Physically Attracted To You?

How do you know if your cappy is physically attracted to you? We are in the friendship/disappearing/sometimes going to eat out stage but I'm just curious. It seems as though these guys show very little emotion and I have very little time spent together to go by but though if you could give me some ideas maybe I could figure it out.

Aww, the stage of getting to know you and showing interest is fun. And I don't have an answer because mine kissed me the night we met, hugged for a while, and then kissed me some more. Course I'm pretty oblivious to alot until these things happen so my advice is don't stress and don't think 'does he or doesn't he.' Just kind of be there and smile.

Ladyvie, thanks for you input. I'm truly not stressing (yet-lol) but I'm just kinda curious (okay, really curious) b/c we've been doing this friendship/disapearring/dinner thing for two years now. As silly as this sounds he hugged me after dinner when he was dropping me off. It completely caught me by surprise b/c he did not do it b/f since we had seen each other in a couple of months. I guess I just thought he would have done it when he first seen me but maybe not. A couple of times while out he has made a point of touching me - just small touches. Uuuuggghhhh! These men - all men not just cappies! 😉 I've been fine w/waiting to see if more is going to develope b/t us but he has been calling me alot lately on the weekends (Sat. afternoons) which he did not use to do and I've missed the calls. When I call back he will not call me back but he made a comment that it irritates him that I do not pick up. Damm, I call back as soon as possible, I do have a life. Bottom line is I'm wanting to invite him to a football game but feel unsure since I don't really know if he is attracted to me. I guess I'll just have to get up the nerve and give it a shot.

My surprises me with the physical contact. He kissed me the night we met but I told him that I don't kiss strangers. We hugged for a long while. Then he kissed me again like 8 months later when I was checking my email of all things.

Mine seems to have issues with the phone as well for some reason. However he makes up for his lack of attention when he's with me in person so I don't stress out on where he is and what he's doing.

If he hadn't hugged you would you be nervous about asking him to a football game? I say go for it. But just a warning, I remember pretty early on that I invited the man to dinner and he refused to go saying that he was too busy. I was pissed off as I bought the food before he got around to telling me no so I told him that 'then don't come because my friends are usually happy to be in my company and not dragging their feet.' Now looking back I think that his refusal was his own self doubt and I get that now. At the time though, different story entirely. These men seem to work on their schedule, not ours (and honestly I am attracted to that attitude even though I'm a successful pretty woman with her own life. But a guy not bending to my will completely means that perhaps there is a chance to work things out as a pair instead of having a puppy and I like that.)

L, Yes I would have been nervous about asking him to a football game even if he hadn't hugged me. He really intimidates in a way that does not make me dislike him. I've talked to two of my closet friends about the whole intimidation thing not making me dislike him and they think I've lost my mind. Of course, they think I've lost my mind for getting together with him on ocassion since we aren't always in contact. Like you, I am successful and intend on becoming more successful as time goes by as I plan on continuing my education so I too am really busy with work. That is why I can relate to the whole I'm really busy with work. We both have kids and they are both of our priorities and I know that is something besides our work ethic that we have in common (we are both workalcoholics). I'm truly okay with the ocassional get together but lately I've had this yearning to invite him out to a game as I said in my earlier post. I have other male friends but I could invite (none of my girlfriends enjoy sports like me) but I know he is a real sports fanatic so I just think that would be a really good date/get together (as he refers to it) for us.

Bottom line is I would feel so much better if I only knew if he was at least physically attracted to me. I've told him before and I truly meant this - if we are just friends that is great - if more comes of it even greater but in the end what matters to me is that we are friends at least. I feel as though I'm contradicting this statement since I'm wondering if he is physically attracted to me or not and I'm probably being a lot more long winded than I should be right now but I just feel conflicted about actually asking him out. He did tell me that I remind him of an ex-girlfriend from long ago with my looks and personality. I took that as a yes he finds me attractive but I could have just been really searching for something to hang on to just like the hug. Oh! gosh I don't know.....men! And you are right about getting pissed and/or my feelings hurt should I ask him and he turn me down. What to do, what to do! Thanks for your input - I appreciate it.

Sorry for the spelling/grammer issues. I'm typing this in a rush b/c my boss is always around snooping. 😉

why Cap? Would you elaborate? So what's your take on me asking him to the game?

oh i just read how would you know if a cap is attracted to you physically

- so where can I read about this too........do share please

I don't know about that with my Guy. I definately don't get the 'inhibited' in the slightest and I tend to joke that he's trying to seduce the innocent girl to the dark side with his wicked ways... I found my cap guy has no problems letting me know he's physically interested. But it's his letting me share his inner world where things were and probably still are more rocky. He lets me in, shares his thoughts, then closes down like I might wound him or something... It took him (still takes) longer to share his inner world (OK he easily shares his grand scheme in life and all pretty easy.) But it's the inner child that I know that it's there who might dance with me in the middle of the street for no reason... that personality only sometimes surfaces but I love it when it does.

Perhaps a girl would be more inhibited in letting a guy know that she's physically interested... you know us girls are typically the ones with the 'sex is an emotional' expression idea (of which I gladly share!)

He later asked "can I touch you inappropriately?"

Oh how I wish this cappy man would ask me this! 🙂

For the most part I believe I am okay asking him out b/c I do think he is somewhat physically attracted to me - we have spent a little time together and each time it is b/c he initiates it. I guess my main concern is what if I ask him and he turns me down - no matter how much I sit here and think that I'm okay with that I probably would not be really. I mean, in a sense I would be but should he turn me down when I ask and then he decide he wants to ask me out again it wouldn't happen b/c I would want to do the same to him. I know, I know that sounds so ugly of me but I'm just being honest with myself here. So maybe I'll just wait a bit and see how this plays out. Plus, if I asked him out and he turns me down I feel like he will go once again into his cave on the mountain for a while. 🙂

I have experienced it exactly how CapGal describes. Started as compliments- hair, clothing- then shoulder squeeze, hair touching, leg pressing up against mine. Then came the hints at couch cuddling and then later, joking of bending me over the couch! LOL So, they start slow and work their way up! 😉

"Started as compliments- hair, clothing- then shoulder squeeze, hair touching, leg pressing up against mine. Then came the hints at couch cuddling and then later, joking of bending me over the couch! LOL So, they start slow and work their way up!"

that how i let them know!! I subtlely touch them, nothing offensive, and nothing so obvious that people around me would notice.