Ok help me with this Cap

This topic was created in the Capricorn forum by flausssauce on Wednesday, January 14, 2015 and has 9 replies.
I met a Capricorn that I've been seeing since October. A few things to remember about my situation which are highly unique: he had broken up with his girlfriend just a week before we met, she had been living in his house that he had to move out of until recently, and he placed her in rehab for addiction issues on his dime if her parents took over afterward. And.. he is a high profile public figure, a celebrity, so bear with me.
Its been a very rewarding relationship so far in that he has been very caring, careful, and tells me exactly how he feels and says that he trusts me, and he also says he appreciates my advice and actually takes it. He also volunteers information about people that in other relationships I've had to ask about. For example, he'll tell me when a woman we met has had a thing for him in the past or currently might just so I could be aware. The honesty and sincerity makes me feel very comfortable and I'm fairly sure its genuine. I'm a developed Gemini, but the fact that he rarely initiates conversation, but always answers me eventually when I text, doesn't bother me too much. He wants me to become more involved in his business, he had his ex girlfriend in charge of some aspects of it and I assume he needs a satisfactory replacement, or so he alludes to. He also tests me by offering me things to see if I'll take advantage of him which I've never taken the bait. I remind him not to test me, and he seems to appreciate that I tell him this. I've been going very slow and being very careful not to be pushy and its been paying off.
Last time I saw him, it was right after his birthday. I did not know he had a birthday dinner, but I suspected if he had one he would keep it very close friends and rather low key, which it turns out, was exactly the case. He then told me he was considering bringing me. He then brought up a woman who I had met with him that had asked him to come and said that she would only show up if she was to be his date there. At this point I almost felt as if I was getting probed for a reaction so I did not reply to it. My reply was that I did not expect to be invited to anything and can understand if he wanted to be alone afterward. He then told me that's exactly what happened, he went home alone unescorted and the other woman did not come to the dinner. I told him she was a person that I had considered being friends with and his reaction was, "Oh you can have girl friends, but not that one. She has a thing for me and you
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... and you need to be aware of that." He then made some statements that were kind of all over the place saying "we". but then saying "best not I jump from relationship to relationship because I've done that way too often", and that he "has no idea what this friendship-relationship is". I did not reply to that at all, I just stared at the wall. He then grabbed me and hugged me in the tightest hug I've ever had and literally fell asleep moments afterward.
I get the feeling he is falling in love with me but I could be entirely wrong. I don't expect to have a commitment so soon, but I wouldn't mind committing as long as we have a conversation, but I don't want to bring it up. Any insight on this Cap's behavior and actions?
Him: Sun in Cap, Moon in Leo, Venus in Pisces
Me: Sun in Gemini, Moon in Sag, Venus in Cancer
Deep down he may want a good girl whose drug free available and predictable, someone like you but deep down he's attracted to needy women unpredictable women who chase him, help him with his business, fall for him quickly etc. Poor girl, he probably wiped her identity clean and she somehow lost herself living in his spotlight.
If he's not consciously choosing to reach out to you, meaning if he's not doing some of the courting by initiating some form of communication then he's not interested in investing his time, emotions etc just yet if ever.
The bottom line you're being cool and attractive and that's a huge advantage that can possibly tip over in your favor.
Enjoy your time with him. Don't be surprised if he gets back with his ex. Don't be surprised if he suddenly drops off the planet never to communicate again. Just be ready for the ball to drop for you or against you.
Posted by flausssauce
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... and you need to be aware of that." He then made some statements that were kind of all over the place saying "we". but then saying "best not I jump from relationship to relationship because I've done that way too often", and that he "has no idea what this friendship-relationship is". I did not reply to that at all, I just stared at the wall. He then grabbed me and hugged me in the tightest hug I've ever had and literally fell asleep moments afterward.
I get the feeling he is falling in love with me but I could be entirely wrong. I don't expect to have a commitment so soon, but I wouldn't mind committing as long as we have a conversation, but I don't want to bring it up. Any insight on this Cap's behavior and actions?
Him: Sun in Cap, Moon in Leo, Venus in Pisces
Me: Sun in Gemini, Moon in Sag, Venus in Cancer


Venus in Pisces...my Cap Sun guy has this too. He's always had a relationship or fling or fwb for the last 30 years. I think the longest time he has ever been alone has been 3-4 months. Granted, he's a musician and looks like a hot rock star so there's no shortage of women. If ultimately what you want is a commitment, you should tell him. Imo Venus in Pisces can have mutable feelings if they aren't in love or committed in a marriage, and they are easily flattered and swayed by female attention. They also like to live in a dream world, so when realities of relationships arise they may want to escape. Maybe that's why he seems all over the place because I think their emotions are. If he's in love, he will say it.
Posted by tiki33
Deep down he may want a good girl whose drug free available and predictable, someone like you but deep down he's attracted to needy women unpredictable women who chase him, help him with his business, fall for him quickly etc. Poor girl, he probably wiped her identity clean and she somehow lost herself living in his spotlight.
If he's not consciously choosing to reach out to you, meaning if he's not doing some of the courting by initiating some form of communication then he's not interested in investing his time, emotions etc just yet if ever.
The bottom line you're being cool and attractive and that's a huge advantage that can possibly tip over in your favor.
Enjoy your time with him. Don't be surprised if he gets back with his ex. Don't be surprised if he suddenly drops off the planet never to communicate again. Just be ready for the ball to drop for you or against you.


Couldn't have worded it better.
He's used to women fawing all over him and ones that don't make him put out any effort. Be the one who's different. He can probably have any girl he wants, so be the one that makes him reach out to you instead of you being the one to reach out to him.
I see a lot of flags (if not red, then yellow). He might be a player and being a celebrity, he probably has lots of experience at it.
*fawning*
Posted by flausssauce
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... and you need to be aware of that." He then made some statements that were kind of all over the place saying "we". but then saying "best not I jump from relationship to relationship because I've done that way too often", and that he "has no idea what this friendship-relationship is". I did not reply to that at all, I just stared at the wall. He then grabbed me and hugged me in the tightest hug I've ever had and literally fell asleep moments afterward.
I get the feeling he is falling in love with me but I could be entirely wrong. I don't expect to have a commitment so soon, but I wouldn't mind committing as long as we have a conversation, but I don't want to bring it up. Any insight on this Cap's behavior and actions?
Him: Sun in Cap, Moon in Leo, Venus in Pisces
Me: Sun in Gemini, Moon in Sag, Venus in Cancer



Out of all that you get that he's falling in love with you? If he was so open with you as you state, why weren't you aware of the birthday dinner?? He hugged you tightly after sex, I would presume hence the falling asleep? awwww
Seriously... He's keeping his options WIDE open and you are just that...
By what you are saying about him, he is looking for a reliable and dependable person that can stay focused under any pressure or influences. He sees you as pure and doesn't want you become like the rest of the followers.
I face a similar fate. Mostly anything is offered to me for my approval. Which I hate btw. I respect anyone that is truly themselves all the time or in front of anyone. Someone that can have it doesn't want it. He, like everyone in the world, wants something special, something no one else can have. If you believe you are that person, prove it threw your actions exactly the way you are demonstrating it to him.
Remember how you acted with him from the beginning. Never lose your cool. He will see when you change, and he will not like you anymore because you are not the same person you perceived to be ...