut feeling" is often correct but he usually uses it to AVOID women. To be specific, to avoid the WRONG type of women. So while every other guy in the room is falling over himself to snag the hottie with the big boobs & great figure, my Cap friend just knows intuitively that there's something wrong with her and studiously avoids her. Sure enough, within weeks, the unlucky SOB who gets stuck with the so-called "hottie" ends up regretting it. That's when my Cap friend has that "See? I knew it."- look on his face.

The big irony is that the hotties usually go for him because he's the only one NOT making an effort to catch their attention. A Cap man's aloofness often has it's own strange attraction.

BeoWulf, nice Cap pics. I have the cancer wallpaper pic from the "josephinewall" site in my 'pics" doc. She is a wonderful artist. Very colorful.

Caps have their own Strange attraction. Tell me about it.... ;}