Needing to snap back to reality...

So as many of you know that I had called it off with my cap guy about a month ago. He wanted to remain friends and see what comes from that. I had taken the advice from many of you and pulled away. Well just like most of you had predicted he was communicating with me more. He was sending me text messages saying hi, good morning, good night, and even showing me the process of his classic car's paint job. I wasn't looking to much into it because I remember some of you saying that Caps will try to keep the line there. Well this past week he has been so very comminucative, it went from 5% of communicating to 80% communicating. Talking 12/13 times in 1 day, him making the contact. Now here is the reason I am getting excited and need to be snapped back into reality...this weekend my city is having a classic car festival and this particular cap is coming to it by himself. He has mentioned that he wants to see me but hasn't really asked. I'm getting all excited just the thought of seeing him but again don't want to be because when he does pull away I don't want to fall hard.

If he hasn't actually ASKED as in initiating a place, time, date then you're just hopefully wishing. Calm down so you won't feel let down if he doesn't do what you hope/expect/want him to do.

Lower your expectations. Caps are intelligent men. They have this way of digging themselves into a persons daily routine/life and then going cold.

You breaking up with him could be his way of getting you back on the losing/begging end again. First he has to show you attention to get your guard down which is easily b/c all he has to do is shower you with attention, pull you in, reject you by pulling away and leave you hanging.

His ego is wounded. He has to be in control. You dumping him wasn't something he could control initially but being that you're still picking up your phone and communicating he has a way in again to turn the tables on you if he chooses to do so.

I hope he doesn't do that to you but it's a possibility that he does not like feeling like a dumped rejected loser and this is his opportunity to make you feel like a dumped rejected loser. That's just one scenario. Lastly, If he's for real he'll follow through with meeting up with you.

I would suggest you calm down and be cool. This may go the way you want it too but it may not.

Stay cool and calm. That's good advice. Don't read too much into it so you can protect yourself. Let him know you'd be willing to see him, but (and this is very important) let him suggest the time and place, etc. Then see him as friends ONLY. Wear your granny panties, don't shave your legs and nether regions, whatever it takes so you won't be tempted to fall for his charms - you know what I mean. Show him you are strong and you will respect yourself. Then, see if he continues and by golly MAKE HIM CHASE YOU while you stay cool. Wait it out and see what happens.

Guard your heart, though! Some caps can hook up with exes and not think twice about it - its comfortable, you have a history, etc - so keep sex out of the picture until he proves himself. That will also help you guard your heart.

Thanks Guys! You all are so very right, thats what I needed to hear the truth. As much as I want to see him something inside says he is not going to come to the festival. Call it a hunch but something just doesn't feel right. Again thank you all for your advice!!

If your gut is telling you that, then listen to it. Our intuition is seldom wrong.

He could be just trying to see where you stand if if you're willing to jump through any hoops. Keep doing like you're doing.

@TrueCap

You are absolutely right, our intuitions seldom wrong. I have kept myself pulled back, haven't asked anything about today. If he's interested he will make contact.

@Caplove

Thank you for your great advice, always appreciated! He mentioned the other day that he was going tobe in town around 2 and since I was working he didn't have anything to do. I casually mentioned to him that i could take a late lunch but I didn't know. He said what was good to eat around there but never a full ok sure. So I am keeping my distance once again.

Well he flaked....

What do you mean? Didn't show up?

@truecap

He said there was something wrong with his car and he ws working on it. Then he said This sucks, he would get back at me later. But that is exactly what my intuition told me, that somethng was going to come up either his job or his car.