Normal Cap Women behaviour?

Been friends with a Capricorn female for over 15 years shes practically family to me but what iv realised over the years and more so recently that whenever shes had issues with other friends and even myself she would never make a move of trying to reach out to the person, she always expects and waits for the other person to come and bow down to her. If you really cared about someone wouldn't you want to address the problem after youv at least had your breathing space? She went 6 months without speaking to me one time over something soo small and she admitted it was petty.
Iv also noticed a hypercritical side to her where shes made a lot of mistakes in terms of guys shes dated but shes quick to put other girls down and criticise them for not always particularly using there heads as well as there hearts.
Our friendships on the verge of me being over it because I don't feel like I can tell her anything without the thought of her potentially judging me.
She used to be a open minded woman but is becoming super critical over things and acting high mighty I recall her saying that shes going to drop certain friends if they're not on her level by the time shes 25 which is in 1 year over things like not driving yet etc lol.

Is this normal cap female behaviour? Im a Aries Sun, Cancer Rising with Gemini moon, her behaviour is starting to turn me alllllll the way off.

See, you're making assumptions.

You assume she gets away in order for people to bow down to her and kiss her ass. Maybe she uses that space to get a clear image in her mind, or maybe she just puts everything on the back burner to focus on her life/career.

Did you bring this with her? I know I thought a friend of mine was doing this to me and the poor guy only had a lot on his plate, which is why he used to vanish.

She's probably gotten tired of the bullshit she feels she may have gone through (big or small) with past friendships and lovers and has become bitter. Have you tried talking to her about it?

Posted by Damnata
See, you're making assumptions.

You assume she gets away in order for people to bow down to her and kiss her ass. Maybe she uses that space to get a clear image in her mind, or maybe she just puts everything on the back burner to focus on her life/career.

Did you bring this with her? I know I thought a friend of mine was doing this to me and the poor guy only had a lot on his plate, which is why he used to vanish.

Yeah way too many times so im getting sick of it. She said not approaching people is her weakness and she doesn't know how to change it, iv told her shes going to drive people away if she carries on doing that she said she doesn't care any more, and these are people that genuinely care for her.
Its been over a month since iv spoken to her, God knows what the problem is this time but im over it.

Posted by Eula
She's probably gotten tired of the bullshit she feels she may have gone through (big or small) with past friendships and lovers and has become bitter. Have you tried talking to her about it?

Yep and fair enough everyone has their breaking point but im not a random to her our families know eachother very well so they know when we are not speaking but its always me to reach out to her.
Its frustrating on my behalf because I feel like if I dont reach out to her then she never would. She'll say that she would of but really 6 months was the longest Iv never spoke to her that hurt me a lot.

Posted by Eula
She's probably gotten tired of the bullshit she feels she may have gone through (big or small) with past friendships and lovers and has become bitter. Have you tried talking to her about it?

I think it also comes down to her being spoilt so shes used to getting her own way.

Posted by AnieshaAries

Posted by Eula
She's probably gotten tired of the bullshit she feels she may have gone through (big or small) with past friendships and lovers and has become bitter. Have you tried talking to her about it?

I think it also comes down to her being spoilt so shes used to getting her own way.

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Yep. Up to you to decide what you are going to do about it.

She doesn't mean to be judgemental. She thinks she's helping. She loves you and her other friends enough to be honest with you and them.

As far as the not following her own advice, well, it's easier to look at someone else's relationships in an objective manner because emotions are not involved. Plus, they probably ask her opinions and she's giving it in an honest manner.

The dropping friends not on her level, well, she probably doesn't really mean that. However, if she is that ambitious and climbing the ladder, she's realistic enough to know the consequences of this in her personal life. Once she reaches success, others can be really jealous of this, which will cause problems. Also, she is hoping to reach success, she knows that others can bring her down in that her higher ups will be associating her character traits with the traits of the people she socializes with. For instance, and since I'm from the south, I'll use a southern example - if my friends come by the office to take me out to lunch, if my friends are trailer trashy or unruly redneck acting, then my boss will assume that's how I am in my off time and it could hinder my ability to move upward. Yes, it sounds cold, but there are plenty of capricorns who might feel this way.

A nicer way to look at that is if she is on the career path and her friends are still throwing keg parties, eventually she's not going to have anything in common with them. That's just a realistic way of looking at things.

She is honestly hoping that all of her friends are wanting to move up, too.

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Posted by Damnata
See, you're making assumptions.

You assume she gets away in order for people to bow down to her and kiss her ass. Maybe she uses that space to get a clear image in her mind, or maybe she just puts everything on the back burner to focus on her life/career.

Did you bring this with her? I know I thought a friend of mine was doing this to me and the poor guy only had a lot on his plate, which is why he used to vanish.

Yeah way too many times so im getting sick of it. She said not approaching people is her weakness and she doesn't know how to change it, iv told her shes going to drive people away if she carries on doing that she said she doesn't care any more, and these are people that genuinely care for her.
Its been over a month since iv spoken to her, God knows what the problem is this time but im over it.

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Caps tend to withdraw when they feel they've been slighted. It's really hard to reach out. I may not speak to my friends for months, but I still love them the same and when we do speak, it's like no time has passed.

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Posted by AnieshaAries

Posted by Damnata
See, you're making assumptions.

You assume she gets away in order for people to bow down to her and kiss her ass. Maybe she uses that space to get a clear image in her mind, or maybe she just puts everything on the back burner to focus on her life/career.

Did you bring this with her? I know I thought a friend of mine was doing this to me and the poor guy only had a lot on his plate, which is why he used to vanish.

Yeah way too many times so im getting sick of it. She said not approaching people is her weakness and she doesn't know how to change it, iv told her shes going to drive people away if she carries on doing that she said she doesn't care any more, and these are people that genuinely care for her.
Its been over a month since iv spoken to her, God knows what the problem is this time but im over it.

Caps tend to withdraw when they feel they've been slighted. It's really hard to reach out. I may not speak to my friends for months, but I still love them the same and when we do speak, it's like no time has passed.

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I understand where shes coming from a little bit better now. Thanks Truecap