pent up anger and depression

This topic was created in the Capricorn forum by bittertaurus on Friday, July 7, 2006 and has 18 replies.
Good post, bitter! Let's not forget about the pent up anger and frustration of the person who pairs up with a Cap who doesn't communicate. :-)
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That's what I thought we were gonna talk about, LWCA! It'd be nice to get this other perspective though, although I don't know that we have any Cap. monsters (males) on here these days...
Yea, I get depressed although I don't even realize I am depressed. I just get this need to hole up, stay home or do stuff solo all weekend... don't know if that's depression or needing alone time.
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LWCAA
" Let's not forget about the pent up anger and frustration of the person who pairs up with a Cap who doesn't communicate. :-)"
lol..thats a gr8 remark, LWCAA
I have constantly told him how I wanna get inside his mind and know what he is thinking and as usual he would say, "Why do u wanna know?"
cap men..cant live with em ..cant live without em..
Capgirl
"I get depressed although I don't even realize I am depressed. I just get this need to hole up, stay home or do stuff solo all weekend... don't know if that's depression or needing alone time."
I guess thats alone time u are talking about..we all need that from time to time..it reduces all that clutter from our minds
:-)
But the depression in caps I guess comes from not being able to achiev their goals or excessive overanalyzing/worrying(take ur pick)
sb
"Because people make fun of us. I have experienced it first hand. I don't talk about it at all because of the ridicule that I get subjected to".
wow..I didnt know that..I just assumed that caps think that other ppl would not even understand how deeply the capricorn mind can think..
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TG~~ He is NOT SURE if he wants kids!!!! LOL LOL
BT~~ What's going on w/ your monster-man? Are you still hanging on, talking to him, and whatnot?
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But I want you to come here! I feel like texting that to the monster-head... "Don't make me come over there again!" hehe But knowing these pessimistic dudes, he'd think I was really MAD and was going to give him a talking to, and then ... he'd HIDE OUT!
Oooh, SB, this Sag. dude I dated used to ask me like every 1/2 hour, "what're you thinking about?" or something like that, and I kid you not, it was every hour at least. AND he would sincerely want an answer and I couldn't just brush off the question! It was kind of like he knew how to "handle me", "get behind my outer layers", but yet it annoyed me after a while. I wanted to just say, "Awww... piss off!" LOL LOL I did have to dump him -- too sentimental and gosh so many things.
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Right, TG, you do have a way with doing that! The Cap. must be available though and open to listening and receiving and responding to CONTACT however, in order for that to happen... And you must have a secure, confident, self-assured person (normally female) trying to make that CONTACT, again and again, sometimes leaving messages/voicemails/emails/texts- all going in one direction, and seemingly into thin air... when the Cap. is not responding.
Me... I can't do it... Sad
TG~ You can DO it! Tongue
I gotta go watch men in tight little pants try to hit at a little ball with a wooden stick, while I drink enough beers to try to make it seem exciting.
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Its been a long while since I tried cheering him up and I remember the last time I spoke to him..I was like how are things with u and he was like "Fine" but u know the awkward kind of fine and then he went on to say that he had a lot of problems in his life right now...and there was so much tension in the air.. it was almost as if he xpected me to drop everthing and run to him or ask him in detail as to whats troubling him..but I didnt especially after all the drama I hav been thru with him..so I simply shrugged and kinda ended the conversation without sounding too concerned..I know he was very peeved out.
Ladies, its quite frustrating u know when the cap keeps creating these huge obstacles in front of u and at the same time xpects u to somehow overcome those obstacles and reach out for him. Its very hard, I tell u.
Taurusgalwithcap, u are very lucky and I hope u stay that way. Capgirl and I are in the same boat thats going nowhere-just floating in the middle of the ocean-long way to the shore Winking
All in all I do miss cheering the cappie though.
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i am a cap. i have this virgo coworker that comes into my office to say good morning every day. a lot of times i am very busy researching stuff on my computer, or on this board, and i don't respond very jubilantly. he always says to me "aren't you ever happy?", and that really pisses me off, because i'm just into what i'm doing, but he puts this judgement on me. i want to say to him..."aren't you ever nonjudgemental of me, and just realize i'm busy", but he makes me feel like crap, like i have to live up to his expectations every day. grrrr. otherwise we laugh a lot, but he takes that so personal. i find that with my taurus friend, he just seems to catch me when i'm going through something. he always gives me good advice, but i know that he gets tired of me being in those situations when he is around. sometimes i feel like he is my angel, and is meant to be there for me at that time, as i am that way to others as well. like my cancer friend, i always have to take care of him in some way. it's very draining and i get pissed about it, but maybe that's why i'm there at that time. i think we all have purposes here. they may not be the most fun, but they help someone somewhere. like when you really like someone, and they don't like you as much, but you're providing something for them to help them through life, you can get pretty upset about not getting what you want out of the relationship, but you have to think about giving sometimes and not getting anything back. ok...these are the thoughts that make a cap one serious person to deal with. because i think we see through things that many people don't, and it's hard to explain to others what we know or are realizing at the time we're going through them. we really do like to have fun and be happy though, but i feel like we have bigger purposes here that make us a bit more serious then most.
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My boat has gone down like the titanic, BT!
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jack,
that's another thing that ticks me off. i always have to be the one to return to try to get the relationship back on track. yet, when the other person is having a bad day, or in a quiet mood, or talking crap to me, i'm just supposed to take it, and accept them for it. why am i always the one that has to be the happy, so easy to get along with person. i have a life too, and it's not all peaches and cream sometimes. i agree with sb. i don't trust a person who is smiling like a loon, and happy all the time. get real with me, and you've got a friend for life.
