Newbie - Another One Bites the Dust

In confusion/frustration I decided to look for sites that expalined Capricorn traits and fell upon this message board.....thank you for sharing your experiences with all lost souls out there.

You have made me feel a bit better, even laugh a little at myself for not seeing this one coming, again. I have allowed myself to fall in love again after years of solitude for fear of being hurt, again. I can share many of the experiences and feelings you describe, and yep, I fell in love in a Cap.

I can only hope at this point that he truly loves me, though after 9 months of a very slow start (mostly becuase I wouldn't give in to my attraction to him, but alas, he woed me and persisted until I caved in!) Now, I feel a bit whiplashed, as I was convinced he was really in love with me. He calls every three or four days and mentioned that he has been married three times and that other women in his life tell him they are always wondering if he is leaving them.

He definitely leaves me wondering a lot and wishing he would show more commitment. I guess I don't have any questions, I just wanted to thank you for the great insights!

Welcome, Capstruck! What's your sign?

I did the same and fought the attraction initially, and then caved in and confessed to him, thinking all would then be dreamy. Ha! He didn't reject me and still kept coming around, but it's almost more maddening than had he just ran or said he wasn't feeling it.

Thanks for the companionship Leo w/C.

CapGirl, I am Cancer...by most accounts not the best match, except that we are both older (50+) and I'm hoping we are both maturing beyond our younger limitations. Might just be wishful...

Just wanted to say welcome capstruck. We r all going thru the same thing w/these crazy guys. This site is great. I have gotten a lot of great advice from the ladies on here so far, and love it. We're all here to help each other!

Leo w/Cap your steps 1-5 would be hilarious if it wasn't so frustrating and sadening at times. I have gone through this about three times since Cap and I got serious four months ago. I was convinced he cared, and I invited him to come stay with me for a few days (he had stayed here twice before for a few days with benefits) and he panicked and said, "I sounds like coming home to meet the parents and I thought we were just dating!" I had no idea what he's talking about here, this was totaly weird because my dad passed away 30 yrs ago and my mom lives 3000 miles away!

Then he called several times a week later. I didn't want to take his calls after that comment but finally I gave in. He apologized several tiems and owned that it was his problem and that he was sorry he panicked. Then all seemed well for a while, but I still wonder if I will be able to handle long term the distance I feel when he "disappears". He travels a lot and sais he can't call when he is not at home, but he's got a cell phone??

I love and respect so much about him, but I'm real scared I'm setting myself up to get hurt. I don't want to punt too soon and loose a great relationship, but I don't want to wait around at snail pace for him to tell me he loves me, if ever. I was careful not to say it, but at the same time I wanted to be honest and told him "I've fallen in love with you" Is that the same thing do you think? I see a distinction between falling in love and saying ILU, but maybe he doesn't. What do any of you think?

If it wasn't for the "traveling a lot thing, I was beginning to think you were with the same cap i was with for 3 months, only problem was he was with a lot of other women also, he really liked me etc etc but hey(and this is his words) how can I know if i want to be exclusive unless i sample all different kinds of women to find out if we're truly compatible? so at that point, i said goodbye. have to keep some sort of dignity and self-respect, I am also a bit older than the other ladies on this post, not 50+ yet but he is, and really don't want to play these games anymore. and he did all the wining, dining and intense wooing till he "got" me, not just in bed but he knew i was into him. but i guess having just one women isn't his thing. but it is mine so...needed to end it. and yes, it hurts, because i did like him and had a great time with him in bed and out, but just can't do the "wait around for the phone call when he has time for me, after he's done with his other women. good luck

CapStruck~ I think most equate "in love with you" to the same as ILY. I don't think it's the same either, and said that to my Cap. also, "in love with" kinda like 'crazy about you', the passion, desire, etc. When he called me one time drunk though, he was being silly and said, "You loooove me..." and I said, "I never said THAT."

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love, GEG