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me too. i can't hide what i'm feeling for crap. i try, but it doesn't work. and it irritates me when someone tries to pry, or tries to snap me out of it, because i'm really working out in my own head. going over everything in all directions, and i'll come around in my own time, damn it. smile my moods don't last very long though.
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Hi,
This is my first post in this board, I just wanna say that we CapMen do that pulling and then pushing back thing because we are too much insecure and sensitive, we are always
afraid of getting hurt. When the time comes when we dont return calls or dont contact for
weeks, the reasons are almost these
1. Busy in work
2. Need our own cappy space (Need to stay alone, dont want to see anybody)
3. Depression or Wide mood swings
4. Too insecure about the relationship, dont know what to do ahead.
Mostly these are the reasons why we do that weird pull n push thing.
We overthink about even the smallest thing, and because of that we fall in depression regularly.
We dont think that life is easy, we take life as a burden or a mission.
Just ask straight on his face that why does he do that thing(push n pull), may be youll get your answer, we like if sombody comes to the point directly that is more comfortable for us caps.
If you think we cap men play mind games on purpose then you are wrong there, we dont do that on purpose, most of us dont realize that doing these things to people hurts them.
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"that's another thing that ticks me off. i always have to be the one to return to try to get the relationship back on track. yet, when the other person is having a bad day, or in a quiet mood, or talking crap to me, i'm just supposed to take it, and accept them for it"
well..tats something the cappy tells me all the time...no matter how badly u(BT) treat me, I may be MIA for some time but I always come back to u..but on the other hand, if I(the cappy) behaves badly then he finds it perplexing as to how the other person just scoots away for good..
I guess what the cappy is not realizing is that when they go MIA, they might be thinking abt us..but we guys hav no clue whatsoever and we really get fed up of waiting/agonizing over someone who wont just say what they are going thru instead of suffering alone.When their mood improves they do get back, but they wont even acknowledge the pain u have gone thru so tat really upsets u a lot.
Btw the cap guy is very paranoid about losing his frens..sometimes I feel as if he is on this continuous mission of keeping his frens happy and pleased-no matter how much hell he may be going thru personally.
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Hi JanMan,
Hey, 1-4 sounds so much like me smile I have moments where I can be incredibly busy (like right now smile) However, men have a tendecy to be impatient just like women.
If you are busy with work or anything that's tedious ... it means your not giving enough attention to him (or if you are a man -- her) OMG ..... then you risk them cheating because you are not all over themor calling them 24/7 ... that's such BS!
The guy I was last involved with was like that -- if I didn't give him enough attention OR if I didn't call him when I said I would OR if I didn't make sure he got all of HIS tediuous work done OR if I didn't check up on him .... it meant I didn't care!
Hahahaha, he had me so crazy to the point that I thought I had to do that to every got I had potential to get involved with but I now know that every man is not the same
THANK GOD!!!!!! Phew! That's a huge lift off my shoulders Winking
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Is a marriage possible between a taurean girl born on 14/05/1978 and a capricorn boy born on 13/01/1974?
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I am sure a marriage is possible between most earth/water signs and capricorn..whether it happens is an entirely different story..
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sheeeeeeiiiii...
i fall under the cap category quite properly for many reason except pent up or not showing emotion.
but im a slightly free radical in this amongst capricorns. For one, i'm a sag/cap cusp born. Two, my moon is in pisces... my middle name might as well be Emotional. and Three, my rising sign is Gemini... there are those times when I just dont want to shut up. Put that all together and you kinda(heh) get a generally happy-go-lucky girl, who has occassional "wide" emotional swings, feels them all deeply and isn't afraid to tell most bystanders about it if she feels like getting it off her chest.
And I might actually be one of those people who smiles all the time. Well, maybe not all the time, but definitely when i'm at work. A lot goes on up in this head of mine and usually it's something amusing. I really dont see that determining someone as not real. Couldn't you say the same thing about not judging a person just because they never smile as you could for someone who does smile all the time???? ehh?
Though, I do feel and understand those who arent so expressive. And can't stand it when I hear about or witness others who ask stupid questions and say silly things like "you're always so serious" as if it's offended them. Depending on where I am, or what I'm doing, I can be that way and get those comments. Personally, I think it's a little rude and comes from people who are socially incompetent and lack any sort of empathy or understanding that not all people are like them. That could be a lil harsh, but it's my general feeling. Plus, it's also annoying that someone would think i have to be a certain way around them... maybe i just dont want to smile in front of them because 'they' matter little to me. If I have any reason to be happy, then I'll share that happiness with a friend and be even happier about it. :p
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pull back the hunting dogs..
we have a winner..the search for the cheerful cap is over..presenting "creepy pants"-a cap who seems to be the balance of I-hav-my-mood-swings-but-i-will-talk-abt-it and still be a happy person...for creepy pants, her gemini rising is surely a big blessing.
"Smiling all the time for a reason vs. Smiling all the time for no reason.
We were saying about the latter one".
sb, how do u know the difference between the above 2?
for eg: u might see a colleague who flashes u a warm smile and assume that ur colleague smiles for no reason all the time but it just may be that he/she is a genuinely happy, satisfied individual who sees/experiences most of the day in a positive frame of mind
So in her mind she has her own reason to smile but for u, she could be smiling for no reason at all
Guess it just depends on ur frame of reference.
But seriously, unless u are loony, no one can smile all the time but being happy most of the time-yes that's possible.
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